FabSwingers.com forum: Nerves

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you deal with them?

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

vodka

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"vodka

I'm not sure I'll make a good impression if I turn up d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with them? "
i dont have them, im not nervous in any situation

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey

Take a deep breath & say "What`s the worse that can happen"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being nervous for our body the symptoms are exactly the same as being excited... Sweaty hands, shaking legs etc... The secret is to trick your brain thinking you are excited... Use 5 second rule...

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By *azielMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Take deep breaths, mentally tell yourself, remind yourself why your doing what your doing. Don't be afraid to tell whoever your nervous and take comfort that you can leave or stop at anytime.

Or simply say... "fuck it"

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"vodka

I'm not sure I'll make a good impression if I turn up d*unk.

haha just joking, wouldn't know how to deal with them to be fair i don't really get nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before a meet? Deep breath, walk in, smile and a firm handshake, then talk! In the knowledge that they will be nervous too, so trying to exude confidence, even if you don't really feel it, will help put them at ease, which will put you at ease, which just makes the world a lovely place

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Nerves? What's that?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Have a quiet 5 mins, no interruptions and do that breathing thing....in through the nose, out through the mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anti anxiety pills

and anti depressants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take a deep breath & say "What`s the worse that can happen""

I do this... And then i think 'axe murderer'??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get terrible nerves but depends on the situation how I deal with it. For meeting that's vamping it up to the max, it's much easier to feel confident in red lips and heels.

Other situations I try focus my breathing and adopt a power pose. Any kind of public speaking though and I need to resort to beta blockers it's that bad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nerves? What's that?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I fake it. I get terribly nervous meeting new people and in new situations. I talk, a lot, with nerves though. After me waffling on for a bit I tend to start to relax a bit x

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By *as_no_ideaWoman
over a year ago

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Rescue Remedy,

A smoke/vape..

Deep breaths..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fake it. I get terribly nervous meeting new people and in new situations. I talk, a lot, with nerves though. After me waffling on for a bit I tend to start to relax a bit x"

I waffle about rubbish and literally do not shut up! And usually have a horrendous hot flush and end up looking a sweaty mess with mascara all around my eyes!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.

You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I fake it. I get terribly nervous meeting new people and in new situations. I talk, a lot, with nerves though. After me waffling on for a bit I tend to start to relax a bit x"

This is exactly what I'm like too

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.

You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories."

Isn't that to help you fall asleep? One way to deal with it, I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rescue remedy for me

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

SUCK IT UP.....

What's the worst that could happen.....

....or in reality....I probably just chat Shit....I'm good at that...

I don't get nerves so to speak, I'm quite a calm relaxed person in general?!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Depends on the situation. Very rare I get nervous before a meet, only happened once.

In work situations, take a deep breathe, smile and sit on my hands and cross my feet at the ankles otherwise I’ll just fidget. Passes quite quickly though

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"How do you deal with them? "

Is it regards a fab meet or more in real world situations ?

If it's fab i would say it's a case of talking and chatting lots so it feels like you're not meeting a stranger.

You could phone them on your way to the meet to get an accurate eta so you arrive just after them and you're not kept waiting.

In the real world if it's presentations to an audience it's all about practise and perpetration, talk slowly and give yourself sections where you can play a video to gain your thoughts and don't forget to breath !!

Take prompt cards, no one cares if you pause to look down and check.

Sometimes you can build in an early finish point if it's going pear shaped but continue if you're happy.

It does get easier the more you do and there's always the old trick of imagining the audience naked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.

You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories."

We totally are rooting for you! So proud of you

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.

You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories.

Isn't that to help you fall asleep? One way to deal with it, I guess."

Haha, no. It can be used to help with sleeping I imagine. I do it at work before I see a big client. It helps me be more relaxed and less nervous adrenaline and energy incarnate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't suffer from nerves at all but daughter's first day at uni tomorrow and I have butterflies for her ffs!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.

You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories.

We totally are rooting for you! So proud of you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Breathing techniques/ meditation. Talking it through with someone, getting it out of my system. To some extent trying to rationalise, what's the worst that can happen etc. Plan for a couple of bad eventualities.

Ultimately accept that some level of nerves related discomfort is going to be part of the experience, put on my big girl pants, feel the fear and do it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve yet to build up the courage for a meet lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Nerves? What's that?

In the nicest way possible, I hate you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you nervous about Rubi

....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have awful nerves, I literally shake. But I’m also stubborn and won’t let them beat me, so I fake till I make it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just force myself through it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What are you nervous about Rubi

...."

The first day of my new adventure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.

You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories.

We totally are rooting for you! So proud of you

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with them? "

Electro stimulation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are you nervous about Rubi

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The first day of my new adventure

Oooo where you going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a little social chat to start before anything happens helps me and a couple of drinks.

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Definitely deep, controlled breathing. Find a secluded place if possible. Close your eyes & look up towards the middle of your forehead to help quiet your mind, focus on your breath.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I know a song that'll........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smile and Babble on is my usual default nerves thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take a deep breath & say "What`s the worse that can happen"

I do this... And then i think 'axe murderer'?? "
THIS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're hardwired to be nervous, it's a fight or flight thing when we are put into consequential circumstances. As long as you know when to fight and when to run then it's all good. Be nervous. Depending on the situation anyone else involved is likely nervous too, unless it's like an interview but then I would say that most interviewers would take nerves into consideration. Plus when you're nervous you're not cocky, cockiness looks worse than nervous I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are you nervous about Rubi

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The first day of my new adventure

Starting uni?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel nervous whenever I do anything new. I try to focus on deeper breathing than usual and remind myself that the feelings will pass eventually.

Whatever your new adventure is I wish you the very best. You’ve got this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What are you nervous about Rubi

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The first day of my new adventure

Starting uni? "

I am. Back to the days of living on noodles and partying

Who am I kidding?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Depends what it is really - sometimes I'll just adopt the brazen it out and get on with it approach, sometimes I'll just avoid the situation that's making me nervous, others I'll seek someone to talk it through with and try and get a semblance of reassurance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get them to begin with usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deep breathing, relaxation and saying to myself “you know you can do this”!

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"Take a deep breath & say "What`s the worse that can happen"

I do this... And then i think 'axe murderer'?? "

Pissa.. thinking axe murderer,

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey

"Take a deep breath & say "What`s the worse that can happen"

I do this... And then i think 'axe murderer'?? "

Best go tooled up with some mace & a hat pin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are you nervous about Rubi

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The first day of my new adventure

Starting uni?

I am. Back to the days of living on noodles and partying

Who am I kidding?

Afraid it's all quinoa and early nights now with students! Not like in my day, they don't know what they're missing! Good luck, I'm sure you'll be wondering tomorrow night what you were ever worried about! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive affirmations! Sometimes a good breathing technique does the job. I like one called golden thread. Grounding exercises are good.. when you find few things you can see, hear, smell, etc. To distract your mind in its anxious state. And being prepared. Whatever it is. Assuming it is something planned?

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By *lderamDarkMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

"vodka

I'm not sure I'll make a good impression if I turn up d*unk.

Depends if you plan on getting the other person d*unk too then its okay

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By *lderamDarkMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

If I get nervous I go for a walk then psych myself up and just go for it otherwise nerves is always going to be a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get nerves.. it is all about confidence... and I am no shrinking violet

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Nerves is only anticipation.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Take a deep breath & say "What`s the worse that can happen"

I do this... And then i think 'axe murderer'?? "

I do this too.

I just make sure they can't see my axe......

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are you nervous about Rubi

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The first day of my new adventure

Starting uni?

I am. Back to the days of living on noodles and partying

Who am I kidding?

Hope it went well, daughter started yesterday too!

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By *atisfying jackMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"How do you deal with them? "

Deep breaths and suck it up, nerves generally leave after you e started what you're nervous about.

Taking your mind off it is one of the best ways, keep your mind busy..maths, singing songs in your head....you'll figure your own way!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It depends what the nerves are about. What are you thinking of, Rubi?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Being silly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with them? "

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

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