FabSwingers.com forum: Fab vs non fab friends

By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

If you've been on fab a while, and have met people 1:1, at socials and / or clubs and have made numerous friends, are you able to balance those friendships with those outside of fab? Do you find yourself associating more with people you've met through here to the detriment of your "vanilla" friends? Or does it have no influence on whom you tend to associate with more?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

In all the time we've been on here we haven't made any friends that we meet personally. If we had I suspect that our social activities would be divided about equally between the two, although I reckon we might make a few comments to the non fab friends that would make them go

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't have any friends on here.

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I don't have any friends on here.

I'd pass you a box of tissues if I believed you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any friends on here.

Meli, we will all be your friends on here.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I don't have any friends on here.

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Awww Poor Meli

. Head massage required

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Being slightly more serious, I don't neglect my "vanilla friends" as such. I find the two overlap often for me anyway. But I do, to some extent, spend far more time and talk more openly to those who I've met through the site/socials/club nights. There's something incredibly liberating about being able to cast aside the prim and proper Meli that some know and talk freely on a range of topics without worrying about any negativity for doing so.

If it's something that concerns you OP, make a concerted effort to reach out to the vanilla folk. What with your well documented summer horn though I imagine you're quite content to indulge/discuss/do things to tittilate that at great leisure with fab friends.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I don't have any friends on here.

Meli, we will all be your friends on here. "

Aww thank you. I needed sympathy. It's nice to know there are true gentlemen around.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"If it's something that concerns you OP, make a concerted effort to reach out to the vanilla folk. What with your well documented summer horn though I imagine you're quite content to indulge/discuss/do things to tittilate that at great leisure with fab friends."

I forgot the emoji to indicate my tone. Here it is -

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Being slightly more serious, I don't neglect my "vanilla friends" as such. I find the two overlap often for me anyway. But I do, to some extent, spend far more time and talk more openly to those who I've met through the site/socials/club nights. There's something incredibly liberating about being able to cast aside the prim and proper Meli that some know and talk freely on a range of topics without worrying about any negativity for doing so.

Summer horn is well documented phenomena that affects many

I actually have reconnected with a couple of vanilla friends I hadn't spoken to in ages over the holidays and made me regret not keeping in touch more often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have fab friends which oddly enough I don't consider "fab" friends, just friends.

Other than that I have workmates.

I moved here in 2005 and never really made any friends since moving, only those I've met via fab since joining 3 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's a terrible thing to say but vanilla friend's bore me a bit

If I had to choose between a night out with fab friend's or non fab friend's it'd be fab friend's all the way, far better fun

(Mrs)

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I know it's a terrible thing to say but vanilla friend's bore me a bit

If I had to choose between a night out with fab friend's or non fab friend's it'd be fab friend's all the way, far better fun

(Mrs) "

I quite agree with you on that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult to engage with the school run convo when all they do is moan about boring life stuff.

All I'm thinking about is when I can next get out to a party or club lol.

Who cares wash power has gone up by 5p anyway

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I have friends on here I knew for years before I joined so it's all a bit blurred for me.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I don't have any friends on here.

Same question, but for sworn, mortal enemies

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I have friends on here I knew for years before I joined so it's all a bit blurred for me."

They corrupted you it seems

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

There are so many different types of friends and each one I need to juggle around my first priority, my lad

I have friends i went to school with and live all over the country and we try and see each other twice a year if we can.

I have friends I’ve met at work who I occasionally socialise with outside of work but rarely. We’ve all grown up and have family responsibilities and no one lives local to each other

I have my “brothers” who I see every week in the pub and they’ve kept me sane and laughing these last three years

Then there’s fab. In the short time I’ve been here I would say there are a couple I class as friends. We talk most days and I can talk about absolutely anything with them and be truly honest and open.

Friendship to me is a mixture of things, but true friends no matter how much or little you talk or see each other, the bond is there and when you do meet it’s like your just picking up from where you left off

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I have friends on here I knew for years before I joined so it's all a bit blurred for me.

They corrupted you it seems

Nah I was too far gone already to need any more corrupting!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's difficult as a wanderer to maintain commonality with people I've known and in some senses left behind. I've grown and changed so much and they haven't. My Fab friends are more recent and there's much more openness which I crave but can't get in other aspects of my life.

Or. It's hard sometimes.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

I only meet up with my online friends 3-4 times a year and when I meet up with them its usually over the weekend, I keep it simple if anyone asks and just say I'm meeting some old friends who live in the midlands, Saves any follow up questions from friends an family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you've been on fab a while, and have met people 1:1, at socials and / or clubs and have made numerous friends, are you able to balance those friendships with those outside of fab? Do you find yourself associating more with people you've met through here to the detriment of your "vanilla" friends? Or does it have no influence on whom you tend to associate with more? "

That's actually a really good question? I suppose I have somewhat. Obviously with my working away I spend less time with my friends from work when in touch with Fab friends on here or wherever (the time myself and P spend chatting alone is phenomenal?)

Even before I met P though, I'd spend plenty of time chatting with and meeting with Fab friends and the time has to come from somewhere!

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've been fortunate to have made some wonderful friends through fab and have found myself spending more time interacting with them than my "vanilla" ones. I suppose one becomes more at ease in talking about anything with someone they've been intimate with who is also a good friend? Presence of less potential barriers because of this? I contemplate this often.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Even those I haven't been intimate with... There's an openness of spirit and shared values.

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By *rs spicyCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield near centre

I've made a few really good friends of this site but, I would like to meet more ladies that I could have a girls night out with. That would be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a friend? Lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've made a few really good friends of this site but, I would like to meet more ladies that I could have a girls night out with. That would be fun.

It can be like drowning in a sea of sausage sometimes!

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

'We are born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.. any real friends I make from Fab are treated with same Rules of Engagement as my non-Fab friends. Subject to same rules.

I'd say half of my friends now are from Fab or online dating sites. Never have the two worlds met. But I'd like them too..

On my 40th (Next year) I'd like to have both groups at my party.. both groups know that the other exists.. but not know who is from which group.

I cant see it happening as most of my non fab friends are still serving, abroad or other end of the country. Most of my Fab friends are far closer.. because I'm not from here, know very few people in this town..

If it weren't for Fab.. I'd bd a proper Ghengy-no-mates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No.. any real friends I make from Fab are treated with same Rules of Engagement as my non-Fab friends. Subject to same rules.

I'd say half of my friends now are from Fab or online dating sites. Never have the two worlds met. But I'd like them too..

On my 40th (Next year) I'd like to have both groups at my party.. both groups know that the other exists.. but not know who is from which group.

If it weren't for Fab.. I'd bd a proper Ghengy-no-mates.

*too*

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I met my best friends on here.

We are all from totally different social circles, our age range varies considerably, our backgrounds upbringings totally different.

But our spirits, personalities, souls jelled.

But for the first time ever, I met people who 'get me'

People who don't judge me, people who have bent over backwards for me, been there in some of my darkest moments... And visa versa

I'll the handful of true friends I've made here, over any real life friend anyday

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Even those I haven't been intimate with... There's an openness of spirit and shared values. "

Yes. I don't need to have had someone's fingers up me to be able to open up to them and them me. It's the shared approaches, the common way of enjoying life and being curious about it and challenging societal traditions.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've definitely met some people here I never otherwise would have done, who have enriched my life enormously.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Ooh, good question!

I have friends from different parts of my life all over the country, having moved around. Old school and uni friends... Musical friends... Then the most recent, mum friends who I see the most of.

As of yet, I haven't made any friends via fab who I see regularly. If I lived down south, I definitely think that would be different! I love coming onto the forums and discussing all sorts of things in a way which I don't in the rest of my life.

I don't think fab friends would ever "take over" from vanilla friends, though. There are some people in my life who I may not see or speak to for years but who I still consider to be good friends

Mrs TMN x

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