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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Ignore, and then report if they message you again. As far as I am aware the site will know they messaged you twice without reply, and the rules say no reply = no interest so they have broken the rules.

Thats my understanding.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didn’t know that, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot"

Block 'em immediately. Or tell them to go and eat some cornflakes.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Just delete, if they persist, block. I’ve found many like to throw their dummy out if you let them down!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Even when I’ve had it stated on my profile if I don’t reply I’m not interested they get abusive,

My block button is on overdrive lol

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’d be intrigued as to how big my block list is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I know exactly what you mean. Just ignore, block and report anything nasty or abusive.

I know it's not always easy as sometimes it just gets to you, when it does log off, make a cuppa and come back later. X

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Just delete, if they persist, block. I’ve found many like to throw their dummy out if you let them down!"

They'll spit the dummy anyway. It's them, not you. Aren't they pathetic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say no, then block immediately.

Problem solved. Guaranteed results or your money back.

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By *terling2017Woman
over a year ago

birmingham


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot"

Don t give a damn about it.

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"Say no, then block immediately.

Problem solved. Guaranteed results or your money back."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore is very hard Brexit, just be polite and say sorry I'm looking for this or that, imagine that person he sent many messages to many members and got no where,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bock all men using filters and do your own searching. Bingo

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA

What kind of abuse do you get? Is it bad enough to report them?

I just can't imagine people would get that upset but then again there's nowt let as queer as folk as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot"
Just be polite and say no thanks I for one appreciate it, the rude and abusive reactions just say you were right to move on

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By *hoenix Couple 666Couple
over a year ago

Dewsbury


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot"

we reply with a polite message and then if they start with all the abuse and etc we just block. nothing more you can do but atleast we were polite in doing it.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I get abuse from men i never spoken to before. They slag me off then block me thinking i can't report their silly internet trolls. I just reply back to people i like or if they ask me why i am not interested. Best thing for me if either ignore then block if they send me 2 or more copy and paste messages. And only reply to the ones i like. Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get abuse from men i never spoken to before. They slag me off then block me thinking i can't report their silly internet trolls. I just reply back to people i like or if they ask me why i am not interested. Best thing for me if either ignore then block if they send me 2 or more copy and paste messages. And only reply to the ones i like. Happy fabbing "
well you must be popular that's an amazing figure and great pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you do op, follow your heart

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Set out what you're looking for. Put you won't reply to anyone outwith your preference: and don't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever you do op, follow your heart "

If I did that I'd be constantly sat behind Aldi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone doesn't reply I ignore and move on. If someone replies and says "no thanks" or whatever I usually reply to thank them for their reply, as they've taken the time out to let me know either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to shag everyone who messages

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"You need to shag everyone who messages"

I think if every girl who did that would never could leave the bed. It be like that porn star who got into the Guinness book of records for the most sexual partners in a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to shag everyone who messages

I think if every girl who did that would never could leave the bed. It be like that porn star who got into the Guinness book of records for the most sexual partners in a day "
well you do love girth hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to shag everyone who messages

I think if every girl who did that would never could leave the bed. It be like that porn star who got into the Guinness book of records for the most sexual partners in a day well you do love girth hun"

Ahaha

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You need to shag everyone who messages"

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot"

Read the message, if you're not interested, turn it back to "unread" and just leave it. Old messages eventually die. Also never delete a friend invite, then they can send another, just leave them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It amazes me how different fab can be for different people! I reply to virtually all my messages and very very rarely get rude ones plus don't get rude replies back - usually just a thanks that I don't reply to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot"

You're right to block a lot. I get ignored a lot with the odd 'no thanks' mixed in. But, like it or not, either way there's no excuse for abuse. No profit in it either. What do they hope to achieve??

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By *0something1965Man
over a year ago

Belfast

I appreciate people sayng no thanks - its very dispiriting being ignored. The "thanks but no thanks" does reaffirm that there are real people here, not just objects.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

If I get a message from a mf couple or a straight guy I tend to just delete as its clear they havnt read my profile or think they are an "exception" when it comes to come what I'm looking for. The times I have messaged back and said " like it says in my profile I'm not looking for mf/straight guy's, happy fabbing" has mostly led to people confusing my no thank you, for interest. Its just easier to delete and move on and so should the people who send the message. It got deleted without being read...get the fuck over it. Do you really wanna hear your a fugly anyway?

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot"

Babe any woman that replies to me and normally it’s a no thanks .. I don’t get nasty .. we all have tastes and if the lady as taken the time to reply, then respect is a must x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I appreciate people sayng no thanks - its very dispiriting being ignored. The "thanks but no thanks" does reaffirm that there are real people here, not just objects. "

It comes a full time job and very repetitive typing no thanks to over 100 messages aday...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot"

If you're not interested just block and delete the message without replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I appreciate people sayng no thanks - its very dispiriting being ignored. The "thanks but no thanks" does reaffirm that there are real people here, not just objects.

It comes a full time job and very repetitive typing no thanks to over 100 messages aday... "
type faster

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"So I really don’t know what is right and wrong on this site,

If I reply to a guy and say no thanks to meeting I get abuse and if I ignore the message I get abuse? So what is the right way to let someone down without them throwing their dummy out?

And yes I use my block button an awful lot

Babe any woman that replies to me and normally it’s a no thanks .. I don’t get nasty .. we all have tastes and if the lady as taken the time to reply, then respect is a must x"

I quite agree. When I get a no, I say "thanks for replying, happy fabbing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever you do op, follow your heart

If I did that I'd be constantly sat behind Aldi. "

My luv

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