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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Two years ago hooked up with.a bi curious female and a wonderful afternoon was had by both

Both her and her fella wanted it to be a one off so on we pop with out lives

Jan this year she messaged me to say they had split and do I fancy a drink

Long story short a proper friendship was formed until mr came back in her life and now he won’t accept that we are just friends

So bye bye good friend because she wants to try again with him and he won’t accept me

I’m a big girl and take it on the chin cause I kind of see his point but still shifty Now wonder if friendship can ever be just that if two people have had sex ??

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A different sort of friendship i would say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A different sort of friendship i would say. "

Between the two yes but new or returning partners obviously see if differently

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

It can be easily, one of my (monkey) closest friends is a former lover... and female

Sounds to me like he's both a little controlling and insecure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It can be easily, one of my (monkey) closest friends is a former lover... and female

Sounds to me like he's both a little controlling and insecure"

Incredibly !! I hope it works for her but know it won’t so as a friend left it with a always here comment

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"It can be easily, one of my (monkey) closest friends is a former lover... and female

Sounds to me like he's both a little controlling and insecure

Incredibly !! I hope it works for her but know it won’t so as a friend left it with a always here comment "

All you can do... if she's made that choice .. a shame for you

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I think it all depends on the relationship, how it ended.

My Eldest sons dad is still one of my best friends.

We were friends before we got together, had a few happy years, but we wanted different things out of life, decided to part our ways & didn't split on bad terms.

Only found out I was pregnant after.

I still chat on Bookface to several exs going back to my teens.

None of us would ever want to get back together, we're just mates

If any man told me I had to pick between them & him.

I'd wave him bye bye

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it all depends on the relationship, how it ended.

My Eldest sons dad is still one of my best friends.

We were friends before we got together, had a few happy years, but we wanted different things out of life, decided to part our ways & didn't split on bad terms.

Only found out I was pregnant after.

I still chat on Bookface to several exs going back to my teens.

None of us would ever want to get back together, we're just mates

If any man told me I had to pick between them & him.

I'd wave him bye bye "

Indeed maybe friendship meant more to me than her ?? Would have thought we could have all been grown ups and maintained the friendship with. Ground rules ? Obviously no trust there ?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm sorry you're loosing a good friend

It sounds like he does have trust issues, and probably a wee bit of jealousy thrown in.

Not a good start to any relationship

Just be there for your friend, if it all goes wrong xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two years ago hooked up with.a bi curious female and a wonderful afternoon was had by both

Both her and her fella wanted it to be a one off so on we pop with out lives

Jan this year she messaged me to say they had split and do I fancy a drink

Long story short a proper friendship was formed until mr came back in her life and now he won’t accept that we are just friends

So bye bye good friend because she wants to try again with him and he won’t accept me

I’m a big girl and take it on the chin cause I kind of see his point but still shifty Now wonder if friendship can ever be just that if two people have had sex ?? "

Yes it definitely can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sorry you're loosing a good friend

It sounds like he does have trust issues, and probably a wee bit of jealousy thrown in.

Not a good start to any relationship

Just be there for your friend, if it all goes wrong xx"

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