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"It would become busier with more people and messages to sift through. I doubt it would change our approach and what we are looking for. " Just provide you with more options? Do you think itd change fab itself? Forums? Gender balance my equal up a little. Clubs would be busier.. laybys and parking areas may be busier. | |||
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"I'd fuck kloe kardasian " If you had enough followers.. she may let you  | |||
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"I'd fuck kloe kardasian If you had enough followers.. she may let you "Or was really good at basketball | |||
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"I’m an antisocial bugger so doubt it’d change much at all for me... it’d be good to get more gender balance though "You're quite well known and liked in Forum though Saff.. you may be offered book deals, presenting jobs, your own tv programme or other collaborative projects to be part of. | |||
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"Don’t think it’d changed me at all. Already scarred for life..." It's okay sit with me in the corner I'll hold your, um, hand | |||
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"Don’t think it’d changed me at all. Already scarred for life..." You are also a prolific and popular poster at the moment. It may open doors for you like ones I mentioned above. | |||
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"I’m an antisocial bugger so doubt it’d change much at all for me... it’d be good to get more gender balance though
You're quite well known and liked in Forum though Saff.. you may be offered book deals, presenting jobs, your own tv programme or other collaborative projects to be part of."I’m not a public person so would happily write in a secluded cottage with my mutts. That life id love | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream." There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. | |||
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"Celebrity status eh? GMF for the next series of Strictly? Can I be paired with Amy Dowden please?... " Exactly.. I'm talking that level of fad and popularity. I'm more "Celebrity get me out of here" | |||
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"I’m an antisocial bugger so doubt it’d change much at all for me... it’d be good to get more gender balance though
You're quite well known and liked in Forum though Saff.. you may be offered book deals, presenting jobs, your own tv programme or other collaborative projects to be part of.
I’m not a public person so would happily write in a secluded cottage with my mutts. That life id love "Saff.. popular author. Love it. | |||
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"Wouldn't make any difference to me one way or the other to be honest OP. Still dont think I'd find this elusive man I'm looking for." I find that hard to believe  | |||
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"Nah, it could be good....it would give me even more people to abuse and take the piss out of uncontrollably..... "danger danger! | |||
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"It would be like when fifty shades came out and suddenly every man was a Dom and knew everything about it. A whole load of wannabes would emerge, car keys in hand declaring themselves to be swingers but with a million rules and complaints about no one meeting their expectations. " You'd be well famous | |||
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No, it wouldn't change me - why would it? I'd still post my oft horny waffling piss taking remarks.
The amount of people though. Ugh. It would be trendy. People would think they're so hip and proudly declare "I was on fab before 2019" and then reel off their real swinger credentials to prove they are not a noob. | |||
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"Sexual celebrities? Fora celebrities?
No, it wouldn't change me - why would it? I'd still post my oft horny waffling piss taking remarks.
The amount of people though. Ugh. It would be trendy. People would think they're so hip and proudly declare "I was on fab before 2019" and then reel off their real swinger credentials to prove they are not a noob."Youd also be well famous. I think that's change your experience whether you wanted it to or not. May have to take action if you dont want it to change Meli x | |||
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"Nah, it could be good....it would give me even more people to abuse and take the piss out of uncontrollably.....
danger danger! "high voltage...when we touch....when we ki.....
Couldn't resist.... | |||
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"Sexual celebrities? Fora celebrities?
No, it wouldn't change me - why would it? I'd still post my oft horny waffling piss taking remarks.
The amount of people though. Ugh. It would be trendy. People would think they're so hip and proudly declare "I was on fab before 2019" and then reel off their real swinger credentials to prove they are not a noob."We get this in the kink scene. "I was kinky before 50 shades". My response is congratulations on being old. They love that | |||
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"Imagine the T.V. advert " Soft, strong and very, very long? | |||
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"Nah, it could be good....it would give me even more people to abuse and take the piss out of uncontrollably.....
danger danger!
high voltage...when we touch....when we ki.....
Couldn't resist.... "I was thinking that exact song! | |||
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"It would be like when fifty shades came out and suddenly every man was a Dom and knew everything about it. A whole load of wannabes would emerge, car keys in hand declaring themselves to be swingers but with a million rules and complaints about no one meeting their expectations. You'd be well famous "I hope not. People know me because I'm here a lot, I get unsettled when there's too many newbies at once, I'd probably leave. | |||
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"The amount of people though. Ugh. It would be trendy. People would think they're so hip and proudly declare "I was on fab before 2019" and then reel off their real swinger credentials to prove they are not a noob. We get this in the kink scene. "I was kinky before 50 shades". My response is congratulations on being old. They love that "It's such a daft declaration isn't it? In an ideal world people will embrace others (twats not included) and be happy others are showing interest and wanting to explore. How and when someone reaches that destination doesn't make them better than others. | |||
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" danger danger!
high voltage...when we touch....when we ki.....
Couldn't resist....
I was thinking that exact song! "
High Five to that GK!!! | |||
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"It would be like when fifty shades came out and suddenly every man was a Dom and knew everything about it. A whole load of wannabes would emerge, car keys in hand declaring themselves to be swingers but with a million rules and complaints about no one meeting their expectations. You'd be well famous
I hope not. People know me because I'm here a lot, I get unsettled when there's too many newbies at once, I'd probably leave. "I think you may  But I'd rather you stayed. You are here a lot, like me. What you say is often worth listening to though, you've a good sense of humour and those cracking great norks would be sorely missed. | |||
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"I like smaller crowds. I imagine there will become faction groups, based on interests. It may help in finding what we're all looking for, though some people, I guess, will join them all so as not miss out on anything." I like it as it is too.. I'm just doing a hypothetical/alternate history kind of a question. My favourite type to get creative grey matter bouncing. | |||
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"The amount of people though. Ugh. It would be trendy. People would think they're so hip and proudly declare "I was on fab before 2019" and then reel off their real swinger credentials to prove they are not a noob. We get this in the kink scene. "I was kinky before 50 shades". My response is congratulations on being old. They love that
It's such a daft declaration isn't it? In an ideal world people will embrace others (twats not included) and be happy others are showing interest and wanting to explore. How and when someone reaches that destination doesn't make them better than others. "This is why youd be famous  | |||
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"Like Scooters, 50Shades, Vikings, Game of Thrones, Retro, Vintage.. What if Fab became not only Mainstream.. but The next big Fad. How would it change things? Would it be better? Worse? Would forum change at all? Would we end up with some sexual celebrities with enough followers to take on the Kardashians? Would it change your experience at all?" nope I'd still waste some time here | |||
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" danger danger!
high voltage...when we touch....when we ki.....
Couldn't resist....
I was thinking that exact song!
High Five to that GK!!! "*The Horde High5's you back* DANGER! DANGER! HIGH VOLTAAAAAGE! | |||
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"I would probably leave, I don't really like people that do things because it's now a fashionable thing to do, when they would've turned their nose up at it before "I'm more with Meli. | |||
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"The amount of people though. Ugh. It would be trendy. People would think they're so hip and proudly declare "I was on fab before 2019" and then reel off their real swinger credentials to prove they are not a noob. We get this in the kink scene. "I was kinky before 50 shades". My response is congratulations on being old. They love that
It's such a daft declaration isn't it? In an ideal world people will embrace others (twats not included) and be happy others are showing interest and wanting to explore. How and when someone reaches that destination doesn't make them better than others. "Absolutely. | |||
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The only difference I can see it making to my fab existence is that there would be more people but less that understand the complexities of the dynamics involved. | |||
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As it stands, there's a self-selecting good mix of people here, from those who are actively in the swinging scene, to others who want social or sexual engagement. People influenced because it's the new right thing to be doing would add little but hassle - I might enjoy sex with some but it's probably at a high cost of site and membership quality | |||
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"I can guess that it would be worse than now, as airheads would swamp the place, making it tougher to find good matches. And the forum would be swamped by even more men who struggle with getting instant or any sex
As it stands, there's a self-selecting good mix of people here, from those who are actively in the swinging scene, to others who want social or sexual engagement. People influenced because it's the new right thing to be doing would add little but hassle - I might enjoy sex with some but it's probably at a high cost of site and membership quality "Maybe more air heads initially.. but there also be a lot more in depth analysis and public commentary. Services rising to cater for people who struggle. In time people would be more knowledgeable as a group than they are now.. Maybe? | |||
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"I would probably leave. Never wanted to be famous or anything it brings with it Start a separate site for those that wish to remain private about their ways " I'm sure there would be lots of copycat sites to run too. | |||
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It wouldn’t have any impact on me as I am deep in background, some forum folk might make it to fame and fortune but most swingers do it quietly without feeling the need to shout from the rooftops | |||
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"The divorce rate would probably go up but so would peoples sexual confidence I suppose, make it main stream and people won’t think they are weird anymore because they had ideas outside of the “vanilla”
It wouldn’t have any impact on me as I am deep in background, some forum folk might make it to fame and fortune but most swingers do it quietly without feeling the need to shout from the rooftops "You comment enough to be noticed though.. your experience may change against your wishes. You may have to take Action to continue as you are.. Or leave like others have said they would. | |||
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"I would probably leave. Never wanted to be famous or anything it brings with it Start a separate site for those that wish to remain private about their ways I'm sure there would be lots of copycat sites to run too. " More than likely, but one is enough  | |||
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"I don't think it would change the fact that I still can't get a reply to messages. So nah its not going to make it any better for single men. " the gender balance would change if it went off like Game of Thrones or something similar in popularity. There would be more women on Fab. | |||
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"Celebrity status eh? GMF for the next series of Strictly? Can I be paired with Amy Dowden please?... " Since the strictly budget is now greatly reduced and full of ‘has beens’ id say you’d fit right in! | |||
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"?" Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. | |||
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"The divorce rate would probably go up but so would peoples sexual confidence I suppose, make it main stream and people won’t think they are weird anymore because they had ideas outside of the “vanilla”
It wouldn’t have any impact on me as I am deep in background, some forum folk might make it to fame and fortune but most swingers do it quietly without feeling the need to shout from the rooftops
You comment enough to be noticed though.. your experience may change against your wishes. You may have to take Action to continue as you are.. Or leave like others have said they would.
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"Is fab already a BIG THING? Most of the guys here think there’s is "I don't think it is. I mean if it went not only mainstream.. but trending overnight. | |||
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"The divorce rate would probably go up but so would peoples sexual confidence I suppose, make it main stream and people won’t think they are weird anymore because they had ideas outside of the “vanilla”
It wouldn’t have any impact on me as I am deep in background, some forum folk might make it to fame and fortune but most swingers do it quietly without feeling the need to shout from the rooftops
You comment enough to be noticed though.. your experience may change against your wishes. You may have to take Action to continue as you are.. Or leave like others have said they would.
It would make interesting viewing tho "I think so.. it'd be pretty cool to see sex talked about so openly. Possibly by people we know. | |||
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"Don’t think it’d changed me at all. Already scarred for life... You are also a prolific and popular poster at the moment. It may open doors for you like ones I mentioned above." Had to laugh. I’m not popular Ghengis and don't require fame in any form. | |||
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"? Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. " What is so hard to grasp? If Fab became as big as Football overnight.. The Forum is part of Fab. Yes it's not as widely used, but you'd have trending and popular people within that new environment. Pundits, players, news, gossip.. and people making lots of money off the back of it. It stands to reason that some of the Cast of the Current Forum may become heroes, rolemodels.. or villains. Initially at least.. till new views and new personalities come along and replace them. | |||
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"Don’t think it’d changed me at all. Already scarred for life... You are also a prolific and popular poster at the moment. It may open doors for you like ones I mentioned above. Had to laugh. I’m not popular Ghengis and don't require fame in any form. "It's not about wanting or not wanting Fame. Popularity may come knocking whether you want it, or not. I'm talking football level fanaticism. First wave of celebrities would have to come from what already exists. Popularity is also subjective. You may not think you are, I might, public would make up it's own mind. | |||
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"? Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. What is so hard to grasp? If Fab became as big as Football overnight.. The Forum is part of Fab. Yes it's not as widely used, but you'd have trending and popular people within that new environment. Pundits, players, news, gossip.. and people making lots of money off the back of it. It stands to reason that some of the Cast of the Current Forum may become heroes, rolemodels.. or villains. Initially at least.. till new views and new personalities come along and replace them." Maybe my ego just isn't big enough to imagine a world where people of the forum are viewed as celebrities. No matter how popular they think they are now. If the forum is flooded with new input their voices will mostly be lost. Like the rest of us. | |||
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"i'd treat it as the same... just cos your favourite band makes it big, doesn't mean you have to consider them sell outs and dump them, same ish thing with here i guess "Some do sell out though But if you're the type of person who already has some fan favourites in here.. then you could look at in another light. For those who chose to embrace the opportunity fame brings.. youd get to see a lot more of them.
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"? Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. What is so hard to grasp? If Fab became as big as Football overnight.. The Forum is part of Fab. Yes it's not as widely used, but you'd have trending and popular people within that new environment. Pundits, players, news, gossip.. and people making lots of money off the back of it. It stands to reason that some of the Cast of the Current Forum may become heroes, rolemodels.. or villains. Initially at least.. till new views and new personalities come along and replace them. Maybe my ego just isn't big enough to imagine a world where people of the forum are viewed as celebrities. No matter how popular they think they are now. If the forum is flooded with new input their voices will mostly be lost. Like the rest of us. " Maybe it's my ego.. but I can't help but feel that's another poorly veiled attack. | |||
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"I don't see Fab going main stream any time soon as it has been mentioned a few times on TV and also a couple of years back was a main story in a woman's magazine and nothing really came of it then. But as they say "watch this space" " oh i dont think so either.. secretive nature of lifestyle kind of makes it predetermined not to be. I dont really want it to be. I'm just being hypothetically curious. | |||
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"? Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. What is so hard to grasp? If Fab became as big as Football overnight.. The Forum is part of Fab. Yes it's not as widely used, but you'd have trending and popular people within that new environment. Pundits, players, news, gossip.. and people making lots of money off the back of it. It stands to reason that some of the Cast of the Current Forum may become heroes, rolemodels.. or villains. Initially at least.. till new views and new personalities come along and replace them. Maybe my ego just isn't big enough to imagine a world where people of the forum are viewed as celebrities. No matter how popular they think they are now. If the forum is flooded with new input their voices will mostly be lost. Like the rest of us. Maybe it's my ego.. but I can't help but feel that's another poorly veiled attack. " Just accept I have differing views to you rather than claiming personal attack everytime I comment? | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. " I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. " No.. I still get piss taken by friends and older generation. | |||
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"? Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. What is so hard to grasp? If Fab became as big as Football overnight.. The Forum is part of Fab. Yes it's not as widely used, but you'd have trending and popular people within that new environment. Pundits, players, news, gossip.. and people making lots of money off the back of it. It stands to reason that some of the Cast of the Current Forum may become heroes, rolemodels.. or villains. Initially at least.. till new views and new personalities come along and replace them. Maybe my ego just isn't big enough to imagine a world where people of the forum are viewed as celebrities. No matter how popular they think they are now. If the forum is flooded with new input their voices will mostly be lost. Like the rest of us. Maybe it's my ego.. but I can't help but feel that's another poorly veiled attack. Just accept I have differing views to you rather than claiming personal attack everytime I comment?" Maybe it's the way you say it? But ok then. I will do. I think initially some forum names would become famous overnight, you included. I think it'd be inevitable. I'm just interested to know how each of us thinks about it. It probably wouldn't last long as new people filled it up, but I'd be interested to hear why you think there wouldn't be any forum celebs in a Fab/Football world. We may not be Messi and Ronaldo level players.. maybe more niche.. than that. I'm not saying I want that, just asking you how youd feel about it? | |||
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"? Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. What is so hard to grasp? If Fab became as big as Football overnight.. The Forum is part of Fab. Yes it's not as widely used, but you'd have trending and popular people within that new environment. Pundits, players, news, gossip.. and people making lots of money off the back of it. It stands to reason that some of the Cast of the Current Forum may become heroes, rolemodels.. or villains. Initially at least.. till new views and new personalities come along and replace them. Maybe my ego just isn't big enough to imagine a world where people of the forum are viewed as celebrities. No matter how popular they think they are now. If the forum is flooded with new input their voices will mostly be lost. Like the rest of us. " You're absolutely right. If you read other threads you'll see these people actually believe they can fight some of the world's greatest predators to the death too! Clearly deluded | |||
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"I'd welcome the fresh perspective to the forum. I'm seriously laughing at sexual celebrities. Some think they already are
The only difference I can see it making to my fab existence is that there would be more people but less that understand the complexities of the dynamics involved."Yep, issues around respect and consent are difficult enough already. I imagine there will be even more entitled people bring demanding and not getting just because we are on here and both like kink x, y or z we are going to meet let alone fuck. | |||
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"? Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. What is so hard to grasp? If Fab became as big as Football overnight.. The Forum is part of Fab. Yes it's not as widely used, but you'd have trending and popular people within that new environment. Pundits, players, news, gossip.. and people making lots of money off the back of it. It stands to reason that some of the Cast of the Current Forum may become heroes, rolemodels.. or villains. Initially at least.. till new views and new personalities come along and replace them. Maybe my ego just isn't big enough to imagine a world where people of the forum are viewed as celebrities. No matter how popular they think they are now. If the forum is flooded with new input their voices will mostly be lost. Like the rest of us. Maybe it's my ego.. but I can't help but feel that's another poorly veiled attack. Just accept I have differing views to you rather than claiming personal attack everytime I comment? Maybe it's the way you say it? But ok then. I will do. I think initially some forum names would become famous overnight, you included. I think it'd be inevitable. I'm just interested to know how each of us thinks about it. It probably wouldn't last long as new people filled it up, but I'd be interested to hear why you think there wouldn't be any forum celebs in a Fab/Football world. We may not be Messi and Ronaldo level players.. maybe more niche.. than that. I'm not saying I want that, just asking you how youd feel about it?" I don't see how new users will pick up instantly who the "celebrities" are. And as you say will very quickly be replaced by new people. I think it will be far more welcoming with so many new people...and less feeling of like your gatecrashing a private party. I very much would welcome that. You could have differing views without being accused of "attacking". (That was a jokey "attack" for the record x) | |||
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It wouldn’t have any impact on me as I am deep in background, some forum folk might make it to fame and fortune but most swingers do it quietly without feeling the need to shout from the rooftops "Would the divorce rate go up? If it was part of a cultural shift where people were open about sex, sexuality, jealousy and desire it might make some couples happier. | |||
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"It would be awful with all those vanilla people and their hangups "It would be great for those kinksters who don’t know there are outlets. I live in a large city and it took me until I was in my 30s to realise there was a whole scene of like minded people out there. | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. No.. I still get piss taken by friends and older generation." Friends were invented to take the piss out of each other! | |||
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"The divorce rate would probably go up but so would peoples sexual confidence I suppose, make it main stream and people won’t think they are weird anymore because they had ideas outside of the “vanilla”
It wouldn’t have any impact on me as I am deep in background, some forum folk might make it to fame and fortune but most swingers do it quietly without feeling the need to shout from the rooftops
Would the divorce rate go up? If it was part of a cultural shift where people were open about sex, sexuality, jealousy and desire it might make some couples happier. "See the bit where I said “but so would peoples sexual confidence” ? | |||
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"I'm not understanding the whole fame idea. Why would current users become "famous"? Sorry I of course refer to the "popular" posters. I'm not getting ideas above my stations. What is so hard to grasp? If Fab became as big as Football overnight.. The Forum is part of Fab. Yes it's not as widely used, but you'd have trending and popular people within that new environment. Pundits, players, news, gossip.. and people making lots of money off the back of it. It stands to reason that some of the Cast of the Current Forum may become heroes, rolemodels.. or villains. Initially at least.. till new views and new personalities come along and replace them. Maybe my ego just isn't big enough to imagine a world where people of the forum are viewed as celebrities. No matter how popular they think they are now. If the forum is flooded with new input their voices will mostly be lost. Like the rest of us. You're absolutely right. If you read other threads you'll see these people actually believe they can fight some of the world's greatest predators to the death too! Clearly deluded "Funny though | |||
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"I'd welcome the fresh perspective to the forum. I'm seriously laughing at sexual celebrities. Some think they already are
The only difference I can see it making to my fab existence is that there would be more people but less that understand the complexities of the dynamics involved.
Yep, issues around respect and consent are difficult enough already. I imagine there will be even more entitled people bring demanding and not getting just because we are on here and both like kink x, y or z we are going to meet let alone fuck. " | |||
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"Like Scooters, 50Shades, Vikings, Game of Thrones, Retro, Vintage.. What if Fab became not only Mainstream.. but The next big Fad. How would it change things? Would it be better? Worse? Would forum change at all? Would we end up with some sexual celebrities with enough followers to take on the Kardashians? Would it change your experience at all?" might get my hands on my celebrity crush ... Nick Frost  | |||
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"i'd treat it as the same... just cos your favourite band makes it big, doesn't mean you have to consider them sell outs and dump them, same ish thing with here i guess
Some do sell out though But if you're the type of person who already has some fan favourites in here.. then you could look at in another light. For those who chose to embrace the opportunity fame brings.. youd get to see a lot more of them.
That also applies to the Katy Hopkins like people who do so live to attack others.. so its win-loss "some i guess do! i'm not sure if i have favourites in here as it were buy yeah there are those on the forums who i think are ok..i'm lucky enough to have met a few of them already over the years though so i guess i could be the 'before they were famous' guy, that could be interesting
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"IMHO it would become shitter. There would be loads merely "trying it out" and as a result the ratio of newbies who didn't have a clue against those who "got it" would go waaaaay up... Cue lots more shit messages being received, lots more time wasters, etc, etc... Let's stay mostly under the radar thanks!
B"Although then again it might actually give me a platform to start a writing career and P an agony aunt's slot for a living, so swings and roundabouts...
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. No.. I still get piss taken by friends and older generation." There's definitely not a stigma in my generation though, it may just not have reached all ages yet. I agree to disagree because since there's no stigma for my generation, when I do see a 40 something year old on Tinder or a dating app I do prejudicially think "this is a young'uns place what are they trying here" .. | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. No.. I still get piss taken by friends and older generation. There's definitely not a stigma in my generation though, it may just not have reached all ages yet. I agree to disagree because since there's no stigma for my generation, when I do see a 40 something year old on Tinder or a dating app I do prejudicially think "this is a young'uns place what are they trying here" .." Yeah it's because you're old Ghengis! | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. No.. I still get piss taken by friends and older generation. There's definitely not a stigma in my generation though, it may just not have reached all ages yet. I agree to disagree because since there's no stigma for my generation, when I do see a 40 something year old on Tinder or a dating app I do prejudicially think "this is a young'uns place what are they trying here" .." It's a fair comment from the other generation tbf. You're bound to think that in some degree, the same as it will be thought of you "What is he doing on here, actually writing full sentences instead of just swiping left and right and sending the odd 'ur fit wuu2' ? " The same answer is applicable to each instance; although the majority will conform to each stereotype as they're there for a reason, there are people in each generation who break the mould and refuse to be governed by their contemporaries in every regard. In another separate point, this is a very thought provoking question Ghengis has offered, though if it emerged as a fad or next big thing, once that fad had faded the numbers would still be massively increased on what they were previously due to the amount who had tried it and realised it WAS for them that wouldn't have otherwise. It fits one think tanks prediction that over 50% of the UK will be swingers in one form or another by 2050...
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"I would become insufferable, being able to add being on Fab before it was ‘a thing’ to add to my list of bearded, craft ale drinking coffee connoisseurbefore everyone else was! " Brilliantly honest | |||
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"IMHO it would become shitter. There would be loads merely "trying it out" and as a result the ratio of newbies who didn't have a clue against those who "got it" would go waaaaay up... Cue lots more shit messages being received, lots more time wasters, etc, etc... Let's stay mostly under the radar thanks!
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"IMHO it would become shitter. There would be loads merely "trying it out" and as a result the ratio of newbies who didn't have a clue against those who "got it" would go waaaaay up... Cue lots more shit messages being received, lots more time wasters, etc, etc... Let's stay mostly under the radar thanks!
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Although then again it might actually give me a platform to start a writing career and P an agony aunt's slot for a living, so swings and roundabouts...
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"Would there need to be a fab Big Brother show or a fab Bakeoff" Ofcourse.. well.. fab B list celebs along with Other B list celebs | |||
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"It already had become the next "Big Thing". I've been on here on and off a few years now (different profiles) and noticed that recently there has been a large increase in people in and around work, mentioning and talking about local clubs and the site as if it's a naughty secret they've just stumbled across. Even happened to see someone in work the other day, casually scrolling through a profile as they walked through the office." I've not seen that yet.. I used to work for a haulage company that employed over 100 drivers.. not many of them knew about Fab till I told them... so they played it. | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. No.. I still get piss taken by friends and older generation. There's definitely not a stigma in my generation though, it may just not have reached all ages yet. I agree to disagree because since there's no stigma for my generation, when I do see a 40 something year old on Tinder or a dating app I do prejudicially think "this is a young'uns place what are they trying here" .." Because we like sex and love as much as you lot.. whaddya think? the urge just disappears | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. No.. I still get piss taken by friends and older generation. There's definitely not a stigma in my generation though, it may just not have reached all ages yet. I agree to disagree because since there's no stigma for my generation, when I do see a 40 something year old on Tinder or a dating app I do prejudicially think "this is a young'uns place what are they trying here" .. Yeah it's because you're old Ghengis! "... Some younger women like some older men I'll have you know! | |||
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"Hmmm if swinging and Fab went mainstream I think I'd just carry on as normal doing my thing and quietly going about my business. I don't honestly think a great deal would change, apart from number of users, and there certainly wouldn't be "celebrity" swingers based on anything other than perhaps the pushy few who craved and sought the attention - much the same as any of the "celebrities" there currently are who aren't known for anything other than somehow being a celebrity. You'd still get the same attitudes and expectations etc and cries of time waster and fake blah de blah" You'd be the Fab Phillip Schofield. Or a Fab Jeremy Vine | |||
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"Ten years ago when we got together neither of us knew much ( if anything ) about swinging. A year later we went dogging for the first time, and it seemed so thrilling and naughty! We heard about fab from someone we met while dogging, joined up and the rest is history. Back then there were half as many people on here. There seems to be regularly be upwards of 32,000 online these days. So I think swinging has become much more mainstream over the last ten years, regularly featuring in the media and press. And there are plenty of sites catering for casual sex hook ups. It’s partly for this reason that it’s lost it’s appeal somewhat for us. I’ve always said that if everyone did it would it be any fun any more? And if it’s no fun then why bother? That’s where we are, and 18 months after stopping we don’t miss it at all. Of course the fact that we had pretty much done everything we wanted to do could have had something to do with it, but I genuinely think the fact that it’s a taboo is part of the appeal." Hello stranger.. I wonder that myself.. some thing I found incredibly exciting came to be because I found them ultra taboo as a younger, or more inexperienced person. Once the taboo lost its hold.. through experience or personal growth.. the kink died a bit. Fortunately I'm very much a fan of great vanilla sex with new and exciting people or tried and tested friends. | |||
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"Ten years ago when we got together neither of us knew much ( if anything ) about swinging. A year later we went dogging for the first time, and it seemed so thrilling and naughty! We heard about fab from someone we met while dogging, joined up and the rest is history. Back then there were half as many people on here. There seems to be regularly be upwards of 32,000 online these days. So I think swinging has become much more mainstream over the last ten years, regularly featuring in the media and press. And there are plenty of sites catering for casual sex hook ups. It’s partly for this reason that it’s lost it’s appeal somewhat for us. I’ve always said that if everyone did it would it be any fun any more? And if it’s no fun then why bother? That’s where we are, and 18 months after stopping we don’t miss it at all. Of course the fact that we had pretty much done everything we wanted to do could have had something to do with it, but I genuinely think the fact that it’s a taboo is part of the appeal. Hello stranger.. I wonder that myself.. some thing I found incredibly exciting came to be because I found them ultra taboo as a younger, or more inexperienced person. Once the taboo lost its hold.. through experience or personal growth.. the kink died a bit. Fortunately I'm very much a fan of great vanilla sex with new and exciting people or tried and tested friends. " | |||
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"I can guess that it would be worse than now, as airheads would swamp the place, making it tougher to find good matches. And the forum would be swamped by even more men who struggle with getting instant or any sex
As it stands, there's a self-selecting good mix of people here, from those who are actively in the swinging scene, to others who want social or sexual engagement. People influenced because it's the new right thing to be doing would add little but hassle - I might enjoy sex with some but it's probably at a high cost of site and membership quality
Maybe more air heads initially.. but there also be a lot more in depth analysis and public commentary. Services rising to cater for people who struggle. In time people would be more knowledgeable as a group than they are now.. Maybe?"I do agree that there would be some positives, like you have covered but if fab remained the solitary solution as the new big thing, the millions of new people would likely suffocate much that is great here. Some of them will just be motivated by doing this new big thing, rather differently to the overall mix of people now. Fab would obviously need to spend lots more money, potentially getting huge profits but I'm reluctant to think that such success would drive site improvements to the extent that would even match current needs. Other services and support could definitely come, as you cover. The problem with something becoming the new big thing is that fads change and it could be a whirlwind or hurricane effect, wiping much out, before the people move on, without a care for any impacts that they may have had, as they leave the damage behind them - and I do think that there would be damage. Small businesses are easily brought to catastrophe, by circumstances outside of their control. | |||
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"Like Scooters, 50Shades, Vikings, Game of Thrones, Retro, Vintage.. What if Fab became not only Mainstream.. but The next big Fad. How would it change things? Would it be better? Worse? Would forum change at all? Would we end up with some sexual celebrities with enough followers to take on the Kardashians? Would it change your experience at all?" Everything will be the same x10. The rations of men:women:couples will remain same. The success:failure ratio will remain same. Fab is already big in number but will never become any more mainstream than it is as open minded sex is still not as open to society lol | |||
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"I would become insufferable, being able to add being on Fab before it was ‘a thing’ to add to my list of bearded, craft ale drinking coffee connoisseurbefore everyone else was! Brilliantly honest "Thanks Ghenkis! I was taking the piss, both out of myself and the whole ‘I was doing this years ago’ mentality. Obviously I am *never* insufferable! | |||
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"I thought about this recently too, would swinging change if it went mainstream. Fab and swinging seems a bit like a secret society of things. If it came out into the lime light and you knew almost all your friends irl were on it and swung, would it be any different from Tinder? A lot of people here feel there's a stigma behind swinging and they make sure to not let anyone know about this part of them, I'm sure that stigma would be lifted and people would be more open about it if it went mainstream. There is stigma attached to online dating. I cant see it happening any time soon. I thought the stigma of online dating disappeared about 8 years ago. No.. I still get piss taken by friends and older generation. There's definitely not a stigma in my generation though, it may just not have reached all ages yet. I agree to disagree because since there's no stigma for my generation, when I do see a 40 something year old on Tinder or a dating app I do prejudicially think "this is a young'uns place what are they trying here" .. Yeah it's because you're old Ghengis!
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