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If you told your vanilla friends and colleagues about your lifestyle and sexuality.......

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Would they be surprised or would they be saying tell us something we don’t know you bi sex crazed loony.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m quite open to vanilla friends. Family wouldn’t understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some things are just for me and those I do them with

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush


"Would they be surprised or would they be saying tell us something we don’t know you bi sex crazed loony. "

Told most of mine....they weren't that surprised it seems....apparently they had me down as a Sex Craved Deviant....rather presumptious I thought!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of ours know, the rest wouldn’t be surprised lol

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Surprised. I look really cute and innocent and I don't think they would expect it at all.

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south


"Surprised. I look really cute and innocent and I don't think they would expect it at all."

You do look so lovely indeed x

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By *urning the kinkMan
over a year ago

bristol

Most of my friends know.

Family no way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends we trust know, the others wouldn't be surprised.

I'm not fussed tbh

I don't tell others how to act in their marriages, who's to say what's right or wrong

We are happy enough, by the looks of some of the married couples we know we are much happier than them stuck in a vanilla marriage ha

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south

Friends of ours recently told us that she does adult work

We now chat so openly and have heard some interesting stories!

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Family would never know

Friends, just the odd thing I drop in to conversation in order to shut them up about trying to “find someone to look after me” is enough to make them run for the hills

If they really knew they’d probably have me locked up haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our vanilla friends and colleagues don't discuss their sex lives,why should we divulge ours?

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south


"Family would never know

Friends, just the odd thing I drop in to conversation in order to shut them up about trying to “find someone to look after me” is enough to make them run for the hills

If they really knew they’d probably have me locked up haha "

Locked or looked you up ? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friends we trust know, the others wouldn't be surprised.

I'm not fussed tbh

I don't tell others how to act in their marriages, who's to say what's right or wrong

We are happy enough, by the looks of some of the married couples we know we are much happier than them stuck in a vanilla marriage ha "

Maybe they just prefer to be discreet about what they get up to

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

I'd probably get some shit for a while but I imagine after that I'd get some curious questions

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Family would never know

Friends, just the odd thing I drop in to conversation in order to shut them up about trying to “find someone to look after me” is enough to make them run for the hills

If they really knew they’d probably have me locked up haha

Locked or looked you up ? X "

The girls would definitely have me locked up and some of the lads to be far.... some of the lads maybe look up, but I wouldn’t, never sh*t on your own doorstep” haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No-one would be surprised. They already think I'm into a lot worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Friends we trust know, the others wouldn't be surprised.

I'm not fussed tbh

I don't tell others how to act in their marriages, who's to say what's right or wrong

We are happy enough, by the looks of some of the married couples we know we are much happier than them stuck in a vanilla marriage ha

Maybe they just prefer to be discreet about what they get up to "

Good for them. I don't shove our lifestyle in their faces, they just know we are swingers. Same way I know they aren't.

No big deal to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was my sister that told us about Fab! She knows we are on here still (she isn't nowadays) but has no idea what floats our boat... Thankfully! Our friends who may know do so as we have seen them on here ;

Wench x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told a vanilla friend last week. She was cool with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends and I speak openly, but I don't think they would have a clue how in deep I am I like that though, good to be full of surprises

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush


"I'd probably get some shit for a while but I imagine after that I'd get some curious questions "

I found that all my friends were massively curious to be fair LvM!!

Good to educate folk I find....life can be so mundane if you don't open your eyes and mind...Haha

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Mine know. I think they’d be more shocked if I WASN’T like this

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Our vanilla friends and colleagues don't discuss their sex lives,why should we divulge ours?"

This

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I think there’d be a mix of I always knew you were that way and a mix of you never know what goes on when the curtains are closed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend introduced me to fab we share hilarious stories everyone else in my life thinks I'm a an angel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't think they would be surprised or bothered but some are very narrow minded and could never understand anyone else's view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why tell them at all its not as though you get your cock or tits out and say look at this in costa now is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my Mum and Sister over a year ago!

All they said was to be careful!

They know i play safe and I have a person who gets all my meet details etc.

I think as long as i’m happy then they are happy

I have 4 Nilla friends that have known about my lifestyle since I started 4 years ago.

They dont judge and do ask questions.

I’m glad the people around me are supportive and open minded as I wouldn’t feel so comfortable if I couldn’t tell anyone x

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey

It would disappoint my friends & family if I Wasn`t doing something like this. They`ve come to expect me being the crazy one.

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By *iddlesticks OP   Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Why tell them at all its not as though you get your cock or tits out and say look at this in costa now is it. "

Well we’re, there was this one time at band camp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't discuss our sex life with people who aren't involved in it, why would we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many of my friends and colleagues are just as pervy and kinky as people on here, although most would be surprised that I am. I must give off vanilla essence...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister and best friend know snippets, they think it's funny I'm such a perv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ended up introducing someone to here after ‘coming Clean’ as it were, about here and past shenanigans. She also had similar.

Neither of us were overly surprised I don’t think.

Previously told someone I used to work with and he was pretty much ‘meh’ about it.

There’s so much more of it going on than we think. Just the ‘Brit’ prudish mentality makes it an issue.

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By *azorlightMan
over a year ago

durham

How do people know that there friends are vanilla

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By *oppolocosTV/TS
over a year ago

inverurie

If I'm asked I tell the truth, but people never ask. Unless you are looking to have sex with someone both yours and their sex life is private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve told a few who generally say go for it. They seem very understanding and often a little jealous.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Some of my family know, my mum and sister, my vanilla friends would be horrified lol.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

I think after they had stopped laughing ,our friends/family just would not believe it ,,go figure

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By *ockdownnofunCouple
over a year ago

Hiding all away

I think they’d be shocked. Probably not so much about me, but you’d never guess Mrs fakename would do this.

We keep it secret because it’s ‘our secret’. There are only one or two friends I’d even consider mentioning it to. Our best vanilla friends would be horrified as they aren’t sexy people in the slightest (which I think is way weirder than swinging, but each to their own).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think they’d be shocked. Probably not so much about me, but you’d never guess Mrs fakename would do this.

We keep it secret because it’s ‘our secret’. There are only one or two friends I’d even consider mentioning it to. Our best vanilla friends would be horrified as they aren’t sexy people in the slightest (which I think is way weirder than swinging, but each to their own). "

That seems a really unkind thing to say about friends

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By *anni and RicCouple
over a year ago

York

I just do it to intentionally make idiots feel uncomfortable....I have nothing to hide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just do it to intentionally make idiots feel uncomfortable....I have nothing to hide "

Most people would feel uncomfortable by someone being brash about their unusual sex life

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Well I’ve told my close friends and were/are just intrigued.

Told an old boss before too and he was just interested.

All been positive in my experience

TB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell most my pals - even got 2 that’ve joined here from it & love it.

But then again I couldn’t care what people think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixture of shocked and intrigued lol

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Most people who know us would be gobsmacked. I get that all the time on meets: "You look so innocent!"

I quite like that. Makes it all the more exciting

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most already know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They know... they are not surprised... cheeky feckers

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

My vanilla friends fall in to 2 cats... 1. OMFG! that sounds painful.. why does he let you do that! And 2. You go girl if that's what you're in to! Tell us more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were having a drink with a few of our neighbours who then brought up the subject of someone they knew who was a swinger ....what followed was an analysis of ... could you imagine ?? Do people actually do that .... What if there were swingers around here ........

Oh if only they knew what we were up to

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By *nigmaDreamWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

I’m very open. I’m lucky to only befriend open minded people so I’ve never suffered backlash

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Would they be surprised or would they be saying tell us something we don’t know you bi sex crazed loony. "

I’ve tried to keep my sex life to myself at work cos we is all “proffeshionals”, like.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

My closest friends have known about my lifestyle preferences since I was early 20s. They just don’t want details!

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I did open up to my work colleagues now they're using it against me

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By *moothman2000Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Work life and sex life are two separate things and that's the way I like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live a vanilla lifestyle anyway so nothing exciting for my friends to hear about.

I'm just a user of this site who is trying to click with none vanilla women.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"We were having a drink with a few of our neighbours who then brought up the subject of someone they knew who was a swinger ....what followed was an analysis of ... could you imagine ?? Do people actually do that .... What if there were swingers around here ........

Oh if only they knew what we were up to "

I've had this too, the mothers at the school brought up 'filthy swingers', the stuff they mentioned people doing was so tame, they'd have been horrified if I'd clued them in lol

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