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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Do you like to stand out from the crowd? Unusual fashion sense, makeup, hobbies, etc?

Do you get a lot of pushback?

Here's to embracing our individuality.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need anything extra to show my individuality. I'm fugly as I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an aquired taste, dress sense and attitude wise. I tried changing to suit others and lost myself.

I'm back and I'm comfortable being me.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life."

I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’m a tad on the eccentric side.

Ok....I’m weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is not one part of me like the crowd. Any crowd.

Most days it's great, some days it sucks.

Never ever try to be like the crowd

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm probably the loudest of my friends group. In social situations I take more of a back seat, speak when spoken too - that kinda thing

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

People used to think i was nuts for collecting vinyl records..... Look who's laughing now....

I get strange looks sometimes out and about doing photography with vintage film cameras. Though it's turning out to be fun at the local jazz/blues club where the artists i photograph almost all want copies.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.

I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them. "

I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.

I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.

I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself."

It's ongoing for me.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.

I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.

I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.

It's ongoing for me. "

Good luck. What have you done for it thus far?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I do and act as I please and it is a true reflection of me...Unless it is someone close, if people don't like it I don't care.

I admire anyone who can be themselves especially those who may come up against prejudice and ignorance that takes strength of character and I respect that.

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By *urning the kinkMan
over a year ago

bristol

So wish I could be more eccentric

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.

I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.

I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.

It's ongoing for me. "

Forgive me if it's not what either of you want to hear but you both stand out by your FAB names and your postings in the very best ways. I'm sure most people are glad of and interested in your musings. Be proud

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.

I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.

I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.

It's ongoing for me.

Good luck. What have you done for it thus far?"

A lot of reflection and self acceptance. Accepting what I like and ignoring those who criticise me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be the grey man, although circumstances have often dictated otherwise. ..

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I don’t follow any trends but also don’t stand out either, I’m just me

That is exactly who everyone should be, themselves, dress how they like, style their hair and colour however they desire.

This is why I love London you see everything and it’s bloody marvellous all these people just being them.

Only when your truly yourself are you probably happy

Embrace it, own it, love it... that be you

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

You should be always true to yourself, who cares what others think! It’s social pressure the some try to attain too. Just be positive

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don’t follow any trends but also don’t stand out either, I’m just me

That is exactly who everyone should be, themselves, dress how they like, style their hair and colour however they desire.

This is why I love London you see everything and it’s bloody marvellous all these people just being them.

Only when your truly yourself are you probably happy

Embrace it, own it, love it... that be you "

Manchester can be like that, too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you like to stand out from the crowd? Unusual fashion sense, makeup, hobbies, etc?

Do you get a lot of pushback?

Here's to embracing our individuality. "

I used to, I was pretty goth for quite a while, used to love 50s fashion as well. I'd turn up to work in red satin dresses I've gotten pretty boring now though. I miss not giving a fuck!

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.

I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.

I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.

It's ongoing for me.

Good luck. What have you done for it thus far?

A lot of reflection and self acceptance. Accepting what I like and ignoring those who criticise me. "

Keep it up, you'll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some incredibly bright shirts like something Barry from EastEnders would wear. I don't wear them to get noticed but because I like them. Might get me noticed at my first club visit though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to do a tarzan call in shopping centers

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

The way I look I do stand out a little bit, but I don't choose to look like that to stand out, it's just how I feel I am most comfortable and and it's just me being myself. I don't stand out all that but I'm just slightly more noticeable than others. Unless I'm in Camden in which case we all look different in different ways!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"I like to do a tarzan call in shopping centers "

I announce a lot of stuff on a kazoo at home and in public, you can imagine what my teenage children think about that!

Deeer der deeer.... dinner's ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to do a tarzan call in shopping centers

I announce a lot of stuff on a kazoo at home and in public, you can imagine what my teenage children think about that!

Deeer der deeer.... dinner's ready"
should have seen me during the south africa world cum my vuvuzela thingy ended up going missing tho no idea why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my own style,I don't dress to stand out or to be invisible to others

I'm just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I’m different all the time, being an aspie I tend to have a different view of the world from all you nt’s out there. I don’t look, talk or act like a typical guy in his 40’s. I’ve found it prudent to pick and choose where and when I allow myself to open up. Some people are far less accepting than others. But yes in an ideal world, absolutely we should celebrate our differences and individuality

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I don’t follow any trends but also don’t stand out either, I’m just me

That is exactly who everyone should be, themselves, dress how they like, style their hair and colour however they desire.

This is why I love London you see everything and it’s bloody marvellous all these people just being them.

Only when your truly yourself are you probably happy

Embrace it, own it, love it... that be you "

Exactly what I came here to say I don't think about being different, I just do me. Has taken a whole to get to this point though!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I stand out and probably most people don’t notice me, but I like to do my own thing and wear what I like

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I don’t follow any trends but also don’t stand out either, I’m just me

That is exactly who everyone should be, themselves, dress how they like, style their hair and colour however they desire.

This is why I love London you see everything and it’s bloody marvellous all these people just being them.

Only when your truly yourself are you probably happy

Embrace it, own it, love it... that be you "

I don't go out of my way to be different to others but I definitely have my quirks. I think I'm just comfortably me. The joys of being aspie in a neurotypical world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i smile more than average person and love a bold print or colour, unusual earrings. I try to think i do it for myself.. for my smile inducing purposes, but it feels good to grab a compliment here and there as a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's absolutely nothing about me that fits in anywhere ... looks, hobbies, thoughts etc and wouldn't have it any other way and never have!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't go out of my way to be different to others but I definitely have my quirks. I think I'm just comfortably me. The joys of being aspie in a neurotypical world. "

I get the impression some people think I’m being different just to be contrary

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Do you like to stand out from the crowd? Unusual fashion sense, makeup, hobbies, etc?

Do you get a lot of pushback?

Here's to embracing our individuality. "

I dont like to or need to

It just seems to happen

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I've no idea how others perceive me nor do I care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of the reasons I detest fashion

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’m often described as a little alternative... but I’m comfortable in my own skin and would look a dick if I tried to be fashionable.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's one of the reasons I detest fashion"

I've come to see it as a tool. I can usually still find what I want, eventually. But I refuse to get caught up in trends.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"It's one of the reasons I detest fashion"

Me too, I never understand why everyone wants to look like everyone else? My style is my own, there at enough Kardashian wanna be’s without me being one

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Im just Miss average, a little reserved and typically normal. However, on Fab i like to express myself differently in my pics.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't intentionally stand out from the crowd, but I'm not normal in that I don't like much pop music, watch much telly (I don't even own one), have any 8nterest in sport, drink alcohol etc. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play cricket and don't like football. Does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have sone outrageous clothes

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No idea. I know people often stare at me when we're out whether that's in horror, disbelief or admiration I don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to wear shit cowboy hats at socials

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t like standing out from the crowd as i’m quiet and shy, but i can’t do much about it (height) so just embraced it.

It’s always positive attention in person, so that is something at least.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

I would love to go out dress and say f... it this is me but too nervous and not convincing enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's best not to try too hard in either direction. Imho a life well spent has more to do with experiences and reality rather than appearances and perception. Places like fab can at times tilt that theory in an unhealthy direction, but I guess it's nice for us all to feel attractive or special at times.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm weird.. I like it :D

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By *teve48ukMan
over a year ago

Ware

I don’t consider myself to be the best looking in the world but fuck it, I’m a decent guy, so I do what I want and if people don’t like if, tough shit!!

Be yourself! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t like standing out from the crowd as i’m quiet and shy, but i can’t do much about it (height) so just embraced it.

It’s always positive attention in person, so that is something at least.

"

6ft 2!! An Amazonian queen.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope i dont like standing out as im quite a shy person in real life. I never start a conversation but will always speak when spoken to.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm not much of a follower. I wear what suits me, what makes me look nice and feel good.

I try not to overthink what others think of me, because at the end of the day I have no control over it so no point stressing about it.

I love to encourage my daughter who picks the most random and brightly coloured clothes to wear.

Everyone laughs but she is so beautifully unique.

Jo.Xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm me plain and simple - and don't strive to stand out, and don't think I do either - take me or leave me, what you see is what you get.

Of course it's nice to be noticed, but I don't make an effort to be, I dress how I like, behave in a manner that is true to myself and who I am and if people notice me because of that, then it's a bonus.

It's how I've always been, and always will be, as the saying goes you can't teach an old dog new tricks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to be centre of attention so I dress for comfort rather than to gain attention. I've no desire to stand out or be noticed when I'm going about my daily business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I love to encourage my daughter who picks the most random and brightly coloured clothes to wear.

Everyone laughs but she is so beautifully unique.

Jo.Xx "

That's beautiful gift of trust in their choices and I am sure she will grow into a confident woman one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh if we're talking just clothes then I just dress fairly boringly tbh unless dressing for specific occasions then I can be striking as I choose at that moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't actually do anything to stand out deliberately I just do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have purple hair and lots of tattoos so I guess I stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m impulsive, some days I want to be invisible or be lead, the next day I want to scooter or roller boot or wear a diamond body suit, I guess I am just random. If I want to pull of the mummy look I will and then the next day biker chick, pin up girl.. . I’m just me. I care what people think but not enough to “fit the mould”

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"

I love to encourage my daughter who picks the most random and brightly coloured clothes to wear.

Everyone laughs but she is so beautifully unique.

Jo.Xx

That's beautiful gift of trust in their choices and I am sure she will grow into a confident woman one day"

Thank you, i'm hoping so and trying my best to ensure she does.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to be a grey person now I love to stand out..turn heads for whatever reason maybe even push people's buttons..in a nice way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you like to stand out from the crowd? Unusual fashion sense, makeup, hobbies, etc?

Do you get a lot of pushback?

Here's to embracing our individuality. "

Everyone really is different and individual. Some are extrovert, some introvert and some fairly smack bang inbetween. The more extroverted people usually stand out more and are comfortable with that. Introverts usually value their privacy and recharge time so much that they (probably subconsciously) employ strategies to blend into the background more.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

For me it's shoes. I quiet often wear my bright green zombie stompers that go with nothing but get worn with everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I stand out but I’ve never been a crowd follower/people pleaser even when I was young. I’m just me!

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By *teve48ukMan
over a year ago

Ware


"I have purple hair and lots of tattoos so I guess I stand out "

And absolutely why shouldn’t you!! You look great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have purple hair and lots of tattoos so I guess I stand out

And absolutely why shouldn’t you!! You look great "

Thank you lovely xx

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I have purple hair and lots of tattoos so I guess I stand out "

I have long hair and I'm a boy , it causes chaos for some reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No my job used to require being in the background not standing out, yet also making sure people were aware of your presence, this was really dictated on the circumstances and the client. Did it for so long I carry it of in my personal life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't go out of my way to blend in, I do my own thing but not in an effort to stand out, I don't want attention I just like being comfortable within myself.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Being goths/Steampunks we do tend to stand out from the crowd- especially as Caroline has Red hair & Dave's is very long - locally we get a lot of verbal from idiots, but it says more about them than us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In civvy street we both like to keep under the radar

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I (male) have a very dry sense of humour, causes many a problem with the written word, however one on one (or even two on one) it’s a different communication.

Can’t remember the study on communication that said, something like 55% of communication comes through body language. 37% through tonality and only 8% through the words.

Would explain a lot on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Can’t remember the study on communication that said, something like 55% of communication comes through body language. 37% through tonality and only 8% through the words.

Would explain a lot on here.

"

I think it was 7%, 38% and 55.

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

I am who I am.

Sometimes I blend in, other time's I don't.

I don't have a weird dress sense, I just don't follow the sheep in fashion, just me and what I am comfortable with.

In my sport, I import stuff that I like, and that makes me stand out a bit more.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I have purple hair and lots of tattoos so I guess I stand out

I have long hair and I'm a boy , it causes chaos for some reason "

Would be lovely to see your long hair on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a bit of a sheep I think. I dont really like standing out until I'm really comfortable around the people. I'm a dress in black, keep your mouth shut kind of person. I would love to get the confidence to stand out and be me ...just haven't quite worked out who me is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a bit of a sheep I think. I dont really like standing out until I'm really comfortable around the people. I'm a dress in black, keep your mouth shut kind of person. I would love to get the confidence to stand out and be me ...just haven't quite worked out who me is "

You sound deep and interesting. You probably stand out more than you know to other's who get to know you. You probably have a lot more to be confident about than you have realised yet.

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zreTvtpTeoU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I dont think I do.

I feel different, like something is broken, or not functioning correctly, that I was born with too much of some things and not enough of others.

I tried to hide it, conform, be not me. But it just breaks you worse than before.

So I just am now.. Fuck it.

A friend introduced me to personality types and I'm the archetype stereotypical version of mine. Which helped me understand why I dont react, feel, express myself in the same way everyone else does.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I wear what suits me and what I like. In a big crowd of people I don't know I like to be in the background. With my friends and family, and when I'm comfortable, I don't mind being centre of attention. I'm usually the joker of the group. Plus I have bright red hair, hardly a wallflower hair colour x

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley


"It's one of the reasons I detest fashion

I've come to see it as a tool. I can usually still find what I want, eventually. But I refuse to get caught up in trends. "

Occasionally a trend will catch up with me, but then moves on to the next thing and I go back to being off trend again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mimicking " normal" is such a fucking bore! X

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

I wear what I feel comfortable with at the time. I have a collection of ‘outrageous’ coats (my offsprings phrase) and bright patterned shirts, which get commented on.

I also collect vintage gramophones and 78 rpm records, which isn’t a very usual hobby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never stood out from the crowd but I'm very much me. I couldn't be like someone else however much I tried! I'm more introvert than extrovert I guess.

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