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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was also led to believe that when it comes to sex women need their own reason, for example, "ooooh he's gorgeous, he's making my ovaries twitch, I'm feeling horny, go on then I'm bored", etc, etc. But, men just need a place, and possiby not even a discrete one, basically they can have sex at the drop of a hat (although this may be an age thing, not being male I don't know this).

Any opinions folks? No right, no wrong, just opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion is no, I do not agree. Lots of men need a reason, lots of women just need a place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think each individual is different.

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln


"My opinion is no, I do not agree. Lots of men need a reason, lots of women just need a place. "

It's almost as if everyone's different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My opinion is no, I do not agree. Lots of men need a reason, lots of women just need a place.

It's almost as if everyone's different "

Noooo, it cannot be

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I need a reason, and a place!

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By *attoo.GentMan
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

This probably stems from "any hole is a goal".

I know alot of men will shag anything.. But its not just men. Just like everything else, everybody is different!

Personally i have to have a reason and a place!

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

A reason, a place, a time and childcare!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My opinion is no, I do not agree. Lots of men need a reason, lots of women just need a place. "

This does not surprise me

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Women make up the bulk of sex workers, and 90 percent of sex toys are made for them.

Of course they are able to hold out for the best man they can get, but most of the time they are fucking guys with beer bellies who are out of shape.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

A place and an opportunity

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"I was also led to believe that when it comes to sex women need their own reason, for example, "ooooh he's gorgeous, he's making my ovaries twitch, I'm feeling horny, go on then I'm bored", etc, etc. But, men just need a place, and possiby not even a discrete one, basically they can have sex at the drop of a hat (although this may be an age thing, not being male I don't know this).

Any opinions folks? No right, no wrong, just opinions."

Not sure I get this. Is this just a casual bit of male bashing? But I shall attempt to answer your question anyway..

So, if you have an urge don’t you have to have a reason not to rather than to act on It

Why is it different for women? Socialisation. Basically the fear of other [women’s] people’s opinions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was also led to believe that when it comes to sex women need their own reason, for example, "ooooh he's gorgeous, he's making my ovaries twitch, I'm feeling horny, go on then I'm bored", etc, etc. But, men just need a place, and possiby not even a discrete one, basically they can have sex at the drop of a hat (although this may be an age thing, not being male I don't know this).

Any opinions folks? No right, no wrong, just opinions.

Not sure I get this. Is this just a casual bit of male bashing? But I shall attempt to answer your question anyway..

So, if you have an urge don’t you have to have a reason not to rather than to act on It

Why is it different for women? Socialisation. Basically the fear of other [women’s] people’s opinions. "

What other people think about me is none of my business. My life, my journey, lived by me for me.

I am questioning my own belief, don't you ever do that?

Personally I cannot walk into a room and grab someone and have sex, I need some kind of connection, I need to know that its worth my time, effort and I have to decide I want to. I'm just not spontaneous enough for casual fuckery, hence I need my own reason.

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By *rednwilma1Couple
over a year ago

york

Sadly, mosty true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basic primal stuff. Men are programmed to spread their genes, women are selective in which seed they receive. Women were left to bear and raise the offspring alone, so selected the male that would hopefully produce a strong offspring with a good chance of survival.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Basic primal stuff. Men are programmed to spread their genes, women are selective in which seed they receive. Women were left to bear and raise the offspring alone, so selected the male that would hopefully produce a strong offspring with a good chance of survival."

The OP was about Urges not about evolution. Not every encounter is going to result in offspring women will be ‘left to bear’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basic primal stuff. Men are programmed to spread their genes, women are selective in which seed they receive. Women were left to bear and raise the offspring alone, so selected the male that would hopefully produce a strong offspring with a good chance of survival.

The OP was about Urges not about evolution. Not every encounter is going to result in offspring women will be ‘left to bear’ "

Did my answer suggest why men and women have different urges ? As in men have more and women more selective needing a reason not a place and time. And I wasn't for one minute suggesting their would be a resulting offspring, you have totally twisted that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Basic primal stuff. Men are programmed to spread their genes, women are selective in which seed they receive. Women were left to bear and raise the offspring alone, so selected the male that would hopefully produce a strong offspring with a good chance of survival."

Very good point and one I never considered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was also led to believe that when it comes to sex women need their own reason, for example, "ooooh he's gorgeous, he's making my ovaries twitch, I'm feeling horny, go on then I'm bored", etc, etc. But, men just need a place, and possiby not even a discrete one, basically they can have sex at the drop of a hat (although this may be an age thing, not being male I don't know this).

Any opinions folks? No right, no wrong, just opinions."

I would think women and men can have sex at the drop of a hat. I don't think that's a predominantly male thing. Guys also have their reasons too. I'm not sure what you mean OP. Would you mind expanding a little?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basic primal stuff. Men are programmed to spread their genes, women are selective in which seed they receive. Women were left to bear and raise the offspring alone, so selected the male that would hopefully produce a strong offspring with a good chance of survival.

Very good point and one I never considered. "

A lot of it is back to basic primal. Men tend to initiate wet tongue type kisses, which is a way of delivering his testosterone to a woman, which will hopefully 'flick her switch' sexually etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would think women and men can have sex at the drop of a hat. I don't think that's a predominantly male thing. Guys also have their reasons too. I'm not sure what you mean OP. Would you mind expanding a little?"

My original post is my belief, I was brought up with that notion. I have tried the casual fuckery thing a few times and it did not suit me and left me very unhappy.

Sophee makes a very good point though, and essentially I agree with her.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Basic primal stuff. Men are programmed to spread their genes, women are selective in which seed they receive. Women were left to bear and raise the offspring alone, so selected the male that would hopefully produce a strong offspring with a good chance of survival.

Very good point and one I never considered. "

As a bisexual woman though.. you’ve got all the options. Without fear of pregnancy or a need to compare to men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would think women and men can have sex at the drop of a hat. I don't think that's a predominantly male thing. Guys also have their reasons too. I'm not sure what you mean OP. Would you mind expanding a little?

My original post is my belief, I was brought up with that notion. I have tried the casual fuckery thing a few times and it did not suit me and left me very unhappy.

Sophee makes a very good point though, and essentially I agree with her."

Personally. I'd agree with what you said originally. No right or wrong here. We are all different. I'm not a fuck anything, anytime or anywhere. I don't believe that most men are like that. I think we'd surprise you. The other points are all valid. Sophee's may be a little outdated but i recognise the basic nature of humans.

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey

Men need to make themselves available as it`s the womens choice on here who she picks or not & if your not available there are plenty of others to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would think women and men can have sex at the drop of a hat. I don't think that's a predominantly male thing. Guys also have their reasons too. I'm not sure what you mean OP. Would you mind expanding a little?

My original post is my belief, I was brought up with that notion. I have tried the casual fuckery thing a few times and it did not suit me and left me very unhappy.

Sophee makes a very good point though, and essentially I agree with her.

Personally. I'd agree with what you said originally. No right or wrong here. We are all different. I'm not a fuck anything, anytime or anywhere. I don't believe that most men are like that. I think we'd surprise you. The other points are all valid. Sophee's may be a little outdated but i recognise the basic nature of humans. "

Primal out dated ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no longer responding directly to the above poster. Due to the blocking rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#gutted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a little saddened by it.

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan

There is a saying that goes "women have sex when they want, men have sex when they can."

Of course this is a stereotype and a generalisation but it is based on fact as proven by the amount of messages that women receive vs men. Women don't even need to have any pics or profile text yet will be inundated by offers from desperate guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a saying that goes "women have sex when they want, men have sex when they can."

Of course this is a stereotype and a generalisation but it is based on fact as proven by the amount of messages that women receive vs men. Women don't even need to have any pics or profile text yet will be inundated by offers from desperate guys. "

On here, that can be down to male/female ratio. There are far less women on here to choose from I think.

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan


"There is a saying that goes "women have sex when they want, men have sex when they can."

Of course this is a stereotype and a generalisation but it is based on fact as proven by the amount of messages that women receive vs men. Women don't even need to have any pics or profile text yet will be inundated by offers from desperate guys.

On here, that can be down to male/female ratio. There are far less women on here to choose from I think."

It applies anywhere. Pub/nightclub, Facebook, at work, walking down the street. The ratio here is also proof that there are more men looking for whatever they can get whereas women are looking for something more specific, or not even looking at all.

As you say, it has its roots in primal behaviour and in modern times there is also the influence of what is socially acceptable where men are praised for the amount of sexual partners they have but women are judged.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Can only speak personally - but for me I need a heck of a lot more than a place, I need a connection, chemistry, attraction and more besides - now some of those things may be on a very superficial level in some instances but they need to be there all the same, and the stronger those things are the better the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need chemistry & connection that takes time to build and doesnt happen regularly. So its reason for me. But im picky as fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need chemistry & connection that takes time to build and doesnt happen regularly. So its reason for me. But im picky as fuck."

But when it does it could be anywhere, any time

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

Sometimes I need a reason... sometimes I need a place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

There's a time and a place for everything

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

What I need is lust and desire for woman/women in question and the situation. Without it reason and location are pointless. We are not sex robots that will fuck anyone at the drop of a hat or on demand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe it's a case of the many that spoil it for the few but I still believe my original theory.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I couldn't shag anybody I wasn't physically attracted to. I could shag a stranger but I couldn't shag somebody I disliked as a person. Luke

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just put a meet up, no info, no photo, only that I need a fuck. In 15 minutes I've had 6 offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need the person

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"A reason, a place, a time and childcare!"

This! It requires a lot of effort for me to get in the headspace of being bothered to meet someone for sex, nevermind the additionsl practicalities!

This is why a boyfriend is my ideal. I can sex them up whenever, wherever.

But making the time and effort to meet new men for sex that may be great but also may not be great, is quite a struggle these days. It’s frustrating.

I want a sex god handed to me on a plate basically and that’s just not the way life works.

Sorry...i’m waffling.

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