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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am new to swinging but enjoy what i have experienced so far... I am now looking to expand my experience and try a m/f couple. I am so worried about disappointing the lady as I am still unsure of what I will be able to do with her.... How do I go about explaining that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think you already have

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am worried she feels like an experiment x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I am worried she feels like an experiment x"

That will be up to her if she feels like that. Just explain what you have and they have 2 choices.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes thats true ... I just would hate to upset anyone but everyone has their first time x

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

dont forget, we arent gay/bi by design, so everyone that is has had to start somewhere, so i really wouldnt worry about it.

going by past experiences, your bigger worry would be stopping the bloke feeling like an extra wheel while you and his OH get jiggy lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ooops hadnt thought about him lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well you should jen... you should

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was only joking lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just be open and it will all come and go with the flow xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the first time with anyone is a bit of an experiment though to be honest - but no worries because it's the same for anyone. I'm sure if you just relax and enjoy yourself and make sure everyone else is enjoying themselves too, you'll all have a great time.

So with that it's a 'good luck when ya do' from us

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will try my best at the end of the day i would love to be able to please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well if you have the disire, which it seams you have then go for it, if you tell the couple that its your first time, get to know them first and it shouldnt be a problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes i will... thank you all for your advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well if you have the disire, which it seams you have then go for it, if you tell the couple that its your first time, get to know them first and it shouldnt be a problem "

I was thinking that too. Wanting to please others and enjoying doing it and being pleased too is one enormous positive!

....you'll be fine Jen xx

Wolf

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"I will try my best at the end of the day i would love to be able to please "

you almost sound resigned to being a plaything, Jen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really love giving as much as receiving. I was thinking that I really want to make a woman feel how good I feel when i am being pleased xx

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"I really love giving as much as receiving. I was thinking that I really want to make a woman feel how good I feel when i am being pleased xx "

as has been said, a very big positive to bring to the table.

just wish you were closer as we have yet to meet someone that makes Em feel the woman thing is for her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awe lovely thing to say thank you so much xxx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Doesn't everyone have these nerves to start?

We found just being honest and saying 'I really want to try but quite nervous and not sure how much i'll be comfortable with' Works really well.

The important bit is picking a couple that are chilled out and relaxed with no agenda.

Go with the flow and have fun with a capital F lol. Its how we roll...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have had experience with two guys and enjoyed that so much.... but there is something that makes me really want to please a woman xx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We're pretty sure that there will be plenty of women out there that would be perfectly happy to let you see how much you wanted to please them.

As long as you tell them you are unsure of what exactly you want to do before you start and its a relaxed woman/couple it will be fine there have been loads before you feeling just the same...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am going to really see if i can transfer my knowledge of what i like to someone else....i suppose its a good way to start x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest and explain your concerns about pleasing a woman and you will be fine there is plenty of ladys out there that will Guide you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I hope so... I really have it in my head now and i know its not just going to disappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oo some naughty thoughts in your head wheres me drill lol when you have made your mind up you might want to tweak your profile a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmm you thinking bi curious ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a start maybe a few words to explain your thoughts and that you are looking for couples as well as single males.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think i would need a hand with the wording of that ....

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

You certainly sound curious to us...

Had another thought to whilst 'researching' Christpoher & Natalie's profile and noticing their add for a social meet.

You could try going to a larger social and chatting to a few of the other women there about their first experiences, you'll probably find a lot were very similar to yourself...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will change my profile now and see if that changes anything xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am new to swinging but enjoy what i have experienced so far... I am now looking to expand my experience and try a m/f couple. I am so worried about disappointing the lady as I am still unsure of what I will be able to do with her.... How do I go about explaining that... "

there you go ^^ cut out the explaining bit and you are just about there,many people who look at profiles look for honesty and thats what you have done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awe thank you so much xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No worries and good luck, ooo you not to far from us either haha xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had noticed that xxxx not that i was already checking you out lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes thats true ... I just would hate to upset anyone but everyone has their first time x"

just go for people with verifications from single women and explain to them, and its their choice if they break you in,

some couples ive been with dont really like breaking someone in, guess the head isnt as good as someone whos comfortable and done it alot! but some wont mind at all, as your what alot are looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you need any more help message away and we will try and help you or point you to some one who can x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose a newbie could be trained to what they like... I dont think i would be useless but i would be worried about etiquette lol

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"I had noticed that xxxx not that i was already checking you out lol xxx"

Untruth Untruth!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well you have to look lol xx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Rude not to!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well i would never like to be misconstrued and people think i am rude lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

profile looking good now,you still state that you are just looking for single males lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok lol xx on it now

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It might be an idea to add a couple of pictures to your profile. We do like to have an idea of who we are meeting. They don't have to be necessarily 'risqué' if your not comfortable with that. Maybe keep face pics for private. But it always makes us feel more confident about a profile when it has some pics on it and from speaking to others we know a lot do feel the same.

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will always send a face and body pic when asked I have to be really careful due to my career... I will get a couple of pics done when i am next in the right situation....one with no face x

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