FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications

By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Morning troops!

So what does everyone think of verifications? Do you get putrid when you see a high number? Does it worry you when verifications are hidden?

I know it's a swinging site, but a high verification count puts me off a little (this is subjective and my option so please dont take offence, it's not aimed or judging anyone). I dont want to be just another number, I like a connection but also like to feel a little special, and a high number to me kind of goes against that.

Thoughts as always please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are off putting to me. Although are useful as you get a incite into the person... certain things would put me off instantly & its good to see the type of person someone has been meeting..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you read them all? What if they have 100 but 98 are from social events?

Back to the question, it doesn't bother me at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are what they are, I don't show most of mine, I don't like advertising my sex life.

I don't mind if others hide theirs but I do like to see the summary, mostly to see if they've actually met anyone and aren't just verified by webcam.

There are loads of people who attend clubs and socials, a high number of veris doesn't always mean a high number of sexual partners, plus if you met someone elsewhere you'd have no idea about their sexual past so it doesn't bother me what or who they've done before, it only matters how they are with me.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"And you read them all? What if they have 100 but 98 are from social events?

Back to the question, it doesn't bother me at all"

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Nah. It just means they definitely meet right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested in those. Feels more like a number quest.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

So men on a swinging site are put off by women having several verifications !

Why ? It's a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like reading the verifications. Especially as a bi couple as some men who list as bi, don’t specify ‘how bi’ or however you want to word it, they are. So it’s a way for us to not waste people’s time if it turns out we are looking for different things, like that they are only bottom for example.

People having loads doesn’t put us off, it can be annoying reading through the social/party ones to find 1-1 meet reviews.

We’re skeptics when all are hidden and it’s just a summary though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a lot for the length of time we have been here, but if you read them, they’re almost all social meets. People who go to local or fab socials and clubs meet others socially and verify. If we see a high number we read them and find out if it’s lots of socials. But we aren’t here for love so don’t expect to be special

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

The next post will be about women not meeting for sex !

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"So men on a swinging site are put off by women having several verifications !

Why ? It's a swinging site

Of course but it's a double edged sword, on the one hand yes they definitely meet however on the other you're just a means to an end. Nobody wants to be objectified in anyway and be a glorified sex toy (well I certainly dont) and a lot of these profiles state I don't want to sleep my way around fab but then have 100+ verifications.

I'm not ranting, just expressing my opinion, hopefully us men are able to be picky too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So men on a swinging site are put off by women having several verifications !

Why ? It's a swinging site

I'm not ranting, just expressing my opinion, hopefully us men are able to be picky too!"

How about ladies that go to socials? Are you judging those too? How about if they've been on here for 10 years? How do you judge those?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's subjective surely? Yes there are people who meet 1 or 2 people a week or there are those who have 6 veris in one day through going to a social event or meet a few times a year but have been on here for a decade? ... just judging on numbers seems a little pointless if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've only fucked a couple of my verifications the rest are just friends. I had a high number on my old profile due to group socials so high verifications does not make someone the 'bike'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning troops!

So what does everyone think of verifications? Do you get putrid when you see a high number? Does it worry you when verifications are hidden?

Thoughts as always please! "

Morning loads of verries are a huge turn off for me to,along with crude ones,we all know why we are here so no need for graphic details,that's just my opinion though

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It entirely depends. Some have been on here a long time so have a lot. Some have a lot and they're mostly socials. Some have a lot and they're mostly from the same person or couple of people. Some meet a lot but don't have veris from them all. Some people sleep with a lot of people outside of fab. Some people meet a lot of people but take very good precautions and get tested frequently. Some people can meet less people but don't take good precautions and never get tested. So i dont think you can really tell a great deal from it. If someone is daft enough to give away through their verifications that they partake in incredibly risky sexual practices, of course that would put me off but someone could have just a couple of tame verifications but be incredibly irresponsible with their sexual health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont look anymore as my penis only has 1 home

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people.

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"So men on a swinging site are put off by women having several verifications !

Why ? It's a swinging site

I'm not ranting, just expressing my opinion, hopefully us men are able to be picky too!

How about ladies that go to socials? Are you judging those too? How about if they've been on here for 10 years? How do you judge those?

As I said, I'm not judging anyone,

It's just my personal opinion from first impressions. It's just the same surely as discriminating due to height/smoking/action shots etc

I like to read verifications and make in informed decision.

Like everything else on here everyone's going to have different opinions, it's nice to heat what everyone else thinks.

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people. "

I've never said dirty, I never would make such an uninformed comment on a number of verifications. I just put across my thoughts on high numbers, it's never an indication of the person in question just that i may be hesitant and possibly not what I'm looking for.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The number of veris doesn't bother me either way, the content of those veris may make me think twice though.

As others have said OP a lot of veris doesn't necessarily mean that person is having sex with all of them, or even any of them - I have probably getting on for 40 now, the majority of which are social.

To look at it from another angle, how do you *know* that person with just a handful of veris on show isn't actually a serial shagger who barebacks with someone different every night, but has just chosen to hide most of their veris and their summary? You don't based on veris and profile alone.

Veris are a guideline, nothing more - the *only* way you are truly going to get a feel for a person is by talking to them, and getting to know them a little - yep that old thing called communication again - it works wonders you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The number of veris doesn't bother me either way, the content of those veris may make me think twice though.

This ^^^ if you're making opinions on veris alone then you are limiting your options incredibly whilst it's actually not on a preference ie height/size etc just on a judgment of them personally!

Veris for me don't mean a lot except interesting reading and I might then make an informed judgement on non compatibility not based on numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. Loads of veris put me off too. Different if they’re social though obviously. Everyone has their opinions and all looking for different things. I don’t think it’s judging just coz something isn’t for you. I won’t meet people if they’ve met certain people either. People can do what they want, it’s not affecting anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've only fucked a couple of my verifications the rest are just friends. I had a high number on my old profile due to group socials so high verifications does not make someone the 'bike'"

This

I’m in no means easy! Just a social butterfly

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people.

You said putrid...

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

One person has 500 meets a year, and chooses to show no veries.

One has 20 socials and shows them.

You can make assumptions from veries, and that's fine but it would be foolish to make a judgement based on the number of veries on show....when there's the option to show or hide them.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do you get putrid when you see a high number? "

No I don't.

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people.

You said putrid... "

Well I apologise, it was a typo, it should of been put off.

I never made the post to offend or insult anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people.

You said putrid...

Well I apologise, it was a typo, it should of been put off.

I never made the post to offend or insult anybody."

You’ve not been here long. Don’t let it put you off posting. Certain posts always cause uproar

. Most of its fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people.

You said putrid...

Well I apologise, it was a typo, it should of been put off.

I never made the post to offend or insult anybody.

You’ve not been here long. Don’t let it put you off posting. Certain posts always cause uproar

. Most of its fun

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, how do you know that people on this site, or indeed anywhere else, arent bareback shagging all over the shop?

The answer is you dont.

One of the many things on Fab that I simply cannot fathom is why people will insist on believing everything they read.

The verification thing means nowt in real terms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, how do you know that people on this site, or indeed anywhere else, arent bareback shagging all over the shop?

The answer is you dont.

One of the many things on Fab that I simply cannot fathom is why people will insist on believing everything they read.

The verification thing means nowt in real terms"

Of course you don’t! You can only make decisions on the information you have obviously.

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people.

You said putrid...

Well I apologise, it was a typo, it should of been put off.

I never made the post to offend or insult anybody.

You’ve not been here long. Don’t let it put you off posting. Certain posts always cause uproar

. Most of its fun

Thank you, I thought it would be a healthy debate with people opinions, I just however have seemed to get peoples backs up which was completely unintended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people.

You said putrid...

Well I apologise, it was a typo, it should of been put off.

I never made the post to offend or insult anybody.

You’ve not been here long. Don’t let it put you off posting. Certain posts always cause uproar

. Most of its fun

Thank you, I thought it would be a healthy debate with people opinions, I just however have seemed to get peoples backs up which was completely unintended."

Welcome to my world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more put off by people who think I'm dirty because of the number of veris I have. I show them in part to filter out incompatible people.

You said putrid...

Well I apologise, it was a typo, it should of been put off.

I never made the post to offend or insult anybody.

You’ve not been here long. Don’t let it put you off posting. Certain posts always cause uproar

. Most of its fun

Thank you, I thought it would be a healthy debate with people opinions, I just however have seemed to get peoples backs up which was completely unintended."
naaaa fuck em its funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show all my verifications as I don't like showing off my sex life.

Coffee, Coffee, coffee...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I show all my verifications as I don't like showing off my sex life.

Coffee, Coffee, coffee..."

I show mine too if I’m looking to meet people. It’s the ones where it says 103 verifications but they’re all hidden I don’t get. Either hide the lot or show them. That puts me off even more tbh

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

[Removed by poster at 10/09/19 11:20:02]

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

the amount of verifications don't put me off so much but the the profile of previous meets may

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

Well I apologise, it was a typo, it should of been put off.

I never made the post to offend or insult anybody.

You’ve not been here long. Don’t let it put you off posting. Certain posts always cause uproar

. Most of its fun

Thank you, I thought it would be a healthy debate with people opinions, I just however have seemed to get peoples backs up which was completely unintended.naaaa fuck em its funny "

Dunna worry, as above its all fun and games....most of us in here are piss taking arseholes....don't take offence....take a gate instead they are lighter....

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

If I want to meet someone, then I use them as part of the picture I build up to come to that conclusion.

Filtering out the hyperbole and platitudes, you can gain a reasonable impression of someone when combined with their profile, pics, and forum posts.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If I want to meet someone, then I use them as part of the picture I build up to come to that conclusion.

Filtering out the hyperbole and platitudes, you can gain a reasonable impression of someone when combined with their profile, pics, and forum posts."

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I want to meet someone, then I use them as part of the picture I build up to come to that conclusion.

Filtering out the hyperbole and platitudes, you can gain a reasonable impression of someone when combined with their profile, pics, and forum posts."

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Well I apologise, it was a typo, it should of been put off.

I never made the post to offend or insult anybody.

You’ve not been here long. Don’t let it put you off posting. Certain posts always cause uproar

. Most of its fun

Thank you, I thought it would be a healthy debate with people opinions, I just however have seemed to get peoples backs up which was completely unintended.naaaa fuck em its funny

Dunna worry, as above its all fun and games....most of us in here are piss taking arseholes....don't take offence....take a gate instead they are lighter....

I'll have you know I'm a piss taking twat not arsehole!

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By *cossemysteriousMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't advertise any.. Don't particularly like reading other people's it's just a very good verification tool. How many do you see... Over a year, 2 meets 1 man/1 cam 2 years ago. You know that's not a legit profile.

At least people know you're genuine if you have a few and from recently always helps too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't advertise any.. Don't particularly like reading other people's it's just a very good verification tool. How many do you see... Over a year, 2 meets 1 man/1 cam 2 years ago. You know that's not a legit profile.

At least people know you're genuine if you have a few and from recently always helps too. "

Some people take a break so having a verification over a year ago doesn’t make them fake or timewaster. I’m taking a break as I’ve met someone on here but if it doesn’t work out and I decide to meet again then mine could be a year ago too.

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By *cossemysteriousMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Some people take a break so having a verification over a year ago doesn’t make them fake or timewaster. I’m taking a break as I’ve met someone on here but if it doesn’t work out and I decide to meet again then mine could be a year ago too. "

Very true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like veris!! I just wish it was more like Amazon with suggestions..... You liked this guy so why not try this one or that one...

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By *cossemysteriousMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I like veris!! I just wish it was more like Amazon with suggestions..... You liked this guy so why not try this one or that one...

People who also left a great review of this person had a great time with this person.. That would be ideal! Your top 3 best next matches ha

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I like veris!! I just wish it was more like Amazon with suggestions..... You liked this guy so why not try this one or that one...

Ha, now thats a genius idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many is a turn off for me..

Even if it’s just sex. I don’t want to be one of 300 on the site to of experienced it

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I have quite a few (loads) but I'm an active club goer and attend big socials too. Not all are play ones. Been told I have too many but can't please everyone. I like mine x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I show both

*proud*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely essential. Too many idiots on here

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"I have quite a few (loads) but I'm an active club goer and attend big socials too. Not all are play ones. Been told I have too many but can't please everyone. I like mine x"

So socials and club meets I think are different, I should of explained more in my OP. Time in here is also a big factor.

But if I look at a profile of say a single woman, and it's full of explicit meets of different men in as so many days that to me is off putting. Again, before anyone gets offended that's not what this is about, I think it's the same as people with bareback pictures on their profile. Its opinion and I'm just after a healthy debate.

Please be nice, I'm gentle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number doesn't matter, preferably around three if I want my mind put at rest. Any less and I may doubt how sincere and how female the other person is.

How well they're written matters a great deal. I'm not talking about grammar, more content and style.

I tend to base most things on how the conversation flows, veris arent be all and end all.

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"Too many is a turn off for me..

Even if it’s just sex. I don’t want to be one of 300 on the site to of experienced it"

That's exactly my thoughts, and I'm sure lots of women would be put off with the same.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

I like the verification system on fab. I'm on other sites where they don't have veris or reviews and I'm always so wary of inviting people that contact me on those sites into my home. Just feel like I just know nothing about them. Veris provide a valuable insight into someone's personality, whether they are genuine or not and also their likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many is a turn off for me..

Even if it’s just sex. I don’t want to be one of 300 on the site to of experienced it

That's exactly my thoughts, and I'm sure lots of women would be put off with the same."

It's not a realistic measurement of how many people a person has sex with! Anyone could have sex with 300 people without a verification, you seriously believe that? People have social (no sex) verifications, veris from organised social events (no sex) ... people have sex without verifications and omg sex other than off this site!!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I show my summary but hide my individual veris as I have fwb on here and I dont want idiots messaging them about me and whether I was a good f*ck!!

Yes it really happened

It is swings and roundabouts and every person is different I personally don't include them in my judgement as I prefer to get to know the person and I'm not put off by how many times they have had sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty they are bollocks these days. So many graphic ones but hey they are good for stalkers following your moves. The summery is enough and maybe the most recent few but a 5 year old one is just pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning troops!

So what does everyone think of verifications? Do you get putrid when you see a high number? Does it worry you when verifications are hidden?

Thoughts as always please! "
they are bragging or showing off but like you say too many are off putting, if the object is to show reliability or proprietary then surely 3 at most achieve that

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"I agree. Loads of veris put me off too. Different if they’re social though obviously. Everyone has their opinions and all looking for different things. I don’t think it’s judging just coz something isn’t for you. I won’t meet people if they’ve met certain people either. People can do what they want, it’s not affecting anyone else. "

Yep this is also me. I prefer the new people, I'm far more likely to meet them. Always on the side of caution when it comes to forum guys as well.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Morning troops!

So what does everyone think of verifications? Do you get putrid when you see a high number? Does it worry you when verifications are hidden?

Thoughts as always please! "

I have recently hid mine

My summary shows a high number , not many are play nearly all from hosting club nights

I’ve been on here 7 years so they are going to be high

Doesn’t really bother me if someone was turned off by the number - they are missing out not getting to know me

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"And you read them all? What if they have 100 but 98 are from social events?

Back to the question, it doesn't bother me at all"

Quite. There is a difference between a social or even no touching club meet and a sex meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love someone to guess how many people I've had sex with in the last 35 years by reading my veris hahahahahaha anyone thay judges me negatively by them is more them welcome to

we wouldn't get on anyway!

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"Well I've only fucked a couple of my verifications the rest are just friends. I had a high number on my old profile due to group socials so high verifications does not make someone the 'bike'"

Why would it matter to anyone if you were ‘the bike’? That’s your choice surely.

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By *uriousk22Couple
over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

i have quite a few veris but a lot of mine are socials from clubs and when people have verid me more than once. If anyone is put off by the amount i have them that’s fine, it’s their issue not mine. Each to their own

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"If I want to meet someone, then I use them as part of the picture I build up to come to that conclusion.

Filtering out the hyperbole and platitudes, you can gain a reasonable impression of someone when combined with their profile, pics, and forum posts."

It’s the hyperbole I read them for!

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

I've never said it's an indication of how many people they've slept with, however it is a high number from here which on first impressions could be daunting to somebody such as me.

I've been to one club and had 1 verification from that, that doesn't mean I've led a sheltered and sex free life.

I'm a very guarded person so I only show what I want to (hence the no profile or public photos) people make their own opinion (most likely wrongly) from that, it doesn't mean I get offended or I judge them, like somebody said further up the chain, just means they're missing out.

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Yep this is also me. I prefer the new people, I'm far more likely to meet them. Always on the side of caution when it comes to forum guys as well. "

Why are you weary of forum guys? Is this worthy of another thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the people I meet practice safe sex who gives a shit how many verifications they have. I would never judge anyone on how much fun they have. It's all about friendship and mutual pleasure at the end of the day. I would personally like something regular with a lady or couple but each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I had 9 or 10 verifications on a previous profile and I'd only been naked with one of those. The others were from social meets including 2 from couples.

I took the decision when I came back to start with a clean slate and not ask those people to verify me again for a few reasons.

Half of them are no longer on the site while some are in fab relationships and I don't want to complicate those.

I prefer to chat to those who don't have lots of veris regardless of how they got them because I prefer long chats and getting to know people and grin experience those with lots of veris or fab friends don't have the time to chat to all of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway."

Most?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway."

(Based on what), can you back up this ‘claim’ ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are currently all hidden. People don't need to see what I get up to

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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire

Ive had plenty of meets but prefer to not be verified.

My soin is if i meet someone in life and they find out im a deviant on here im busted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris seem a bit pointless to me.

Unless they're side splittingly funny they just say "I met this person", and even then I know there are a lot of fake meet veris on fab from friends who just text.....

If I ever write a veri I try to make it worthy of both displaying and reading, more of a thank you than a recommendation, we're all different......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Veris seem a bit pointless to me.

Unless they're side splittingly funny they just say "I met this person", and even then I know there are a lot of fake meet veris on fab from friends who just text.....

If I ever write a veri I try to make it worthy of both displaying and reading, more of a thank you than a recommendation, we're all different......

Just realised you have changed your name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Veris seem a bit pointless to me.

Unless they're side splittingly funny they just say "I met this person", and even then I know there are a lot of fake meet veris on fab from friends who just text.....

If I ever write a veri I try to make it worthy of both displaying and reading, more of a thank you than a recommendation, we're all different......

Just realised you have changed your name.

Do you like it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway.

Most? "

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We like fairly detailed veris as not a fan of surprises. The better handle we can get on what people are like the better.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"As long as the people I meet practice safe sex who gives a shit how many verifications they have. I would never judge anyone on how much fun they have. It's all about friendship and mutual pleasure at the end of the day. I would personally like something regular with a lady or couple but each to their own."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Veris seem a bit pointless to me.

Unless they're side splittingly funny they just say "I met this person", and even then I know there are a lot of fake meet veris on fab from friends who just text.....

If I ever write a veri I try to make it worthy of both displaying and reading, more of a thank you than a recommendation, we're all different......

Just realised you have changed your name.

Do you like it?

I didn’t know you were back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get my first verification it will be genuine. Disgraceful that people feel the need to fake them. If you feel the need to fake them then you don't really belong on here.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I love a good veri.

Some like it, some hate it. I couldn’t care less.

I’m a swinger, a greedy girl infact and love it.

Don’t like it don’t look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway.

Most?

It was with a question mark.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

I’m more concerned about if they do bareback, and if they seem to be into mutual pleasure and are respectful.

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

Verifications that don't appear aren't necessarily 'hidden'. If someone who veried you leaves the site, the text disappears, but it remains on the total.

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"I’m more concerned about if they do bareback, and if they seem to be into mutual pleasure and are respectful. "

Oh again, I dont disagree with any of your points, and as people have pointed out, meeting somebody in a bar is less of an indication than veris on here.

I have achieved my aim today though, I have heard opinions from a wide variety on here which has probably left me more educated and willing to sit through the veris than I was before.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Verifications that don't appear aren't necessarily 'hidden'. If someone who veried you leaves the site, the text disappears, but it remains on the total."

This is what happened to two of mine. The other was someone I had never met so I reported it and I guess it got removed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to show a variety of different verifications so that they're now all the same or from the same person.

I'm wary of people with too few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be lying if I said it didn't put me off... it makes it seem like the user will get with everyone and anyone that remotely tickles their fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they put me off. I prefer people with none showing and no summary on their profile.

Many people get huffy when they're excluded for having too many verifications. I don't know why they get mad about people who don't want to meet them.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"I'd be lying if I said it didn't put me off... it makes it seem like the user will get with everyone and anyone that remotely tickles their fancy"

Is that a bad thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway.

Most?

It was with a question mark."

'?' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway.

Most?

It was with a question mark.

'?' ?"

I said ‘most’? As in, how do you get that ‘most’ verifications are fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway.

Most?

It was with a question mark.

'?' ?

I said ‘most’? As in, how do you get that ‘most’ verifications are fake? "

Think he’s being Deliberately obtuse.

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By *atisfying jack OP Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'd be lying if I said it didn't put me off... it makes it seem like the user will get with everyone and anyone that remotely tickles their fancy

Is that a bad thing? "

To some people yes, likewise it's the same if people are put off with barebacking. Its personal preference a d what people are after. I dont think anybody should be upset or disagree with somebody else's preferences.

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales

We use them just to see people are real, it wouldn’t bother me if they had loads, some of ours are just from people we have chatted to in a club and they aren’t really a true reflection as this is about our 5th profile over the years. We wouldn’t meet with anyone who didn’t have one though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be lying if I said it didn't put me off... it makes it seem like the user will get with everyone and anyone that remotely tickles their fancy

Is that a bad thing?

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"I'd be lying if I said it didn't put me off... it makes it seem like the user will get with everyone and anyone that remotely tickles their fancy

Is that a bad thing?

Sorry, I meant is it a bad thing if the user chooses to go with anyone that tickles their fancy? Didn't mean it to be an attack on your personal preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to meet anyone with too many verifications,just not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a nosey bugger and quite like to see who people have met. But, the verification system is really as useful as a chocolate teapot with regard to sexual safety and judging a person. Yes, it can give you an idea about someone, but they could have fingers in pies all over the place. I must admit though, I have stopped displaying recent meets from Forumites as like to keep people guessing. Having lots of verifications doesn't make anybody a bad person, they just enjoy sex to my mind

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Morning troops!

So what does everyone think of verifications? Do you get putrid when you see a high number? Does it worry you when verifications are hidden?

Thoughts as always please! "

Hey op, I do you see a man with loads of verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I always make sure that they not all meets,as some are from Web cams etc.

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By *omeotherknobheadMan
over a year ago

morecambe

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway."

is that your mind self protecting? does thinking that the majority of them are fake make you feel better about having so few yourself?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

If the number of meets put people off, Don't contact them its that simple, If they are hidden, During messages ask would they show you them they can only say they will or won't, Also a lot of people have club meets so if you're judging them by the number at least read the veris before forming your opinion

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"But I always make sure that they not all meets,as some are from Web cams etc."

So are web cam veris ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway."

Is that the reason why you hide yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you mean? It’s not a competition?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you read them all? What if they have 100 but 98 are from social events?

Back to the question, it doesn't bother me at all"

I agree

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Displaying verifications is a damned if you do, damned if you don't affair. Some people like to see verifications and think it suspicious when they're not shown; "what are you hiding?" comes to mind. Others are put off by either the amount, content, who you've met or any combination of the above. Some, like me, could care less about the veris and make up our minds through interacting with the person. Everyone's different.

I no longer show mine. There's too much jealousy, spitefulness and innuendo around. People don't need to know what I get up to and I don't care what they do either. All that matters is if I like the person and have a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the 'verifications' are (false and fake) anyway."

Why’s that?

Because when I leave them I say who I met, that they were genuine and something smiley about them, as most are social. Never false.

One of ours is false. Someone saw us on webcam and selected meet when they verified. We hide that one as we weren’t comfortable with the dishonesty.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

99% of my interest in veris is just that a profile has them and that the users appear reliable.

I don't care about how many and any commentary about srx is a reflection on the author, so it's not my thing.

Ok, if ever a verification highlighted a shit shag, disrespect, unreliability, I'd probably notice. But I don't think people would publish them.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"If the number of meets put people off, Don't contact them its that simple, If they are hidden, During messages ask would they show you them they can only say they will or won't, Also a lot of people have club meets so if you're judging them by the number at least read the veris before forming your opinion"

If someone asked me to show them my veris, or even questioned mismatched numbers “what are you hiding”, they would get a flat no !

I choose whether I want to show my veris or the summary, my mood varies as to whether I do or not.

Don’t like it, not my problem, move on by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I always make sure that they not all meets,as some are from Web cams etc.

So are web cam veris ok? "

Yes xx

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