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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's an open site for people to use how they choose - some will use it for the forums and the interaction that brings, others will use it to find meets, others will use it because they enjoy taking and posting pics, others the chat rooms - and for some a combination of some/all the above - live and let live I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the open chat without sexual inhibitions...more through consequence than design, but I don't feel I have to justify being here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guilty ish i dont call it meeting anymore that undervalues it so id say i fit the bill just here to chat shit entertain the masses and say random stuff and on the rare occasion make sence

I generally try cheer folk up when there down also if i feel them deserving if i dont i like to point and laugh

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I don't mind people using it who say they aren't meeting/are only using the fora. First, that's quite often codswallop. Secondly, meh. It doesn't affect me in any way. The only time I do eyeroll is if the person truly believes their way is the only way to do life or makes sneery comments about those who swing/fuck around.

People are free to use it as they wish and I enjoy reading the diversity of opinions.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It’s nobody’s business.

If site owners didn’t want folk to use the site as how folk wanted to, there would be all sorts of stipulations put in place. Not had a meet verification in 3 months, account deleted or something like that.

It might piss off the “serious” swingers, but at the end of the day most profiles will state they aren’t meeting so you can scroll past to the next one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Great input dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind people using it who say they aren't meeting/are only using the fora. First, that's quite often codswallop. Secondly, meh. It doesn't affect me in any way. The only time I do eyeroll is if the person truly believes their way is the only way to do life or makes sneery comments about those who swing/fuck around.

People are free to use it as they wish and I enjoy reading the diversity of opinions."
when im president of england your going in the stocks do as i say not as i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a swingers site. If people aren't meeting for sex they should be kicked off the site.

People get pissed off when some have long profiles and hidden in the depths is a tiny 'not meeting' comment. That wastes people's time if they've got things on their Looking For list - means they show up in the searches.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Plenty of people came for the sex but stay for the forums. They’re the heart and soul of fab.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

People are free to use the site how they wish and everyone is here for their own particular reasons. It's not my place nor anyone elses to criticise. Amazing how some people can't mind their own business and leave people yo do their thing.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"It's a swingers site. If people aren't meeting for sex they should be kicked off the site "

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Maybe there could be a way to highlight our profiles with “meeting” or “not meeting” (like a coloured flag like the veri one) so we can choose to highlight our choice more noticeably for those it inconveniences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a swingers site. If people aren't meeting for sex they should be kicked off the site.

People get pissed off when some have long profiles and hidden in the depths is a tiny 'not meeting' comment. That wastes people's time if they've got things on their Looking For list - means they show up in the searches. "

I recommend we have admins that chaperone people on dates to ensure they are using the site correctly. If they haven't had sex with a site member at least once a month then the admins pick someone for them. If they refuse to fuck that person then a lifetime ban.

Sound reasonable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

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me being here is definitely a positive for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twelve years on the scene, organised socials years ago, been to clubs the length and breadth of the country, been to countless socials over the years. These days I'm barely active on the scene and less active on the forums but still find it funny when someone (particularly a newbie) makes the judgement that the site is only for active swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

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By *ucklingsCouple
over a year ago

Rugby

We are meeting very rarely through fab nowadays. prefer going to clubs and also using the other sides. Saying that, loving the forums and making new friends through this with the outlook of maybe more. Anyway, each and everyone of us has their reasons to be on here and there are always people who won’t agree.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

People can use the site how they like, it doesn't affect me. That's probably because I mainly message men, and there's not a lot of them that aren't meeting, if I was a guy I might feel differently I suppose.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

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How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

"

As a single chap of a certain age using Fab for meets is a pretty pointless exercise.

Which just leaves the forums and forum socials.

I'm ok with that.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it."

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it."
omg I actually agree with this

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s a site for people to use as they wish and nobody else’s business how others choose to use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Twelve years on the scene, organised socials years ago, been to clubs the length and breadth of the country, been to countless socials over the years. These days I'm barely active on the scene and less active on the forums but still find it funny when someone (particularly a newbie) makes the judgement that the site is only for active swingers. "

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I used to meet then I stopped, one day I might meet again but for now it’s not on the cards, I have always hung around the forum though and I don’t see why that should change just because I choose not to meet, anyhooooo that’s just me

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it."

This... just because it’s not splashed over the forums or verified doesn’t mean people aren’t having sex, some are just more private about their life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it."

I know it is, I was talking about the perception from their point of view. I don’t think anyone should know who anyone’s been fucking, I personally think it’s no ones business, especially if you’re a regular on the forums, I wouldn’t want people to know. For me some people collect veri’s like football stickers, it’s all to feed people’s egos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a swingers site. If people aren't meeting for sex they should be kicked off the site.

People get pissed off when some have long profiles and hidden in the depths is a tiny 'not meeting' comment. That wastes people's time if they've got things on their Looking For list - means they show up in the searches. "

Yep, why the hell would anybody be on this site if they are not meeting? Must have sad lives

If you are not meeting and insist on staying on this site do us all a favour and post it in an obvious fashion on your profile....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

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But why? Why does it make people losers?

Like many people I joined to swing, it was fun at the time but since then my circumstances have changed and swinging isn't something I want to do now. That doesn't mean I'm suddenly not a sexual person, I still have the same drive and curiosity for sex it's just that those are being fulfilled without swinging.

For many people swinging allows them to engage with others and express their sexual side, a side which they don't share with everyone. They do it physically, I do it by chatting on here. I can be a bit more liberated here than with those in my day to day life. So really we're all getting the same thing just in different ways and to different measures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

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incase you dont know tame I HAD SEX TODAY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a swingers site. If people aren't meeting for sex they should be kicked off the site.

People get pissed off when some have long profiles and hidden in the depths is a tiny 'not meeting' comment. That wastes people's time if they've got things on their Looking For list - means they show up in the searches.

I recommend we have admins that chaperone people on dates to ensure they are using the site correctly. If they haven't had sex with a site member at least once a month then the admins pick someone for them. If they refuse to fuck that person then a lifetime ban.

Sound reasonable?"

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

But why? Why does it make people losers?

Like many people I joined to swing, it was fun at the time but since then my circumstances have changed and swinging isn't something I want to do now. That doesn't mean I'm suddenly not a sexual person, I still have the same drive and curiosity for sex it's just that those are being fulfilled without swinging.

For many people swinging allows them to engage with others and express their sexual side, a side which they don't share with everyone. They do it physically, I do it by chatting on here. I can be a bit more liberated here than with those in my day to day life. So really we're all getting the same thing just in different ways and to different measures. "

Absolutely agree with this.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'm just waiting for the one to pop into my box..

I really dont care why people are here. I dont sweat the small stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a swingers site. If people aren't meeting for sex they should be kicked off the site.

People get pissed off when some have long profiles and hidden in the depths is a tiny 'not meeting' comment. That wastes people's time if they've got things on their Looking For list - means they show up in the searches.

Yep, why the hell would anybody be on this site if they are not meeting? Must have sad lives

If you are not meeting and insist on staying on this site do us all a favour and post it in an obvious fashion on your profile.... "

Some of us just hide the profile or I had it in big capitals but people don’t read apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it.

I know it is, I was talking about the perception from their point of view. I don’t think anyone should know who anyone’s been fucking, I personally think it’s no ones business, especially if you’re a regular on the forums, I wouldn’t want people to know. For me some people collect veri’s like football stickers, it’s all to feed people’s egos."

That is a turn off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it.

I know it is, I was talking about the perception from their point of view. I don’t think anyone should know who anyone’s been fucking, I personally think it’s no ones business, especially if you’re a regular on the forums, I wouldn’t want people to know. For me some people collect veri’s like football stickers, it’s all to feed people’s egos."

Football stickers!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi everyone...

I joined this site initially just to perv and read profiles! Suddenly single after a very long , very boring vanilla non existent sex life , a friend introduced me to the wonders of fab . I've met some lovely people on here, I've had some bloody hot sexy meets and alot of horny banter. Enjoy the forums and reading all the topics, and alot of you have had me in stitches .

Think I've waffled too much and lost the plot abit

But what I'm trying to say is I think this site is great and without coming on it I'd still be stuck in vanilla world haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone...

I joined this site initially just to perv and read profiles! Suddenly single after a very long , very boring vanilla non existent sex life , a friend introduced me to the wonders of fab . I've met some lovely people on here, I've had some bloody hot sexy meets and alot of horny banter. Enjoy the forums and reading all the topics, and alot of you have had me in stitches .

Think I've waffled too much and lost the plot abit

But what I'm trying to say is I think this site is great and without coming on it I'd still be stuck in vanilla world haha x"
the rate this lot eat cake dont mention waffles

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

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Use this site as you wish wether your looking to meet or not.

Some fantastic friendships and so much more were made here, before I joined and certainly before those who by the sounds have tried to dictate to others how they should use this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like forums. It adds to the mental stimulation of being on fab. Yeah we all like a shag but at the same time we’re people with feelings, opinions and questions and its nice to have an opportunity to express that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like forums. It adds to the mental stimulation of being on fab. Yeah we all like a shag but at the same time we’re people with feelings, opinions and questions and its nice to have an opportunity to express that. "
mental bang on

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Hi Rubi

At the moment we too are just here for the forums and catching up with our friends.

We see no problem with it at all.

M & M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like having a browse and a chat.... certainly a great way to interact with out just going/receiving “fancy a fuck??” Love being able to chat about allsorts....

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I've been one of those 'just here for the forums and socials' twats for well over a year now. It's written on my profile several times that I'm not looking for meets. I consider that to be pretty upfront and a way to avoid any confusion or wasting anyone's time.... But... If my filters are open for forum chat or mail about upcoming social events, I will still get 100-200 messages a day from people who either didn't read my profile, or who choose to ignore what was written on it.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

In the short space of time I have been on fab, I have noticed that everyone active or not brings the required diversity to this site for me, If I'm not in the mood for sexting the forums are great fun for banter and interesting topics.

Maybe a non meet or active option on the looking for page?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been one of those 'just here for the forums and socials' twats for well over a year now. It's written on my profile several times that I'm not looking for meets. I consider that to be pretty upfront and a way to avoid any confusion or wasting anyone's time.... But... If my filters are open for forum chat or mail about upcoming social events, I will still get 100-200 messages a day from people who either didn't read my profile, or who choose to ignore what was written on it. "
get the memo we dont read

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

It clearly states on our profile that we've stopped meeting but it doesn't stop guys messaging us for meets.

We just enjoy the forums and chatting to people and if anyone has an issue with it then that's their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get why anyone would just be here to chat and use the forums but they don't impact me one iota so I've no issue.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it."

I think we all need to start announcing every orgasm in status messages... Just so folk know we are having sex... Just not with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

How would they know people aren't actually doing it though? It's one of those comments I often see bandied about about forum users, it's perfectly okay to have a good fucking and not have a review of it or bang on about it.

I think we all need to start announcing every orgasm in status messages... Just so folk know we are having sex... Just not with them "
i tried that they ignore me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It clearly states on our profile that we've stopped meeting but it doesn't stop guys messaging us for meets.

We just enjoy the forums and chatting to people and if anyone has an issue with it then that's their problem."
not just guys who ignore it trust me many a heart broken

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

No one should really care. If someone just wants to use the forums, or just use chat, just picture collect it or anything else incompatible with my intentions it has no real impact on my personal user experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for" "

I like this.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for" "

That's a very good analogy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for" "

F&B just goes to the watermelons, then straight to the checkouts.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for" "

You should eat before the food shop and it should stop you just chucking stuff in.

I suppose before logging on to here, people should have a wank first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

F&B just goes to the watermelons, then straight to the checkouts. "

Then the back of the supermarket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

F&B just goes to the watermelons, then straight to the checkouts. "
unless they have a new leaf blower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll use it as I want til Admin tell me I can't

Then I'll leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for" "

So what if they do? Most on the forum make you feel dirty for wanting sex outside of a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find some of those not meeting and just dicking about on the forums make it better, it's a good laugh seeing different threads and reading through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the site almost exclusively for the forum and to chat to a few friends by default. It was not the reason I joined though. I really couldn’t give a rat’s arse for what people think about that either. I’d fuck more if I could though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums seem to be the place where most of the conversations are going down

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I mainly use the forum but am open to meeting when little gems pop up from time to time.

I like the diversity of the forum and whether people meet or not is down to them...everybody adds a little something to the mix x

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I use the site for both meeting and the forums..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wouldn't have a forum if they didn't want us to chat. It's like a green room, just hang about talking shite and eating and drinking until you are called into action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They wouldn't have a forum if they didn't want us to chat. It's like a green room, just hang about talking shite and eating and drinking until you are called into action. "

How long do we have to fucking wait for ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They wouldn't have a forum if they didn't want us to chat. It's like a green room, just hang about talking shite and eating and drinking until you are called into action.

How long do we have to fucking wait for ?!"

Depends on our billing

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

I like to keep a foot in both camps!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They wouldn't have a forum if they didn't want us to chat. It's like a green room, just hang about talking shite and eating and drinking until you are called into action. "

I'll just sleep in the corner. Wake me up when it's my turn....

Unless I've hibernate....

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for" "

Brilliant analogy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah pretty much

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By *he_Ethical_Bearded_SlutMan
over a year ago

Maida Vale

Anyone know why I can't make a forum?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

"

it really is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

"

The more people use the forums the better imo and if some of those people only use the forums and choose not to meet from here then who am I to judge!

Surely if there were hard and fast rules about having to actively meet people on here then 80% of the single guys would no longer be allowed memberships

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I joined with the intention of meeting but just haven't found it a very good place to meet people. I meet most of my play partners in person these days. I stick around here though because it can be fun and I haven't completely given up on it for finding people to play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live and let live. Each to their own. Deal with your own shit. Yeah you know what I mean...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Live and let live. Each to their own. Deal with your own shit. Yeah you know what I mean..."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Everyone brings something different to fab and the forum- much of it beneficial. When I had a family bereavement, I gained from being around, though grief was a kill joy sexually here.

I'd assume that a lot of resistance to wanting people here who are just around for the forum etc, is from those who don't manage to attain the partners or sexual satisfaction they want - I may be wrong!

Most of us by adulthood are adjusted appropriately to not having everything that we think we deserve, especially when we've not shown flexibility in our approaches to realise our ambitions or adjusted our expectations.

The forum is always a place to learn and share, all the better for the breadth of diversity here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this entire site was a satire on the fall of Rome?? Boy, do I feel stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought this entire site was a satire on the fall of Rome?? Boy, do I feel stupid "

Which one? XD

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By *museBouche31Woman
over a year ago

Reigate

I love my football stickers, especially if it helps others find a nice play partner or two on the site

I love the forums as it is a great place to learn tolerance, share knowledge and opinions and have a laugh! It is really useful and helpful to hear the advice of others.

We all have our own sexual kinks and often on the forums, an olive branch of acceptance can be a positive influence and help people move forward in their

sexploits.

Viva the Fab community, in all its formats!! x

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Anyone know why I can't make a forum? "

I'm not sure I understand the question, but I'll have a go.

The Forums are set out by the site, so we can't start a forum of our own.

We can start threads on Forums though.

In fairness, using someone else's thread for topics not related to the thread is considered poor form, you may get a better more accurate answer in one of the various "help" forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a wealth of knowledge to be gained from the forums.

I wouldn't want people who weren't meeting to vanish just because they've changed tack. They're still the same people, had the same experiences, can share the same knowledge... it's just that the revolving door on their fanjo has slammed shut.

Let's say someone wasn't meeting due to illness, we wouldn't shun them, I'd like to think the majority of us would be here to support them.

Our meets have mainly come from clubs, then we connect on here once we've got their username. So yeah, I'm mainly here for the forums. You fuckers wouldn't make it through the day without your daily dose of moi, so I'm doing my bit for care in the community ta muchly

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By *idddleWoman
over a year ago

southampton

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By *idddleWoman
over a year ago

southampton

"I like the open chat without sexual inhibitions...more through consequence than design, but I don't feel I have to justify being here.."

This basically, feel comfortable and at home here to post even though I probably don’t belong on fab per say, all but one of my verifications are people I’ve never had any form of sexual relations with, just friends who happened to be on here... and my one meet resulted in months of monogamous play... oops

Thanks for having me though, I'm Glad we don’t get booted for not being proper..

I’ve pretty much locked down my profile to avoid getting mails and have it in the first bit that I’m only here for forums, so I’m only really wasting the time of the people who can’t be assed to read a couple of lines, I don’t mind wasting their times, they waste enough of everyone else’s with their cut and paste “you should be sat on mycock” mails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't been meeting for a long while and I occasionally read the forum. I used to be very active both in the scene and in the forum. I only tend to read if I can't sleep. I don't care whether people are bothered about how I use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A classicist (ahem) will use fora for the plural.

As one member did.

That’s bringing Bradley’s Arnold back into play, how evocative.

These forums/fora can be so therapeutic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I use fab mostly for the forum, it is comedy gold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

"

Maybe some people look down on people who use the forums, because to them it may seem like we are not looking to meet people.

I think it would be a boring place without the forums and it's knowledge.

I don't think anyone should leave if they're not actively meeting. You never know when you could click with someone and decide to make it a meeting. However some would say that there are guys who are only here to get off and shouldn't be on this site.

I'm not meeting but that's not through choice. I justify staying by trying to click with ladies and finding someone who would like to meet me. I do it because I have needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

Maybe some people look down on people who use the forums, because to them it may seem like we are not looking to meet people.

I think it would be a boring place without the forums and it's knowledge.

I don't think anyone should leave if they're not actively meeting. You never know when you could click with someone and decide to make it a meeting. However some would say that there are guys who are only here to get off and shouldn't be on this site.

I'm not meeting but that's not through choice. I justify staying by trying to click with ladies and finding someone who would like to meet me. I do it because I have needs.

"

More power to you fella..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am only here to look at Rubidoux avatar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least in forums I get noticed and messages get exchanged in them. Which rarely happens with private messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought this entire site was a satire on the fall of Rome?? Boy, do I feel stupid

Which one? XD "

You know when Byzantium is somehow Rome and the Germans start acting up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive got what i want from fab (on going fwb) im just here for the forums really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

Maybe some people look down on people who use the forums, because to them it may seem like we are not looking to meet people.

I think it would be a boring place without the forums and it's knowledge.

I don't think anyone should leave if they're not actively meeting. You never know when you could click with someone and decide to make it a meeting. However some would say that there are guys who are only here to get off and shouldn't be on this site.

I'm not meeting but that's not through choice. I justify staying by trying to click with ladies and finding someone who would like to meet me. I do it because I have needs.

"
omg don't talk about the knowledge London cabbies are fuming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are a good way of meeting too and getting chatting, having a laugh and seeing some weird and wacky things also some really good profiles x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m here to be nosy n have a read, its like another facebook with very few faces! Just fills the time when I cant sleep, not meeting now as met someone nice on here and seeing how it goes x hopefully it’ll work out, I really like him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet, dont meet, do whatever you want. It's not for anyone else to tell you what you should be doing on here.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I’m here to be nosy n have a read, its like another facebook with very few faces! Just fills the time when I cant sleep, not meeting now as met someone nice on here and seeing how it goes x hopefully it’ll work out, I really like him x"

That's sounds nice..really hope it works out for you x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"It's a swingers site. If people aren't meeting for sex they should be kicked off the site.

People get pissed off when some have long profiles and hidden in the depths is a tiny 'not meeting' comment. That wastes people's time if they've got things on their Looking For list - means they show up in the searches.

I recommend we have admins that chaperone people on dates to ensure they are using the site correctly. If they haven't had sex with a site member at least once a month then the admins pick someone for them. If they refuse to fuck that person then a lifetime ban.

Sound reasonable?"

Or get turned into a lobster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone brings something different to fab and the forum- much of it beneficial. When I had a family bereavement, I gained from being around, though grief was a kill joy sexually here.

I'd assume that a lot of resistance to wanting people here who are just around for the forum etc, is from those who don't manage to attain the partners or sexual satisfaction they want - I may be wrong!

Most of us by adulthood are adjusted appropriately to not having everything that we think we deserve, especially when we've not shown flexibility in our approaches to realise our ambitions or adjusted our expectations.

The forum is always a place to learn and share, all the better for the breadth of diversity here "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet, dont meet, do whatever you want. It's not for anyone else to tell you what you should be doing on here."

Thanks, I was just meeting cause I thought I had to.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I won’t meet much since cancer, so mainly Hereford forum and chats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well...not meeting is good too. Chatting is great...photo and vid swapping is great. So...yes, I’m general if you don’t promise meets, Just this is great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet, dont meet, do whatever you want. It's not for anyone else to tell you what you should be doing on here.

Thanks, I was just meeting cause I thought I had to. "

You're welcome. Anything else you need to know ask someone else

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Meet, dont meet, do whatever you want. It's not for anyone else to tell you what you should be doing on here.

Thanks, I was just meeting cause I thought I had to. "

You're fucking it up for everyone with an attitude like that.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

This site is for anyone and everyone no matter their motives (within the rules and etiquette of fab). I would say however Rubi, if your only here to chat, take your sexy pictures down as they just make me (and others) want you and that's so frustrating.

You do make a good point about invigorating the forums; I've met some lovely people from them due to threads started by otheres. So keep up the good work and, please, please remove your pictures or at least put on a coat - thank you.

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By *inkSwingCouple
over a year ago

Preston

We don't meet other than the odd social gathering

This place can be comedy gold and some of the subjects discussed here would never appear in ordinary life

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The forums are very amusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meets are hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meets are hassle"

Now you’re talking

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"The forums are very amusing. "
,

They are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums are very amusing. ,

They are "

But can lead to fun and new friends...

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"The forums are very amusing. ,

They are

But can lead to fun and new friends..."

They have done for me in the past but not lately

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"The forums are very amusing. ,

They are

But can lead to fun and new friends..."

Yes they can something for everyone

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

The important thing is that people don't dictate how others use this site, nothing to do with anyone else

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I'm not meeting and I'm only here for the forums , even if it is just to regail you all with my tales of woe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The important thing is that people don't dictate how others use this site, nothing to do with anyone else "

Firm but fair !!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I'm not meeting and I'm only here for the forums , even if it is just to regail you all with my tales of woe "

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"The important thing is that people don't dictate how others use this site, nothing to do with anyone else

Firm but fair !!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you look at the list of sexual preferences people have then there is much more than meeting. Voyeurism for instance, cam's too. The site gives you every tool you need to either find what you seek or avoid what you don't.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If you look at the list of sexual preferences people have then there is much more than meeting. Voyeurism for instance, cam's too. The site gives you every tool you need to either find what you seek or avoid what you don't. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you look at the list of sexual preferences people have then there is much more than meeting. Voyeurism for instance, cam's too. The site gives you every tool you need to either find what you seek or avoid what you don't.

Well said "

Worth being on fabs just to see _amiss photos!!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If you look at the list of sexual preferences people have then there is much more than meeting. Voyeurism for instance, cam's too. The site gives you every tool you need to either find what you seek or avoid what you don't.

Well said

Worth being on fabs just to see _amiss photos!! "

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

"

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one of those . But the way I see it is I'm not always not meeting. So at least when I do decide to meet I already have some ahem 'victims' on my radar. I tried to leave...I didn't last 2 days. Plus I'm a nosy bitch and like to see what others are up to. Only reason I'm not meeting now is because I don't want to be totally greedy as I already have 2 regular hotties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird. "

I’ve often walked into my local Sainsburys express and come out empty handed. Just didn’t see anything I fancied. I only went in on a whim. Bit like fab sometimes.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

I’ve often walked into my local Sainsburys express and come out empty handed. Just didn’t see anything I fancied. I only went in on a whim. Bit like fab sometimes. "

But you did go in to see if there was something you fancied. Not just to chat with strangers.

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over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird. "

Haha, you think chatting to people is part of the analogy, the forums is the Miscellaneous aisle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The important thing is that people don't dictate how others use this site, nothing to do with anyone else "

No no no

It's a swinging site. People must have sex. If they're online they are horny.

Meet now!

*mutters*

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over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

I’ve often walked into my local Sainsburys express and come out empty handed. Just didn’t see anything I fancied. I only went in on a whim. Bit like fab sometimes.

But you did go in to see if there was something you fancied. Not just to chat with strangers. "

Sometimes I do, not in a supermarket but maybe a department store. I like chatting to randoms but usually it would be to go and see friends that work there. Hence my reason on here, to catch up with friends.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

One to one meets, organized socials and club experiences; I can definitely say i've had the full fab experience and I do enjoy reading and occasionally commenting on the forums. People should be free to use the site as they'd like as everyone has different priorities and motivations.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"One to one meets, organized socials and club experiences; I can definitely say i've had the full fab experience and I do enjoy reading and occasionally commenting on the forums. People should be free to use the site as they'd like as everyone has different priorities and motivations."

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over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird. "

I go to watch people shopping. I follow them round and see what they're buying. I watch them as they bend over the fridges and their arse crack is exposed to the air. How is that weird?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe there could be a way to highlight our profiles with “meeting” or “not meeting” (like a coloured flag like the veri one) so we can choose to highlight our choice more noticeably for those it inconveniences?"

Like at an Argentina buffet...green for 'meat' and red for 'I don't want feeding'.

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over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

I go to watch people shopping. I follow them round and see what they're buying. I watch them as they bend over the fridges and their arse crack is exposed to the air. How is that weird?"

You are one of those people that post embarrassing pics of people shopping online. Have you seen the Walmart ones in America?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

"

If we're going with the supermarket analogy which is a bit crap admittedly, talking to people would be like buying cheese provisions. You don't have to do a full weekly shop to prove you're allowed in there, it's not weird if you only want to buy some reblochon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

If we're going with the supermarket analogy which is a bit crap admittedly, talking to people would be like buying cheese provisions. You don't have to do a full weekly shop to prove you're allowed in there, it's not weird if you only want to buy some reblochon."

You’re so middle class.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

"

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

If we're going with the supermarket analogy which is a bit crap admittedly, talking to people would be like buying cheese provisions. You don't have to do a full weekly shop to prove you're allowed in there, it's not weird if you only want to buy some reblochon."

Jokes aside, i've found that the supermarket can be an interesting place to engage in conversation with the opposite sex

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over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

I go to watch people shopping. I follow them round and see what they're buying. I watch them as they bend over the fridges and their arse crack is exposed to the air. How is that weird?

You are one of those people that post embarrassing pics of people shopping online. Have you seen the Walmart ones in America? "

No I don't post the pics I take, I stick them on my bedroom ceiling like normal people do.

I love the Walmart pics. They are what I base my fashion decisions on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

"

Half of the ones that make page one never meet. Just here for the Fabs and fame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So on the back of Incandescent's thread I got thinking about why those of us who use the site just for the forums or chatting to friends are looked down on by some people?

Surely the fact that we only use the forum means we actively work to make it a good place to hang out? We boost the numbers of people and opinions.

So what's your take on it? Should you only be here if you're actively meeting?

If you're not meeting how do you justify staying? Why do it? Is you being here bringing something positive for others too?

"

I like the banter and social side over the sex. That’s why I’m here. I like discussions, debate and hearing other points of view. It’s like a dirty Twitter for me

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I think people will use the forums (I refuse to say fora, Meli) for a variety of reasons and that’s fine.

It’s worth remembering that the vast majority of Fab members don’t use the forums. It’s probably not enough to be a statistically representative sample of the site as a whole.

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over a year ago


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

I go to watch people shopping. I follow them round and see what they're buying. I watch them as they bend over the fridges and their arse crack is exposed to the air. How is that weird?

You are one of those people that post embarrassing pics of people shopping online. Have you seen the Walmart ones in America?

No I don't post the pics I take, I stick them on my bedroom ceiling like normal people do.

I love the Walmart pics. They are what I base my fashion decisions on. "

Skin coloured leggings that make you look naked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an open site for people to use how they choose - some will use it for the forums and the interaction that brings, others will use it to find meets, others will use it because they enjoy taking and posting pics, others the chat rooms - and for some a combination of some/all the above - live and let live I say "

Hit the nail on the head there!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

If we're going with the supermarket analogy which is a bit crap admittedly, talking to people would be like buying cheese provisions. You don't have to do a full weekly shop to prove you're allowed in there, it's not weird if you only want to buy some reblochon.

You’re so middle class."

Yes I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh, I use a different site to meet hot men (KK) and I come here for the forums to listen to the whingers moaning on here about not getting meets. That makes me feel very smug

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over a year ago


"I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

If we're going with the supermarket analogy which is a bit crap admittedly, talking to people would be like buying cheese provisions. You don't have to do a full weekly shop to prove you're allowed in there, it's not weird if you only want to buy some reblochon.

You’re so middle class.

Yes I know. "

I had to google what reblochon was.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

If we're going with the supermarket analogy which is a bit crap admittedly, talking to people would be like buying cheese provisions. You don't have to do a full weekly shop to prove you're allowed in there, it's not weird if you only want to buy some reblochon.

Jokes aside, i've found that the supermarket can be an interesting place to engage in conversation with the opposite sex "

Isn't it just? People can be quite flirty over a particular cut of meat or bottle of alcohol. I had a really great chat with a beautiful man about real ale.

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over a year ago


"Tbh, I use a different site to meet hot men (KK) and I come here for the forums to listen to the whingers moaning on here about not getting meets. That makes me feel very smug "

You’ve changed.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"Can’t help but think the serious swingers, the ones who often frequent page one, must occasionally look at the forums and see the same people talking about sex but not actually doing it, rolling their eyes and thinking what a bunch of losers.

Half of the ones that make page one never meet. Just here for the Fabs and fame. "

Yeah I agree with the pic thing.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"Tbh, I use a different site to meet hot men (KK) and I come here for the forums to listen to the whingers moaning on here about not getting meets. That makes me feel very smug "

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

People can use this place how they like.

It’s the people that don’t meet and judge others that I laugh at.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"(I refuse to say fora, Meli) "

You're missing out though. I'll keep on using my varied lexicon in my own unique way.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"(I refuse to say fora, Meli)

You're missing out though. I'll keep on using my varied lexicon in my own unique way."

I like that you do!

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’m not as interested in the forums as much as all I see is the same old people, same old convos and it’s quite boring lately.

Plus my real life fab is just far more exciting

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"People can use this place how they like.

It’s the people that don’t meet and judge others that I laugh at.

"

I agree. It’s fine if people don’t want to meet but they are the exception rather than the rule. Meeting is fun.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"People can use this place how they like.

It’s the people that don’t meet and judge others that I laugh at.

I agree. It’s fine if people don’t want to meet but they are the exception rather than the rule. Meeting is fun. "

Exactly.

At the end of the day it’s a swinging site.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird.

If we're going with the supermarket analogy which is a bit crap admittedly, talking to people would be like buying cheese provisions. You don't have to do a full weekly shop to prove you're allowed in there, it's not weird if you only want to buy some reblochon.

Jokes aside, i've found that the supermarket can be an interesting place to engage in conversation with the opposite sex

Isn't it just? People can be quite flirty over a particular cut of meat or bottle of alcohol. I had a really great chat with a beautiful man about real ale."

Yes they can on a couple of occasions it resulted in a date, one of which resulted in a fling over a few weeks. Winning

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over a year ago


"Tbh, I use a different site to meet hot men (KK) and I come here for the forums to listen to the whingers moaning on here about not getting meets. That makes me feel very smug

You’ve changed."

I’m loved up, what can I say.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"People can use this place how they like.

It’s the people that don’t meet and judge others that I laugh at.

I agree. It’s fine if people don’t want to meet but they are the exception rather than the rule. Meeting is fun. "

Meeting is definitely fun and a thrilling experience

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"When I find someone I like enough to meet, I meet them. The rest of the time I hang around the forums hoping to catch sight of someone I like enough to want to meet.

Some folks make it sound like we should be fucking our way through the site, accepting all cummers "Because it's a sex site, thats what its for".

I wonder if they go round the supermarket just throwing random stuff in the trolley whether they want it or not "Because it's a supermarket, that's what it's for"

Brilliant analogy.

I think it’s a rubbish analogy.

People go to a supermarket to get provisions. Most people have a list of things they want and they get them. Occasionally they get something that they didn’t intend to get but it caught their eye. Most people don’t go to a supermarket with an empty trolley just hoping to chat to people and not buy anything. That would be weird. "

You've never done any windowshopping?

Sometimes I accompany my friends to the shop... I've no intention of buying anything, but they do... So I go with them and we chat and catch up while they shop.... Sometimes we might even bump into other friends and all end up going for coffee afterwards or making plans for a night out... I've yet to have another shopper shout 'either buy something or fucking leave!!' at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange how a lot of forumites avoid chat rooms and vice versa.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Strange how a lot of forumites avoid chat rooms and vice versa."

I've used chatrooms on other sites... I just really really don't like the Fab chatroom interface. I find the layout and style outdated, clunky and awkward to use in comparison to others... Maybe that's why the Fab Forums are more successful than those on other sites... The chatrooms here aren't as user friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange how a lot of forumites avoid chat rooms and vice versa."

Strange why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty of people came for the sex but stay for the forums. They’re the heart and soul of fab. "

sorry but the heart and soul of fab is the 95% who dont come anywhere near the forums take the real meeting people away from fab and your left with nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I flit between the forums and chatrooms depending on mood ... both get boring ie same people saying same things

I do meet but my interest had to be seriously piqued tbh my life is pretty amazing so this would need to be better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange how a lot of forumites avoid chat rooms and vice versa."

Tried the chat rooms,loads of people saying hello with a small group have very disjointed conversations with 50 hello's between each line...

Plus it is real time, and I am not a fan of real!

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