FabSwingers.com forum: Long distance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100 miles distance

Can it work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I wouldn’t have said so but if it’s worth it it’s worth it. If you find the right person you won’t care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definatly

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

My ex and I lived 150 miles away from each other for years. And ended up being together for 10 in total. So, it worked at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if you both put in the effort

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

My last LTR lives 230 miles from me.

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By * n C NWCouple
over a year ago

Macclesfield

"100 miles distance

Can it work?"

Depends if juggling other commitments, nearly killed me once

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes of course if the person is the one and you are both prepared to work at it.

The first 5 years of our relationship I was often working in another country. At one point I was on the other side of the world and we saw each other for only 3 weeks in 12 months but we are still together after 28 years (married for 25 years)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. If they're the right person then anything can work.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Yes. If they're the right person then anything can work. "

This.

My ex lived over 300 miles away, my previous 100 miles away. If you want it enough, you can make it work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100 miles distance

Can it work?"

Definitely and the buildup each time you meet is delicious

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"100 miles distance

Can it work?

Definitely and the buildup each time you meet is delicious

Hmm .. monkey notes and looks at distance to Birmingham..

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

For awhile. But in the end if you want the things to move to the next level, a compromise will be needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We live on a small island and small island mentality makes it easy to feel like 100 miles is a long way! If I've learnt anything from travelling, it's that what feels like a long way for us, is a trip down the road to most

If it's worth 100 miles of your time and their time, it will work fine for as long as you want it to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100 miles distance

Can it work?"
no

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If you both want it to..... BUT if things progress then what do you do, something has to give

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Any distance can work, providing you have a plan to see each other regularly and a solid end game in place to be together in the long run. It’s tough while you’re working stuff out, but same country, 100 miles. No problem at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything can work if you make it so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, so long as you can meet and stay with each other regularly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, really appreciate your input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100 miles distance

Can it work?"

If you're committed, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your needs? Wouldnt work for me long term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its working for me

But depends on your situation and what you want.

I didn't think this would work for me but it does

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We started out with Hannah in New York and me in the UK. Then it became Hannah in the UK and me in Austria. Then it becamebboth of us in the UK but she was in the North of England and I was in the South. We finally moved in together a couple of weeks ago.

It can work but if you are serious about each other it would be sensible to look into your options for living a lot closer together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds good to me. I'd never have to see them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works for us, 10 months and going strong.

Distance is harder work but very possible.

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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

There’s only one way to find out. I’d say statistically no but then again even if only one in 100 worked yours could be that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm over 100 miles from him and we have seen each other at least once a week. October is going to be harder as I'm on holiday but you can make long distance work for the right person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im about 120miles from missdoris... we work well, we have our own lives and meet up as and when... long distance makes it all the more exciting we make the most of the time we spend together when we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex lived over 300 miles away, my previous 100 miles away. If you want it enough, you can make it work. "

Very true... its how much you want it to work

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Depends on your other commitments and responsibilities I’d say. I’m finding 126 miles difficult but still worth it x

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Depends on your other commitments and responsibilities I’d say. I’m finding 126 miles difficult but still worth it x"

I am guessing it's all about the effort made? I suppose the 1 concern is it's not a conventional relationship so how do you deal with the swinging side? You know? Maybe I'm over thinking xx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

It could work depending on how committed both are. But life can get in the way. Abscess makes the heart grow fonder, but also out of sight out of mind could apply.

Depends on the couple I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Depends on your other commitments and responsibilities I’d say. I’m finding 126 miles difficult but still worth it x

I am guessing it's all about the effort made? I suppose the 1 concern is it's not a conventional relationship so how do you deal with the swinging side? You know? Maybe I'm over thinking xx"

True. Depends what it is also. We only meet each other so it’s definitely worth the journey when we can, we just can’t that often! Whereas if it was 50 miles it would be a lot easier! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sasha and I lived 7 hours drive from each other when we got together, two years of travelling every weekend and I got a new job, relocated, moved in together and then got married. Still very happy together now.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Sasha and I lived 7 hours drive from each other when we got together, two years of travelling every weekend and I got a new job, relocated, moved in together and then got married. Still very happy together now."

Ahh! That's lovely!!

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Early days but I think hes worth the effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

xx"

Go for it!

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

Go for it!

Thanks Nora

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Depends on your other commitments and responsibilities I’d say. I’m finding 126 miles difficult but still worth it x

I am guessing it's all about the effort made? I suppose the 1 concern is it's not a conventional relationship so how do you deal with the swinging side? You know? Maybe I'm over thinking xx"

If both make the effort it can work. As long as both people are happy, their own rules work for them.

I don't think it matters if it's a conventional relationship. Some people use that as an excuse to behave badly.

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Your friend wants to correct you. It’s 160 miles

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Your friend wants to correct you. It’s 160 miles

Heres me trying to be discreet..

hahahaha!!! Xx

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Your friend wants to correct you. It’s 160 miles

Heres me trying to be discreet..

hahahaha!!! Xx"

Oops! Did I out you?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

xx"

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Your friend wants to correct you. It’s 160 miles

Heres me trying to be discreet..

hahahaha!!! Xx

Oops! Did I out you?

You outed yourself!! I dont care who knows

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Distance relationships can work, if both parties put in the effort.

It's when it becomes one sided things go wrong

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx"

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Your friend wants to correct you. It’s 160 miles

Heres me trying to be discreet..

hahahaha!!! Xx"

Hahahaha

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx"

He is

just be happy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr and I were 3000 miles apart

but it was more than a shag

. 100 miles is not bad at all. - Mrs

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx"

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx"

You know we come as a pair!

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx

You know we come as a pair!

Ha!! Oh Lexi, watching you eat cheese is my second favourite past time...

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx

You know we come as a pair!

Ha!! Oh Lexi, watching you eat cheese is my second favourite past time...

xx"

Mmmmm cheese...... I’ll always eat cheese for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep four and a half years later we are still together and engaged and for the moment still long distance

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx

You know we come as a pair!

Ha!! Oh Lexi, watching you eat cheese is my second favourite past time...

Mmmmm cheese...... I’ll always eat cheese for you

xx"

Where would you be eating the cheese from though?

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

Only if one is willing to relocate

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I have this problem at the moment thing is I dont have every weekend free so I'm not sure whether it will work

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx

You know we come as a pair!

Ha!! Oh Lexi, watching you eat cheese is my second favourite past time...

Mmmmm cheese...... I’ll always eat cheese for you

Where would you be eating the cheese from though?

Obviously off my boobs NYC

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes. Aim to ensure that there's roughly equal effort and investment in to it working

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Early days but I think hes worth the effort

What’s to lose!?! Stop overthinking and enjoy

Hope you’re on the mend xx

Thank you saff!! Hes a good one

and i'll be fine xxx

You know we come as a pair!

Ha!! Oh Lexi, watching you eat cheese is my second favourite past time...

Mmmmm cheese...... I’ll always eat cheese for you

Where would you be eating the cheese from though?

Obviously off my boobs NYC

Well you won’t be kissing me then

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

My and my now husband lived in different countries for a few months. And hes rarely in the country as it is. Hes been home 2 months out of the 10 so far. We make it work. So 100 miles is nothing.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"My and my now husband lived in different countries for a few months. And hes rarely in the country as it is. Hes been home 2 months out of the 10 so far. We make it work. So 100 miles is nothing. "

Fair point! I guess I'm over thinking xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i met my ex in canary Islands she lived in Scotland and me London it worked fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you enjoy driving you will be fine.

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

Depends on how much each of you want it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you question it and have to ask then probably not.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Give it a whirl and see, what do you have to loose

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

"100 miles distance

Can it work?"

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

Definitely hi by London me Ireland married 3 yrs nearly couldn't be happier

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Can 200 miles work?

Asking for a friend

Depends on your other commitments and responsibilities I’d say. I’m finding 126 miles difficult but still worth it x

I am guessing it's all about the effort made? I suppose the 1 concern is it's not a conventional relationship so how do you deal with the swinging side? You know? Maybe I'm over thinking xx"

It has failed & has worked for us in the past. Family life is the big one really. We have had single ladies stay with us doing all the things friends would do but then doing things vanilla friends wouldn't do too.

If its just an overnight sex thing then maybe not, the more you want/get out of it the more effort you will make.

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