FabSwingers.com forum: Traits you admire

By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.

Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you.

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By *atisfying jackMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.

Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you. "

Honesty and integrity

Empathy

Selfless

If you have those then halfway to being a decent human being.

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Patience. With kids, with idiots, with arrogant ppl, I just don't have much but when I see others calm and collected and cool I know its the right way to be.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.

Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you.

Honesty and integrity

Empathy

Selfless

If you have those then halfway to being a decent human being."

Well that summed it up perfectly. So what this gentleman said

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I admire people who seem to be unflappable. They deal with the serious shit without anxiety. (I also - not really - hate the bastards because I bloody can't)

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

And people who are themselves. Honest, forthright, vulnerable if needs be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passion, humour, loyalty.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Honesty and integrity

Empathy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.

Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you. "

Quiet, calm, collected people. I'm like a whirlwind in all aspects of my personality. I long to be the quiet person taking it all in, instead of the loud one!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.

Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you.

Quiet, calm, collected people. I'm like a whirlwind in all aspects of my personality. I long to be the quiet person taking it all in, instead of the loud one! "

I admire the whirlwinds! How on earth do you do it?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The willingness to stand alone for something you believe in.

Compassion.

And what the half decent human chappy mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will power and drive im a lazy twat nowadays keep meaning to go the gym but i just cant be bothered anymore its boring if i dont see instant results i fuck it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire people who seem to be unflappable. They deal with the serious shit without anxiety. (I also - not really - hate the bastards because I bloody can't) "

For me that depends who's shit it is. Other peoples and I'm a proper mumma bear and calm. My own shit.... hell no!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I admire people who seem to be unflappable. They deal with the serious shit without anxiety. (I also - not really - hate the bastards because I bloody can't)

For me that depends who's shit it is. Other peoples and I'm a proper mumma bear and calm. My own shit.... hell no!

I'm getting that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who seize the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who fart in the toilet so u get an echo sound like your in the ocean with a hump back whale makes you feel like dori

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Someone who sticks to their convictions and isn't swayed by public opinion or people's perceptions

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Confidence and manners are nice to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big cocks! Oh no that’s me (as in I am not I have)

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I admire people who are unashamedly authentic. And those who truly listen to others and give time to them when in need.

I'm trying to work on doing the latter.

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By *ilveryFoxMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Honesty

Empathy

Loyalty

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Oh and people who stick to what they say. That means a lot to me. I respect and admire those people greatly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who are strong enough to show their vulnerability, people with integrity and those who will go that extra mile to do the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience. With kids, with idiots, with arrogant ppl, I just don't have much but when I see others calm and collected and cool I know its the right way to be. "

I fail when it comes to arrogant people!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Patience. With kids, with idiots, with arrogant ppl, I just don't have much but when I see others calm and collected and cool I know its the right way to be.

I fail when it comes to arrogant people!

Ooh god yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is king for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who know they're "different" but don't hide it.... they own it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kindness and respect towards anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who've faced adversity, and sometimes look it dead in the eye but can still look for the good in things.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"People who know they're "different" but don't hide it.... they own it

And work it to the advantage of those around them and themselves. Definitely.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Those that have experienced the darkness of life yet still strive to bring light to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loyalty. Kindness. Calmness. A genuine caring heart with nothing but goodness to give. Passion.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

So many things - loyalty, integrity, respectfullness, empathy, the ability to see the bigger picture and offer wisdom as a result, those who are confident in their beliefs and convictions even in the face of adversity.

Those who listen but don't feel the need to pontificate.

Those who don't constantly seek validation, or consider themselves superior

I could be here all day

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By *eviant KnightMan
over a year ago

Norton

Kindness,

Always be kind to one another, you never know what other people are going through

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Honesty and kindness

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I admire and appreciate curiosity. Wanting to know more about things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Those that have experienced the darkness of life yet still strive to bring light to others. "
good to see you returned to the fold

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Straight talking

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By *oldentungMan
over a year ago

herne

Sum bludy eddycated peeps in ere innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.

Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you.

Quiet, calm, collected people. I'm like a whirlwind in all aspects of my personality. I long to be the quiet person taking it all in, instead of the loud one!

I admire the whirlwinds! How on earth do you do it?! "

The only positive of it is that it comes with honesty because there is no time to make up lies! Otherwise it's a burden

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Positivity, consistency and loyalty. I also admire tactful honesty and by that I mean expressing opinions on personal matters only when it's asked for or really required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres this girl right .....

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Honesty and integrity. I also admire people that don't need or seek the validation of others, that are confident enough in themselves as a person to go against popular opinion.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Honesty and integrity. I also admire people that don't need or seek the validation of others, that are confident enough in themselves as a person to go against popular opinion."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

humble/modest

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By *ommickMan
over a year ago

cork

Big smiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vulnerability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire honesty, courage, creativity, imagination, ingenuity, dedication, trustworthiness, integrity, willingness to be vulnerable in order to be authentic, confidence, willingness to listen and learn, perseverance, flexibility, inclusiveness, friendliness, compassion, empathy, humility,

That’ll do for a starter for ten.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire people who seem to be unflappable. They deal with the serious shit without anxiety. (I also - not really - hate the bastards because I bloody can't)

For me that depends who's shit it is. Other peoples and I'm a proper mumma bear and calm. My own shit.... hell no!

I'm getting that way

See I think there's a large amount of that in a lot of people? It's like the pressure is off when it's others' shit as you're just "helping out?" Your input is greatly appreciated, but is seen as a bonus, no expectations, so as such the lack of pressure means more likely in my own experience I can exceed whatever expectations there may have been anyway?

When it's your own shit, potential for flappery is much more evident!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire people who can associate one word with another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire people who can associate one word with another."

Additional

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve read all these admired traits particularly those that are values rather just a capability, or aspect of our personality type, including those that I put in my post. The thing that struck me and pained me was the recognition of how frequently I don’t live those values.

The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Courage

Willpower

Compassion for others

Positivity in the face of adversity

Confidence but not arrogance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence,

Rationality

Manners

Selflessness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire people who can let things roll off their backs.

People who find the light through the cracks

People who can laugh at themselves

People who are unapologetically themselves

People who like to be the weird, the funny, the awkward

People who accept themselves

People who strive to explore themselves and their thoughts and learn

People who are curious

People who are adventurous

People who stand alone with their convictions no matter what others think

People who can do projects without making messes

People who can make pretty cakes

People who don’t overthink

People who give without thinking about it.

I will stop now.

Oh wait... people who are succinct

-Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post also really made my day, for many reasons so thank you very much for starting it

-mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spontaneity

adventurous

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

List the things you admire, then list attributes of the politician you vote for and see if they line up.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I’ve read all these admired traits particularly those that are values rather just a capability, or aspect of our personality type, including those that I put in my post. The thing that struck me and pained me was the recognition of how frequently I don’t live those values.

The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak."

Yes, that's similar to the thoughts I had about my own posts. I think recognising and working on it is a good step though (in a not patronising way!).

I've thought a lot recently (thanks studying) about traits, conversational styles etc and I think embracing particular traits and discarding certain flaws is definitely a way forward. You can do that while remaining true to who you are I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

Yes, that's similar to the thoughts I had about my own posts. I think recognising and working on it is a good step though (in a not patronising way!).

I see it as jousting with my fallen nature. I think we develop habits earlier in life when we are less self aware. Some that are harder to overcome than others. Radical acceptance means for me that I accept and forgive myself for those habits that I struggle to transform whilst changing what I can. Despite the inner conflict my hypocrises create I understand them and no longer dislike myself because of them. They are the very essence of the human condition for me. However to fight those things as if they were somehow outside myself only serves to reinforce them. I don’t how to discard a flaw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire people who are honest, true to themselves and those who stand up for their beliefs. Kindness, compassion and empathy also on the list

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"However to fight those things as if they were somehow outside myself only serves to reinforce them. I don’t how to discard a flaw. "

I don't see them as being outside of me (the flaws that is) but I do think that I can strive for self improvement.

I'm not entirely sure this will make any sense as I've had to take v. strong painkillers so it might end up being a stream of consciousness of sorts which is basically the standard Meli waffling let's be honest.

Perhaps discard wasn't quite the correct term. I think it's more a case of putting to rest one flaw? So if I'm aware it's come out (and given my tendency to overthink that's quite likely) I alter my behaviour/responses to try and prevent it from occuring again. I've had quite good success at that.

Going back to the working on the positive traits - I try and adopt a similar approach. Sometimes I just do rather than think too much and things turn out nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"However to fight those things as if they were somehow outside myself only serves to reinforce them. I don’t how to discard a flaw.

I don't see them as being outside of me (the flaws that is) but I do think that I can strive for self improvement.

Going back to the working on the positive traits - I try and adopt a similar approach. Sometimes I just do rather than think too much and things turn out nicely."

Right I understand - that’s what I call jousting with my consciousness- remaining more vigilant when I know I’m likely to slip.

When I talk about seeing things as outside myself was when I used to project the things I disliked about myself onto others and fought against them as if they weren’t a part of me. I do that much less now but need to remain vigilant should my awareness slip. However I’m still prone to lapses. Some stuff I just don’t have the personal courage to address.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brevity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Brevity

Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking too much about other people's feelings.

I'm FAR too soft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Brevity

Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa

Sorry Doc

Think your first post said it best. If I could achieve all that then I would be much better than I am.

If I found someone who could match all that I would drag her off to the cave and make sure she never wanted to escape....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Integrity and authenticity.

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Authenticity, selflessness and a sense of passion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Brevity

Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa

Sorry Doc

Think your first post said it best. If I could achieve all that then I would be much better than I am.

If I found someone who could match all that I would drag her off to the cave and make sure she never wanted to escape....

I’ve accepted I’ll never live up to my ideals and nor will anyone else, those I admire most are those that recognise it really and are beautiful in all their glorious flaws and ‘sinfulness’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that can & do contain themselves.

Selfless.

Caring.

Passion for their importance in life. Actually love & admire this in a person.

Charismatic & Confident people without the ignorance or arrogance.

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By *ames in LaoisMan
over a year ago

portloaise

People who are unapologetically themselves and have the courage of their convistions, without needing to vilify others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a woman who is simply polite and doesn't look down on anyone.

basic things such as saying thank you, smiling and not walking around like her shit don't smell

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By *ames in LaoisMan
over a year ago

portloaise

*convictions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a woman who is simply polite and doesn't look down on anyone.

basic things such as saying thank you, smiling and not walking around like her shit don't smell "

Agreed!.. politeness & manners go along way! Very attractive in a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passion, it’s a big one for me. If you’re passionate about something, regardless of what it is, I am happy to get involved in some conversation, albeit I may have to dig a little deeper and research a little.

Humility, it’s something that I need to work on at times. Periods in my life I’ve been praised and put into a position where I can be smug about what my managers, peers and colleagues think of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)...."

Back then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....

Back then....

We'll see

(not sure there's much to stay for)

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....

Back then....

We'll see

(not sure there's much to stay for) "

Depends what your here for....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....

Back then....

We'll see

(not sure there's much to stay for)

Depends what your here for...."

Fun and giggles, nothing more xx

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....

Back then....

We'll see

(not sure there's much to stay for)

Depends what your here for....

Fun and giggles, nothing more xx"

I'm sure you'll be ok....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....

Back then....

We'll see

(not sure there's much to stay for)

Depends what your here for....

Fun and giggles, nothing more xx

I'm sure you'll be ok...."

Haha, Me2, I'm always OK xx

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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago

Warrington

Confidence without arrogance,

Manners without entitlement,

Certainty without fanatacism.

(Feel like a plusnet advert...)

But there are so many traits really

Most of all the ability to be a kind thoughtful human being

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Patience and kindness mostly, but i do admire those who are naturally outgoing being a shy wisp of a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loyalty above all else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A curious, open mind.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good manners and an irreverent sense of humour - have I just outlined the best kind of dinner party guest ?

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