FabSwingers.com forum: Physical affection

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you get enough?

I'm not talking about sex per se but the other things likes hugs, touches, hand holding etc.

Apparently it releases oxytocin which helps humans connect to others and promotes feel-good sensations that foster a sense of well-being and happiness.

I'm naturally quite shy and not very touchy feely but I crave it sometimes. When my man isn't around it makes it worse, I'm so standoffish I think my friends and family would be worried if I randomly went in for a hug!

So what's the solution? Cuddle cafes? Blow up dolls?

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

No. I dont get any

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Zilch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I want a relationship for that reason, I want cuddles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I get plenty of hugs kisses my grandkids are very affectionate

Being single I'm lacking in kisses off grown ups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I want a relationship for that reason, I want cuddles!"

And wrestling!

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

I get plenty of physical contact from K. Plenty of cuddling, spooning, hand-holding, kisses etc

Cat cafés are the answer for those lacking

... or put a meet up for platonic cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get lots

I’m a lucky boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes...i agree these are all very important of which i get zilch unless its from a meet and weve met before so its on a different level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m getting plenty currently. It’s a nice change and makes me feel good.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Dont get any and dont really feel i need any. A cup of coffee does the trick just as well or a glass of wine.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I'm incredibly tactile. Some like it, some don't... One former forumite once complained that I almost crushed his ribs with a hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get plenty of physical contact from K. Plenty of cuddling, spooning, hand-holding, kisses etc

Cat cafés are the answer for those lacking

... or put a meet up for platonic cuddles

Cat cafes? What if you don't have a pet cat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do ok!

I’m very touchy feely anyway, so expect hugs if we ever meet.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm incredibly tactile. Some like it, some don't... One former forumite once complained that I almost crushed his ribs with a hug

Lol hug him harder next time honey

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

I only get it from my 2 cats....they love me...but now I don't even get their love since the the ex bitch face stole them from me....

.....who needs the oxy-what-dya-ma-callems anyway eh....

*sits in the corner sobbing uncontrollably*

Hahaha

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I get plenty of physical contact from K. Plenty of cuddling, spooning, hand-holding, kisses etc

Cat cafés are the answer for those lacking

... or put a meet up for platonic cuddles

Cat cafes? What if you don't have a pet cat?"

The cafe is already full of them, that's the beauty of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get plenty of physical contact from K. Plenty of cuddling, spooning, hand-holding, kisses etc

Cat cafés are the answer for those lacking

... or put a meet up for platonic cuddles

Cat cafes? What if you don't have a pet cat?"

You don’t need one. They are already there. Great one in London that gets booked up quickly.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm very tactile and affectionate and find that sex that doesn't include some tenderness either before, during or after is very impersonal and empty. My best meets have been with like minded ppl who equally enjoy this which results in both of us literally being unable to keep out hands off each other. The constant teasing, edging and flirting that comes with this makes everything that much more intense and memorable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see that working very well, cats are vicious creatures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cat cafes are good I’ve been to the one in shoreditch, I have my own cats one of whom loves to be attached to me permanently

Adult cuddles however are sadly lacking in my life

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm a huggy person, teenytinydoggo is good for snuggles

But a real cuddle occasionally would be nice

One thing I really miss about single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me it depends on who/situation

ive had to learn how to be physical with people, due to my upbringing

i can hold hands with a partner or a child

I've never been one to cuddle/hug, when people are upset I'm that awkward friend who pats their back

work training, having to touch or be touched by colleagues i recoil in horror

my grandchildren use me as a climbing frame and i love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only cuddles I get are from my kids I would love to get kisses and cuddles from an adult but will live with my kids kisses and cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t do it! Me I mean

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

I'm the physical type. I like to stroke hold hands cuddle. It shows affection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see that working very well, cats are vicious creatures

I agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see that working very well, cats are vicious creatures

Look up Lady Dinah’s cat emporium.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sensual meet rather than a just fuck would probably work

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'm a very tactile person, and I do miss it...luckily I have a work aunty who is always available to give hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None in this house, haven't sat and cuddled up or kissed my Mrs on the lips affectionately for a long time.

Most times when I go to give her a kiss of some description she turns away.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’m quite needy when it comes to hugs and holding hands.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"None in this house, haven't sat and cuddled up or kissed my Mrs on the lips affectionately for a long time.

Most times when I go to give her a kiss of some description she turns away.

Oh dear.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m single and I’m also very tactile, so yes I do miss the touchy feely//Hugs/spooning thing. Having said that, I’m not a 24/7/365 relationship kind of person, doesn’t work for me as I’m far too independent for my own good.

A Friday to Monday man would be good to enjoy the social side too, and preferably 1:2:1.

Club visits are great to step into a few hours of sexy fun as an alternative tho

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"I'm incredibly tactile. Some like it, some don't... One former forumite once complained that I almost crushed his ribs with a hug

Lol hug him harder next time honey

I don't think he's around anymore, so that's unlikely to happen!

But I'm looking forward to sharing a few good squishy squeezy ones with friends at the MLS next month

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Weirdly I get most of my physical affection at work. I work with a lot of women and they are a touchy feely bunch, I have always been a hugger, so it has been a nice surprise. I never instigate the hugs however, because well, its 2019 and it is the work place after all. But I am unlikely to report them all for inappropriate conduct as I think being human isn't inappropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Weirdly I get most of my physical affection at work. I work with a lot of women and they are a touchy feely bunch, I have always been a hugger, so it has been a nice surprise. I never instigate the hugs however, because well, its 2019 and it is the work place after all. But I am unlikely to report them all for inappropriate conduct as I think being human isn't inappropriate"

Similarly, I get a lot of hugs in work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t do hugs! Bloody footballers hugging each other!! Shake hand will do!!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t get enough. That’s partly why I’m on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it. I don't get it. Op you could try a pet?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Do you get enough?

I'm not talking about sex per se but the other things likes hugs, touches, hand holding etc.

Apparently it releases oxytocin which helps humans connect to others and promotes feel-good sensations that foster a sense of well-being and happiness.

So what's the solution? Cuddle cafes? Blow up dolls? "

My friends and I hug lots x

And absolutely it is vital

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you get enough?

I'm not talking about sex per se but the other things likes hugs, touches, hand holding etc.

Apparently it releases oxytocin which helps humans connect to others and promotes feel-good sensations that foster a sense of well-being and happiness.

So what's the solution? Cuddle cafes? Blow up dolls?

My friends and I hug lots x

And absolutely it is vital"

Same here and agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I lied! I do cuddle my dog!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not very openly affectionate, probably similar to you OP. luckily my 5 year old is and if I'm feeling bob he is great to cuddle with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's immensely important, physical touch has been researched loads, it's fascinating and the importance is so under estimated ... we're not designed to actually live on our own

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm quite an affectionate sort of person but only when I feel comfortable with a person. I enjoy hugging and hand holding. I think we often forget how sensitive our hands are because we do the mundane with them so often. I do get a lot of physical intimacy yet on the same hand there are times when I miss it (when my partner's working long hours for example).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Kids cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both very tactile people, love a snuggle! During sex the tactile part is important for us to, not just a fuck but hand holding and lingering kisses and hugs !

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’m very tactile but very much feed of the vibe of the person I’m with. Some like it and some, you can tell, don’t.

For me it’s best if everyone is relaxed and you can just be yourself, the touch of the hand, the fingers tips teasing, the stolen kisses all builds and adds to the moment. After sex, lying close, stroking, chatting, laughing or even just silence with a smile..... you just can’t beat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has this post been done a few weeks ago? It's not a dig, i just feel like I'm going crazy if not, cause i feel like I've read some of the comments before. But I've been away for a little while so i could be a little off my rocker at the moment.

With the right person i am very touchy feely. I love the small things, the simplest of touches, holding hands, hugs, i love the touch of another person. I love feeling another person

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I really miss intimacy and being cuddled and hand holding etc or just being held because someone wants too.. One of the reasons I want to date... Fab sex can be absolutely great and amazing but I miss that intimacy when you can allow your feelings to come out.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"With the right person i am very touchy feely. I love the small things, the simplest of touches, holding hands, hugs, i love the touch of another person. I love feeling another person

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I really miss intimacy and being cuddled and hand holding etc or just being held because someone wants too.. One of the reasons I want to date... Fab sex can be absolutely great and amazing but I miss that intimacy when you can allow your feelings to come out.

You can have that intimacy in fab meets Snow, if you're both wanting that. I do get it though. It can be slightly (okay a lot) different compared to fab meets.

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

I'm a good hug. I think intimacy is my kink. Casual sex doesn't have to be cold, just as intimacy doesn't have to be rooted in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just missing my little spoon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you get enough?

I'm not talking about sex per se but the other things likes hugs, touches, hand holding etc.

Apparently it releases oxytocin which helps humans connect to others and promotes feel-good sensations that foster a sense of well-being and happiness.

So what's the solution? Cuddle cafes? Blow up dolls? "

I miss affection more than anything else.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

A majority of my regular play meets have plenty of caressing, prolonged snogging, spooning, and intimate chat. They don’t feel complete without some proper affection.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Waa actually disxussing this with another lady the other day. When I meet fwb or friends.. im quite tactile and i also obviously get lots of physical affection from kids and grandkids. Have to say a cuddle from a little dude who sees you as the best nanny.. it beats all else

But i do now meet 121 with people i know well to get adult physical attentions x and not just the sex

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't get enough but enjoy non-sexual touching on meets, to up my dose

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By *irlintheRedRed dressWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow

No I dont get any and I think its one of reasons Im disillusioned with Fab at the moment. Had a few crap meets where no kissing at all!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair my work lot give loads of cuddles, there are some who's skulls I could cave with a house brick at times but on the whole we get on like one big family. I get at least one a day at work.

When me and B are together there's all the contact and it's bloody lush. Makes it easier that I can sit on his lap like a ventriloquist dummy and we still both have plenty of room.

I miss it terribly when he's not here

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

"Do you get enough?

I'm not talking about sex per se but the other things likes hugs, touches, hand holding etc.

Apparently it releases oxytocin which helps humans connect to others and promotes feel-good sensations that foster a sense of well-being and happiness.

So what's the solution? Cuddle cafes? Blow up dolls? "

Chocolate releases oxytocin but 'side effects' are brutal.

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

You can have that intimacy in fab meets Snow, if you're both wanting that. I do get it though. It can be slightly (okay a lot) different compared to fab meets."

I have shared intimacy in fab meets.. I have been cuddled and held or held hands but for me personally because it is fab I have to control my feelings...For me its not true intimacy you feel with someone who deeply cares about you.. And that's what I miss... If that makes any sense haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you get enough?

I'm not talking about sex per se but the other things likes hugs, touches, hand holding etc.

Apparently it releases oxytocin which helps humans connect to others and promotes feel-good sensations that foster a sense of well-being and happiness.

So what's the solution? Cuddle cafes? Blow up dolls?

Chocolate releases oxytocin but 'side effects' are brutal."

My chubby thighs chaffing is quite brutal! Ha

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I'm a good hug. I think intimacy is my kink. Casual sex doesn't have to be cold, just as intimacy doesn't have to be rooted in love."

^^^ this

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Money can't buy you love, but it can buy you 30 minutes of physical pleasure

A massage, you dirty minded people !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we’re a very affectionate couple with each other

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

As an adopted Welshman, you can't beat a good cwtch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I want a relationship for that reason, I want cuddles!

And wrestling!"

Oh my word have you seen the mixed wrestling porn ... I want to do THAT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I want a relationship for that reason, I want cuddles!

And wrestling!

Oh my word have you seen the mixed wrestling porn ... I want to do THAT

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

"Nope, I want a relationship for that reason, I want cuddles!

And wrestling!

Oh my word have you seen the mixed wrestling porn ... I want to do THAT

Checking it out now. Oh wow

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"No. I dont get any

Yep this is me

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Nope, I want a relationship for that reason, I want cuddles!

And wrestling!

Oh my word have you seen the mixed wrestling porn ... I want to do THAT

Yes

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"I really miss intimacy and being cuddled and hand holding etc or just being held because someone wants too.. "

Some peoples hugs just just don't hit the mark for me.

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"Nope, I want a relationship for that reason, I want cuddles!"

This

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

"Do you get enough?

I'm not talking about sex per se but the other things likes hugs, touches, hand holding etc.

Apparently it releases oxytocin which helps humans connect to others and promotes feel-good sensations that foster a sense of well-being and happiness.

So what's the solution? Cuddle cafes? Blow up dolls? "

Yes like receiving a gift or sex, Endorphins are released

if neither are available I’ll just have some quality time with my German Shepard Charlie and rubbing him (non sexual)also gives you happiness and it’s also good for him .. bundles of useless info here

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