FabSwingers.com forum: Who/what are you?

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

After reading another thread I've been musing (yes I'm doing it again) about the forum 'community', it's dynamics and how people fit into it.

In order for a community to function, certain roles must be fulfilled and people consciously and unconsciously fit into those roles in order to facilitate the community good.

So which roles do you think that you fulfil?

An honest appraisal if you will folks, none of the morose and flagellatory 'no one notices me' that some folks respond with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im aloof

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"im aloof

OK... How does that fit into group dynamics?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm the loud lairy twat, usually found in the kitchen at parties

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I just don’t see it as a community with roles to be filled. People are what they are, interacting as they do which is a reflection of themselves. I think some people would like to believe there is a sort of ranking/hierarchy but I don’t agree. It is your experience and you will make of it what you will

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I genuinely don't know what I am, although I can describe it.

I just kind of plod along. I try to be a cheerleader where I can, but I also don't try to sugarcoat people's shit. I get support both public and private for things I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I notice people and sometimes message with reassurance. - Mrs

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Also, to extend the thought; what roles do you think that others fill as well?

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I’m the table comedian and the story teller and the guy people come to for advice ..

Fit in like the know it all, but I’m not ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I genuinely don't know what I am, although I can describe it.

I just kind of plod along. I try to be a cheerleader where I can, but I also don't try to sugarcoat people's shit. I get support both public and private for things I say. "

You’re definitely an injector of positivity but also a straight talker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Facilitator. I try to get people talking.

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By *oxplonkMan
over a year ago

and out of trouble

"im aloof

OK... How does that fit into group dynamics? "
He's a social sponge that gets a bit frothed up on occasion?

Sorry, thought he said loofah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a tricky one.

I just post what I feel at the time. How and what I contribute changes depending on what mood I'm in.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t contribute in any way whatsoever, I’m the one outside looking in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the voice of reason

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

The commentators used to describe roles within the Big Brother community. There was the Maternal figure and the so called baby of the group. Some people gravitate to these roles but I wonder if you can overthink these things. Interesting though. But does it work for everyone and is it really an illusion. Is it a collection on individuals or a community ?

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I just don’t see it as a community with roles to be filled. People are what they are, interacting as they do which is a reflection of themselves. I think some people would like to believe there is a sort of ranking/hierarchy but I don’t agree. It is your experience and you will make of it what you will

There is that too but I disagree that there aren't roles being filled even unwittingly and multiple people can fill the same role at the same time.

I'm not saying that there is a hierarchy nor a pecking order but I also don't think that it's the random brownian motion of people that you describe. There is order even in chaos.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Facilitator. I try to get people talking. "

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sporadic poster. Habitual lurker.

Cannot say I offer anything valuable to the forum particularly.

I don't stand out, neither do I particularly want too

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"That's a tricky one.

I just post what I feel at the time. How and what I contribute changes depending on what mood I'm in. "

Which in its own way will contribute

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

There is that too but I disagree that there aren't roles being filled even unwittingly and multiple people can fill the same role at the same time.

I'm not saying that there is a hierarchy nor a pecking order but I also don't think that it's the random brownian motion of people that you describe. There is order even in chaos. "

Brownian? Interesting

I don’t see roles or people filling them I’m afraid.

What role do you think you have TM?

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I don’t contribute in any way whatsoever, I’m the one outside looking in

*puts _andybeach down as watcher*

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’d say I’m the one that mostly has a positive word for those that need it; be inclusive of all with photo challenges and drawing

A subtle flirt unless I PM you directly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the sarcastic ass-hat who has a love/ hate relationship with the forums and pretty much just drops in to make a sarky comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An evil bitch! Who does mince words!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a role at all other than trying to be a nice, honest person, sometimes a little sarcastic. In my time in the Forum Community, I've started threads, joined in where I can, been agony aunt to newbies and people struggling, flirted and attended Forum Socials. If I could have a role though, I would like to be the Forums Nurse

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Facilitator. I try to get people talking. "

and the treasurer of secrets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Village idiot

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"The commentators used to describe roles within the Big Brother community. There was the Maternal figure and the so called baby of the group. Some people gravitate to these roles but I wonder if you can overthink these things. Interesting though. But does it work for everyone and is it really an illusion. Is it a collection on individuals or a community ?"

That's a rough guide to my thought process although I'd say that the roles are far more complex and can be fluid according to who else is posting, how they're feeling and other variables.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

The community is like a series of Game of Thrones. There are alliances, loyalties, betrayal, battles, bullies, plots, sub plots and intrigue. There are monsters, plotters, braggers, liars, opinions, counter opinions, debates and arguements..

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I don't have a role at all other than trying to be a nice, honest person, sometimes a little sarcastic. In my time in the Forum Community, I've started threads, joined in where I can, been agony aunt to newbies and people struggling, flirted and attended Forum Socials. If I could have a role though, I would like to be the Forums Nurse

There is that aspect and its interesting that you ended your post with the kind of conclusion that I was looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im aloof

OK... How does that fit into group dynamics? "
i don't think i fit i amuse many but not in a way that gets audible applause and i probably have a reverse affect on many once again without audible applause, i think there are definitely cliques of people who stick together here as their are on lots of internet groups and apps but no-one knows anyone until they meet and not just once either, people form opinions and judgements but as long as one knows this it can't have an adverse affect on ones stance dont you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Facilitator. I try to get people talking.

and the treasurer of secrets

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I’m a token leftie thinker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a token leftie thinker."

You're hardly a token

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im the quiet shy one

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm the social butterfly

I don't feel intimidated by anyone and hopefully don't intimidate either.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I used to be one of the ponderers that posted stuff I couldn’t organise in my crazy mind..

at the moment I’m just catching up so contributing in random stuff to make myself and others laugh.

I think it evolves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m that one who never thinks before they speak/type

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m that one who never thinks before they speak/type "

Ooo Nora I’ve got something for you! I will send it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m here to fill the french quota

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m that one who never thinks before they speak/type

Ooo Nora I’ve got something for you! I will send it

Ooooh I’ve heard that a few times and often not been impressed with what I’ve received!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota"

What about F&B?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m that one who never thinks before they speak/type

Ooo Nora I’ve got something for you! I will send it

Ooooh I’ve heard that a few times and often not been impressed with what I’ve received!

Brace yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m that one who never thinks before they speak/type

Ooo Nora I’ve got something for you! I will send it

Ooooh I’ve heard that a few times and often not been impressed with what I’ve received!

Brace yourself

Haha haha funny. And true!!!

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

I'm a loon. I used to enjoy dangerous activities. But old age calmed me down. But still totally crackers!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a loon. I used to enjoy dangerous activities. But old age calmed me down. But still totally crackers!!"

Still a bloody adrenaline junkie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

"I'm a loon. I used to enjoy dangerous activities. But old age calmed me down. But still totally crackers!!

Still a bloody adrenaline junkie! "

True. But not as bad!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian."

I am actually Chinese tbh

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I'm the one who eats the leftovers and one of many who makes jokes and keeps people's spirits up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

I am actually Chinese tbh"

lies!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian."

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

I am actually Chinese tbh

lies!"

Forgot to add that Iam a pathological liar too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though."

Melivision is mummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec "

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!"

I wish I knew what you’re talking about x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

I wish I knew what you’re talking about x"

You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!"

Avec du sel de Guérande mdrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

Avec du sel de Guérande mdrrr "

Now you’re talking

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!"

D'accord, manieres sont gratuit et plaisant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

I wish I knew what you’re talking about x

You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube "

Well it sounds sexy anyway haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the quiet shy guy until you get to know me then off comes the filter. Me and my pals talk about some weired shit!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea.

I create conflict, I soothe conflict. Joke about. Express my emotions. Try to help others by being honest about my own experiences.

A friend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

I wish I knew what you’re talking about x

You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube

Well it sounds sexy anyway haha "

We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

I wish I knew what you’re talking about x

You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube

Well it sounds sexy anyway haha

We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained "

Don’t forget to use subtitles x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

D'accord, manieres sont gratuit et plaisant

Ce sera de l’huile d’olive vierge première pression à froid pour Chill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm like uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think I have the mum role.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I don’t think I have a role at the moment as I post very infrequently. In my ‘heyday ‘ I guess (or like to think) that I was a kind of forum big sister - someone who said what they thought but tried to do it in a kind way - and tried not to make anyone feel crap or excluded!

Whether or not I succeeded I’ve really no idea!

Not posting much at the moment as I’m getting to know someone who might become important and who isn’t, thank the lord, a forumite!

Really looking forward to catching up with loads of you next week though!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

I wish I knew what you’re talking about x

You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube

Well it sounds sexy anyway haha

We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained "

What do I have to do to get to be camerawoman for this??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

I wish I knew what you’re talking about x

You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube

Well it sounds sexy anyway haha

We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained

What do I have to do to get to be camerawoman for this??

You have to blow to get the job

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

I wish I knew what you’re talking about x

You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube

Well it sounds sexy anyway haha

We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained

What do I have to do to get to be camerawoman for this??

You have to blow to get the job"

That seems too simple...I think I need more clarification on who

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After reading another thread I've been musing (yes I'm doing it again) about the forum 'community', it's dynamics and how people fit into it.

In order for a community to function, certain roles must be fulfilled and people consciously and unconsciously fit into those roles in order to facilitate the community good.

So which roles do you think that you fulfil?

An honest appraisal if you will folks, none of the morose and flagellatory 'no one notices me' that some folks respond with... "

That's a good question. If I was answer for both of us (though P may have a few points to add as is her modus operandi

) I'd say that we both flit between roles?

I tend to be an often light-hearted loosely guiding presence and philosopher whilst P tends to be a moral compass?

Whereas we BOTH tend to also be the naughty bunch at the back of the bus from time to time (which is often!)....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I have the mum role. "

Not crowd control?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’m here to fill the french quota

What about F&B?

He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.

Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab

Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec

Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!

D'accord, manieres sont gratuit et plaisant

Ce sera de l’huile d’olive vierge première pression à froid pour Chill"

Je suis heureux de voir le bromance s’épanouir. beaucoup d'huile d'olive et bien jouer, mais vilain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 14/09/19 13:21:49]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of my personality so called disorder I read and answer very much with the gentle, curious respectful female side...I rarely let the male side out. ..my past was erm let's say hell so I have quite a different outlook to many..I look beyond the surface..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me? Jesus where do I start.

I guess I'm a little like the mad aunt who is insecure at times yet still outgoing. The crazy bitch who looks out for other people coz she knows how it feels to be alone and lost.

I try to promote wellness and belief in oneself even though I don't always lead by example in that respect. I do however like to think I give hope to others who've been through the mill.

I can be a pig headed tunnel visioned mule, but at the same time I know there's a bigger picture in every situation.

I'm a great believer in standing by ones convictions, yet being able to admit to being wrong.

I think I'm the reliable one, in as much as I'll be honest.

I'm just me, a complicated simple contradiction with a huge heart that likes a laugh, a confidante, a friend, but one with limits that will cut people dead if those limits are crossed.

Together we're probably laughed at, laughed with and I imagine we've hit a few people in the feels with our journey.

I'd like to think we're the couple that people are rooting for to make things work for all eternity, who get our happy ever after.

We're the down to earth, up for a giggle pair who aren't afraid to show vulnerability and excitement in equal measure.

B is like Nemo looking for adventure, and I'm like his dad seeing danger from all angles! I reel him in and he pushes me and reassures me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 14/09/19 13:21:49]"

You should write a book or something x

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though."

How do you view the forums then?

Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think I have the mum role.

Not crowd control?

Oh I can do that too.

I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’m a straight to the point party girl.

You always know where you stand with me.

Complete girls girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I have the mum role.

Not crowd control?

Oh I can do that too.

I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment

Matriarch? Who is the Alpha Male then?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.

How do you view the forums then?

Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us. "

I'm not quite sure. It'd be too dull a stream of consciousness to type out. I don't think people do fall in to particular archetypes either - I think that it depends on who they are interacting with and what day it is and where the moon is.

Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.

How do you view the forums then?

Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.

Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself."

This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.

How do you view the forums then?

Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.

Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself."

Yep, pretty much what I said ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.

How do you view the forums then?

Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.

Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.

This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend

Join F&B and I, we’re planning a party

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Bit of a joker at times. Not as flirty as I used to be as my age has made me think people aren’t interested anymore.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.

How do you view the forums then?

Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.

Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.

This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend

Join F&B and I, we’re planning a party "

Party you say?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.

This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend

Standard. I think you just tune out when it becomes too intellectual - it's a different frequency

. (not that this thread or my reply is in any shape or form).

You can always look at boobs and plug a story or two?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.

This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend

Standard. I think you just tune out when it becomes too intellectual - it's a different frequency

. (not that this thread or my reply is in any shape or form).

You can always look at boobs and plug a story or two?

Now you're talking! Sounds way more fun!

My next story will be titled "Tales of Sex from the Twilight Zone". Can't forget to pay Rubi her royalties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.

How do you view the forums then?

Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.

Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.

This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend

Join F&B and I, we’re planning a party

Party you say?

Yeah! Two more seats in the Talbot. We’ll drive around looking for worthy salty arses. No cake allowed.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"After reading another thread I've been musing (yes I'm doing it again) about the forum 'community', it's dynamics and how people fit into it.

In order for a community to function, certain roles must be fulfilled and people consciously and unconsciously fit into those roles in order to facilitate the community good.

So which roles do you think that you fulfil?

An honest appraisal if you will folks, none of the morose and flagellatory 'no one notices me' that some folks respond with... "

I fill my role , where I dib into the forums and sometimes write stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Community? Nah. More like a school playground. Everyone knows who they want to play with and decides which newbies fit with their group norms

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

" Community? Nah. More like a school playground. Everyone knows who they want to play with and decides which newbies fit with their group norms

I like this observation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Community? Nah. More like a school playground. Everyone knows who they want to play with and decides which newbies fit with their group norms

I like this observation

And I approve of your liking it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know as I fulfill any particular role. I’m just me, hopefully I’m nice to everyone , not argumentative, ready with a kind word. And a bit like that embarrassing aunty who flirts with your friends x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm like uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey

this made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sort of wise fool I guess

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I'm the bemused outsider looking in. Bit of a loner on here. Billy-No-Mates, if you will. I read a lot, post a bit and probably either go unnoticed or bore everyone to tears.

Totally the opposite to how I am in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online?

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online? "

Many people do, it's also a common understanding of psychology that people assume different mantels in different social situations. Are you the same with your family as you are with your friends or at work?

People shift behaviours both consciously and unconsciously to fit in and gain acceptance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm like uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey

I’m inclined to agree except you’re funny on purpose a lot.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think I have the mum role.

Not crowd control?

Oh I can do that too.

I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment

Matriarch? Who is the Alpha Male then?

I don't think we should go there

Who knows what they meant. How others see us is often not how we see ourselves and probably the reality is somewhere in the middle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the old 'daddy' type, for those that like that sort of thing.

I'm also a pacifist and a voice of reason hopefully!

I also love science based threads, and like to give my opinion on them.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think I have the mum role.

Not crowd control?

Oh I can do that too.

I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment

Matriarch? Who is the Alpha Male then?

I don't think we should go there

Who knows what they meant. How others see us is often not how we see ourselves and probably the reality is somewhere in the middle "

I agree.

I did a thread a little while ago about people's perceptions versus others opinions, it was interesting if a little limited. It did go to show how insightful others are and also highlighted how people don't see themselves as others do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online?

People shift behaviours both consciously and unconsciously to fit in and gain acceptance. "

I can see what you mean and i understand why people do it. I'm just myself. I believe in truth, honesty, respect and integrity. To present something I'm not is dishonest and not how i operate. I expect the same in others. It's a real turn off for me and an instant deal breaker. If i find someone has lied or misrepresented themselves. It's an instant delete and block for me.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online?

People shift behaviours both consciously and unconsciously to fit in and gain acceptance.

I see what you're saying but I think you're misunderstanding what I'm talking about

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

" Community? Nah. More like a school playground. Everyone knows who they want to play with and decides which newbies fit with their group norms

Shhhhh you know golden rule one is not to mention fight club

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think I have the mum role.

Not crowd control?

Oh I can do that too.

I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment

Matriarch? Who is the Alpha Male then?

I don't think we should go there

Who knows what they meant. How others see us is often not how we see ourselves and probably the reality is somewhere in the middle

I agree.

There was one recently where as an aside almost someone told me how they perceived me previously and now. It was interesting because in my opinion they were quite wide of the mark but as its their real impression of me on some level it must be true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After reading another thread I've been musing (yes I'm doing it again) about the forum 'community', it's dynamics and how people fit into it.

In order for a community to function, certain roles must be fulfilled and people consciously and unconsciously fit into those roles in order to facilitate the community good.

So which roles do you think that you fulfil?

An honest appraisal if you will folks, none of the morose and flagellatory 'no one notices me' that some folks respond with... "

Don't know what the word for it is. The one who chucks a thought bomb into the room to see how it affects/ inspires/ incites people's passions (good or bad).

Some may find that interesting and some may find that aggravating.

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

"Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online?

People shift behaviours both consciously and unconsciously to fit in and gain acceptance.

I assume your initial comment was aimed at me.

To clarify my post, I wrote what is my perception of what others on here think of me. I do not adopt a different persona online as to how I am offline, but I have no friends on here so I feel as if I don't fit in, whereas in real life when with my friends my self-perception is the opposite of how I perceive myself to be on here, yet I act no differently.

I certainly haven't lied or misrepresented myself. Far from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im aloof

OK... How does that fit into group dynamics? "
it doesn't have to, surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the shy guy who uses comedy to his my shyness and vulnerability.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I try to be the positive one x

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

Just a general lurker for the most part. I do/have offered advice/opinions on many varied topics and have also taken advice and learned from many threads.

Not sure how others would see me but I think I see myself as a voice of reason with a little humour and some sarcasm thrown in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im the han solo of the group the lovable rogue in love with a princess rough tough on the outside but a heart of gold shame for mystique mind you being my best mate makes her chewbacca

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm possibly seen as a familiar face with the occasional word of wisdom.

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