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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a lot of people join for wank fodder, they join, chat a bit then leave. It wastes time and it's pretty annoying.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A lot of people prefer verified people who have been here a while and have had meets. So many people join then leave soon after. Saves time for people if they wait to see if newbies hang around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of people join for wank fodder, they join, chat a bit then leave. It wastes time and it's pretty annoying. "

Oh and if someone isn't patient enough to wait however many days to mail me then they're not the kinda person I want to chat to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah thanks for the heads-up.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Also, here’s another heads up. You can block men without saying you will cos saying you will makes you sound intolerant to some of the ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also some people make fake accounts, and it’s hard to know who you’re talking to and feel safe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of people join for wank fodder, they join, chat a bit then leave. It wastes time and it's pretty annoying. "

Just like the no shows who arrange meets then dont contact or show up

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By *heeky_laughMan
over a year ago

southport


"Because a lot of people join for wank fodder, they join, chat a bit then leave. It wastes time and it's pretty annoying.

Oh and if someone isn't patient enough to wait however many days to mail me then they're not the kinda person I want to chat to. "

Spot on Rubiduo. It helps to out the time wasters and highlights the genuine people of like mind and interests. Hope you guys are having a great weekend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Also some people make fake accounts, and it’s hard to know who you’re talking to and feel safe. "

Aha, I thought this might be the reason.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Verifications can give an indication that a meet happened and the person wasn't dangerous or completely weird, too. It can be an additional layer of security.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

There are lots of singles who create couples profiles in the hope that it will give them an in.

They are usually easy to spot but there are some that are very convincing too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Verifications can give an indication that a meet happened and the person wasn't dangerous or completely weird, too. It can be an additional layer of security. "

Okay, to be verified do you have to write about the other person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G"

People have their own reasons and are allowed that as a choice so dont worry about it as you can message them later.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Hello and welcome op

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Verifications can give an indication that a meet happened and the person wasn't dangerous or completely weird, too. It can be an additional layer of security.

Okay, to be verified do you have to write about the other person?"

For meet verifications yes. You can say anything, so it's far from foolproof, but if I've met ten people who say similarly nice things about me (rather than just blocking me after the ordeal), I probably am who I say I am and not horrendous to spend time with. (it's not foolproof and should be used in conjunction with your own other checks and common sense)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello and welcome op "

Hello and thankyou both for the kind welcome.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I will say at this stage, the evidence is pretty overwhelming that I'm a fucking delight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications can give an indication that a meet happened and the person wasn't dangerous or completely weird, too. It can be an additional layer of security.

Okay, to be verified do you have to write about the other person?"

Have a look at a few profiles on this thread as most of us have veri's and see what has been written. That should give you a good idea. If they are too grathic or give personal information alot of women and couples won't publish them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G

People have their own reasons and are allowed that as a choice so dont worry about it as you can message them later. "

Hi there,

I'm not saying they shouldn't, and I'm not making accusations. Just trying to understand is all.

Have a great evening.

G

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I will say at this stage, the evidence is pretty overwhelming that I'm a fucking delight. "

Happy to hear it.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Most people are trying to avoid the weekend wankers! They join late on a Friday and delete the profile first thing on a Monday!

Just saves time and blood pressure levels, newbies are only newbies for 5 days, so not really that long is it, for others to have peace of mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello and welcome OP just remember that we where all newbies once

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Verifications can give an indication that a meet happened and the person wasn't dangerous or completely weird, too. It can be an additional layer of security.

Okay, to be verified do you have to write about the other person?

Have a look at a few profiles on this thread as most of us have veri's and see what has been written. That should give you a good idea. If they are too grathic or give personal information alot of women and couples won't publish them. "

Hiya, yes I've read loads of verifications.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello and welcome OP just remember that we where all newbies once"

Hello, haha yes no truer word spoken!

G

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most people are trying to avoid the weekend wankers! They join late on a Friday and delete the profile first thing on a Monday!

Just saves time and blood pressure levels, newbies are only newbies for 5 days, so not really that long is it, for others to have peace of mind "

Ah 5 days? Great! Was wondering when the 'L' plate was gonna be removed!

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G"

I’ve never understood this either. I’d say most of the people I met were new and had no or very few veris and they were all lovely and most have become good friends. Having said that it depends how you use fab, I never used to meet anyone before chatting for a while, phone calls and proving each other genuine anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G

I’ve never understood this either. I’d say most of the people I met were new and had no or very few veris and they were all lovely and most have become good friends. Having said that it depends how you use fab, I never used to meet anyone before chatting for a while, phone calls and proving each other genuine anyway. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G

I’ve never understood this either. I’d say most of the people I met were new and had no or very few veris and they were all lovely and most have become good friends. Having said that it depends how you use fab, I never used to meet anyone before chatting for a while, phone calls and proving each other genuine anyway. "

Thanks, that's good to know.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G

I’ve never understood this either. I’d say most of the people I met were new and had no or very few veris and they were all lovely and most have become good friends. Having said that it depends how you use fab, I never used to meet anyone before chatting for a while, phone calls and proving each other genuine anyway. "

If you build a house without a foundation it all goes so wrong.

Like Nora said it's about investing time getting to know someone. Meet me tomorrow it's like throwing a hand grenade and hoping it will not explode.

Having said that its horses for courses what words for one may not work for another.

Ive met unverified people actually I prefer the newbies after the above happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G

I’ve never understood this either. I’d say most of the people I met were new and had no or very few veris and they were all lovely and most have become good friends. Having said that it depends how you use fab, I never used to meet anyone before chatting for a while, phone calls and proving each other genuine anyway.

If you build a house without a foundation it all goes so wrong.

Like Nora said it's about investing time getting to know someone. Meet me tomorrow it's like throwing a hand grenade and hoping it will not explode.

Having said that its horses for courses what words for one may not work for another.

Ive met unverified people actually I prefer the newbies after the above happens.

"

I agree. So did I. Loads of veris put me off I’m afraid. But that’s another thread

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Some people find newbies unreliable and it's true they're more likely to delete their profile before it goes anywhere. But I quite like new members and have met several, we were all new once.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G

I’ve never understood this either. I’d say most of the people I met were new and had no or very few veris and they were all lovely and most have become good friends. Having said that it depends how you use fab, I never used to meet anyone before chatting for a while, phone calls and proving each other genuine anyway.

If you build a house without a foundation it all goes so wrong.

Like Nora said it's about investing time getting to know someone. Meet me tomorrow it's like throwing a hand grenade and hoping it will not explode.

Having said that its horses for courses what words for one may not work for another.

Ive met unverified people actually I prefer the newbies after the above happens.

I agree. So did I. Loads of veris put me off I’m afraid. But that’s another thread "

Dont start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all,

Hope you all enjoyed the sweltering bank holiday weekend?!

I've not been here long (and I've only just found there's a forum!) but whilst browsing and attempting to introduce myself I've found some folks block messages from mew members. Some do include in their profile they don't want to be mesaaged by newbies.

Please don't take this as an accusation, it's my observation, and me wanting understand the background to this.

Happy fabbing and enjoy the week!

G

I’ve never understood this either. I’d say most of the people I met were new and had no or very few veris and they were all lovely and most have become good friends. Having said that it depends how you use fab, I never used to meet anyone before chatting for a while, phone calls and proving each other genuine anyway.

If you build a house without a foundation it all goes so wrong.

Like Nora said it's about investing time getting to know someone. Meet me tomorrow it's like throwing a hand grenade and hoping it will not explode.

Having said that its horses for courses what words for one may not work for another.

Ive met unverified people actually I prefer the newbies after the above happens.

I agree. So did I. Loads of veris put me off I’m afraid. But that’s another thread

Dont start "

. Moi?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Welcome to the forum op!

People here who are new are tainted by others who have gone before them, including causing a greater level of problems for others, compared to those who have some track record to their credit.

People want reliability, trustworthiness and other qualities that help to make this lifestyle more enjoyable. People have had others not telling the truth, failing to meet when it's been agreed to, causing malicious problems such as stalking, outing people at work or to friends and family and criminal offenses. Some return with replacement profiles to cause more problems. Stalkers are obvious reasons for some to be cautious.

Other people dislike being rejected and cause problems and get abusive.

People who have been around a longer time could also do these things but are viewed as less likely to do so.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Another comment often stated, o's that many people have unrealistic expectations of the site and swinging. New users have a greater chance of not self-selecting themselves as being unsuitablr or having unrealistic goals.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Lack proof pudding in of the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some members make new accounts to get around blocks and keep their peepers on those they may be stalking.

All fun and games here .

Not everyone is a bunny boiler, but there are some who fit the bill.

P

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

What constitutes a newbie? Do we still qualify?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will say at this stage, the evidence is pretty overwhelming that I'm a fucking delight. "

OR, that you had hold of their testicles while forcing them to write how delightful you are...

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I block newbies on my single profile,as i've had people i've blocked who then left and rejoined sev times.

The block means they can't get in touch unless they keep their profile a few days at least.

Miss

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