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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx" No offense but get ready for the shit storm that's about to unfold. | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx No offense but get ready for the shit storm that's about to unfold." Had that for years but thank you. Xxxx | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx No offense but get ready for the shit storm that's about to unfold. Had that for years but thank you. Xxxx" I meant the carnage that these BBW threads end up in every single time. | |||
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"Yep totally agree. I rejoined tinder this week one match and when wouldn't send nudes he unmatched me. Definitely agree most guys won't be seen with any curvy, plus size bbw girls in public but quite happy to have fun in private." Hugs. Xxx | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx" My ex was size 24 an only 5"2 and I was more then happy and comfortable to walk down the street holding her hand and sharing her affection in public. Fab is a funny place where people come to experience new things, things that you might not want on a day to day life. But saying that that they are plenty of men in the real world that love having a bigger woman as life partner, the trick like most things is to find them. X | |||
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"I’m a BBW myself and my experience differs. I’m inundated on here (what female isn’t) and when I was on dating sites, (I’m not wanting to date at the moment) I was inundated there too, I’ve used Tinder, POF & Bumble. Bumble is more where the woman is in control, but every person I liked, was a match, and it was the only dating site/app (due to the way it’s made for women to make the first move) where I actually messaged first. It likely depends on the person (you) and the guys looking at your profile! There is absolutely no doubt though that there are men who treat us as a fetish and wouldn’t date a BBW, but I don’t think they’re a majority personally. "Wait till you’re fifty luv. It affects much in vanilla life, especially men’s interest in you. My vanilla profile is creative, fun and intelligent like me. I put effort into it. Not a titter. | |||
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"Me too I get inundated on here totally spoilt for choice and most guys I meet wanna meet me again and again. Dating sites tho I have an utter nightmare n I nd up losing self confidence through it " Hugs xxx | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx My ex was size 24 an only 5"2 and I was more then happy and comfortable to walk down the street holding her hand and sharing her affection in public. Fab is a funny place where people come to experience new things, things that you might not want on a day to day life. But saying that that they are plenty of men in the real world that love having a bigger woman as life partner, the trick like most things is to find them. X" I’m 5’9” and size 32. I’m nigh Amazonian. Methinks men get intimidated. Which is great as a Mistress. But not when out and about and being vanilla. | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx My ex was size 24 an only 5"2 and I was more then happy and comfortable to walk down the street holding her hand and sharing her affection in public. Fab is a funny place where people come to experience new things, things that you might not want on a day to day life. But saying that that they are plenty of men in the real world that love having a bigger woman as life partner, the trick like most things is to find them. X I’m 5’9” and size 32. I’m nigh Amazonian. Methinks men get intimidated. Which is great as a Mistress. But not when out and about and being vanilla. " Amazonian you say? I shall now who you Wonder Woman lol Personally speaking, you're a big girl, so what? For me it's 80% about the personality and what you are like as a person, let's take John Travolta for instance when he was 20 he was slim as a rake but now now he's a plus-size man and that's most likeky going to happened naturally over time to most people, so that's why it's about personality and compatibility, once again this is my personal opinion, so you stay confident I know your sexy x | |||
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"I’m a BBW myself and my experience differs. I’m inundated on here (what female isn’t) and when I was on dating sites, (I’m not wanting to date at the moment) I was inundated there too, I’ve used Tinder, POF & Bumble. Bumble is more where the woman is in control, but every person I liked, was a match, and it was the only dating site/app (due to the way it’s made for women to make the first move) where I actually messaged first. It likely depends on the person (you) and the guys looking at your profile! There is absolutely no doubt though that there are men who treat us as a fetish and wouldn’t date a BBW, but I don’t think they’re a majority personally.
Wait till you’re fifty luv. It affects much in vanilla life, especially men’s interest in you.
My vanilla profile is creative, fun and intelligent like me. I put effort into it. Not a titter.
"But if you’re saying wait til you’re 50, that would imply it’s not your size that is the issue? It could be various things, and it doesn’t mean it’s anything to do with you. Could be the quality of men on dating sites.  | |||
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"I’m a BBW myself and my experience differs. I’m inundated on here (what female isn’t) and when I was on dating sites, (I’m not wanting to date at the moment) I was inundated there too, I’ve used Tinder, POF & Bumble. Bumble is more where the woman is in control, but every person I liked, was a match, and it was the only dating site/app (due to the way it’s made for women to make the first move) where I actually messaged first. It likely depends on the person (you) and the guys looking at your profile! There is absolutely no doubt though that there are men who treat us as a fetish and wouldn’t date a BBW, but I don’t think they’re a majority personally.
Wait till you’re fifty luv. It affects much in vanilla life, especially men’s interest in you.
My vanilla profile is creative, fun and intelligent like me. I put effort into it. Not a titter.
But if you’re saying wait til you’re 50, that would imply it’s not your size that is the issue?
It could be various things, and it doesn’t mean it’s anything to do with you. Could be the quality of men on dating sites. "Size plus middle age is quite a hard combination. Plump youngsters are very popular. You only have to look at the body positive stuff online. All mostly in their 20’s and 30’s. I do know what I’m talking about. I do do research. | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx My ex was size 24 an only 5"2 and I was more then happy and comfortable to walk down the street holding her hand and sharing her affection in public. Fab is a funny place where people come to experience new things, things that you might not want on a day to day life. But saying that that they are plenty of men in the real world that love having a bigger woman as life partner, the trick like most things is to find them. X I’m 5’9” and size 32. I’m nigh Amazonian. Methinks men get intimidated. Which is great as a Mistress. But not when out and about and being vanilla. Amazonian you say? I shall now who you Wonder Woman lol Personally speaking, you're a big girl, so what? For me it's 80% about the personality and what you are like as a person, let's take John Travolta for instance when he was 20 he was slim as a rake but now now he's a plus-size man and that's most likeky going to happened naturally over time to most people, so that's why it's about personality and compatibility, once again this is my personal opinion, so you stay confident I know your sexy x" Cheers luv. | |||
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"Luckily, when I did online dating (many years ago), there were some great BBW dating sites. I used others too but the BBW ones were great for finding guys that actually wanted to date and have relationships with larger women. " I have tried BBW specific dating sites in the past. Still just got sexual advances. I am more than my body. My brain is my most precious asset. Not my tits. | |||
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"Luckily, when I did online dating (many years ago), there were some great BBW dating sites. I used others too but the BBW ones were great for finding guys that actually wanted to date and have relationships with larger women. I have tried BBW specific dating sites in the past. Still just got sexual advances. I am more than my body. My brain is my most precious asset. Not my tits. " Fair enough | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx My ex was size 24 an only 5"2 and I was more then happy and comfortable to walk down the street holding her hand and sharing her affection in public. Fab is a funny place where people come to experience new things, things that you might not want on a day to day life. But saying that that they are plenty of men in the real world that love having a bigger woman as life partner, the trick like most things is to find them. X I’m 5’9” and size 32. I’m nigh Amazonian. Methinks men get intimidated. Which is great as a Mistress. But not when out and about and being vanilla. Amazonian you say? I shall now who you Wonder Woman lol Personally speaking, you're a big girl, so what? For me it's 80% about the personality and what you are like as a person, let's take John Travolta for instance when he was 20 he was slim as a rake but now now he's a plus-size man and that's most likeky going to happened naturally over time to most people, so that's why it's about personality and compatibility, once again this is my personal opinion, so you stay confident I know your sexy x Cheers luv. " Not a trouble my lovely, keep your chin up an keep smiling and never know the right guy for you could be round the corner and if he not give me a call and we'll go for a drink;-) lol | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx" Mm I can be with someone like you on a long term and in public... Unluckyly you look over 40 | |||
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"This may’ve been asked before and I know there are BBW/men relationships on here. But here’s my experience to date. I’m on this site to explore and a vanilla dating site to find something long term. On Fab I have been inundated with hundreds and hundreds of messages since February. Totally crazy and overwhelming. On the vanilla site I’ve had three in total and no relationship interest in them. I send more messages and am regularly rejected. I’ve come to conclusion that in general I’m seen as a sexual fetish by men. I’m not seen as someone they would be proud to have on their on arm in public. I have encountered this prejudice prior to discovering my inner kink. It upsets me but also angers me. Why are vast swathes of BBW lovers such cowards? I meet for coffee/drink before anyone gets near me. And you can tell when libido has taken over their usual reticent to be with a big fat woman in public. Usually, beer goggles help with some. So, apart from those in currently relationships, (you lucky buggers), I’m asking all BBW loving men on here if they’ve had long term relationships with fat women and have been proud of their lady? If you love BBW’s but haven’t dated one properly, why? Yours, Too old for this shit. Xxx My ex was size 24 an only 5"2 and I was more then happy and comfortable to walk down the street holding her hand and sharing her affection in public. Fab is a funny place where people come to experience new things, things that you might not want on a day to day life. But saying that that they are plenty of men in the real world that love having a bigger woman as life partner, the trick like most things is to find them. X I’m 5’9” and size 32. I’m nigh Amazonian. Methinks men get intimidated. Which is great as a Mistress. But not when out and about and being vanilla. Amazonian you say? I shall now who you Wonder Woman lol Personally speaking, you're a big girl, so what? For me it's 80% about the personality and what you are like as a person, let's take John Travolta for instance when he was 20 he was slim as a rake but now now he's a plus-size man and that's most likeky going to happened naturally over time to most people, so that's why it's about personality and compatibility, once again this is my personal opinion, so you stay confident I know your sexy x" Pretty sure you’re missing the whole point... | |||
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"I’m a BBW myself and my experience differs. I’m inundated on here (what female isn’t) and when I was on dating sites, (I’m not wanting to date at the moment) I was inundated there too, I’ve used Tinder, POF & Bumble. Bumble is more where the woman is in control, but every person I liked, was a match, and it was the only dating site/app (due to the way it’s made for women to make the first move) where I actually messaged first. It likely depends on the person (you) and the guys looking at your profile! There is absolutely no doubt though that there are men who treat us as a fetish and wouldn’t date a BBW, but I don’t think they’re a majority personally.
Wait till you’re fifty luv. It affects much in vanilla life, especially men’s interest in you.
My vanilla profile is creative, fun and intelligent like me. I put effort into it. Not a titter.
But if you’re saying wait til you’re 50, that would imply it’s not your size that is the issue?
It could be various things, and it doesn’t mean it’s anything to do with you. Could be the quality of men on dating sites.
Size plus middle age is quite a hard combination. Plump youngsters are very popular. You only have to look at the body positive stuff online. All mostly in their 20’s and 30’s. I do know what I’m talking about. I do do research. "So it could be both factors then, rather than just one. I don’t think anyone has implied or said you don’t know what you’re talking about, people are simply replying to your post. I doubt you’ll get the answers to be honest. The men who read the forums aren’t likely to all be on dating sites. | |||
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"Dating sites have more women less men and these sites have more men and less women. I also think a lot of men on here message every single woman hoping for a yes. There are plenty of men who date women who aren’t slim-average. Many women who like women regardless of size, and not just as a fetish or secret like. Many here choose women by personality and photos. It’s hard not to sometimes have feelings about it all twisted up on this site but just let it be fun as best you can. " | |||
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"I’m a BBW myself and my experience differs. I’m inundated on here (what female isn’t) and when I was on dating sites, (I’m not wanting to date at the moment) I was inundated there too, I’ve used Tinder, POF & Bumble. Bumble is more where the woman is in control, but every person I liked, was a match, and it was the only dating site/app (due to the way it’s made for women to make the first move) where I actually messaged first. It likely depends on the person (you) and the guys looking at your profile! There is absolutely no doubt though that there are men who treat us as a fetish and wouldn’t date a BBW, but I don’t think they’re a majority personally.
Wait till you’re fifty luv. It affects much in vanilla life, especially men’s interest in you.
My vanilla profile is creative, fun and intelligent like me. I put effort into it. Not a titter.
But if you’re saying wait til you’re 50, that would imply it’s not your size that is the issue?
It could be various things, and it doesn’t mean it’s anything to do with you. Could be the quality of men on dating sites. "Good point about the type of men on dating sites. Meeting online is more about profiles and photos than 'real people'. Perhaps the types of men who primarily like personality aren't the types to look online. | |||
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"My wife is size 16/18 and im proud to be seen with her on my arm. She has curves to die for and its what I personally like in a woman. " Thank you. But my questions were aimed at single men. | |||
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