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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Deal with no shows ? I mean if you been chatting. Cammed etc. Planned to meet and the person lets you down. They later give you an excuse as to why they couldn't make it. So you rearrange and again the person doesn't show.

Cut your losses?

Third time lucky?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Occasionally second chance, never a third.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would look for someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d hunt them down and box their ears if they did that to me!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

block! I've more respect for myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deal with no shows ? I mean if you been chatting. Cammed etc. Planned to meet and the person lets you down. They later give you an excuse as to why they couldn't make it. So you rearrange and again the person doesn't show.

Cut your losses?

Third time lucky?

"

We wouldn’t give a 3rd chance. That’s just us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two strikes you’re out rule !!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I always took things on a case by case basis. As a single parent I know life can often unavoidably throw spanners in the works. There are lots of people on here who are parents, carers or just have other responsibilities in their life.

So you scratch the surface and dig a little. You start to get a spidey sense for what is genuine and what is not, regardless of the plausibility of the story (after all sometimes truth is stranger than fiction). I just find it sad when people can't be upfront and honest. After all surely we're all big boys and girls aren't we? It's ok to get cold feet or just find something better or more convenient. It's just a shame some people mess you around when you could have made other plans.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Life gets in the way sometimes but if an apology doesn’t come with the excuse, no second chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As probably mentioned even as adults we cant plan for everything in life, kids, work, family and a whole load of other things could have happened but i would expect a courtesy call/text, if they cant do that they dont respect you and most likley put milk in first when making a cup of tea.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

experience has taught us not to even give a second chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may have got this wrong. Do you mean they cancelled before the meet? If so life happens and that’s fine. I thought you meant they just didn’t turn up and gave you an excuse afterwards, in which case no that’s not fine at all. I’d go nuts if someone just didn’t turn up. That’s just plain rude and not acceptable at all!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

One word.

NEXT

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Hasn't happened to me yet - usually because by the time we have got to talking about meeting we both have a fair idea that the other is genuine and will show up.

As Frontier said though if it were to happen it's a case of treating each case individually and using a healthy dose of gut instinct. Things happen, plans change, but with open and honest communication it's acceptable and can be worked round.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Depends on their reason and how much i like them. I’ll give a second chance but no more than that.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

They would be reported and ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may have got this wrong. Do you mean they cancelled before the meet? If so life happens and that’s fine. I thought you meant they just didn’t turn up and gave you an excuse afterwards, in which case no that’s not fine at all. I’d go nuts if someone just didn’t turn up. That’s just plain rude and not acceptable at all! "

This

Someone canceling say the day before and are apologetic is very different from someone who just fails to turn up leaving you stood up x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'd give a second chance if the first no show show was handled properly...by that I mean letting me know in advance. A third chance then no. My time is too precious to be messed about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I may have got this wrong. Do you mean they cancelled before the meet? If so life happens and that’s fine. I thought you meant they just didn’t turn up and gave you an excuse afterwards, in which case no that’s not fine at all. I’d go nuts if someone just didn’t turn up. That’s just plain rude and not acceptable at all! "

First time I showed to the meet and he didn't turn up. He text later that night to say he had car troubles and no credit. The second time he mailed about 5 minutes before we were meant to meet and said he couldn't get it if work.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I may have got this wrong. Do you mean they cancelled before the meet? If so life happens and that’s fine. I thought you meant they just didn’t turn up and gave you an excuse afterwards, in which case no that’s not fine at all. I’d go nuts if someone just didn’t turn up. That’s just plain rude and not acceptable at all!

First time I showed to the meet and he didn't turn up. He text later that night to say he had car troubles and no credit. The second time he mailed about 5 minutes before we were meant to meet and said he couldn't get it if work."

That is just not good enough at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deal with no shows ? I mean if you been chatting. Cammed etc. Planned to meet and the person lets you down. They later give you an excuse as to why they couldn't make it. So you rearrange and again the person doesn't show.

Cut your losses?

Third time lucky?

"
you must have liked him to allow that to happen?

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

I'd just block. That's rude. No credit was a great excuse 10-15 yrs ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block them that’s how

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

2 cancellations... delete... move on...NEXT!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I may have got this wrong. Do you mean they cancelled before the meet? If so life happens and that’s fine. I thought you meant they just didn’t turn up and gave you an excuse afterwards, in which case no that’s not fine at all. I’d go nuts if someone just didn’t turn up. That’s just plain rude and not acceptable at all!

First time I showed to the meet and he didn't turn up. He text later that night to say he had car troubles and no credit. The second time he mailed about 5 minutes before we were meant to meet and said he couldn't get it if work."

Poor excuses ,definitely wouldn't give a third chance.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

It's no wonder normal decent guys don't get many meets when you ladies are treated like this.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

OP you deserve better than that..we all do. Forget and move on x

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By *atisfying jackMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I think it depends on the situation, cancelling before with a valid excuse is fine, a no so is just rude.

We all have lives outside of here and things happen out if our control but like everything else, communication is key!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cut your losses and move on, there's better out there for you OP x

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Personally I don’t understand why he would not show up. Because for both of us guys we lucky to get a wink let alone a meet

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Deal with no shows ? I mean if you been chatting. Cammed etc. Planned to meet and the person lets you down. They later give you an excuse as to why they couldn't make it. So you rearrange and again the person doesn't show.

Cut your losses?

Third time lucky?

"

I’d expand my age range slightly. Book a flight to Stansted where this gorgeous man would meet me and show me the delights of beautiful Saffron Walden.

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