FabSwingers.com forum: Secret or public?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Out of curiosity how many people are open with friends/family about been a swinger?

Personally Im not bothered who knows

(Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my family know and I intend to keep it that way

A few of my friends know though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Family lives far away and they wouldn't approve so no point of telling them.

Few of my mates know.

I'm single, meeting single men so nothing to feel bad about.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I told my parents and I dont really have friends outside of work (they all know too).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't say it to anyone except the ones I'd like to shag senseless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hide anything

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford

Would like to be open about it, but most of my family are conservative church goers, so it would not go down well. Some of the neighbours know though.

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

Private, to protect our children!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family don't know but I barely speak to them aside from my dad who lives 150 miles away, or my son. Can't say it's something I'd bring into the convo with my lad but wouldn't hide it if he mentioned it.

Don't have friends away from fab really aside from those I work with and a few of them know. Most of them know I'm an open book and many come to me with personal issues. I like that they trust me enough to tell me stuff and value my opinion and advice. I'm like the crazy aunt of the workplace.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Private, to protect our children!! "

Same here! Well, to protect our children and careers as some of us work in industries where people judge you based on your personal life or social media posts!

For those reasons we are very wary of meeting people who openly brag about what they get up to and who they meet.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family or friends dont know but I certainly dont try to hide it (or my face). Not really a conversation that comes up over sunday lunch either.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I dont hide it except from my younger kids. Although it would help if other people respected that and didnt think it was okay to try to out people

One reason I never meet at home just at clubs is that my kids never see anything.

Adult friends and family.. I see no reason to hide it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've been open with some friends and family but generally don't have the need to tell all the details of my private life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally open.. My friends and family all know about my lifestyle.

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

This is my secret obsession x

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Nothing to be ashamed about and at same time no one else's business but your own .. a couple of my friends know

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

Friends know all...

Dad knows...

Mum & Rest of the family....the know nothing!!!

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

"Out of curiosity how many people are open with friends/family about been a swinger?

Personally Im not bothered who knows

(Mrs)

One of my sisters and my friends know I've been to events and stuff. No need for my parents to know it doesnt benefit either of us

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Our experience on this is most genuine couples( not all) are secretive, especially if they have kids. Most singles aren’t. They aren’t really considered swingers by some people, especially the vanilla brigade, so it’s considered normal. People who view swing as “wife swapping” don’t see singles shagging each other in the same light as swinging.

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By *pa and dCouple
over a year ago

Barnet

Private, with the exception of a couple of our most openminded friends.

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By *hechairman18Man
over a year ago

Salford Quays , Manchester

I organise and host GangBangs at my place.

A few of my best friends know.

I like to think my neighbours are unawar.

The fact is, nobody has ever mentioned anything to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They are probably hoping for an invitation lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Private and we tend to avoid people who aren't nowadays. We've met people for socials who talk so loudly about swinging that it embarrasses us and the people who can hear

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Our families don't know but there are a few non-judgemental friends we have very open conversations with about our intentions and experiences in the lifestyle.

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By *exi_LexiTV/TS
over a year ago

caerphilly

Told my mum that I swing she hit the roof, then told her I dress she hit the roof basically tuff shit if I like it then I will do it regardless of other people's thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Private and we tend to avoid people who aren't nowadays. We've met people for socials who talk so loudly about swinging that it embarrasses us and the people who can hear"

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Don't shout it from the roof tops, but if a friend asks ... don't exactly deny

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

It’s not a secret. Most of my friends know.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It’s private, like all aspects of my sex life.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

I think it depends on your social and work life . Me personally I prefer to keep my privacy

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Nobody needs to know, nobody deserves to know. My private life is mine and mine alone

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By *liviaGTV/TS
over a year ago

Preston

So secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Secret

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I sit my family down once a week to update them on how much I love pussy and how much fuckin I’m doing

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

A select few know. Each time I have told friends, we ended up having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very private about my fab life

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Family don't know (think my son would go batty apeshit!).

Lots of friends know

Mrs x

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By *euschMan
over a year ago

peterborough

I’d say secret, but as I haven’t actually met anyone off here for sex, then I’m not sure it counts as being a swinger?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Told my mum that I swing she hit the roof, then told her I dress she hit the roof basically tuff shit if I like it then I will do it regardless of other people's thoughts"

My mum used to “hit the roof”...lothat phrase is such a flashback for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One or two of our rl friends know bit other then that no one

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Nobody knows anything about me and my life as Alex apart from the people that Alex meets from here and at events.

I run my own business with staff, customers and suppliers. Plus a small family and a few friends.

The two never coincide or meet, it's also nobody else's business.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

None of my pre fab friends know and neither do any family. Fab is my deliciously private, parallel life and I intend to keep it that way.

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By *euschMan
over a year ago

peterborough

"One or two of our rl friends know bit other then that no one"

Can’t message directly as you block men, but just wanted to say, fantastic rope work!! Sorry for being off topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our daughters kind of suspect Mum And Dad are not vanilla but we have never confirmed their suspicions. Our parents def wouldn’t even consider what we get up too. Few of our friends know too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Secret.

It's not something I would ever discuss with family or friends. They have no need to know.

And I have no interest in the judgemental attitude of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Secret, some friends know though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Becky my non swinging FB knows but other than that nobody else that feel I need to tell really. Only told her as we do get together fairly regularly and thought it only fair she should know really

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

No one outside of Fab knows what I'm into

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Neither my family or friends know and that isn’t going to change.

One friend outside of here knows I go out for drinks or meet mates at the weekend. He’s never asked any details, how I meet people etc, except where am I meeting them. He just checks in the next day to make sure I’m ok. His hair would curl if he knew

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By *tudiousPipWoman
over a year ago

W Yorks

I've told my 3 best friends. Not told, or planning to tell, anyone else. Definitely private! And I warn men I've met how they might meet me in my professional life, and that they should keep it to themselves...

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Just about Everyone In the world knows.

Not one shite is given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So secret I haven’t even told myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Mr best male mate knows.

Mine and my wife's main group of vanilla friends all know and one of whom (female) is also a swinger.

Non of mine or my wifes work colleagues know anything in relation to our swinging. The same applies to our families aswell and we plan for that to never change.

KJ x

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