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Should you marry if bi and trans?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it fair on women to date and marry if you are bi and trans?

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

It's fine if they know.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Why wouldn’t it be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I’d known I was bi when I got married

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you still have got married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you still have got married? "

I don’t know but I would have at least been able to discuss it before committing

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By *as_no_ideaCouple
over a year ago

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It is totally fair, if there is the openness and honesty from the start..

I married knowing my then husband was a crossdresser and bi.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I take it as you use the term `then 'he is no longer your husband? Was his sexuality the issue?

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

I would love to have told an ex about me wearing her clothes but she was too angry about her previous partner who also wore her clothes. She caught him dressed up in her mothers clothes and she always said he was a dirty pervert who was sick in the fukin head etc etc etc. I use to play dumb as if i couldnt believe why a man would wear womans clothes.

If she had known what i had been wearing and was up to when she wasnt about she would have been telling the new boyfriend how perverted i was.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Gosh, just goes to show how, some in the heteronormative population still view people on the trans spectrum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it fair on women to date and marry if you are bi and trans? "

yes ... if i love him then I love every part of him

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

If you love someone and want to be with them

Then don’t let there gender stop you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gosh, just goes to show how, some in the heteronormative population still view people on the trans spectrum. "

The same could be said for Homonormativity though, viewing straight people. Always someone to point the finger at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it fair on women to date and marry if you are bi and trans? "

It depends on a host of factors like:-

* If they're looking for a monogamous or open relationship.

* If you are upfront with them from the start. etc

If you are asking if it's fair that any trans / cd / bi / straight person should get into a committed monogamous relationship with someone they don't think can fulfill all of their sexual needs....then no, I wouldn't think that would be fair on either person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it fair on women to date and marry if you are bi and trans?

yes ... if i love him then I love every part of him"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it fair on women to date and marry if you are bi and trans?

It depends on a host of factors like:-

* If they're looking for a monogamous or open relationship.

* If you are upfront with them from the start. etc

If you are asking if it's fair that any trans / cd / bi / straight person should get into a committed monogamous relationship with someone they don't think can fulfill all of their sexual needs....then no, I wouldn't think that would be fair on either person."

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Trans yes, as long as both parties are aware.

Finding out that your husband is trans after the wedding, is likely to be a fast track to a divorce.

I don't see being bi as an issue... being bi doesn't mean that you feel the need to have sex with the opposite sex to the person you married

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They would have to accept my trans identity, I have been married, but felt frustrated as I wanted to sometimes see men, which now I can, and enjoy. At my wedding I looked with envy at the bridesmaid s, in their beautiful satin gowns wishing I was one.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon


"They would have to accept my trans identity, I have been married, but felt frustrated as I wanted to sometimes see men, which now I can, and enjoy. At my wedding I looked with envy at the bridesmaid s, in their beautiful satin gowns wishing I was one. "

Was your bride aware?

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"They would have to accept my trans identity, I have been married, but felt frustrated as I wanted to sometimes see men, which now I can, and enjoy. At my wedding I looked with envy at the bridesmaid s, in their beautiful satin gowns wishing I was one. "

So she didn't want you to meet people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope so since I’m Bi, and I’m married to a straight man.

Of course it is allowed. Many bi people are still bi but in monogamous relationships too. It doesn’t mean you’re going to cheat- being straight means you like other opposites but you don’t cheat... how being attracted to both is seen as some sort of violation is beyond me.

I don’t know personally about trans, I understand that can cause different issues but I do know for many gender and sexuality is fluid and changes over time so it can be something that happens later in life for some.

I’d hope that if someone is trans they find someone to marry who embraces that as it’s also again totally possibly to be in a healthy happy marriage.

I’m not sure why it would ever be unfair.

Mrs. Cagey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it fair on women to date and marry if you are bi and trans?

It depends on a host of factors like:-

* If they're looking for a monogamous or open relationship.

* If you are upfront with them from the start. etc

If you are asking if it's fair that any trans / cd / bi / straight person should get into a committed monogamous relationship with someone they don't think can fulfill all of their sexual needs....then no, I wouldn't think that would be fair on either person."

evident from the number of married people on this site secretly, many people aren’t married to people who meet their sexual needs

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I have lots of friends who have fluid gender or sexuality..... for me it’s a huge turn on so if I loved them and had a great emotional and physical connection then I’d be very happy in a long term relationship with them, emotionally monogamous but with freedom to express oneself sexually.

I see no reason to think otherwise.

V x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Is it fair on women to date and marry if you are bi and trans? "

Yes, so long as they know and accept, or you keep it to yourself and never cheat with anyone.

Personally I think the first option would be better all round though.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Why not, especially if they are aware they are bi.

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By *iguyandbbwCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Is it fair on women to date and marry if you are bi and trans? "

Take it from someone who knows i was bi and not honest and it caused a stain on my married life I resented her and me for being someone I wasn't, I'm now in a fantastic relationship we're Rosie knows everything and loves me for me not someone I pretend to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn't have a problem with it as some people are born the wrong sex.

As long as the person was honest and up front about it I would happily date or have a relationship with them. There would obviously have to be a mutual attraction but that's just my take on the matter. Everyone has varied opinions but I hate judgemental people.

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