FabSwingers.com forum: Message styles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After a discussion with a close friend on here we realised our messaging styles are completely opposite.... I go in with humour, for example 'do you want to plough me?' Or 'I enjoy your man nips', whereas she is alluring and sexual. Obviously she does better than me, so what is your messaging style?

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I just want a giggle , the real world is for serious stuff, so my style is escapism.

Xxx

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends.

My opening messages are generally inquiring, factual, something to try and start a conversation but generally ineffective.

FPF normally involves a self depracating health warning.

A response to a forum post will normally follow on from a comment or observation.

Messages to friends will allow me to open up more, may be more tongue in cheek, or if required a sympathetic unjudgemental shoulder to unburden on to.

I'm a complex beast so there is no size fits all.

Although I normally use too many words or get friendzoned early on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there"

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

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By *estSussexGuy76Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"After a discussion with a close friend on here we realised our messaging styles are completely opposite.... I go in with humour, for example 'do you want to plough me?' Or 'I enjoy your man nips', whereas she is alluring and sexual. Obviously she does better than me, so what is your messaging style? "

I've often thought about this.

I'm polite, I compliment their profile and ask about their day and FAB experience...

I've got to be honest, I'm not having much luck this way .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've often thought about this.

I'm polite, I compliment their profile and ask about their day and FAB experience...

I've got to be honest, I'm not having much luck this way .....

Try my way and go in hard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just want a giggle , the real world is for serious stuff, so my style is escapism.

Xxx "

best way I think.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

My messaging style varies massively depending on what mood I'm in. Flirty banter seems to work well if I'm in the mood. I'm shockingly bad at giving compliments.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol"

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ooze sexuality in my messages right from the beginning. They either stay and know the score or run away never to be heard from again. Win win for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

Winner winner chicken dinner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

Winner winner chicken dinner

Are you reading this incandescent? I've pulled for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

Winner winner chicken dinner

Are you reading this incandescent? I've pulled for us "

He couldn’t cope with the both of us sweetheart. Could any man?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

Winner winner chicken dinner

Are you reading this incandescent? I've pulled for us

He couldn’t cope with the both of us sweetheart. Could any man?"

Try me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

Winner winner chicken dinner

Are you reading this incandescent? I've pulled for us

He couldn’t cope with the both of us sweetheart. Could any man?

Try me

12 men maybe

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

Winner winner chicken dinner

Are you reading this incandescent? I've pulled for us

He couldn’t cope with the both of us sweetheart. Could any man?

Try me

12 men maybe

How sexist!!! Women can by jurors too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

Winner winner chicken dinner

Are you reading this incandescent? I've pulled for us

He couldn’t cope with the both of us sweetheart. Could any man?

Try me

12 men maybe

How sexist!!! Women can by jurors too

A few women can come too then

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

There are message styles, I send the first thing that pops in my head.

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By *esireXposedMan
over a year ago

East sussex

I go straight in with a dic pic! so it's humour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I usually start with dry humour with a smattering of sarcasm, then can degenerate from there

I'm shit at small talk in real life haha I've tried all the usual messaging styles but decided to just be me

I'm the same in real life as my messaging style on here

I dont think we have ever messaged lol

Could be remedied .. and that wasn't dry sarcasm

Warning though if you start with me I bring incandescent along for the ride

Winner winner chicken dinner

Are you reading this incandescent? I've pulled for us

He couldn’t cope with the both of us sweetheart. Could any man?

Try me

12 men maybe

How sexist!!! Women can by jurors too

A few women can come too then "

Oh yes ... heaven

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

She sounds like a right catch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

She sounds like a right catch

She was ...

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By *estSussexGuy76Man
over a year ago

copthorne

I've often thought about this.

I'm polite, I compliment their profile and ask about their day and FAB experience...

I've got to be honest, I'm not having much luck this way .....

Try my way and go in hard

Ha ha .... Well it can't be any worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent someone a face pic today of princess fiona !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

She sounds like a right catch

She was ...

Well Nevermind Aladdin, these things happen for a reason

maybe someone else will ask you to plough them soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

She sounds like a right catch

She was ...

Well Nevermind Aladdin, these things happen for a reason

maybe someone else will ask you to plough them soon

Who's knows

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I sent someone a face pic today of princess fiona !"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

‘Plough’? ‘Man nips’?

Could I have an example of your friends alluring?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I sent someone a face pic today of princess fiona !

Daytime or night time fiona?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

She sounds like a right catch

She was ...

So how did you mess it up Aladdin? Rub your lamp the wrong way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"‘Plough’? ‘Man nips’?

Could I have an example of your friends alluring? "

Steve you are just bloody rude but I'll ask her to share her sexual messages....

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere

Some top message tips here I see

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some top message tips here I see

Yep... take it all on board ma man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

She sounds like a right catch

She was ...

So how did you mess it up Aladdin? Rub your lamp the wrong way?"

For one I didn't use any oil and it doesn't polish aswell and also I think my net wasn't strong enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm a bit of a social chameleon and adapt a little depending on who I'm talking to, fundamentally I stay the same though. Same views, same beliefs, hold fast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

She sounds like a right catch

She was ...

So how did you mess it up Aladdin? Rub your lamp the wrong way?

For one I didn't use any oil and it doesn't polish aswell and also I think my net wasn't strong enough

So learn from your mistakes Grasshopper..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"‘Plough’? ‘Man nips’?

Could I have an example of your friends alluring? "

She asked me to show you this...

Hey you. You are incredibly delicious and my tongue wants to work its way up and down the length of your body before it kisses you and fucks your mouth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm a bit of a social chameleon and adapt a little depending on who I'm talking to, fundamentally I stay the same though. Same views, same beliefs, hold fast. "

So a little bit stubborn?

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere

"Some top message tips here I see

Yep... take it all on board ma man"

Every intention

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a amazing message of a woman telling me do I want to plough her..

She sounds like a right catch

She was ...

So how did you mess it up Aladdin? Rub your lamp the wrong way?

For one I didn't use any oil and it doesn't polish aswell and also I think my net wasn't strong enough

Maybe she was firmly in your net and you threw her out because she wasnt the one you were after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lack style

Still cant type

So messages, just something else new to learn

Off back to the cave wondering about all this evolution stuff....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"‘Plough’? ‘Man nips’?

Could I have an example of your friends alluring?

Steve you are just bloody rude but I'll ask her to share her sexual messages.... "

Could you ask her (politely) to make them detailed and really graphic?

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By *inn_the_humanMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's possibly just a bit of over thinking but I find myself holding back from the type of messages you've mentioned (even though I do find them funny) because I'm always concerned that the other person won't share my humour and will just assume I'm much cruder than I really am.

I suppose I shouldn't care, but still find myself playing it safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sent someone a face pic today of princess fiona !

Daytime or night time fiona?"

Night time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's possibly just a bit of over thinking but I find myself holding back from the type of messages you've mentioned (even though I do find them funny) because I'm always concerned that the other person won't share my humour and will just assume I'm much cruder than I really am.

I suppose I shouldn't care, but still find myself playing it safe

Just let it go and be you my friend! If they dont find it funny they probably wont get you haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I lack style

Still cant type

So messages, just something else new to learn

Off back to the cave wondering about all this evolution stuff...."

Shhhh we have spoken before and you send lovely messages

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By *inn_the_humanMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I suppose I shouldn't care, but still find myself playing it safe

Just let it go and be you my friend! If they dont find it funny they probably wont get you haha"

Genuinely good advice that I couldn't help but hear in a Jerry Springer's final thought voice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm a bit of a social chameleon and adapt a little depending on who I'm talking to, fundamentally I stay the same though. Same views, same beliefs, hold fast.

So a little bit stubborn?

Only a little.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suppose I shouldn't care, but still find myself playing it safe

Just let it go and be you my friend! If they dont find it funny they probably wont get you haha

Genuinely good advice that I couldn't help but hear in a Jerry Springer's final thought voice

So are you saying I sound like a man....rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm a bit of a social chameleon and adapt a little depending on who I'm talking to, fundamentally I stay the same though. Same views, same beliefs, hold fast.

So a little bit stubborn?

Only a little."

I think probably a lot but hey we should all stand by our views!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No frills messages.

I've been told that I would do better if I came across more bubbly and cherfull but anyone can have a way with words and that's just being fake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No frills messages.

I've been told that I would do better if I came across more bubbly and cherfull but anyone can have a way with words and that's just being fake. "

You could maybe let some of your personality shine through though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Il continue to be my boring self lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only message in response to status updates.

Works 50% of the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only message in response to status updates.

Works 50% of the time

Thems good odds

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My messages vary. Some are flirty and some are random x

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By *inn_the_humanMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I suppose I shouldn't care, but still find myself playing it safe

Just let it go and be you my friend! If they dont find it funny they probably wont get you haha

Genuinely good advice that I couldn't help but hear in a Jerry Springer's final thought voice

So are you saying I sound like a man....rude

Haha. It's a compliment. I'm comparing you to the wisest person ever to have lived

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suppose I shouldn't care, but still find myself playing it safe

Just let it go and be you my friend! If they dont find it funny they probably wont get you haha

Genuinely good advice that I couldn't help but hear in a Jerry Springer's final thought voice

So are you saying I sound like a man....rude

Haha. It's a compliment. I'm comparing you to the wisest person ever to have lived "

I'll take it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A comedic message wins me over every time. I’d probably reply with something like “I’d plough you til it broke” or something. I dunno, its pretty much contextual anyway. PM me something funny and see what happens haha

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not sure I have a "style" as such, I'm just me and type as I would speak if we were face to face - any style normally comes from finding someone likeminded and on the same wavelength that you find a style with that just sees messages flowing naturally and without real pause for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feed off someone's energy and adapt, but still true to myself. So usually pretty witty, able to drop sensual or kinky bomb here and there. I don't know if i do well. I am happy.

You be you x

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I usually try to be funny in response to people’s status updates or profiles. I find that the result is:

30% goes straight over their head;

30% gets ignored; and

30% gets a response in kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi oi, show us your monkey. I find this approach to work. Followed by a picture of my john Thomas, always gets a reply.

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

Initially I try to be respectful and to show that I’m keen with some self deprecating humour. If the bio shows a very clear sense of humour then I try to match the vibe of it. I often think I come over better after 3/4 messages than just one

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By *oleydelMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"‘Plough’? ‘Man nips’?

Could I have an example of your friends alluring?

She asked me to show you this...

Hey you. You are incredibly delicious and my tongue wants to work its way up and down the length of your body before it kisses you and fucks your mouth."

Genuine lol at the image of how a tongue fucking a mouth would look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who im talking to but usually im soppy at the minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send cryptic nagarams.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oi oi, show us your monkey. I find this approach to work. Followed by a picture of my john Thomas, always gets a reply. "

I might try show us your monkey

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By *atisfying jackMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I just press the middle button on my word suggestion bar until a semi coherent sentence pops out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hopeless at messaging, so hopefully people read my veris and realise I'm not hopeless in person! Actually the total opposite ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty about who we are, why we are here and what we are looking for. Few no's unsolicited FR, send message not a wink etc.

All of which is ignored or unread. Those that do read are scared off - guess they don like honesty

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey

Every message is personal & they differ according to who i`m sending it to & what it says in their profile.

The hardest part is being creative & messaging someone with a profile that`s almost blank.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just press the middle button on my word suggestion bar until a semi coherent sentence pops out!

Well I went for the ....do you need any help...kind of message for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mix of sarcasm, sincerity, and flirting... usually more of the former than anything else.

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By *atisfying jackMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I just press the middle button on my word suggestion bar until a semi coherent sentence pops out!

Well I went for the ....do you need any help...kind of message for you

And then it degenerated into a long conversation about a severed foot (still in a boot)..... oh the flirting was intense!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just press the middle button on my word suggestion bar until a semi coherent sentence pops out!

Well I went for the ....do you need any help...kind of message for you

And then it degenerated into a long conversation about a severed foot (still in a boot)..... oh the flirting was intense!

Married within 3 hours and now floating out to sea. Luv ya betty

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