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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m a fat woman who is single and was reading an article online the other day about how hard it is for bbw to date, part of the story was about online dating and hook up sites stating that most men meet bbw as a fetish (fantasy) and would never hook up with a bbw in the real world. I’m just wondering what people’s thoughts are on this x

I tend to agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree depends on the guy but go to any bbw socials or club nights and they are packed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will tell you a secret most guys are not too bothered most are looking for a girl who they can relax with have a giggle etc men are not that complex. Sorry guys x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Totally agree depends on the guy but go to any bbw socials or club nights and they are packed x"

Is that coz it’s a fantasy? Probably so

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

Those That do, their vanity will get the better of them. When they end up with a diva who they end up resenting, be true to you and never change you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for the married couples you can see the electricity between them and hubby can't keep their hands to themselves x

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By *m389Man
over a year ago

Bromley

"Will tell you a secret most guys are not too bothered most are looking for a girl who they can relax with have a giggle etc men are not that complex. Sorry guys x"

Women are the complicated ones.

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

"Not for the married couples you can see the electricity between them and hubby can't keep their hands to themselves x"

Yeah sorry I was referring to the single ones, that tend to be like this, as the article does seem to be referring to single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will tell you a secret most guys are not too bothered most are looking for a girl who they can relax with have a giggle etc men are not that complex. Sorry guys x

Women are the complicated ones.

Not all of us some of us just want to be loved x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not for the married couples you can see the electricity between them and hubby can't keep their hands to themselves x

Yeah sorry I was referring to the single ones, that tend to be like this, as the article does seem to be referring to single men. "

Yeah it is, it was only after reading it I thought that’s what I am on fab just avfetish it’s not like any of them would been seen out and about with me ( not that that’s what I’m looking for)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for the married couples you can see the electricity between them and hubby can't keep their hands to themselves x

Yeah sorry I was referring to the single ones, that tend to be like this, as the article does seem to be referring to single men. "

Never had an issue I have very few female friends growing up was a Tom boy all my best mates are male. Never had a problem pulling lol. But enjoyed being single and a free spirit x

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

"I’m a fat woman who is single and was reading an article online the other day about how hard it is for bbw to date, part of the story was about online dating and hook up sites stating that most men meet bbw as a fetish (fantasy) and would never hook up with a bbw in the real world. I’m just wondering what people’s thoughts are on this x

I tend to agree with this"

Nope not a fetish/fantasy for me.

I actively seek out bbws

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe it's a fetish at all. Some men genuinely like bigger women. It's not a fetish to them just a preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean x a lot of guys love bbw and love all the shagging that goes along with it. But I think that you maybe have a good point there about walking along the street with them x that's just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know what you mean x a lot of guys love bbw and love all the shagging that goes along with it. But I think that you maybe have a good point there about walking along the street with them x that's just my opinion "

Yeah I think men would be so embarrassed if honest x don’t think it’s something they would let their friends and family know about

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By *idnightxBrownCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

This goes on all the time with many different things on here, I wouldn't look to deep into it because most people can't deal with the hard truth, that people are on here to use you for their needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This goes on all the time with many different things on here, I wouldn't look to deep into it because most people can't deal with the hard truth, that people are on here to use you for their needs. "

I've only been on here a short period of time and I've noticed this, so true

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

"Totally agree depends on the guy but go to any bbw socials or club nights and they are packed x"

That's exactly OP point though?

I only had one relationship before i joined here, i couldnt get a date for love nor money. Hence why i ended up here.

I could pull on a night out, but a follow up date never happened..

BBW admirers are a small small minority and even smaller minority in mainstream social life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree OP, I feel like us fat girls are ok to fuck behind closed doors or at BBW events where people won't judge. But to be seen on the street or to be introduced to friends or family then no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Totally agree depends on the guy but go to any bbw socials or club nights and they are packed x

That's exactly OP point though?

I only had one relationship before i joined here, i couldnt get a date for love nor money. Hence why i ended up here.

I could pull on a night out, but a follow up date never happened..

BBW admirers are a small small minority and even smaller minority in mainstream social life. "

I can’t even pull on a night out, in a way I’m glad I’m single, I am also only on here to have sex as can’t get it anywhere else I’m not exactly a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the exact same xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should maybe try and put your age limit up a bit xxx

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop

I tend to agree with this"

I do agree. I’m inundated on here. Yet on my vanilla dating site I barely get any messages at all. It’s makes me very angry.

I’m a very loving individual but all they want is the sexual side. So I flog ‘em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agree depends on the guy but go to any bbw socials or club nights and they are packed x

That's exactly OP point though?

I only had one relationship before i joined here, i couldnt get a date for love nor money. Hence why i ended up here.

I could pull on a night out, but a follow up date never happened..

BBW admirers are a small small minority and even smaller minority in mainstream social life.

I can’t even pull on a night out, in a way I’m glad I’m single, I am also only on here to have sex as can’t get it anywhere else I’m not exactly a swinger"

Welcome to the life of a man love, I find doing magic works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to agree with this

I do agree. I’m inundated on here. Yet on my vanilla dating site I barely get any messages at all. It’s makes me very angry.

I’m a very loving individual but all they want is the sexual side. So I flog ‘em. "

Yep, this!!

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop

"I don't believe it's a fetish at all. Some men genuinely like bigger women. It's not a fetish to them just a preference."

But many wouldn’t date a BBW as a normal person and hold their hand in the street.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you're saying that only slimmer women have relationships?

What nonsense.

Look around in the real world and there are couples that are all different shapes and sizes.

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Plenty of guys are interested in having relationships with bigger girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree OP, I feel like us fat girls are ok to fuck behind closed doors or at BBW events where people won't judge. But to be seen on the street or to be introduced to friends or family then no.

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Totally! They would happily do it behind closed doors but not in public, mr is a lot different and goes on the person and does have relationships with bbw”s big girls etc. At the end of the day it’s not a fetish it’s who your attracted to and how you get on and if men don’t want to be seen with you that’s their loss as I’m sure there’s plenty who will! Oh and we both love bbw girls wink wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Skinny or fat... You are mostly a disposable piece of meat to be used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to agree with this"

I 100% contradict this. I've had lots of BBW/ssbbw girlfriends, and my longest relationship was with one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People like people unless they dont the end your welcome

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

No I genuinely have a friend who much prefers a slightly rounder figure, so I think it’s different for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't believe it's a fetish at all. Some men genuinely like bigger women. It's not a fetish to them just a preference."

this

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Men like what they like. Some like blondes, some prefer redheads, some like slim, some like BBW’s and some just don’t care and will take all if they could!!

Yes a lot of men don’t like fat women, but a hell of a lot do. And you can tell if they like you as a fetish rather than genuinely being into you.

I’ve never struggled when dating.

Have some confidence in who you are and what you have to offer. Somewhere out there is a fella waiting to find you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people it's a fetish. Some people see the person and the face over the body shape. Some guys genuinely like bigger girls.

I've never really been single for long. I've never struggled for dates and I've always been fat.

My long term partner always liked curvy woman but not necessarily bbw when he met me. Now he loves big woman.

Anyone that fucks me has to be prepared to 'date me' in public first I expect public socials, coffee dates, drinks out together. I've had a break away with my fwb where we appeared as a 'couple' he wasn't ashamed to be with me. I have a potential new regular partner now who has been on two very public socials with me and we are spending the weekend together. If someone wouldn't be willing to date me they certainly won't be fucking me

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

The difference in the two types tends to be pretty obvious fairly quickly. Don't worry about a bloody article go with your gut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really don't worry, just be who you are.

There is always someone younger, prettier, slimmer, bigger breasted, whatever!

Some guys couldn't care less we are just a fuck so you decide who is worth it.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Not been my experience.

I've had relationships in real life and also hook ups on here, elsewhere and real life.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

I've met all types.

Ones that wanted full on relationships, ones that just wanted a quick fuck, ones that had a fetish and one guy that eventually admitted he was in a LTR relationship with a slim lady but had always had a thing for big women.

You meet all kinds of people until you find the right one for you.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I have never had a problem with dating, all my meets on here have been out with me in public and are very happy to do so as well, Its all about personality and connections, get to know someone and make that relationship with them for however long,

Most importantly I am confident and love myself, if you disbelieve in yourself how can you let anyone in to your to worship the beautiful woman you are.

Good luck in your journey lovely x

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Skinny or fat... You are mostly a disposable piece of meat to be used

Exactly this (and it applies to both genders) if it suits both parties all's good, if it doesn't don't allow yourself to be used in such a way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree OP, I feel like us fat girls are ok to fuck behind closed doors or at BBW events where people won't judge. But to be seen on the street or to be introduced to friends or family then no.

That’s only because some people are shallow and too afraid of what others think f**k them big women are beautiful and so sexy they are a preference of mine as they have wonderful curves - just ask Lizzo!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People's experience of online dating is giving everyone a false representation of the world and what men and women like.

Some people are more beautiful or more photogenic and get more likes than others. Go into a bar and be erudite and confident and charming and you'll get more interest than the prettiest person in the room.

My experience is that big women Beat themselves up for being too fat and skinny women do the same for being too boyish. Esp when the "real women have curves" thing was going on.

No money in making people feel OK about themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm fat and I got a long term bf 12 years we been together and he's never been ashamed to be seen with me

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

....there's always bbw threads knocking about....and if just say its each to their own to be fair....some like slim, some like big....we all like different at the end of the day....it's normally the person that wins us over in the end.....Shit me....this is way to profound for me in a Wednesday....waiter more alcohol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I like a larger girl.

Go with how you feel n always be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will tell you a secret most guys are not too bothered most are looking for a girl who they can relax with have a giggle etc men are not that complex. Sorry guys x"

I think you're right, someone who can relax with and have a laugh with

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

I believe that some people (mainly single males) think that this site is pretty much an ‘instashag’ hook up place, anyone who places an ad on here must want sex immediately. Now here comes the upsetting part...

These same men also believe that when they spot a profile from a BBW/larger female, they will ultimately be an easy shag as they are less appealing and the women will be somehow grateful for their service. All the men need to do is push the right buttons and hey presto, ‘instashag’.

You will probably notice that these are the same men who get politely rejected from the larger ladies and then turn extremely bitter and bombard them with insults and abuse.

Just to confirm that there are true BBW admirers out there and I’m not tarring all single males with the same brush. So all you white knights can stop right there (just another irritation I find on here lol).

And for the record, I’m married to the sexy/gorgeous Louise who is a curvy size 18. Some say BBW, some say fat, I say ‘hot’.

Ed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And for the record, I’m married to the sexy/gorgeous Louise who is a curvy size 18. Some say BBW, some say fat, I say ‘hot’.

Ed x"

Just wanted to say this last bit of your comment made me smile. :D

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

You will probably notice that these are the same men who get politely rejected from the larger ladies and then turn extremely bitter and bombard them with insults and abuse."

I’m not entirely convinced this is the case.

I think men turn abusive because they are just asshats. I also think a lot depends on how folk are declined.

I’m a size 26. I decline people fairly regularly, but I do it politely. I have NEVER in all my time on this site (and i’ve Been here since 2016 off and on) had someone respond nastily, never mind bring up my size/weight.

Yes i’ve Had the odd snarky comment about my weight, but that was just a troll message that someone has sent after seeing my profile.

I think men just want sex. They get upset when their messages go unread or unresponded to. They get upset because instead of a polite no thanks they get sarcasm. Or told to do one in an aggressive manner.

I think the size of the woman actually bears no relation.

Obviously this is just my opinion based on my experiencs, i’m Sure others will have different experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends.

I’m a BBW, I have been since I was about 21 (now 26) and I have honestly never struggled to pull in the real world or on dating sites I’ve used.

But I do think there are guys who probably aren’t actually attracted to us, but will meet because they think we are “easier” or because they’ve been rejected by the women they actually want.

I don’t doubt that the majority of women big, small, average are inundated on here because of the ratio. There’s certainly a fetish for BBW’s with some aswell.

Also, I find people automatically assume with fat women that when we are losing weight we are doing to because we aren’t getting attention, don’t like ourselves or are trying to “fit in”. How wrong they are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will probably notice that these are the same men who get politely rejected from the larger ladies and then turn extremely bitter and bombard them with insults and abuse.

I’m not entirely convinced this is the case.

I think men turn abusive because they are just asshats. I also think a lot depends on how folk are declined.

Yes i’ve Had the odd snarky comment about my weight, but that was just a troll message that someone has sent after seeing my profile.

I think the size of the woman actually bears no relation.

Obviously this is just my opinion based on my experiencs, i’m Sure others will have different experience.

As you say, this is just your opinion based on your experiences.

Mine differs greatly.

I’ve done the polite reply to every message approach, the most outrageous and shocking reply I got was someone wishing r*pe and murder on me, I blocked and reported them & they made several new profiles to continue to contact me, I ended up changing my username and hiding my profile.

I said something like “Thank you for your message, and the compliments, I appreciate them. You are not what I’m seeking currently, sorry. But I hope you find someone great on here!”. I’ve had the “fat” comments, comments about my race, comments about me being ugly and so on.

I’ve even had abuse from people I have never spoken to, no doubt trolls with nothing to do.

After all that, I now won’t reply to those I’m not interested in, yes people will see you’ve read and deleted and send abuse sometimes, but the amount is significantly less than when I politely responded.

I don’t think the abuse some get depends on HOW the person who is receiving the message replies. It is all down to the person sending abuse, vile nasty people who cannot take rejection.

Decent people understand not everyone will be interested and they move on.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Was this article based on any scientific data.. a study of anything, or just anecdotal evidence or the writer offering an opinion.

If you believe the article to be true op it'll becomea self professing ..those that don't agree it's tomorrows chip paper.

Personally .. I'm on here for something more than NSA. I might be in the minority of blokes looking for this on here.

I have to find the lady attractive, what that looks like is individual to the person .. if I wouldn't be seen in the real world with the lady we'll not be meeting.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I'm fat but don't identify as BBW for that particular reason. I'm a person who wants someone to want me for me, not because I'm fat. It's why I also dislike being (incorrectly as it happens) addressed as a milf or cougar. If I get the sense that someone is just ticking off a particular fantasy by meeting me (an older woman fantasy, a fat chick fantasy, an Irish girl fantasy), I'll just stop communicating. I'm worth more than the sum of my parts.

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By *bwlover82Man
over a year ago

london

I tend to agree with this"

Just speaking personally, it is more than a fetish.

I am attracted tp bbw.like aome love tall, blond or black.

I have only dated bbws amd that include socials, cinemas, dinner...

I think some guys are ashamed to be seen with bbws but thise guys are idiots.

Thankfully lot of guys are genuine bbw lover who would be happy with more than one off sex.

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