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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it? "Dont think ugly, just think "I mustn't be their type". I know it sucks but it's the way of things. You and I might reply with "I'm sorry" or whatever but not everyone does and no one actually has to reply so just take it on the chin(pardon the expression) and move on  | |||
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it? "Sending a no thanks gets the"but why not" reply do you really want a honest reply to that? No reply = no thanks | |||
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it? "It’s a numbers game - just like in a bar. You approach a woman try your luck & gently wave her on her way when she kindly turns you down. Everyone gets turned away - just think nothing of it & certainly don’t message them complaining. | |||
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"It’s really hard to do though and why I stopped talking to people who don’t have a face pic or don’t send in first message. It’s so awkward to tell someone that you have exchanged several messages with that you don’t fancy them. " That, and a significant minority respond to "not my type" with abuse. Unfortunately it's just the way it goes. | |||
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it? "Then send it with your first message, then you won't know why they aren't interested nor got into conversation with anyone to make you think they might be, because you get on... Someone not being attracted to you doesn't make you ugly, just not for that person... And rejection isn't always taken well, so best avoiding that conversation... On here more than anywhere. | |||
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"It’s really hard to do though and why I stopped talking to people who don’t have a face pic or don’t send in first message. It’s so awkward to tell someone that you have exchanged several messages with that you don’t fancy them. That, and a significant minority respond to "not my type" with abuse. Unfortunately it's just the way it goes. " They are called "pricks" I believe  | |||
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"It’s really hard to do though and why I stopped talking to people who don’t have a face pic or don’t send in first message. It’s so awkward to tell someone that you have exchanged several messages with that you don’t fancy them. That, and a significant minority respond to "not my type" with abuse. Unfortunately it's just the way it goes. " This ^. Just makes it harder & harder for actually decent single males. Just takes one woman to receive abuse and she’ll cut off single males..  | |||
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it?
Sending a no thanks gets the"but why not" reply do you really want a honest reply to that?
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it? "Doesn't mean your ugly, just means you might not be they type. | |||
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"It’s really hard to do though and why I stopped talking to people who don’t have a face pic or don’t send in first message. It’s so awkward to tell someone that you have exchanged several messages with that you don’t fancy them. That, and a significant minority respond to "not my type" with abuse. Unfortunately it's just the way it goes. This ^. Just makes it harder & harder for actually decent single males. Just takes one woman to receive abuse and she’ll cut off single males.. "Incorrect. It makes it easier for the decent ones to stand out for me, because I can just block the eejits. | |||
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it? "It could but then you'd be wondering the same Why aren't I your type? What's wrong with me? Some men, even send another message asking those things. Some men, even respond with abuse. The things I've been called, just because I politely declined someone's offer - it's a good job I'm thick skinned You maybe a really nice bloke, who would never dream of such, but the lady in question doesn't know that. So rather than risk an inbox full of nasty words, we chose just to delete, not reply There is another factor, she may have recognised you, someone local, from work etc How does she explain that, if she wants to stay anonymous? | |||
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it?
Doesn't mean your ugly, just means you might not be they type."Not much of a consolation but we all have been in that position and rejected or just ignored.. No stress pal .. NEXT please | |||
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"It’s really hard to do though and why I stopped talking to people who don’t have a face pic or don’t send in first message. It’s so awkward to tell someone that you have exchanged several messages with that you don’t fancy them. That, and a significant minority respond to "not my type" with abuse. Unfortunately it's just the way it goes. This ^. Just makes it harder & harder for actually decent single males. Just takes one woman to receive abuse and she’ll cut off single males..
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It makes it easier for the decent ones to stand out for me, because I can just block the eejits. "
Oh it does!
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it?
Sending a no thanks gets the"but why not" reply do you really want a honest reply to that?
No reply = no thanks
Agreed "^^^ this all day long. We’ve had to block people after a polite no thank you. 12 messages after that and it’s a case of “you’re really not getting the hint are you !” Why not, am I not your type , what is your type.....Site rules clearly state no reply should be taken as a polite no thank you. We always reply, politely, but any more than two messages after that I’m afraid it’s easier to just block | |||
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it?
It could but then you'd be wondering the same
Why aren't I your type? What's wrong with me?
Some men, even send another message asking those things.
Some men, even respond with abuse.
The things I've been called, just because I politely declined someone's offer - it's a good job I'm thick skinned
You maybe a really nice bloke, who would never dream of such, but the lady in question doesn't know that.
So rather than risk an inbox full of nasty words, we chose just to delete, not reply
There is another factor, she may have recognised you, someone local, from work etc
How does she explain that, if she wants to stay anonymous? " | |||
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"Worst is a rejection the see a new verification shortly afterwards from someone that looks like they’ve spent a century on smack. There’s some sordid types on here, on both sides " Don’t be comparing yourself to someone else mate. Maybe they connected better? - I’d rather have sex with a 6/10 with banter than a 10/10 woman that can’t handle a joke. | |||
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"Despite what a lot of people say lots of us choose potential fab partners by looks. Therefore most of us will be rejected due to body or face type. It doesn't mean we're ugly it genuinely does mean we aren't their type. We sent face pictures once and the couple immediately left the site " | |||
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"Worst is a rejection the see a new verification shortly afterwards from someone that looks like they’ve spent a century on smack. There’s some sordid types on here, on both sides " Don’t always assume that they had sex with the person unless it’s written there and maybe if they did, they had a better connection. I’ve had people insult some of my verifications when they were just people I met at a social event. I don’t have sex verifications. | |||
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"In the nicest way possible, as well, if being rejected or ghosted on here is the worst feeling ever... I want your life and your problems. " | |||
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"Worst is a rejection the see a new verification shortly afterwards from someone that looks like they’ve spent a century on smack. There’s some sordid types on here, on both sides Don’t always assume that they had sex with the person unless it’s written there and maybe if they did, they had a better connection. I’ve had people insult some of my verifications when they were just people I met at a social event. I don’t have sex verifications. " no there very much sexually veris. I’m not bitter...much | |||
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"Maybe they're all shy. ?? " That's unlikely and a bugbear of mine. | |||
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"Worst is a rejection the see a new verification shortly afterwards from someone that looks like they’ve spent a century on smack. There’s some sordid types on here, on both sides " Hahahaha FFS | |||
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"It's because you're better looking than they are and they realise they're punching above their weight so would rather just ignore you. Be thankful." Haha...I love a positive outlook on every situation! You are right...I'm a stud! | |||
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"At least you got to the face pic stage. People see our bodies and don’t want to converse any further! "Nothing wrong with your bodies?! All personal preference... I’d personally prefer a softer woman to a gym gym fit woman - sex just feels better. | |||
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"I don't care about I am ugly or not their type. But it's so not polite to not get a reply. Especially in some cases, they will ask "you go first then I will show mine." And then completely blank you. " Politeness in the normal sense doesn't always work here | |||
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"Despite what a lot of people say lots of us choose potential fab partners by looks. Therefore most of us will be rejected due to body or face type. It doesn't mean we're ugly it genuinely does mean we aren't their type. We sent face pictures once and the couple immediately left the site
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"Nothing hurts more than when you are asked for a face pic then they read it but don't reply! You are like "shit" I must be ugly! A polite "not my type" would help wouldnt it? "How does a “Not my type” help? Maybe the face picture isn’t what put them off? | |||
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"Despite what a lot of people say lots of us choose potential fab partners by looks. Therefore most of us will be rejected due to body or face type. It doesn't mean we're ugly it genuinely does mean we aren't their type. We sent face pictures once and the couple immediately left the site
We are now used as a deterrent "Sorry I shouldn't have laughed but that was funny. | |||
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"I just block and delete if not interested. Means they can't message again, and don't come up in my searches. "This! | |||
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"It's because you're better looking than they are and they realise they're punching above their weight so would rather just ignore you. Be thankful." I definitely think that sometimes especially in a minority of couple profiles the male might read a message with a face pic and delete maybe because they feel threatened that the person contacting them is a lot better looking,the wife need not know as the hubby has deleted. | |||
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"Would an inbox full of not my type make you feel any better than an empty inbox?" no more than an empty one | |||
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"It's because you're better looking than they are and they realise they're punching above their weight so would rather just ignore you. Be thankful. I definitely think that sometimes especially in a minority of couple profiles the male might read a message with a face pic and delete maybe because they feel threatened that the person contacting them is a lot better looking,the wife need not know as the hubby has deleted." I have heard this before, but it really isn’t the case. Most couples who are in this lifestyle have excellent communication. If Mr Cagey saw someone he thought I would fancy, he’d be excited for me! We both also have a rule of veto power, if either of us don’t feel comfortable that person isn’t an option. It isn’t about a husband’s insecurity because couples with insecurity for how they look to their partners don’t last in this lifestyle. - Mrs | |||
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