FabSwingers.com forum: Feelings

By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

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By *urved HunnyWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Yes, eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup they turn from love to anger and then eventually you don't even give them a second thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Time makes them easier to ignore. One day you'll wake up and realise you control them and the feelings no longer control you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope so, eventually.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Never had an ex but I would really not like any feeling of love for someone to turn to hate. Hate seems such a waste.

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By *ock-a-doodledooMan
over a year ago

Grimsby ish

Yes eventually you start to think what did I see in them anyway.

Love hey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it changes depends if there still in your life

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No, still care about mine as a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you do. My last ex dumped me and I was distraught at the time. He ghosted me then out of blue a few months ago wanted to meet for a drink. I went to show him how much I'd moved on and knew he was only after a shag. I took great pleasure in being strong. You will get there and feel so good when you've got through this

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Oh yes very easily if they treat you badly

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By *un17Man
over a year ago

Ennis

"Yup they turn from love to anger and then eventually you don't even give them a second thought"

Until you meet them after 20 years and do it all over again and then back to them pesky feelings again !!! Oh we never learn !!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on how acrimonious the split was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told it takes two years to completely get over somebody and through my own experiences i’d Say that’s about right. The first few months are the worst but after that it gets easier by the day. Two years down the line you can look at them with another guy or girl and feel nothing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Love, pain, anger, contempt, apathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup they turn from love to anger and then eventually you don't even give them a second thought

Until you meet them after 20 years and do it all over again and then back to them pesky feelings again !!! Oh we never learn !!!!!!!"

Been there and done that although it was 12 years for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but even after 20 years I still fancy her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup

You still think about them, but any feelings are lost

Sentimality is a fickle thing for me, it comes, it goes

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

Its bittersweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm "

Absolutely. They’re an ex for a reason. If that reason was you, and you end up regretting it, don’t. We move forward in life not backwards. Forget the ex, concentrate on putting your efforts into being fantastic enough to get one of the amazing people who are in your future. Might be tonight or tomorrow morning. Scrub up and get your glad rags on. Fuck the past!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup they turn from love to anger and then eventually you don't even give them a second thought"
i dont feel anger for any ex iv ever had

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

If you have FEELINGS for a ex, why are they a ex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup they turn from love to anger and then eventually you don't even give them a second thoughti dont feel anger for any ex iv ever had"

Lucky for you then. My ex treated me like shit so I had a lot of anger in the beginning. Especially when I found out all the things he had done like take another girl on a date while I was at my mum's funeral. Now I feel lucky I only wasted one year on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have FEELINGS for a ex, why are they a ex?"
some things just dont work out no matter what you try maybe 1 goes from utterly in love to the other kind of love that you have for ya mates totally not romantic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup they turn from love to anger and then eventually you don't even give them a second thoughti dont feel anger for any ex iv ever had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have FEELINGS for a ex, why are they a ex?"

Because they may no longer have feeling for you. That’s pretty obvious.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Yes because if you don’t it will eat you up

They are ex’s for a reason, they don’t deserve your brain space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

If only it was that easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slowly depending on how you broke up. Surprising how quick love can turn to hatred lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many unhappy bitter breakups im shocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the hell! Losing you Mum woukd have been devastating enough, but to do that to you. Onward to better things sweet. He isn't worth the gum stuck to the underside of a greasy spoons table.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm "

Wouldn't say lose them but the feelings change.

I would never get back with any ex though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say I’ve never felt any hatred or ill feeling towards any ex. I get on well with all of them. The day my divorce came through I took the ex wife a bunch of flowers and a thank you card to thank her for the good times and for our kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup they turn from love to anger and then eventually you don't even give them a second thought"

Anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the Dark Side..

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm "

Yes sometimes almost instantly! I don’t do drama and I haven’t ever gone down the road of hating someone and it’s a total waste of time and emotion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the feelings change. I never went through the hate stage but have learned to let go. When I think of him now, I remember the good times but I wouldn't go back.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Love and hate are two sides of the same coin. Try not to flip the coin.

Forgive yourself, them and your past together and move on to indifference. Time only helps if you are willing to let go. Miss Haversham is not the most flattering look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

If only it was that easy"

It is. You’re obviously not prepared to work hard enough yet. When you are, watch what happens. You’ll love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

If only it was that easy

It is. You’re obviously not prepared to work hard enough yet. When you are, watch what happens. You’ll love it."

Oh I let go a long time ago but it’s not as simple as just switching your feelings off and moving on. Not for some people anyway. I’m more sentimental than that.

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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absofuckinloutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you definitely do with time, the best thing is to fill your time up with other stuff you enjoy and you'll start to think about them less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

I still randomly think of ex's from time to time but I think that's a natural thing to do.

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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

I still randomly think of ex's from time to time but I think that's a natural thing to do."
good to know it ain't just me I was staring to think I still liked him ew

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By *dreamofunicornsWoman
over a year ago

wakefield

Eventually they fade and all you remember is the bad things then you get to enjoy the good memories just takes time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

I still randomly think of ex's from time to time but I think that's a natural thing to do. good to know it ain't just me I was staring to think I still liked him ew "

You would have enjoyed fond times for sure which will trigger memories. It could be a place, a song or a certain meal. It's a way help heal yourself and move forward.

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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

I still randomly think of ex's from time to time but I think that's a natural thing to do. good to know it ain't just me I was staring to think I still liked him ew

You would have enjoyed fond times for sure which will trigger memories. It could be a place, a song or a certain meal. It's a way help heal yourself and move forward. "
I have been moved on for 4 years now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

I still randomly think of ex's from time to time but I think that's a natural thing to do. good to know it ain't just me I was staring to think I still liked him ew

You would have enjoyed fond times for sure which will trigger memories. It could be a place, a song or a certain meal. It's a way help heal yourself and move forward. I have been moved on for 4 years now lol "

I have ex's from 20 years ago that will randomly pop in to my thoughts so you'll enjoy the next 16 years then

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Whether you lose feelings for an ex is a very individual thing, and will vary from each and every person.

For some it will depend on the circumstances leading to why they are an ex.

For others it will not matter why, they may never stop having the feelings for the one and only love they will ever have. And you can’t help feeling sorry for anyone daft enough to get involved with someone like this. But each to their own as they say, I’m bloody glad I’ve never had to compete with an ex for anyone’s heart, and I’m happy to say I’ve never had any trouble forgetting all my ex’s 100% before embarking on another relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wank cum wank cum bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think of exes from over 30 years ago. some give me a nice warm feeling some make me shudder now the rose tinted glasses are off

i despise one ex, my feelings towards him will never change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm "
yes may take a long time but you do in the end.

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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

I still randomly think of ex's from time to time but I think that's a natural thing to do. good to know it ain't just me I was staring to think I still liked him ew

I have ex's from 20 years ago that will randomly pop in to my thoughts so you'll enjoy the next 16 years then

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lol not gonna happen lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever lose feelings for a ex hmm

I still randomly think of ex's from time to time but I think that's a natural thing to do. good to know it ain't just me I was staring to think I still liked him ew

I have ex's from 20 years ago that will randomly pop in to my thoughts so you'll enjoy the next 16 years then

lol not gonna happen lol "

I admire your style, only you can affect your future and you'll have some new passengers along the way who will create more fun and not so fun memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call the Samaritans then. It’s a swinging site ffs. Get a grip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wank cum wank cum bed "

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes & no

My ex husband yes! Hate him for how he has treated our 3 kids since he met someone else

My ex partner, no. Only man I was actually in love with. Still would take him back & it's been 5yrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes & no

My ex husband yes! Hate him for how he has treated our 3 kids since he met someone else

My ex partner, no. Only man I was actually in love with. Still would take him back & it's been 5yrs

Is there no chance to get back with this man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, given time. I struggled for along time with feelings for someone. I know i shouldn't have because of all the lies he told me after we said we would be honest with eachother, i was a fool to belive anything that came out his mouth.

Even after i found more stuff out that was going on i still had feelings for him. I never thought i would truly get over him. Then boom! Its almost like he never existed.

Then he messaged me out of the blue. If this happened a few months before i might have been tempted to message back, even just to ask why he did what he did. But after his 4 attempts i have no want to talk to him, i don't even want to know why. I know it will be a load of lies again and i just don't need that in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only been in love once , proper love , he broke my heart took me years to get over him , first time I saw him after I left him , I had to run away and be sick in the street , the pain was too much , but time is a healer now as long as I never see him I will be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ... I do

I can safely say I have absolutely no feelings except disgust for my ex husband

The two men I’ve loved - it’s past, gone and over - including the feelings

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By *oir_desireMan
over a year ago

London

Yes. I respect my previous partners as each of woman I was seeing before was important part of my life and somehow influenced who I am now but I would never go back to the romantic relationship with any of them. If I felt differently I would fight to get them back.

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By *estSussexGuy76Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"Yup they turn from love to anger and then eventually you don't even give them a second thought"

Yes I fully agree with this .....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sometimes I do but I think it's a part of being human and getting involved. We don't always manage to end relationships with a totally clean break, where all of our dreams wrre met etc. If we'd expected to be together for longer, our exs were to be in our hearts in the future, so it opens the possibility that we'll get feelings surfacing.

If we're single, we may also have times when they would have been supportive of us, so there's a point of a loss that when we may have needed their help, they'll be brought to mind again.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say feelings, I would say a sentimentality for what was once, the mind is an amazing machine which can totally fuck you up, it's not feelings that resurface its memories of those feelings or how that person made you feel and you may even want it again, not nessacerily with that person but that feeling

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