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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Since joining FAB, it's helped me to self reflect... I'm definitely much fussier than i was in my 20s as I'm dubious of 99.5% of men who message me on here. Can't seem to get rid of that feeling of mistrust.... maybe finding fwb or nsa on FAB isn't right place for me?

But saying that, i seem to be ok meeting guys on usual dating apps. Any advice ladies about finding the right fabber and meeting them in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only joined 3 weeks ago.. or have you been on fab before?

Over my 7 years on fab I have found a few regulars guys for fun. It can take a while but it does happen.

I always meet socially first.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Very useful thank you for your input X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since joining FAB, it's helped me to self reflect... I'm definitely much fussier than i was in my 20s as I'm dubious of 99.5% of men who message me on here. Can't seem to get rid of that feeling of mistrust.... maybe finding fwb or nsa on FAB isn't right place for me?

But saying that, i seem to be ok meeting guys on usual dating apps. Any advice ladies about finding the right fabber and meeting them in person? "

You are not the only one I put it down to the regular stream of lies people make that just makes you even more mistrusting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's true, I am 99.5% dubious......the other .5% is outright lies...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's tough to develop trust. But I think ultimately it's about using similar safety mechanisms as you would anywhere else. That s out most of them.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The thing is OP and this is something a lot of people seem to overlook - in real life, or on other dating apps you don't feel attracted to, or even a connection and chemistry with, the vast majority of people, and probably somewhere close to that 99.5% figure you mentioned - so here is not actually that different really.

It's about finding those that you do connect with on some level, that you can build trust and respect etc with no different from other forms of meeting people - and if you are open and honest about what you are looking for then that is all you can do, sadly there are those that will feed you a line, and say what they think you want to hear, and all you can do is try and those out - but again you'll get that in the real world and on other sites too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least here you know folks motives

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"You've only joined 3 weeks ago.. or have you been on fab before?

Over my 7 years on fab I have found a few regulars guys for fun. It can take a while but it does happen.

I always meet socially first."

I been here 3 weeks for first time, after recieving around 2k messages from different men, I'm becoming jaded already. I just can't get to feeling comfortable about meeting them even for a social where i done many internet dates before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find approaching the site as a social place helps. People who are looking for something specific tend to be so focused on ticking boxes and moulding people into what they want that they don't notice the opportunities passing them by.

Hang out, chat, get to know people and you'll get more of a feel for them. Then if anything does develop it's a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least here you know folks motives "

Some folks want just to 'chat'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least here you know folks motives

Some folks want just to 'chat'"
and they will say that and it will only ever be that

Thats my point

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"The thing is OP and this is something a lot of people seem to overlook - in real life, or on other dating apps you don't feel attracted to, or even a connection and chemistry with, the vast majority of people, and probably somewhere close to that 99.5% figure you mentioned - so here is not actually that different really.

It's about finding those that you do connect with on some level, that you can build trust and respect etc with no different from other forms of meeting people - and if you are open and honest about what you are looking for then that is all you can do, sadly there are those that will feed you a line, and say what they think you want to hear, and all you can do is try and those out - but again you'll get that in the real world and on other sites too."

I had one guy send me photoshopped photos and lied about size of his manhood. Tbh most guys lie about the size of their manhood! Lol so immediately I'm put off by them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least here you know folks motives

Some folks want just to 'chat'and they will say that and it will only ever be that

Thats my penis "

I know it is your penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is OP and this is something a lot of people seem to overlook - in real life, or on other dating apps you don't feel attracted to, or even a connection and chemistry with, the vast majority of people, and probably somewhere close to that 99.5% figure you mentioned - so here is not actually that different really.

It's about finding those that you do connect with on some level, that you can build trust and respect etc with no different from other forms of meeting people - and if you are open and honest about what you are looking for then that is all you can do, sadly there are those that will feed you a line, and say what they think you want to hear, and all you can do is try and those out - but again you'll get that in the real world and on other sites too.

I had one guy send me photoshopped photos and lied about size of his manhood. Tbh most guys lie about the size of their manhood! Lol so immediately I'm put off by them"

Well they want to get to you first but can't if they don't meet your criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find approaching the site as a social place helps. People who are looking for something specific tend to be so focused on ticking boxes and moulding people into what they want that they don't notice the opportunities passing them by.

Hang out, chat, get to know people and you'll get more of a feel for them. Then if anything does develop it's a bonus. "

Great advice. That’s the best way to approach fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least here you know folks motives

Some folks want just to 'chat'and they will say that and it will only ever be that

Thats my penis

I know it is your penis

"
just thought id share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least here you know folks motives

Some folks want just to 'chat'and they will say that and it will only ever be that

Thats my penis

I know it is your penis

just thought id share "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've only joined 3 weeks ago.. or have you been on fab before?

Over my 7 years on fab I have found a few regulars guys for fun. It can take a while but it does happen.

I always meet socially first.

I been here 3 weeks for first time, after recieving around 2k messages from different men, I'm becoming jaded already. I just can't get to feeling comfortable about meeting them even for a social where i done many internet dates before. "

Make sure your filters are tighter. It will cut down on messages. You get loads when you first join.

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