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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If your girl is cheating on you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

Gut instinct counts for alot..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She doesn’t want you near her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

Change of routine

Doesn't want to be near you

Many indicators

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Finding them in bed with somebody else. That's how I found out.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

When the private detective you’ve hired shows you the photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

Has a single persons fab profile that's actively meeting?

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If your girl is cheating on you?

Gut instinct counts for alot.. "

How do you know if the gut feeling is true or paranoia?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Finding them in bed with somebody else. That's how I found out."

Sorry to hear... what happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest when I was a squaddie i was cheated on loads of times when out in Germany, but i didn't care. The biggest problem is the bruised male ego. I said to one guy "she's a great fuck isn't she" to a guy I knew had fucked my ex. He didn't know where to look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She doesn’t want you near her "

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Finding them in bed with somebody else. That's how I found out.

Sorry to hear... what happened?"

She blamed me and opened up the relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She doesn’t want you near her "

Not necessarily true, cheating can cause a case of permanent horniness and reignite passions at home (even if the cheater is imaging they are with someone else )

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

Asking for yourself or a friend?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"If your girl is cheating on you?

Has a single persons fab profile that's actively meeting?

P"

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

She loses weight, gets her hair done, looks different, change of normal routine, starts staying over at friends etc....any of these could be signs.

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln


"If your girl is cheating on you?

Gut instinct counts for alot.. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Signs of cheating include :

Sudden upgrade of both outward and personal grooming, new clothes, hairstyle, weight loss, waxing/shaving regularly where it wasn't the norm

Lots of new social activities where you're not invited - allegedly with friends or colleagues

Increased secrecy of phone/online activity

New sexy lingerie replaces the M&S grey ones

Phone calls which suddenly change in tone or are rapidly concluded when you are around - increase in "wrong numbers"

Perky and cheerful for no discernible reason

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

something didn't feel right for me, my gut said something was going on even though I wanted to believe nothing was and she wouldn't do that to me....anyway, so I turned self confessed detective and caught the cheating cow bag out through a few different silly lies she told and also whilst using our joint tablet which had backed up her Snapchat conversations via Google drive/photo's that the stupid bint had screenshot'd....BUSTED....

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Signs of cheating include :

Sudden upgrade of both outward and personal grooming, new clothes, hairstyle, weight loss, waxing/shaving regularly where it wasn't the norm

Lots of new social activities where you're not invited - allegedly with friends or colleagues

Increased secrecy of phone/online activity

New sexy lingerie replaces the M&S grey ones

Phone calls which suddenly change in tone or are rapidly concluded when you are around - increase in "wrong numbers"

Perky and cheerful for no discernible reason"

Haha, loving your status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your girl is cheating on you?

Gut instinct counts for alot..

How do you know if the gut feeling is true or paranoia? "

Because there was a change that sparked your gut reaction.. Whether yours or hers, something has changed.

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

I would agree with most of the above. The gut feeling the change of routine the keep off me leave me alone all good indications.

If you have your suspicions do a little bit of detective work yourself follow and find out if she is where she says she is or going too, If she with someone take photo with your phone so you have proof when you ask or confront her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"If your girl is cheating on you?

Gut instinct counts for alot..

How do you know if the gut feeling is true or paranoia? "

A lot of people don't know the difference. This is when you have to do a bit of soul searching. Are you the type of person who gets suspicious over trivial things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When she gets my name tattooed on her ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Signs of cheating include :

Sudden upgrade of both outward and personal grooming, new clothes, hairstyle, weight loss, waxing/shaving regularly where it wasn't the norm

Lots of new social activities where you're not invited - allegedly with friends or colleagues

Increased secrecy of phone/online activity

New sexy lingerie replaces the M&S grey ones

Phone calls which suddenly change in tone or are rapidly concluded when you are around - increase in "wrong numbers"

Perky and cheerful for no discernible reason

Haha, loving your status "

How could I refuse??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When she gets my name tattooed on her ass "

Oh, so you're the Chri5 she's been talking about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

Because she keeps dipping into the bank when you’re not looking and gives herself £400 for passing go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When she gets my name tattooed on her ass

Oh, so you're the Chri5 she's been talking about? "

I was Chris4 but it was my 5th time with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

The gap gets a lot wider

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln


"My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P"

What a colossal douche nozzle, both of them actually

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P"

I hope he dies lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P

What a colossal douche nozzle, both of them actually "

Yep. Sometimes you just KNOW.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She doesn’t want you near her

Not necessarily true, cheating can cause a case of permanent horniness and reignite passions at home (even if the cheater is imaging they are with someone else )

"

That is true with some guys too xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P

What a colossal douche nozzle, both of them actually

Yep. Sometimes you just KNOW.

P"

I didn't have a clue my hubby was cheating. What made it worse was he was cheating with a girl that I gave a job to and fed and helped her through a rough time in her life. Only to come home and find them in my bed in the house I paid for and he beat me up for catching them in the act. If you would of asked me if they were cheating behind my back then I would of said no so I must be blind or stupid.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork


"If your girl is cheating on you?

Because she keeps dipping into the bank when you’re not looking and gives herself £400 for passing go "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not try talking and expressing that you feel something is wrong and has changed?

Are you cheating on her being here? Maybe she knows that.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Maybe she found out you're on here and thought sod him. What's good for the goose etc etc.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

When your playing poker and she has 5 aces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P

What a colossal douche nozzle, both of them actually

Yep. Sometimes you just KNOW.

P

I didn't have a clue my hubby was cheating. What made it worse was he was cheating with a girl that I gave a job to and fed and helped her through a rough time in her life. Only to come home and find them in my bed in the house I paid for and he beat me up for catching them in the act. If you would of asked me if they were cheating behind my back then I would of said no so I must be blind or stupid."

I just think you were a believer, you believed in him and you believed in her. I don't think it makes you either blind or stupid.

I had caught my ex out on multiple lies, manipulation and general evilness many times before, all of which were apparently made up by me in my own head. I already knew he was a wrong un, but I was stuck. I was looking for that definitive answer that nobody could deny or say I was making up. Something I could prove.

I knew he was lying, I could tell when he was lying as it was something I'd seen so so many times (just over different subject matter) when he lied to me he would either not make eye contact, or when he did he would have a sort of rage eye, you could see the evil and almost feel the venom in his words.

You were taken advantage of and that's cruel, you believed you were in a happy committed relationship, at least I knew mine was toxic so it was a relief to discover the truth rather than an earth shattering shock.

P

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

Love You Aunty P!!!

Awesome as ever!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She wins every time at scrabble

Sorry, in all seriousness there are plenty of signs mentioned above that I think would be a good tell. I hope she's not op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P

What a colossal douche nozzle, both of them actually

Yep. Sometimes you just KNOW.

P

I didn't have a clue my hubby was cheating. What made it worse was he was cheating with a girl that I gave a job to and fed and helped her through a rough time in her life. Only to come home and find them in my bed in the house I paid for and he beat me up for catching them in the act. If you would of asked me if they were cheating behind my back then I would of said no so I must be blind or stupid.

I just think you were a believer, you believed in him and you believed in her. I don't think it makes you either blind or stupid.

I had caught my ex out on multiple lies, manipulation and general evilness many times before, all of which were apparently made up by me in my own head. I already knew he was a wrong un, but I was stuck. I was looking for that definitive answer that nobody could deny or say I was making up. Something I could prove.

I knew he was lying, I could tell when he was lying as it was something I'd seen so so many times (just over different subject matter) when he lied to me he would either not make eye contact, or when he did he would have a sort of rage eye, you could see the evil and almost feel the venom in his words.

You were taken advantage of and that's cruel, you believed you were in a happy committed relationship, at least I knew mine was toxic so it was a relief to discover the truth rather than an earth shattering shock.

P"

It would of been better to see the lies rather than the shock of finding out the way I did. The worst part of it is he won't move out of my house until the divorce is finalised and she lives two doors away with her parents so it's constantly there and I can't get away from what happened yet. Yes I'm on here so that's sort of hypocritical but I never cheated on him and our marriage is over and he doesn't sleep in my bed. So yes I'm sort of cheating but I'm sort of not cheating as we don't even speak to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P

What a colossal douche nozzle, both of them actually

Yep. Sometimes you just KNOW.

P

I didn't have a clue my hubby was cheating. What made it worse was he was cheating with a girl that I gave a job to and fed and helped her through a rough time in her life. Only to come home and find them in my bed in the house I paid for and he beat me up for catching them in the act. If you would of asked me if they were cheating behind my back then I would of said no so I must be blind or stupid.

I just think you were a believer, you believed in him and you believed in her. I don't think it makes you either blind or stupid.

I had caught my ex out on multiple lies, manipulation and general evilness many times before, all of which were apparently made up by me in my own head. I already knew he was a wrong un, but I was stuck. I was looking for that definitive answer that nobody could deny or say I was making up. Something I could prove.

I knew he was lying, I could tell when he was lying as it was something I'd seen so so many times (just over different subject matter) when he lied to me he would either not make eye contact, or when he did he would have a sort of rage eye, you could see the evil and almost feel the venom in his words.

You were taken advantage of and that's cruel, you believed you were in a happy committed relationship, at least I knew mine was toxic so it was a relief to discover the truth rather than an earth shattering shock.

P

It would of been better to see the lies rather than the shock of finding out the way I did. The worst part of it is he won't move out of my house until the divorce is finalised and she lives two doors away with her parents so it's constantly there and I can't get away from what happened yet. Yes I'm on here so that's sort of hypocritical but I never cheated on him and our marriage is over and he doesn't sleep in my bed. So yes I'm sort of cheating but I'm sort of not cheating as we don't even speak to each other. "

You aren't being hypocritical, you're not sort of cheating... you're moving on.

You're in a situation and position you absolutely shouldn't have found yourself in, and I'm gutted for you.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex was cheating on me, I knew. I didnt need to be told, I just knew.

He denied it of course, accused me of losing my marbles, being a paranoid crazy bitch who needed sectioning.

One time I had the sense he was with her right there and then, he said he had gone to the pub. Something in me told me to get my arse there right at that moment so I called a taxi and went there in my pjs. That's how certain I was.

I peeped through the pub window. There he was talking to some bird.

The barman saw me and told him I was outside. He came out calling me all the psycho bitches under the sun, dragged me in the pub and introduced me to her and made me apologise for being so stupid. He then dragged me to the car by my hair, drove me home like a racing driver and pulled me out the car onto the floor outside out house then off he trotted back to the pub.

15 months later she contacted me... and admitted they'd been seeing each other for a while at that time and I was right all along. If I'd got to the pub 5 minutes earlier I'd have caught them smooching.

P

What a colossal douche nozzle, both of them actually

Yep. Sometimes you just KNOW.

P

I didn't have a clue my hubby was cheating. What made it worse was he was cheating with a girl that I gave a job to and fed and helped her through a rough time in her life. Only to come home and find them in my bed in the house I paid for and he beat me up for catching them in the act. If you would of asked me if they were cheating behind my back then I would of said no so I must be blind or stupid.

I just think you were a believer, you believed in him and you believed in her. I don't think it makes you either blind or stupid.

I had caught my ex out on multiple lies, manipulation and general evilness many times before, all of which were apparently made up by me in my own head. I already knew he was a wrong un, but I was stuck. I was looking for that definitive answer that nobody could deny or say I was making up. Something I could prove.

I knew he was lying, I could tell when he was lying as it was something I'd seen so so many times (just over different subject matter) when he lied to me he would either not make eye contact, or when he did he would have a sort of rage eye, you could see the evil and almost feel the venom in his words.

You were taken advantage of and that's cruel, you believed you were in a happy committed relationship, at least I knew mine was toxic so it was a relief to discover the truth rather than an earth shattering shock.

P

It would of been better to see the lies rather than the shock of finding out the way I did. The worst part of it is he won't move out of my house until the divorce is finalised and she lives two doors away with her parents so it's constantly there and I can't get away from what happened yet. Yes I'm on here so that's sort of hypocritical but I never cheated on him and our marriage is over and he doesn't sleep in my bed. So yes I'm sort of cheating but I'm sort of not cheating as we don't even speak to each other.

You aren't being hypocritical, you're not sort of cheating... you're moving on.

You're in a situation and position you absolutely shouldn't have found yourself in, and I'm gutted for you.

P"

Thank you as it's always nice to have a outsiders point of view on it

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

Not sure you will ever trust someone as you may only see your own reflection in there eye's if you truly want to find somebody you can trust you should maybe remove yourself form herehere and and dedicate yourself to person until you have no doubts then get back on as a couple..

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

Is she on here too OP or are you cheating on her ?

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"If your girl is cheating on you?

"

14 pairs of knickers every week on the washing line.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"If your girl is cheating on you?

Is she on here too OP or are you cheating on her ? "

Maybe he's asking for a friend

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"If your girl is cheating on you?

Is she on here too OP or are you cheating on her ?

Maybe he's asking for a friend "

Aah of course ! There’s always that ‘friend’

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