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Self identify and empower yourself...

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester

So another thread got me thinking.

Someone said regarding to body size on here, that you should self identify as you see fit, and empower yourself by doing so.

But is it really an empowering thing to do if it’s clearly not the case?

You can say you’re slim when you’re actually large, or vice versa, but is that empowerment or delusion?

You could identify as anything you like, but if you know you aren’t that, why would you even consider doing so?

I know that these days we have men identifying as women and women as men, but that’s a different subject (or is it?) but for now, what do you think if someone says they are something they clearly aren’t?

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Mostly I think they are a liar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let them all crack on

If a horse identifies as a sheep I no longer care.

Whatever you say it's going to offend someone so it's better to be quiet

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We've never been into false advertising.

If someone doesn't like your shape/size then there'll be others who will. No point in being dishonest/deluded because if you're going to meet someone then all will become obvious anyway.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

All that matters is people are happy and positive as can be, can spend your whole life feeling ugly fat or thin but all that matters is your own opinion of yourself and your own goals in life, if you are lucky enough to be happy with what you have you are indeed a lucky person

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Let them all crack on

If a horse identifies as a sheep I no longer care.

Whatever you say it's going to offend someone so it's better to be quiet

"

I have to say that this pretty much sums it up for me too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I self identify as fabulous I'm darn sure plenty would disagree but in the words of Catherine Tate "I ain't bovvered"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All that matters is people are happy and positive as can be, can spend your whole life feeling ugly fat or thin but all that matters is your own opinion of yourself and your own goals in life, if you are lucky enough to be happy with what you have you are indeed a lucky person "

Partially agree.

Yes, nobody should ever beat themselves up - whatever you want in life, that is going to hinder it. Been there done that.

However, self appraisal is important in your personal life as much as in your professional/educational life.

If someone is unhealthy in some dynamic, you know them, and you care about them, I don't think it's bad to tactfully ask if everything is okay in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a tiger raaaaaaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I identify as a proctologist but ain't have any arseholes to examinate

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hello Glos,

Who ever said that ( I will look in a mo ) must be confused if you have quoted them correctly.

I am all for self empowerment but empowerment means taking control, setting your own goals, believing in yourself..... in a nutshell KNOWING yourself and LIKING yourself and WORKING with what you have and not being downtrodden by the negativity of others.

Now...... People who go....... oooooo im 'this' when they are really 'that' are simply deluded and heading for a fall.

If they take their 'THAT' and own it - then they are empowering themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I identify as a proctologist but ain't have any arseholes to examinate "
i prefer to block arseholes

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I am a tiger raaaaaaaa"

My lion kills your tiger ROAAAARRRRRRR

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I identify as a proctologist but ain't have any arseholes to examinate i prefer to block arseholes "

With a melon ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a tiger raaaaaaaa

My lion kills your tiger ROAAAARRRRRRR"
tigers are bigger so less effort needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I identify as a proctologist but ain't have any arseholes to examinate i prefer to block arseholes

With a melon ?"

A juicy one to give them a juicy ass

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I am a tiger raaaaaaaa

My lion kills your tiger ROAAAARRRRRRRtigers are bigger so less effort needed "

Too fucking late. You are already dead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a tiger raaaaaaaa

My lion kills your tiger ROAAAARRRRRRRtigers are bigger so less effort needed

Too fucking late. You are already dead. "
i live in a jungle with my f&bs leaf blower i stole you cant find me to make me dead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a tiger raaaaaaaa

My lion kills your tiger ROAAAARRRRRRRtigers are bigger so less effort needed

Too fucking late. You are already dead. i live in a jungle with my f&bs leaf blower i stole you cant find me to make me dead"

How high are you both ?

I am 5'9

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I am a tiger raaaaaaaa

My lion kills your tiger ROAAAARRRRRRRtigers are bigger so less effort needed

Too fucking late. You are already dead. i live in a jungle with my f&bs leaf blower i stole you cant find me to make me dead"

I own the jungle and have cctv'd it to buggery. We find you behind a coconut and smash your leafblower. You are well and truly dead puny tiger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a tiger raaaaaaaa

My lion kills your tiger ROAAAARRRRRRRtigers are bigger so less effort needed

Too fucking late. You are already dead. i live in a jungle with my f&bs leaf blower i stole you cant find me to make me dead

How high are you both ?

I am 5'9"
5'9 also

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

The world will tell you what/who you are if you are big or small cloth size, shoes, space don't lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a tiger raaaaaaaa

My lion kills your tiger ROAAAARRRRRRRtigers are bigger so less effort needed

Too fucking late. You are already dead. i live in a jungle with my f&bs leaf blower i stole you cant find me to make me dead

I own the jungle and have cctv'd it to buggery. We find you behind a coconut and smash your leafblower. You are well and truly dead puny tiger.

"
this is starting to remind me of the other guys

Tuna vs lion

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Hello Glos,

Who ever said that ( I will look in a mo ) must be confused if you have quoted them correctly.

I am all for self empowerment but empowerment means taking control, setting your own goals, believing in yourself..... in a nutshell KNOWING yourself and LIKING yourself and WORKING with what you have and not being downtrodden by the negativity of others.

Now...... People who go....... oooooo im 'this' when they are really 'that' are simply deluded and heading for a fall.

If they take their 'THAT' and own it - then they are empowering themselves. "

I completely agree with you .

It’s the acceptance of oneself that they are ‘that’ and being 100% comfortable with it that is true empowerment in my opinion too.

To be delusional and to identify as something one isn’t is just plain daft, and does nothing to empower. If anything it sets one up for ridicule which is far from empowerment.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The world will tell you what/who you are if you are big or small cloth size, shoes, space don't lie."

What if I suck my cheeks in ?

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"The world will tell you what/who you are if you are big or small cloth size, shoes, space don't lie.

What if I suck my cheeks in ?"

For how long?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I identify as a hot, young looking 47 year old... I am clearly only one of those things but I feel like the other 2 are mostly true,most of the time. So whether anyone else thinks I am deluded about that is their business, not mine. Other peoples opinions are not my concern as they make no difference to how I feel about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it makes them happy, it's fine by me

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The world will tell you what/who you are if you are big or small cloth size, shoes, space don't lie.

What if I suck my cheeks in ?

For how long?"

6 inches

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I identify as a hot, young looking 47 year old... I am clearly only one of those things but I feel like the other 2 are mostly true,most of the time. So whether anyone else thinks I am deluded about that is their business, not mine. Other peoples opinions are not my concern as they make no difference to how I feel about myself "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let them all crack on

If a horse identifies as a sheep I no longer care.

Whatever you say it's going to offend someone so it's better to be quiet

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I identify as athletic, I've received no end of messages saying I'm not along with some abuse.

I really don't care what others think if I'm honest

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m aware that i’m a leggy fat bird. My pics show it, my profile says it.

Folk can make an informed choice and go from there

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