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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

What does a happy, healthy relationship look like? They say to visualise one to help obtain one but what do you think they look like?

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't exist

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

It's a myth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't exist "

Aren't you a cynical Cyril this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't exist

Aren't you a cynical Cyril this morning "

I do love the name Cyril tbh

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Two people who always want to see the other happy, always willing to compromise and talk to each other. Honesty and empathy with joint goals, some mutual interests but the space and time given for their own passions.

Truthful and honest with each other, if anyone recognises some of the elements above, you're on your way

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I believe they do exist look at some of the strong couples on here.

A happy healthy relationship is not in my book “perfect” but something that you work at and is wonderful for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does a happy, healthy relationship look like? They say to visualise one to help obtain one but what do you think they look like?

Visualise? Ok. Visualise the full spectrum of colours all blended in harmony and shifting to represent change but somehow constantly creating beautiful patterns that still look brilliant.

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

For us it’s 100% commitment to one another! Pure transparency on everything no matter how big or small and constant communication plus an amazing sex life helps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a healthy relationship is one where you can be completely yourself and not feel like you have to hide parts of you. One where you feel supported in the way you want your life to be. One where you laugh often together and feel secure.

Ps. You are beautiful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a room full of people, no matter the size of the room or the volume of people in it they will will be the ones that always subconsciously know where the other is and if you observe them for any period of time you’ll find that they regularly make eye contact with out even thinking about it and every time they do their eyes sparkle.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Us

Us too

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Able to take the rough with the smooth.

Good communication.

Affection.

Laughter.

Friendship.

Sexual Chemistry.

Compatible sex drives

Common goals.

Ability to compromise.

My nan and grampy were married for just short of 60 years, seperated only by death. They are my inspiration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us

Us too

Us x

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

Us as well

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Two people who always want to see the other happy, always willing to compromise and talk to each other. Honesty and empathy with joint goals, some mutual interests but the space and time given for their own passions.

Truthful and honest with each other, if anyone recognises some of the elements above, you're on your way

This is spot on! Open communication, always. No matter how painful.

Mrs TMN x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I think it depends on who’s in the relationship. What might work for one couple wouldn’t work for another. But I think trust and respect and communication are pretty important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have one. 20 years in and he had me laughing until tears at least 5 times yesterday.

For us it’s trust, communication, the little things, being kind even when you are grumpy, saying sorry even if you don’t mean it yet.

But I also think our relationship isn’t easily come by and there’s a bit of magic here as he still makes my stomach flip and things flutter

-Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my other half never interested anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truthful and honest with each other, if anyone recognises some of the elements above, you're on your way

This is perfectly said! Love this and I see us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who laugh together, who make time for each other, who never stop making the effort with and for each other. They communicate, support and encourage each other.

They have fun together and individually. They share some common hopes and dreams but don't give up on their own ones either. In some ways they make each other better

Perhaps the reason I don't find this is that I'm hoping for too much

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

A major factor is communication. You should express your love for each other. You should be able to express concerns and difficulties to each other in a non-judgemental way and accept them from each other without feeling maligned.

There are plenty of other things of course but that's something we prioritise.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

No relationship is ever perfect but if you can over look some of the little imperfections then you are onto a winner. If you find someone who ticks 8 out of 10 boxes, makes you feel special and loved, show you they care by the small gestures rather than the big showy ones, still makes you laugh like a fool after a few years and you still want to cover them from head to toe I kisses then you have cracked it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a room full of people, no matter the size of the room or the volume of people in it they will will be the ones that always subconsciously know where the other is and if you observe them for any period of time you’ll find that they regularly make eye contact with out even thinking about it and every time they do their eyes sparkle."

Awwww

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Truthful and honest with each other, if anyone recognises some of the elements above, you're on your way

I think this is really lovely and very true.

T knows me better than I know myself. We have our disagreements, of course we do. But we can talk to each other about any and everything. Sometimes I like to think of us as a little team ready to take on the world in a dorky, middle class way.

I still get those butterflies when I look at him, sometimes I'm amazed at his breadth and depth of knowledge, I don't think I've ever met anyone as intelligent and as caring as him before. We constantly challenge each other to strive for more in all aspects of our lives.

I think for me, a happy healthy relationship is where you bring out the best in each other and are there for each other through the worst. You know and accept each others flaws but you still love them.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Being honest with each other ....share everything ......enjoy life ....simples.....xx

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It involved love,respect,support and compromise. Listening to each other,holding each other and travelling through life's journey together.

A good relationship shouldn't hurt,it should make us more complete.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I have a habit of fucking them up. Think I need to work on my visualisation skills

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

With the self or others ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truthful and honest with each other, if anyone recognises some of the elements above, you're on your way

This is spot on! Open communication, always. No matter how painful.

Mrs TMN x "

We agree. We think we have it right. Everyone is an individual and with common things in mind and expression anything is achievable. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It involved love,respect,support and compromise. Listening to each other,holding each other and travelling through life's journey together.

A good relationship shouldn't hurt,it should make us more complete."

You are right...in my eyes it shouldn't hurt!

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"With the self or others ?"

Good question! I meant others. As in romantic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s unique to you and that other person (or persons). There is no universal definition.

However if you ask yourself if it’s good, it probably isn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they hug you it feels like you're home

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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

We have an amazing relationship working together and doing things together help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just feels right.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

The same wave length

The same interests

The same temper

The same trust level

Both none or both smokers

And ofcourse love each other

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Commitment through the good times and the not so good, being there for each other, also good laughs and sex

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I think I’m lucky to have had a bloody good benchmark with my marriage. True friendship where neither of us ever doubted the words or intentions of the other. A security that, come what may, we would always have each other’s back and never need to hide things or lie. I’m grateful we still have that respect for each other even now we are not together. We never stopped valuing the person we met and fell in love with through the highs and lows of life. Nothing less than this will do.

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

"What does a happy, healthy relationship look like? They say to visualise one to help obtain one but what do you think they look like?

like Rainbows, Unicorns, Glitter and Sparkles with an aroma of sweet vanilla sugar cookies, cinnamon spice and freshly baked bread....and that warm fuzzy tummy feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does a happy, healthy relationship look like? They say to visualise one to help obtain one but what do you think they look like?

like Rainbows, Unicorns, Glitter and Sparkles with an aroma of sweet vanilla sugar cookies, cinnamon spice and freshly baked bread....and that warm fuzzy tummy feeling

I need a relationship with you then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps. You are beautiful!"

So are you

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"With the self or others ?

Good question! I meant others. As in romantic."

It looks as you believe it should.

My daughter always tells me that her ex didn't love her. I always tell her that he did, he loved her a lot , just not the way she wanted to be loved.

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

"What does a happy, healthy relationship look like? They say to visualise one to help obtain one but what do you think they look like?

like Rainbows, Unicorns, Glitter and Sparkles with an aroma of sweet vanilla sugar cookies, cinnamon spice and freshly baked bread....and that warm fuzzy tummy feeling

I need a relationship with you then

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"The same wave length

The same interests

The same temper

The same trust level

Both none or both smokers

And ofcourse love each other "

Don't have to be the same temper. I rant and rave and snarl at times. If my long term 'pal' wasn't so laid back we'd never get on..... but we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mix your best friend, with a lover who excites you constantly

Thats how i see it

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"The same wave length

The same interests

The same temper

The same trust level

Both none or both smokers

And ofcourse love each other "

I would disagree with "The same interests" as this smacks of always having to be together. H & myself have had relationship long (18yrs) differing interests & we are free to follow them. For H is Arts, Crafts & fae/pagan events away. For me it's walking (incl holidays) & motorcycles (incl trips away).

So we both follow our hobbies & spend time apart each year for a couple of weekends or a week sometimes.

Behind you doing it though is the fact you miss them & look forward to being home before you've even left.

We have both worked from home for the last six/seven years & there is never a crossed word or argument.

I'd say if you can live in someones pocket pretty much 24/7 & still miss them when they go away you are on to a winner.

Add wanting to experiment to find something/someone as an addition for you both & well you've struck gold.

We've just got to find them now

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