FabSwingers.com forum: Neglect of 1 half of a couple

By *oungAndFreeOnes OP Couple
over a year ago

Telford

This MAY sound like a moan, it's not at all but looking for advise from experienced swingers...

Couple of nights now, we have been in a meet where one half (fem) is receiving all the attention and (guy) is basically there as a spare part.

What's the best way to deal with this as there is NOTHING more frustrating than just standing there helping play with the fems and getting blue balls at the end of the night because the fems are DONE!

Anyone else had an experience like this?

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

In truth that's probably the way it mostly goes, plus your profile gives the impression that you're mainly looking for a girl for f/f

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you need to make sure that the fem is attracted to both of you equally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm, surely this is something that you need to discuss with your partner? I wouldn't be happy with a meet where I felt my partner was getting nothing from the experience.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Hmm, surely this is something that you need to discuss with your partner? I wouldn't be happy with a meet where I felt my partner was getting nothing from the experience. "

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I'll let you know once we manage a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to speak to your Mrs as you should not be left out, Unless it is a meet for just FF fun and even then my Mrs would never leave me with blue balls (as you put it) she would always make sure I’m happy after her fun

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By *oungAndFreeOnes OP Couple
over a year ago

Telford

Yeah I know what you mean. Funnily enough it was a club meet off here so they had no access to fab

Yeah, had a chat with the other half. To be fair.. it's a case of, I can deal with it but just looking to know if anyone has had experience with it and ways to avoid it. Cheers for the input tho!!

I mean as far as ff meets as per our profile, we are actually on here for her to explore her bi side. At the end of the day if there is a meet and it is sad to be ff only then sweet.. it's mainly the yeah... let's all have a play.. and then boom.. spare wheel time haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let her meet women alone then she won't have to worry about babysitting you.

If it's supposed to be a MFF 3some then you should all be interacting, not one sat bored.

If it's couples 4some meets the same as above.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You need to discuss with your partner and set the ground rules. Then when another female joins you both endure they fully understand what you are all expecting. If the play is not going the way it was agreed then you need to have the confidence to call a halt.

If it is just FF play then let then meet privately or if at a club stay in the bar whilst they have their fun.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

It is down to attraction. So if the other female is only interested in your partner then there is literally nothing you can do.

We are fairly relaxed and enjoy all the dynamics, so whether it is ff, ffm, mmf, mf or fmfm. It's all good.

mm is off the menu, but I'm sure bunny would not mind watching or taking part.

As with any swinging scene consent is everything so you will need to ensure everyone is on the same page.

We have played with couples were the female was clearly not interested in me and I'd much rather enjoy watching bunny have fun, than see the other lady trying to take one for the team.

Equally bunny has watched me with another woman when it was clear that she had no interest in my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I know what you mean. Funnily enough it was a club meet off here so they had no access to fab

Yeah, had a chat with the other half. To be fair.. it's a case of, I can deal with it but just looking to know if anyone has had experience with it and ways to avoid it. Cheers for the input tho!!

I think if you are fairly new it's easy to get pushed out as the other male will unintentionally have more confidence.

I think you need to seal to your partner and make sure she's aware you are worried you are being left out and also if it's a 4sum don't let nerves turn you on to a spectators

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