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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Man sat next to you in a cafe. Eating chips and mumbling under his breath about you.

"Ugly fat cunt in your shitty red top"

"So fucking boring, fuck off out of here"

"You're so stupid and doing my head in you dickhead"

Little kids sat at nearby tables.

What do you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..order a cheese burger to go with those chips...

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Ask him if he’s okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

safety first

May have some mental health issues.

I'd probably speak to staff to check if he's known/usual behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grab one of his chips and put it on his shoulder.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Report it to the proprietor and leave

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"safety first

May have some mental health issues.

I'd probably speak to staff to check if he's known/usual behaviour

Yes this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man sat next to you in a cafe. Eating chips and mumbling under his breath about you.

"Ugly fat cunt in your shitty red top"

"So fucking boring, fuck off out of here"

"You're so stupid and doing my head in you dickhead"

Little kids sat at nearby tables.

What do you do?"

Slap his face and public humiliate him.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Check to see if I have a red top.

Ask him if he’s ok?

Prepare to run.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask him if he’s okay."

Would it be wise to interact with him though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"safety first

May have some mental health issues.

I'd probably speak to staff to check if he's known/usual behaviour

Good idea, staff might know him.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Leave as quickly as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Redecorate his appearance with the cheap ketchup on his table.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Simple mind your own business but be very aware of any risk or dangerous behaviour around.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"Ask him if he’s okay.

Would it be wise to interact with him though? "

Very much dependent on you.

A lot of issues and people’s dramas can be helped with a simple welfare question.

May not be safe or appropriate though as obviously you are there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the kids not been a factor I'd verbally anger him so much he'd either cry or fight... Preferably the later.

Kids there though I'd invite their parents to leave with them first.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Those statement does sound direct "in your shitty" "fuck off out of here" "You're so stupid"

Instead of maybe descriptive in shitty red.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave as quickly as possible. "

Yep I'd leave too.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ask him if he’s okay.

Would it be wise to interact with him though? "

Why not?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ask him if he’s okay.

Would it be wise to interact with him though?

Very much dependent on you.

A lot of issues and people’s dramas can be helped with a simple welfare question.

May not be safe or appropriate though as obviously you are there. "

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask him if he’s okay.

Would it be wise to interact with him though?

Very much dependent on you.

A lot of issues and people’s dramas can be helped with a simple welfare question.

May not be safe or appropriate though as obviously you are there. "

I'm not there now, it happened this morning. Bit scary to be honest.

He left first, we were still eating. Lots of families with little kids at next tables.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask him if he’s okay.

Would it be wise to interact with him though?

Very much dependent on you.

A lot of issues and people’s dramas can be helped with a simple welfare question.

May not be safe or appropriate though as obviously you are there.

I'm not there now, it happened this morning. Bit scary to be honest.

He left first, we were still eating. Lots of families with little kids at next tables. "

If you walked away without further drama then you did the right thing.

My previous post was saying what I might do, but ultimately in your case you were right to let him leave first then hopefully walk away in the other direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You called?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging by what he said, he's having an internal conversation that you're only hearing half of, best to give a wide berth as it sounds like he has mental health problems. If he's out in the community he is probably no more of a threat than anyone else in there but antagonising the situation could cause a bad reaction. He needs compassion, not a beating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You called?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Judging by what he said, he's having an internal conversation that you're only hearing half of, best to give a wide berth as it sounds like he has mental health problems. If he's out in the community he is probably no more of a threat than anyone else in there but antagonising the situation could cause a bad reaction. He needs compassion, not a beating. "

Yes that's the impression I got, that he was talking to himself but out loud. I didn't make eye contact or acknowledge him. He was mumbling, not saying it directly to me.

Didn't want to escalate things.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Divorce him

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By *opsy71Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The most sensible and compassionate response on this thread well done you, there should be more individuals like you in society I send my respect xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How awful. These things do shake you up. I probably would’ve frozen and either left or done nothing, even if there are wiser options. So sorry this happened to you.- Mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay out of it unless hes talking to me

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Yes that's the impression I got, that he was talking to himself but out loud. I didn't make eye contact or acknowledge him. He was mumbling, not saying it directly to me.

Didn't want to escalate things. "

It is unfortunate you felt the brunt of this however , on first thoughts regarding his words he does not sound responsible for his words , perhaps a version of tourette's

As some have said compassion not brutality would be my thought

Recently I have had encounters with a gentleman, he can be aggressive and intimidating, but I know he is "unwell" I control my fear and help him to my best ability

We do not know if the man the OP described is nasty or unwell , the words quoted suggest to me unwell , and that's how I would treat it and take nothing intended or personal from the experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Divorce him"

Happy birthday x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How awful. These things do shake you up. I probably would’ve frozen and either left or done nothing, even if there are wiser options. So sorry this happened to you.- Mrs. "

Thank you. I felt bad for the guy but wasn't sure what to do for the best really. Wanted to ask other people in case I'm ever in the same situation again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes that's the impression I got, that he was talking to himself but out loud. I didn't make eye contact or acknowledge him. He was mumbling, not saying it directly to me.

Didn't want to escalate things.

It is unfortunate you felt the brunt of this however , on first thoughts regarding his words he does not sound responsible for his words , perhaps a version of tourette's

As some have said compassion not brutality would be my thought

Recently I have had encounters with a gentleman, he can be aggressive and intimidating, but I know he is "unwell" I control my fear and help him to my best ability

We do not know if the man the OP described is nasty or unwell , the words quoted suggest to me unwell , and that's how I would treat it and take nothing intended or personal from the experience "

I don't know if he was unwell, under the influence of alcohol or substances, etc. As he wasn't speaking directly to me I felt it best to pretend we couldn't hear what he was saying.

It didn't feel appropriate to 'help' him. He was ok eating his chips but just seemed annoyed at us talking on the next table.

Thank you.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Check to see if I have a red top.

Ask him if he’s ok?

Prepare to run. "

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Yes that's the impression I got, that he was talking to himself but out loud. I didn't make eye contact or acknowledge him. He was mumbling, not saying it directly to me.

Didn't want to escalate things.

It is unfortunate you felt the brunt of this however , on first thoughts regarding his words he does not sound responsible for his words , perhaps a version of tourette's

As some have said compassion not brutality would be my thought

Recently I have had encounters with a gentleman, he can be aggressive and intimidating, but I know he is "unwell" I control my fear and help him to my best ability

We do not know if the man the OP described is nasty or unwell , the words quoted suggest to me unwell , and that's how I would treat it and take nothing intended or personal from the experience

I don't know if he was unwell, under the influence of alcohol or substances, etc. As he wasn't speaking directly to me I felt it best to pretend we couldn't hear what he was saying.

It didn't feel appropriate to 'help' him. He was ok eating his chips but just seemed annoyed at us talking on the next table.

Thank you."

I certainly was not suggesting you should have helped him , rational or not they are very scary , walking away was wise

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes that's the impression I got, that he was talking to himself but out loud. I didn't make eye contact or acknowledge him. He was mumbling, not saying it directly to me.

Didn't want to escalate things.

It is unfortunate you felt the brunt of this however , on first thoughts regarding his words he does not sound responsible for his words , perhaps a version of tourette's

As some have said compassion not brutality would be my thought

Recently I have had encounters with a gentleman, he can be aggressive and intimidating, but I know he is "unwell" I control my fear and help him to my best ability

We do not know if the man the OP described is nasty or unwell , the words quoted suggest to me unwell , and that's how I would treat it and take nothing intended or personal from the experience

I don't know if he was unwell, under the influence of alcohol or substances, etc. As he wasn't speaking directly to me I felt it best to pretend we couldn't hear what he was saying.

It didn't feel appropriate to 'help' him. He was ok eating his chips but just seemed annoyed at us talking on the next table.

Thank you.

I certainly was not suggesting you should have helped him , rational or not they are very scary , walking away was wise

You said you would have helped him that was all.

Sometimes people make us feel guilty for not helping. I was just thinking about that. It didn't seem a good idea to interact in case I made him more angry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man sat next to you in a cafe. Eating chips and mumbling under his breath about you.

"Ugly fat cunt in your shitty red top"

"So fucking boring, fuck off out of here"

"You're so stupid and doing my head in you dickhead"

Little kids sat at nearby tables.

What do you do?"

If I was the woman, I would have just put my knickers and skirt back on and left.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

If with the little uns leave, their the priority.......if alone definitely ask if ok......sometimes a little humanity goes a long way .......

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"If with the little uns leave, their the priority.......if alone definitely ask if ok......sometimes a little humanity goes a long way ......."

like this...A little humanity does go a long way

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

There's a bloke that walks round Derby town centre occasionally, he's smartly dressed, but just keeps on ranting at random objects. He seems quite harmless, and he probably has mental health issues, but I do find it quite comical sometimes when he's swearing at an innocent lamppost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sure hes talking to hes chips..

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