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By *abat40x OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire

I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry about it your overthinking it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Call yourself what you want to call yourself.

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By *abat40x OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire


"Dont worry about it your overthinking it "

That's what us ladies do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a different opinion...call yourself what you feel you are x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Dont worry about it your overthinking it

That's what us ladies do "

And trust me you'll hear about it no matter what you choose. Haters gonna hate, etc.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Dont worry about it your overthinking it

That's what us ladies do "

Fabulous, I think that's a lovely one anyone who feels sexy x

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Yeah fuck 'em. If you are happy in yourself then dont listen to the wankers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont worry about it your overthinking it

That's what us ladies do

And trust me you'll hear about it no matter what you choose. Haters gonna hate, etc. "

Sadly this is true

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Dont worry about it your overthinking it

That's what us ladies do

And trust me you'll hear about it no matter what you choose. Haters gonna hate, etc.

Sadly this is true "

It's an excellent arsehole filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx "

Men like that are mysogonists who have an extremely jaded view of the world. Sad day for them though, with women becoming more and more empowered as time goes on. Thankfully these men are slowly becoming a dieing breed

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By *abat40x OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire


"I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx

Men like that are mysogonists who have an extremely jaded view of the world. Sad day for them though, with women becoming more and more empowered as time goes on. Thankfully these men are slowly becoming a dieing breed"

Thank god for that lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

When I first joined I picked curvy. I felt fat but didn't want to be brutal about myself on my profile. Curvy helped me reclaim something positive about myself.

That may or may not feel right for you. But my thought process might help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy is a shape not a size so if you're curvy then put curvy!!! Don't ever worry what other people think!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Curvy is a shape not a size so if you're curvy then put curvy!!! Don't ever worry what other people think! "

You can be curvy and slim, curvy and overweight or normal weight. You do you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont worry about it your overthinking it

That's what us ladies do

And trust me you'll hear about it no matter what you choose. Haters gonna hate, etc.

Sadly this is true

It's an excellent arsehole filter. "

That's very true

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

We are all different and I don’t think there should be categories.

We are what we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had that issue with how to categorise myself. I chose curvy because I was more comfortable and if someone thinks it’s a lie of some sort they can go away, I wear a 14 in trousers, but a 16 dress and size of clothing doesn’t dictate this as curvy hips, a taller body, bigger boobs all factor in and some people might think someone who’s a 16 look thinner than the size 16 right next to them. I really did struggle and question it but one person’s large, ample or curvy is not the same as another’s. You get to choose and they can talk to you and see your photos and decide what it means.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx "
. This is about you and how you see yourself what wording you feel comfortable using.Your profile your choice of words no one else is

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I got not so gently prodded into changing mine recently. I try not to think about it, I'm not sure I count

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By *abat40x OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire


"We are all different and I don’t think there should be categories.

We are what we are "

This is very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only have a few options to choose from

Add in that bit of body dysmorphia in us all and a penchant for labelling ourselves and others and you're in muddy waters

I see you opted for curvy - from the pics on show, I'd say that's about right for you

Size 16 isn't huge yet it isn't slim, so yeah curvy

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By *r_GirthMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd take into account your height, if you were size 16 and 6ft I'd say large. Looking at your height, size 16 and pics I'd say curvy is right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of good body photos will let people make there own minds up

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx "
stuff what others think be yourself.

I hate that everything has to have a label. If your happy put what you want down if someone disagrees that's their problem ignore or block and delete if they say anything inappropriate.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Don’t overthink it but most of all don’t worry about what others want to label you as.

I’m going to label myself athletic after the great sportsmen who played darts in the 1980s

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Don’t overthink it but most of all don’t worry about what others want to label you as.

I’m going to label myself athletic after the great sportsmen who played darts in the 1980s "

Like many men on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx "

What gives anyone the right to have a go anyone's body size. Everyone is different. I find women's bodies sexy no matter what the size, it doesn't matter. If that's what they think then fuck them. Be proud of who you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a size 16, had the same thought as you.

So posted as average.

There's plenty of photos of me on our friends pics so they get plenty of warning in advance lol X

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Go with whatever your comfortable with as it probably matters far more to you than anyone else. Personally I would lable you with fantastic if it was an option.

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By *ultrySiriWoman
over a year ago

Arundel

Those tick boxes on fab don't mean a thing.

I chose curvy because i am not large in my own eyes and my fab friends. And if other users would have said xs or medium on their profile then maybe i would consider it lol.

It's just a label.

Ps. Dont even start me on what fabuluous means lol

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

Had a conversation lately where I mentioned her curviness as a means not to insult. She replied saying, "no, I'm fat".

Fat or curvy. Same thing? In my view, and not limited to, your fat if you have a spare tyre or round belly, legs thicker than mine and bingo wings. I had a round belly once and classed myself as fat much to my disliking. Let's call a spade a spade. x

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Had a conversation lately where I mentioned her curviness as a means not to insult. She replied saying, "no, I'm fat".

Fat or curvy. Same thing? In my view, and not limited to, your fat if you have a spare tyre or round belly, legs thicker than mine and bingo wings. I had a round belly once and classed myself as fat much to my disliking. Let's call a spade a spade. x"

I class myself as curvy, its doesn't mean fat to me Fi x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's up to people to self identify, empower themselves as they see fit.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Ruby

Class yourself as you wish.

From what I can see you look great, amazing, hot (so many ways to describe you)

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If somebody wants to advise you for health reasons, that's one thing, but nobody should be telling you to lose weight for aesthetics. Size 16 is a lovely size and you look gorgeous.

We tend to say curvy because it's seen gets a more positive reception, but refer to yourself however you want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx

Men like that are mysogonists who have an extremely jaded view of the world. Sad day for them though, with women becoming more and more empowered as time goes on. Thankfully these men are slowly becoming a dieing breed

Thank god for that lol "

Slowly being wiped out by stiletto heels to the back

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London


"Had a conversation lately where I mentioned her curviness as a means not to insult. She replied saying, "no, I'm fat".

Fat or curvy. Same thing? In my view, and not limited to, your fat if you have a spare tyre or round belly, legs thicker than mine and bingo wings. I had a round belly once and classed myself as fat much to my disliking. Let's call a spade a spade. x

I class myself as curvy, its doesn't mean fat to me Fi x"

Not that it matters what I think but I sure see curvy, not fat/obese. x I've seen fat/obese being described as curvy. Another thing I see in this thread - "get rid of labels etc." "haters gonna hate" etc.

In response, I think we must bear in mind it's simply a description which can be both subjective and objective but never applied prescriptively. x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I really wouldn't worry about your definition in the technical spec. Both can be used to describe a fuller woman. You have good pictures so everyone can get an idea of you. Just pick the one that you feel is most applicable to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By definition your waist has to be narrower than your hips, then your curvy (hourglass), if you're round like the michillin man, you're large

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It's up to people to self identify, empower themselves as they see fit. "

Well that’s not essentially true is it?

If someone is very thin and self identifies as curvy is simply isn’t true.

Just as someone who identifies as slim but is morbidly obese would be misleading a potential meet.

So if people are actually looking to meet others, it’s only fair to identify as what is, rather than what one may identify as, if that’s nothing like the reality.

The whole empowering thing is all very well but it makes no sense if someone is delusional.

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

From what is visible in your photos you seem to have a clear waistline and more of an hourglass figure so I would call that curvy.

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By *abat40x OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire


"From what is visible in your photos you seem to have a clear waistline and more of an hourglass figure so I would call that curvy."

Thank you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's up to people to self identify, empower themselves as they see fit.

Well that’s not essentially true is it?

If someone is very thin and self identifies as curvy is simply isn’t true.

Just as someone who identifies as slim but is morbidly obese would be misleading a potential meet.

So if people are actually looking to meet others, it’s only fair to identify as what is, rather than what one may identify as, if that’s nothing like the reality.

The whole empowering thing is all very well but it makes no sense if someone is delusional."

Which is why we have pictures.

I try to lift others up not drag them down.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It's up to people to self identify, empower themselves as they see fit.

Well that’s not essentially true is it?

If someone is very thin and self identifies as curvy is simply isn’t true.

Just as someone who identifies as slim but is morbidly obese would be misleading a potential meet.

So if people are actually looking to meet others, it’s only fair to identify as what is, rather than what one may identify as, if that’s nothing like the reality.

The whole empowering thing is all very well but it makes no sense if someone is delusional.

Which is why we have pictures.

I try to lift others up not drag them down. "

I’m not trying to drag anyone down, just being realistic.

If someone identifies as slim and shows pics that are clearly curvy or large, you can be sure plenty will tell them. And that certainly won’t lift them will it?

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Had a conversation lately where I mentioned her curviness as a means not to insult. She replied saying, "no, I'm fat".

Fat or curvy. Same thing? In my view, and not limited to, your fat if you have a spare tyre or round belly, legs thicker than mine and bingo wings. I had a round belly once and classed myself as fat much to my disliking. Let's call a spade a spade. x

I class myself as curvy, its doesn't mean fat to me Fi x

Not that it matters what I think but I sure see curvy, not fat/obese. x I've seen fat/obese being described as curvy. Another thing I see in this thread - "get rid of labels etc." "haters gonna hate" etc.

In response, I think we must bear in mind it's simply a description which can be both subjective and objective but never applied prescriptively. x"

Agree, I wouldn't say I'm slim or ample so ooted curvy, maybe squidgy for me better if an option lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice anus on you op

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London


"Had a conversation lately where I mentioned her curviness as a means not to insult. She replied saying, "no, I'm fat".

Fat or curvy. Same thing? In my view, and not limited to, your fat if you have a spare tyre or round belly, legs thicker than mine and bingo wings. I had a round belly once and classed myself as fat much to my disliking. Let's call a spade a spade. x

I class myself as curvy, its doesn't mean fat to me Fi x

Not that it matters what I think but I sure see curvy, not fat/obese. x I've seen fat/obese being described as curvy. Another thing I see in this thread - "get rid of labels etc." "haters gonna hate" etc.

In response, I think we must bear in mind it's simply a description which can be both subjective and objective but never applied prescriptively. x

Agree, I wouldn't say I'm slim or ample so ooted curvy, maybe squidgy for me better if an option lol x"

Sorry to disappoint you Fi but I'm making an exception by placing you into the fabulicious category. Hope no offence is taken. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on here before I proudly called myself curvy I've since gained some weight around my stomach and hips and so don't feel sexy and comfortable in my skin right now so on my new profile I opted for large instead. It's back to curvy now as my boyfriend persuaded me that I'm still curvy.

So use whatever one works for You, but I would call you curvy

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Used whatever you think best.

Personally, based on your photos, I would go for curvy.

I'm a 14/16 at the moment but am curvy regardless of my dress size... so that is what I chose.

I think that as long as you have photos that accurately reflect your body type, how you describe yourself doesn't really matter.

Nita

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Had a conversation lately where I mentioned her curviness as a means not to insult. She replied saying, "no, I'm fat".

Fat or curvy. Same thing? In my view, and not limited to, your fat if you have a spare tyre or round belly, legs thicker than mine and bingo wings. I had a round belly once and classed myself as fat much to my disliking. Let's call a spade a spade. x

I class myself as curvy, its doesn't mean fat to me Fi x

Not that it matters what I think but I sure see curvy, not fat/obese. x I've seen fat/obese being described as curvy. Another thing I see in this thread - "get rid of labels etc." "haters gonna hate" etc.

In response, I think we must bear in mind it's simply a description which can be both subjective and objective but never applied prescriptively. x

Agree, I wouldn't say I'm slim or ample so ooted curvy, maybe squidgy for me better if an option lol x

Sorry to disappoint you Fi but I'm making an exception by placing you into the fabulicious category. Hope no offence is taken. xx"

Is that better for me then, appreciate feedback. Ps I've saved some ironing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given that this is fab there's a pretty good chance that you're actually a bloke.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Given that this is fab there's a pretty good chance that you're actually a bloke. "

I'm deffo female, hubby male, been on here 3yrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given that this is fab there's a pretty good chance that you're actually a bloke.

I'm deffo female, hubby male, been on here 3yrs "

That's exactly what all the fakes say.. until you ask for a fem fem phone call. Then... Strangely quiet. ha ha. Losers.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Given that this is fab there's a pretty good chance that you're actually a bloke.

I'm deffo female, hubby male, been on here 3yrs

That's exactly what all the fakes say.. until you ask for a fem fem phone call. Then... Strangely quiet. ha ha. Losers."

Ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry about labels, you rock what you have

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By *assy_AttitudeWoman
over a year ago

RHYL

You're beautiful as you are. Dont let the haters get to you

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

From your photo on the 15th Aug I’d say you are curvy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx "

Size 16 ain't fat and must say touch look great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given that this is fab there's a pretty good chance that you're actually a bloke.

I'm deffo female, hubby male, been on here 3yrs

That's exactly what all the fakes say.. until you ask for a fem fem phone call. Then... Strangely quiet. ha ha. Losers."

I can confirm that they are most definitely male and female and very friendly ones too. Met them last year in Manchester.

And I'm definitely a woman too and I wouldn't call with a stranger. Not everyone is extrovert and/or likes calling

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Given that this is fab there's a pretty good chance that you're actually a bloke.

I'm deffo female, hubby male, been on here 3yrs

That's exactly what all the fakes say.. until you ask for a fem fem phone call. Then... Strangely quiet. ha ha. Losers.

I can confirm that they are most definitely male and female and very friendly ones too. Met them last year in Manchester.

And I'm definitely a woman too and I wouldn't call with a stranger. Not everyone is extrovert and/or likes calling "

Ta hun. Funny we've lots veris from well verid people not just one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm unsure as to class myself as cuvry or large on fab as a size 16 which seem to be the UK average size for a woman I find it insulting when I get called fat or told to lose weight I don't want to lead people on if I'm classed as large xx "

#GourgeouslyLarge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all fussed,as long as you are confident and uninhibited

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

I've met some athletic bodies that is not our preference by the way, and let me assure you they should have been in the fabulous category!

We prefer real honest people dad bods, mum tums all cool here

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By *abat40x OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire


"Dont worry about labels, you rock what you have "

Thank you xx

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By *abat40x OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire


"You're beautiful as you are. Dont let the haters get to you "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your lovely and sexy with a beautiful body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Describe yourself as you wish. It's all very subjective and thier are only a few options to chose. However from what i can see you look great.

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