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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Hey I’m new to the scene only done it once or twice before but loved it. However I don’t know if it’s my profile or my pictures but finding it hard to meet women on here. Any tips would be awesome!! ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just you i think we're doing something wrong too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has been shown by a serious study conducted by a bunch of scientist that people wearing green shirt struggle to get laid.

So I'd wear one with a more neutral colour such as yellow for instance X

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Believe it or not I have a yellow one on me while I’m here in turkey so I’ll get a new picture up. Cheers pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Believe it or not I have a yellow one on me while I’m here in turkey so I’ll get a new picture up. Cheers pal"

You are welcome x

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Believe it or not I have a yellow one on me while I’m here in turkey so I’ll get a new picture up. Cheers pal"

FFS ignore him....he,s broken....

It's harder for guys on fab, so maybe different pics, the ones you have are great but how about a variety, nice smile by the way...

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

For me;

- too young

- can't accommodate or doesn't explain if you do hotel meets

- photos ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Believe it or not I have a yellow one on me while I’m here in turkey so I’ll get a new picture up. Cheers pal

FFS ignore him....he,s broken....

It's harder for guys on fab, so maybe different pics, the ones you have are great but how about a variety, nice smile by the way..."

I don't it ?! all my bones work properly !

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Thing is though is most are looking for bbc or couples. It seems single men aren’t wanted or their types lol. May look at dying my hair from ginger to black and see if that helps lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could do with a bit more text on your profile. Let people know what you have to offer, give them an insight into what you're interested in. Good luck!

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Ah thanks for that I’ll add hotel meets on my profile. X

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Thanks hun. Xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is OP you've not said what you're doing for anyone to know if you're doing it wrong

Generally though there is no magic formula to Fab that works for everyone so it is about finding what works for you - contrary to what you perceive there are people out there looking for all sorts and not just couples or black guys - the key is finding those that match what you are looking for.

Generically the key to Fab for anyone, and especially single guys comes down to having the right attitude, approach and expectations and coupling that with a decent well written profile that makes you stand out and a set of pics that are enticing.

Get those right, and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience of the site.

If you find the site isn't working for you take a look at those and ask yourself what you could change? Could you re-write your profile to make it more appealing for instance? Are there better pics you could post? Would using the forums or chat rooms more be a way to go?

Single men often blame everything but themselves for their experience of Fab but more often than not the ability to improve that experience lies within their own hands

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Thanks Gemini I’ve re done my profile. I do have the right attitude though I just wanted some advice from all you experienced fabbers as to my profile and my pics. Some have pointed it out that mine was too short so hopefully it’s better than before. I’ll be adding more pics soon too. Haha xx

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Make sure you read someone’s profile before you message them. It saves time if they aren’t looking for the same thing as you or aren’t even looking at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say rather than trying to appeal to every women on fab be specific about what you really want.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Single guys getting meets on fab?The one who finds the solution to this problem and sells it will be filthy rich

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Thanks _iss sj tbh I do read the profiles though, some times I don’t know what to put in a first message haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks _iss sj tbh I do read the profiles though, some times I don’t know what to put in a first message haha. "

This is probably where the real problem lies. You come across as a great guy on this thread. Polite and willing to take advice.

However there are so many men to every women/couple on here that realistically they are only going to be able to respond to messages that stand out. Even if they could respond to every message that initial interest or spark will be lit from first contact.

This is generalising and not every couple/women will take this approach but after talking about it a lot with female friends on here I think this is the case most of the time.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"Thanks _iss sj tbh I do read the profiles though, some times I don’t know what to put in a first message haha. "

I beg to differ

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Thanks _iss sj tbh I do read the profiles though, some times I don’t know what to put in a first message haha.

I beg to differ "

Can't think what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks _iss sj tbh I do read the profiles though, some times I don’t know what to put in a first message haha.

I beg to differ "

This sounds factual

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Well I’ve added some new pics now so that hopefully will do something haha. I think I need to just persevere with it I reckon. In my first messages though all I’m writing is things like hi and fancy a chat etc. Should I be more up front and just say fancy a shag later hahaha ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I’ve added some new pics now so that hopefully will do something haha. I think I need to just persevere with it I reckon. In my first messages though all I’m writing is things like hi and fancy a chat etc. Should I be more up front and just say fancy a shag later hahaha ????"

Face palm

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

I am joking about the last part btw lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Well I’ve added some new pics now so that hopefully will do something haha. I think I need to just persevere with it I reckon. In my first messages though all I’m writing is things like hi and fancy a chat etc. Should I be more up front and just say fancy a shag later hahaha ????"

Thing is they might be new pics, but they're not particularly different from what you already had - kudos for putting your face out there, but you need to show a little creativity and give people a glimpse of more than just your face - there is so much you can achieve with a phone camera on timer these days - if you're stuck for ideas, don't be afraid to have a look at other well verified guys pics with a similar body to yours for inspiration of what might work for you.

Also you say you've updated your profile text, but to be honest it still doesn't read that well - think of your profile as your shop window, in which you have a chance to sell yourself, get some personality across, tell people a little about you and what you are looking for - now ask yourself if you were walking down the high street and saw your shop window, would you want to go inside to find out more or would the one two doors up belonging to the guy who had dressed it better be more appealing?

As for first messages, again there's not a catch all formula - but most people expect a little more than "hi" or "fancy a chat" it works for some but as those are amongst probably the most common messages sent it comes down to chance whether they'll get a response over something a little more detailed and eye catching.

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Cheers Gemini. I will get my profile right haha. Seriously though thanks for your advice

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I suggest you try and get a bit of humour into your profile text. It's very functional and doesn't show much personality. People are not attracted to a man by his availability. The want to meet a person. If they don't have any desire to meet you socially, they are likely to have less desire to invite you into their bedroom. Luke

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Cheers luke will try that now haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing is OP you've not said what you're doing for anyone to know if you're doing it wrong

Generally though there is no magic formula to Fab that works for everyone so it is about finding what works for you - contrary to what you perceive there are people out there looking for all sorts and not just couples or black guys - the key is finding those that match what you are looking for.

Generically the key to Fab for anyone, and especially single guys comes down to having the right attitude, approach and expectations and coupling that with a decent well written profile that makes you stand out and a set of pics that are enticing.

Get those right, and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience of the site.

If you find the site isn't working for you take a look at those and ask yourself what you could change? Could you re-write your profile to make it more appealing for instance? Are there better pics you could post? Would using the forums or chat rooms more be a way to go?

Single men often blame everything but themselves for their experience of Fab but more often than not the ability to improve that experience lies within their own hands "

This is spot on, I've been pretty fortunate when it comes to getting meets so stick in there, you're luck might change once females read your profile..good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been said before, but the thing is men are ten a penny and women are like gold dust online.

Trying to stand out and click with someone is never going to be easy.

Don't take it personal like it did. Since being here I've only recieved one wink from a lady and the only cold messages I recieved were from women who didn't agree with something I said in a forum.

But I think it's to be expected. I advise you to take the advice that I've been given and go to social events and meet people in real life, if it's for you.

Good luck.

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By *ay4realstr8TV/TS
over a year ago

hoyland


"Believe it or not I have a yellow one on me while I’m here in turkey so I’ll get a new picture up. Cheers pal

FFS ignore him....he,s broken....

It's harder for guys on fab, so maybe different pics, the ones you have are great but how about a variety, nice smile by the way..."

Haha haha lolzzz!!!! This made my day, best comment of the week

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hey I’m new to the scene only done it once or twice before but loved it. However I don’t know if it’s my profile or my pictures but finding it hard to meet women on here. Any tips would be awesome!! ??????"

Its not an outstanding profile but you are smiling in photos so added points for that.

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Again thank you everyone for your advice. It will keep on changing no doubt so bare with me haha. Anyone wants to chat and become friends etc then I’m cool with that too. Xx

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By *hawshank.Man
over a year ago

local


"It has been shown by a serious study conducted by a bunch of scientist that people wearing green shirt struggle to get laid.

So I'd wear one with a more neutral colour such as yellow for instance X

"

Your watching or reading way to much gossip programs or magazines

Lol

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By *hawshank.Man
over a year ago

local


"Again thank you everyone for your advice. It will keep on changing no doubt so bare with me haha. Anyone wants to chat and become friends etc then I’m cool with that too. Xx"

Only thing I can suggest is be urself and persevere

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By *lexdance27 OP   Man
over a year ago

hull

Cheers greenmi1e

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to meet aswell. Nobody wants my sausage and it really hurts my feelings A LOT

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By *hawshank.Man
over a year ago

local


"I find it hard to meet aswell. Nobody wants my sausage and it really hurts my feelings A LOT "

Finding a good bap for ur sausage is always hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it hard to meet aswell. Nobody wants my sausage and it really hurts my feelings A LOT

Finding a good bap for ur sausage is always hard "

I guess these wrenches on here don't like there muffins pumped with fresh sausage cream and there baps infused with cream of sumyounguy

Time wasters the lot of them

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By *hawshank.Man
over a year ago

local


"I find it hard to meet aswell. Nobody wants my sausage and it really hurts my feelings A LOT

Finding a good bap for ur sausage is always hard

I guess these wrenches on here don't like there muffins pumped with fresh sausage cream and there baps infused with cream of sumyounguy

Time wasters the lot of them "

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