FabSwingers.com forum: POF vs FAB...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fiiiiiiiiight

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Fiiiiiiiiight "

Huh wa. Where. ?? Damit. I thought banana man was here ffs.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Yup... I was on PoF for a year or two before being introduced to swinging sites. When I joined Fab I suddenly recognised tonnes of local profiles and names... Guys who claimed to be looking for relationships on PoF whom my girlfriends had met for coffee or briefly dated but then suddenly been ghosted by and left wondering what went wrong... It became pretty obvious then that whenever these guys they were 'dating' had managed to get a Fab meet and got their dicks wet, they lost interest in dating and just ignored whomever they had been seeing until they ran into another Fab dry spell. It was an eye-opener, and completely disillusioned me (I had been very much a romantic). I could never look at dating the same way again, the illusion of the 'nice guy just looking for someone to love' was completely and irrevocably burst, and really I do miss that innocence, that romantic side of me that wanted to see the people I care about finding their happy ever after... I didn't tell my friends. I didn't want them to feel that same disappointment and loss of trust, I didn't want to deny them their romantic hopes and dreams. They knew I'd changed, but not why, and after a while simply accepted that I was just happy being single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on pof, long long time ago

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By *DM9012Man
over a year ago

Gatwick

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By *DM9012Man
over a year ago

Gatwick

Think PoF is more for date,love etc. Fab has it too but more kinky people looking for fun... dunno(btw we need an edit button here... or I can't see it?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m on both, as I want dates and. Ultimately a relationship hence pof. And. I use here for nsa sex ,,, seems plausible to me. No biggy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m on both, as I want dates and. Ultimately a relationship hence pof. And. I use here for nsa sex ,,, seems plausible to me. No biggy "

I never understand why people don’t get it. I don’t separate the two, I want the same from both. Just easier to find what I ultimately want from here. Dating sites just means I have to get the swinging interest into the conversation early on.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

Its bound to happen but then its no different from wanting different things for dinner each evening.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"I’m on both, as I want dates and. Ultimately a relationship hence pof. And. I use here for nsa sex ,,, seems plausible to me. No biggy

I get that completely. I couldn't separate the two either as I'd feel that if I were actively looking for a relationship, that's where my focus would be... Whether on here or on PoF, I'd have to treat people the same and have the same intent and expectations. It's too easy to muddy the waters and for people not to take you seriously in looking for a relationship or partnership if you're also being casual. Nobody would ever knew where they stood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m on both, as I want dates and. Ultimately a relationship hence pof. And. I use here for nsa sex ,,, seems plausible to me. No biggy

Exactly this. I can’t separate, nor do I want to. I need to focus properly on one or the other or it’s too confusing for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of women looking for fun on pof, if you use the filters.

I've noticed one on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m on both, as I want dates and. Ultimately a relationship hence pof. And. I use here for nsa sex ,,, seems plausible to me. No biggy

Exactly this. I can’t separate, nor do I want to. I need to focus properly on one or the other or it’s too confusing for all. "

I don’t want to separate either, I’m into kink and on f3t aswell. Most men on here aren’t after a relationship though. I’d never date anyone who I wouldn’t be sexually compatible with. Works ok for me

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Happens a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

Someone on here swiped me on either POF or tinder, and we matched. said hi, and that I would be interested in chatting. Got no reply. Bumped into her profile here and had a look, totally forgot it said "no beards". Why the hell did she swipe me, when my beard is fully on display and noticeable

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

Much prefer Tinder for vanilla dates. Quick and easy so don't need another app for the same thing.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I’m not on pof but I’m on another dating site!

Other than the pictures (I’m obviously fully dressed on those - but some are the same ones as the dressed ones on here!) my profile is pretty much the same! I’m very open about the fact that I’m sexually adventurous - and I’m open on both sites about looking for someone special! I’ve nothing to hide!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m on both, as I want dates and. Ultimately a relationship hence pof. And. I use here for nsa sex ,,, seems plausible to me. No biggy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not on pof but I’m on another dating site!

And I love you for that Peachy. Hope you find that special someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

Much prefer Tinder for vanilla dates. Quick and easy so don't need another app for the same thing.

I have ‘vanilla’ dates from here. Fab isn’t always about just sex. I just like to connect here with a likeminded guy. Sex is usually the last thing we get to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on both, I'm widening my audience. On both I'm looking for a connection, I just don't mention the sex stuff on my profile on POF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on both. But find POF especially in Ireland is crap. Small pool of guys etc. I'd like to date heck I haven't dated since 1998.

Here suits at moment as I work silly hours. Plus I want to explore sex and learn to enjoy it. So just here for now is enough.

And yes the amount of guys that I've seen on both. Met one guy on POF the whole conversation he was never getting married etc I'm sitting drinking my coffee thinking I only want to date.

He messaged me here, I said we had already met on POF and we didn't really hit it off there so couldn't see us hitting it off sexually. His reply oh ya I remember ya now. Ur the fat blonde.

Charming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was on both. But find POF especially in Ireland is crap. Small pool of guys etc. I'd like to date heck I haven't dated since 1998.

Here suits at moment as I work silly hours. Plus I want to explore sex and learn to enjoy it. So just here for now is enough.

And yes the amount of guys that I've seen on both. Met one guy on POF the whole conversation he was never getting married etc I'm sitting drinking my coffee thinking I only want to date.

He messaged me here, I said we had already met on POF and we didn't really hit it off there so couldn't see us hitting it off sexually. His reply oh ya I remember ya now. Ur the fat blonde.

Charming. "

I found that myself on POF and here.

I was messaging someone on here then saw the same pics on POF but the profiles read totally different.

POF.. Was I'm not wanting FB one night stands I want relationship.

here read totally different was the complete opposite.because she was in a relationship on here but claimed to be single on POF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same guys on here and on pof saying different things, will say I met a slightly weirder type of bloke on there

ones with lots more issues shall we say. Never going back there.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Never get any meets on either so both the same in my book

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I have ‘vanilla’ dates from here. Fab isn’t always about just sex. I just like to connect here with a like minded guy. Sex is usually the last thing we get to. "

This for me too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have encountered this. I was chatting to a girl on POF. Then I noticed her on fab. I never mentioned that I had seen her Fab profile as I thought it was her choice. So after a few weeks I dropped a few hints around swinging. She never admitted to being on Fab. I stopped seeing her simply because she was fibbing. 4 months later I was at a party and she was at it! You should have seen her face

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

That's me all over...haha I use pof sometimes too but tend to get self righteous if a guy wants just a bang. " Excuse me? You want to what? This is a dating site. I think your in the wrong place. I have heard about this place called fab tho. Think you would be more suited there"

I did spot 1 on here at aater date but he didnt last long lmao.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer here as at least there is the TripAdvisor rating that we have here. As for plenty of fanny I find it a little odd, men message saying "do you like anal?" Along with a picture of them with their kids with a bucket and spade......nah! Not for me.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Perhaps they want different things because they're very different websites....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's me all over...haha I use pof sometimes too but tend to get self righteous if a guy wants just a bang. " Excuse me? You want to what? This is a dating site. I think your in the wrong place. I have heard about this place called fab tho. Think you would be more suited there"

I did spot 1 on here at aater date but he didnt last long lmao. "
lol I was not taking a dig at her. I’m old enough to realise ppl need and want discretion. My only issue with it was her attitude. She got a bit defensive! But lets not judge. As I hate it when woman demand a bang from me on POF! How dare they!!!

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

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Or on POF- enjoys country walks, Italian cooking, knitting and squash.

Then Fab interests! Well

You know the rest I’ll keep quiet before I talk myself into bother

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

Yes but they want similar on either sites. Probably more naughtier on here... Like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

Yes but they want similar on either sites. Probably more naughtier on here... Like me

And me

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

) Or on POF- enjoys country walks, Italian cooking, knitting and squash.

Then Fab interests! Well

You know the rest I’ll keep quiet before I talk myself into bother "

Long walks and country pubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

) Or on POF- enjoys country walks, Italian cooking, knitting and squash.

Then Fab interests! Well

You know the rest I’ll keep quiet before I talk myself into bother "

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I hate the photo restrictions on pof. I'm not allowed any body shots. Just my face in the avatar pic... Boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

) Or on POF- enjoys country walks, Italian cooking, knitting and squash.

Then Fab interests! Well

You know the rest I’ll keep quiet before I talk myself into bother

I love all kinds of things but I’m not going to mention my love of kink and swinging on a dating app. Museum visits, gigs, meditation etc is what I like but I also love group sex, clubs, bondage. If I put that on Pof, I’m going to attract all kinds of wrong guys. "
Very True and i 100% understand your reasoning. My issue was when I mentioned to the girls about sexual exploration she effectively professed to being a nun. Whilst 10 mins earlier i had seen on her Fab profile she was at a swingers club at the weekend before. I never mentioned it for this exact reason you mention. I did not want to embarrass her.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Dated someone through plenty of fish, who I had previously talked to on here.

Despite common interests (other than fab) we didn't have chemistry for a relationship.

I'd be happy if I found a relationship on this site.

I'd be happy if I had a one night stand through plenty of fish.

But it's not what I'm looking for, on those sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same person but want different things.

We call that a shizo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on POF, I met a lot more women than I have done off this site.

And the ladies were very keen on getting to the sex ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on POF for a while and was very easy to spot fabbers. Loads of fabber profiles on there. It wasn't what I wanted. If I wanted a fabber I'd look here. There's certain phrases and terminology which creeps into their profiles. Obvious one is "meet for coffee first"

. That's not a vanilla phrase. Another give away is when they block you if you ask if they are on fab. Again knowing what fab means, a give away.

I wouldn't date a fabber, if I did I'd look here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

) Or on POF- enjoys country walks, Italian cooking, knitting and squash.

Then Fab interests! Well

You know the rest I’ll keep quiet before I talk myself into bother

I love all kinds of things but I’m not going to mention my love of kink and swinging on a dating app. Museum visits, gigs, meditation etc is what I like but I also love group sex, clubs, bondage. If I put that on Pof, I’m going to attract all kinds of wrong guys. Very True and i 100% understand your reasoning. My issue was when I mentioned to the girls about sexual exploration she effectively professed to being a nun. Whilst 10 mins earlier i had seen on her Fab profile she was at a swingers club at the weekend before. I never mentioned it for this exact reason you mention. I did not want to embarrass her. "

Women get judged massively for being on sites like this so many choose to keep it a secret. I have told people from dating sites that I’m on here and some of them treated me as just sex after that point. That’s not the kind of guy that I would be compatible with. I get why she may have chosen to keep it quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was on POF for a while and was very easy to spot fabbers. Loads of fabber profiles on there. It wasn't what I wanted. If I wanted a fabber I'd look here. There's certain phrases and terminology which creeps into their profiles. Obvious one is "meet for coffee first"

. That's not a vanilla phrase. Another give away is when they block you if you ask if they are on fab. Again knowing what fab means, a give away.

I wouldn't date a fabber, if I did I'd look here."

That’s doesn’t really make sense. Why does it matter where you meet people, if you wanted to date? Surely a connection and similar mindsets are important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

. That's not a vanilla phrase. Another give away is when they block you if you ask if they are on fab. Again knowing what fab means, a give away.

I wouldn't date a fabber, if I did I'd look here.

That’s doesn’t really make sense. Why does it matter where you meet people, if you wanted to date? Surely a connection and similar mindsets are important. "

For the same reasons you mentioned in your previous comment. It works both ways. They treat you differently too. Theres a trust issue the creeps in and will never go away and that effects how I am with them afterwards too.

I wouldn't want to be drawn back into the fab scene, whether physically or mentally.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

What? You are? ..... or somebody else is?

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

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What? You are? ..... or somebody else is? "

I’ve seen the same person on here from 3 fun but different age.. oh and yes I’m on 3fun too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

. That's not a vanilla phrase. Another give away is when they block you if you ask if they are on fab. Again knowing what fab means, a give away.

I wouldn't date a fabber, if I did I'd look here.

That’s doesn’t really make sense. Why does it matter where you meet people, if you wanted to date? Surely a connection and similar mindsets are important.

I wouldn't want to be drawn back into the fab scene, whether physically or mentally.

So you’re not an actual swinger then?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

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What? You are? ..... or somebody else is?

I’ve seen the same person on here from 3 fun but different age.. oh and yes I’m on 3fun too

No idea what 3fun is - but is it a decent site?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm on pof, don't really use it much as most are on here looking for nsa too. Only difference is they lie to get what they want on pof.

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By *r and Mrs A HornyCouple
over a year ago

coventry

Me and S met on POF I was very honest about swinging and sex, then after dating 2 years it kept popping up so we join fab rest is history now planning our wedding in the next two years.

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By *r and Mrs A HornyCouple
over a year ago

coventry

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

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What? You are? ..... or somebody else is?

I’ve seen the same person on here from 3 fun but different age.. oh and yes I’m on 3fun too

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No idea what 3fun is - but is it a decent site?

I think that was 3inder but was made to change it a good site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and S met on POF I was very honest about swinging and sex, then after dating 2 years it kept popping up so we join fab rest is history now planning our wedding in the next two years.

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lovely! You are a very hot couple xx

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

)

What? You are? ..... or somebody else is?

I’ve seen the same person on here from 3 fun but different age.. oh and yes I’m on 3fun too

)

No idea what 3fun is - but is it a decent site?

I think that was 3inder but was made to change it a good site. "

Ah ok - didn’t really it had changed it’s name - thanks for the info!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

. That's not a vanilla phrase. Another give away is when they block you if you ask if they are on fab. Again knowing what fab means, a give away.

I wouldn't date a fabber, if I did I'd look here.

That’s doesn’t really make sense. Why does it matter where you meet people, if you wanted to date? Surely a connection and similar mindsets are important.

I wouldn't want to be drawn back into the fab scene, whether physically or mentally.

So you’re not an actual swinger then? "

? Please explain what you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and S met on POF I was very honest about swinging and sex, then after dating 2 years it kept popping up so we join fab rest is history now planning our wedding in the next two years.

That's nice

This does demonstrate why I wouldn't date a swinger because I would not want to join as a couple.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Me and S met on POF I was very honest about swinging and sex, then after dating 2 years it kept popping up so we join fab rest is history now planning our wedding in the next two years.

That's nice

This does demonstrate why I wouldn't date a swinger because I would not want to join as a couple."

You wouldnt have to join as a couple. You can just carry on with your current profile if you dated a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I much prefer here as at least there is the TripAdvisor rating that we have here. As for plenty of fanny I find it a little odd, men message saying "do you like anal?" Along with a picture of them with their kids with a bucket and spade......nah! Not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and S met on POF I was very honest about swinging and sex, then after dating 2 years it kept popping up so we join fab rest is history now planning our wedding in the next two years.

That's nice

This does demonstrate why I wouldn't date a swinger because I would not want to join as a couple.

You wouldnt have to join as a couple. You can just carry on with your current profile if you dated a swinger.

Yep, but only if one wanted to continue in that scene. I wouldn't want too.

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By *uriousk22Couple
over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

i have had lots from here message me on pof, i was on there before i found fab. I’m very honest on my profile on there tho and tell anyone i’m talking to early on about what i do as i’m not ashamed. Ultimately i would like to find “more” but want to stay within the lifestyle too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have had lots from here message me on pof, i was on there before i found fab. I’m very honest on my profile on there tho and tell anyone i’m talking to early on about what i do as i’m not ashamed. Ultimately i would like to find “more” but want to stay within the lifestyle too"

I think POF has become more a collection of fabbers who want to date find partner who is also wanting to stay within this lifestyle.

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By *uriousk22Couple
over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

I think POF has become more a collection of fabbers who want to date find partner who is also wanting to stay within this lifestyle."

Think a lot of people want this

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Me and S met on POF I was very honest about swinging and sex, then after dating 2 years it kept popping up so we join fab rest is history now planning our wedding in the next two years.

That's nice

This does demonstrate why I wouldn't date a swinger because I would not want to join as a couple.

You wouldnt have to join as a couple. You can just carry on with your current profile if you dated a swinger.

Yep, but only if one wanted to continue in that scene. I wouldn't want too. "

Thanks, that's made things a lot clearer now, so you'd be happy to go vanilla then. All good. X

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I think POF has become more a collection of fabbers who want to date find partner who is also wanting to stay within this lifestyle.

Think a lot of people want this"

Exactly what I'm looking for.

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By *uriousk22Couple
over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

I think POF has become more a collection of fabbers who want to date find partner who is also wanting to stay within this lifestyle.

Think a lot of people want this

Exactly what I'm looking for. "

same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and S met on POF I was very honest about swinging and sex, then after dating 2 years it kept popping up so we join fab rest is history now planning our wedding in the next two years.

That's nice

This does demonstrate why I wouldn't date a swinger because I would not want to join as a couple.

You wouldnt have to join as a couple. You can just carry on with your current profile if you dated a swinger.

Yep, but only if one wanted to continue in that scene. I wouldn't want too.

Thanks, that's made things a lot clearer now, so you'd be happy to go vanilla then. All good. X

Yes, I thought I'd said that in my first post on here by saying I wouldn't date a fabber.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And also on the 3 fun app but with different age ahahah

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What? You are? ..... or somebody else is?

I’ve seen the same person on here from 3 fun but different age.. oh and yes I’m on 3fun too

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No idea what 3fun is - but is it a decent site?

I think that was 3inder but was made to change it a good site. "

They changed the name as tinder threatened them with legal action. I like it as you have to match with people.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Dating a fabber? Sounds ideal to me but also very unlikely to happen xx

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

So you could trust someone from another site but not here? That’s just silly. Surely you can’t group every woman on here into that category. Glad I got to meet a guy from here that treats people as an individual and doesn’t judge just by what site or place they met them on. Too many people with double standards from what I’m reading here.

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over a year ago

"Dating a fabber? Sounds ideal to me but also very unlikely to happen xx"

Never say never. I’ve managed to meet someone lovely but still early days. Gutted he’s not into swinging but that’s something I may have to compromise on as the connection is too good.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Dating a fabber? Sounds ideal to me but also very unlikely to happen xx

Never say never. I’ve managed to meet someone lovely but still early days. Gutted he’s not into swinging but that’s something I may have to compromise on as the connection is too good. "

Aww! Congratulations!

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over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

This! It really winds me up that women on here can’t be trusted, well guess what boys by saying that you’re also adding yourself into the mix, why should we trust you guys then? We’re all the same whether we meet here, pof or in person

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

Yep, seen someone I know on POF "wanting a relationship" and on here "wanting fun". At the end of the day, everyone wants sex, it's just more under the table on the dating apps.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I know right? I don’t cheat no matter what I’m into. I respect people and if I’m with them, they get that from me. I tend to trust easily and haven’t been stung for over 25 years. I’ve either been lucky or chosen well. The kind of person that wouldn’t date someone from here would be the same person that judges someone for having sex on the first date. I’ve also found people who protest too much in that way are usually the ones on here or other apps playing away.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'm on pof but havent logged in for a really long time. I did get a few messages saying am I on fab. Which was weird as my pof profile pictures are all including my face and fully dressed.

I'm not a swinger never will be as I dont do sharing. Yes maybe enjoy the clubs together if that was a mutual desire. However I could walk away tomorrow if the right guy popped into my box.

Just because I'm on fab doesnt mean I've met any Tom, Dick or Harry in actual fact I've met/dated less since being here.

There are very few guys on here would tick my dating box.

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over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"I'm on pof but havent logged in for a really long time. I did get a few messages saying am I on fab. Which was weird as my pof profile pictures are all including my face and fully dressed.

I'm not a swinger never will be as I dont do sharing. Yes maybe enjoy the clubs together if that was a mutual desire. However I could walk away tomorrow if the right guy popped into my box.

Just because I'm on fab doesnt mean I've met any Tom, Dick or Harry in actual fact I've met/dated less since being here.

There are very few guys on here would tick my dating box.

The Elusive searching continues

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over a year ago

"I'm on pof but havent logged in for a really long time. I did get a few messages saying am I on fab. Which was weird as my pof profile pictures are all including my face and fully dressed.

I'm not a swinger never will be as I dont do sharing. Yes maybe enjoy the clubs together if that was a mutual desire. However I could walk away tomorrow if the right guy popped into my box.

Just because I'm on fab doesnt mean I've met any Tom, Dick or Harry in actual fact I've met/dated less since being here.

There are very few guys on here would tick my dating box.

Agree with you here. I’ve also met less people and taken my time to get to know people before doing so. I don’t meet just anyone either. ( the guy I have met from here is from Plymouth, ha. I can’t get away from the janners)

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

What you mean trust someone from another site but not here? This is a sex site for all intense and purposes. One where most are looking for multiple players and new experiences. I thought POF wasn't that type but realised they mostly were.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

For arguments sake, I’m on here and dating sites. I’m looking for a relationship the same on both. I just like a sexually like minded person connect with. How does that make me different on each site. I only date here and not a hook up. Not my thing. I don’t do nsa.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

Pof has casual meets to marriage as a category you can choose. It’s not just for relationships.

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over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"I'm on pof but havent logged in for a really long time. I did get a few messages saying am I on fab. Which was weird as my pof profile pictures are all including my face and fully dressed.

I'm not a swinger never will be as I dont do sharing. Yes maybe enjoy the clubs together if that was a mutual desire. However I could walk away tomorrow if the right guy popped into my box.

Just because I'm on fab doesnt mean I've met any Tom, Dick or Harry in actual fact I've met/dated less since being here.

There are very few guys on here would tick my dating box.

Seriously hah how funny is that

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over a year ago

"I'm on pof but havent logged in for a really long time. I did get a few messages saying am I on fab. Which was weird as my pof profile pictures are all including my face and fully dressed.

I'm not a swinger never will be as I dont do sharing. Yes maybe enjoy the clubs together if that was a mutual desire. However I could walk away tomorrow if the right guy popped into my box.

Just because I'm on fab doesnt mean I've met any Tom, Dick or Harry in actual fact I've met/dated less since being here.

There are very few guys on here would tick my dating box.

Seriously hah how funny is that

He went to a neighbouring school but moved abroad at 14. He lives two stops from me here in London now.

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over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

Pof has casual meets to marriage as a category you can choose. It’s not just for relationships. "

You don't answer the question. If you read what I'd said, I'd left the other site because I found so many on it were fabbers and that wasn't what I was looking for then.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story. "

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story. "

that if anything is clear double standards unless I'm badly mistaken. But apparently I have the double standards, yet she couldn't explain why.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

Pof has casual meets to marriage as a category you can choose. It’s not just for relationships.

You don't answer the question. If you read what I'd said, I'd left the other site because I found so many on it were fabbers and that wasn't what I was looking for then."

What if a fabber was looking for a relationship, like myself and many others?

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

that if anything is clear double standards unless I'm badly mistaken. But apparently I have the double standards, yet she couldn't explain why."

What is the problem with you are any women having promiscuous sex and also being on a dating side and looking for a serious relationship. Why can’t people have fun whilst waiting for the right one to come along?

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites. "

I guess the idea behind swinging is to have free access to multiple partners. One can play with as many as one likes. This may not be what you do, nevertheless by being in that pool you will be viewed rightly or wrongly in that same light.

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over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites. "

They dont. But people arent that honest most of the time that's the problem.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

that if anything is clear double standards unless I'm badly mistaken. But apparently I have the double standards, yet she couldn't explain why.

No problem with that at all, I said I wouldn't date anyone off here, Henze why I left pof, but it seems you've got an issue if someone would think that of you.

Surely I'm entitled to my own choice of who I'd wish to date without you insisting it's wrong, or have I mistaken what you've said. You still haven't explained why I've double standards according to you?

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

They dont. But people arent that honest most of the time that's the problem. "

You can get that anywhere. People cheat full stop. I have no time for people like that but it’s not just on here.

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over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

And theres the problem. So this must apply to you as well? As a female looking at you.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

They dont. But people arent that honest most of the time that's the problem. "

And I wouldn't be honest about my activity on here albeit very very limited when I return to wanting to date and look for a long term partner, for fear of the possibility of being this lifestyle (which isn't a lifestyle for me), into upsetting a relationship.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

that if anything is clear double standards unless I'm badly mistaken. But apparently I have the double standards, yet she couldn't explain why.

No problem with that at all, I said I wouldn't date anyone off here, Henze why I left pof, but it seems you've got an issue if someone would think that of you.

You fuck around on here and are on dating sites. What makes you so trustworthy?

I have no issue as I have no problem meeting the kind of guy that doesn’t judge hence seeing someone from here the last two months with no issues. I’m just saying this for others that may feel judged. I’ve been lucky to have met some wonderful guys from here who important in my life as friends or more.

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over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

They dont. But people arent that honest most of the time that's the problem.

You can get that anywhere. People cheat full stop. I have no time for people like that but it’s not just on here. "

Of course.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

They dont. But people arent that honest most of the time that's the problem.

Meet a decent open minded person and that shouldn’t be an issue about your past.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

And theres the problem. So this must apply to you as well? As a female looking at you."

It can indeed, Hense why I've clearly said this already a few times, I would never date a fabber, and would leave this site completely. It's not a lifestyle for me unlike many others.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

They dont. But people arent that honest most of the time that's the problem.

Meet a decent open minded person and that shouldn’t be an issue about your past. "

You suggesting someone not open to this lifestyle isn't decent or if not what do you mean by that?

I think there are a lot of decent people who wouldn't be interested in this lifestyle.

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over a year ago

no as they both only seek perfect loll

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

They dont. But people arent that honest most of the time that's the problem.

Meet a decent open minded person and that shouldn’t be an issue about your past.

You suggesting someone not open to this lifestyle isn't decent or if not what do you mean by that?

I think there are a lot of decent people who wouldn't be interested in this lifestyle. "

I didn’t say they have to be interested, I said their judgment on your past activities. A decent person would not judge you on that. They would accept that’s something you enjoyed and that’s your past.

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over a year ago

"Anyone ever chatted to someone on here then seen them on POF too.

Same person but want different things.

They might want to date but also want sex. Use here for sex and POF for dating.

I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them.

This and totally get you.

That's what I was saying earlier about trust and fabs trappings and why I left POF because it was full of fab ladies.

I think what he means is that the profiles of the same person are very different on each site. You then look at verfications and it doesn't all tell the same story.

But why can’t someone have fun until they meet THE ONE? I don’t get why someone has to be a nun whilst searching the dating sites.

They dont. But people arent that honest most of the time that's the problem.

Meet a decent open minded person and that shouldn’t be an issue about your past.

You suggesting someone not open to this lifestyle isn't decent or if not what do you mean by that?

I think there are a lot of decent people who wouldn't be interested in this lifestyle.

They could but doesn't mean they'd like to date me. That wouldn't make them not decent, which I presume is how you've judged me I guess, but you're not judgemental in that.