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"People dont care what they say as they are not going to meet the people they say it to. " That is a very true point! Sorry you were spoken to like that. Its just unnecessary. Being on here raises ppls level of expectation leading to bitter disappointment when those expectations aren't fulfilled. | |||
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"People dont care what they say as they are not going to meet the people they say it to. That is a very true point! Sorry you were spoken to like that. Its just unnecessary. Being on here raises ppls level of expectation leading to bitter disappointment when those expectations aren't fulfilled. " Thank you. I think the sad thing is from the forums the majority of women just expect now as a matter of course. I find myself being alot harsher now than I want to be. | |||
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"People hide behind social media, to say what they like! There is know need to be horrible. The world would be a boring place if we were all the same! Always best to ignore any ignorant comments. Silence is the best form of defence! Peace and Love always!" Ask a question why should I not pull someone up on their comments. If someone is rude or obnoxious to me I will say something. And I agree the world would be a boring place if we are all the same. But it would be alot better place if everyone was respectful to each other. This is not about uniqueness but about respect | |||
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"I think people should spend some time in the forum before they are allowed to contact anyone on here, that way they would have time to understand how the people in the “lifestyle “ need / want to be treated. It would also publicly expose the idiots because if that are a *wat they’ll shows the true colours to everyone "Its not necessarily just the forum though. I get compliments and chat but when I say I am not interested in meeting i get the "wouldnt want to shag you anyways Shamu" It hurt and shocked at first but i do think it's a self defence mechanism in people for their own insecurities so now i laugh it off. Likewise with some ladies whose "oh i couldnt have a pair of boobs as big as you", "oh how do you walk in heels that height, your feet must be loads of corns and calluses" comments you know they really do find you intimidating to an extent lol | |||
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 ) and can't imagine how awful it must be to write messages (even if only one a week) and no-one replies!
All this mixed with testosterone/estrogen add personality give it a good shake, open the lid and POOF you have fab!!! | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? " I quite agree had nothing but rejection on here ut just dust myself down and try again.too many people are up there own arse to much. | |||
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"I think the sad thing is from the forums the majority of women just expect now as a matter of course. " I agree that it is really dad that you ladies get this and I genuinely don't understand why people send back abuse if they are told 'no thanks'. Assuming it is polite of course. I can only think they are so insecure in themselves that in order to feel better about themselves they pull others down rather than push themselves up. Horrible trait though and I wish there was a "report this message" button so they could get banned. Would limit the morons on here and allow everyone to get on as adults. | |||
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"Kindness is earned not a right" Actually disagree with this!! Acts of pure kindness for no reason are the most fantastic things to give and receive | |||
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"Kindness is earned not a right Actually disagree with this!! Acts of pure kindness for no reason are the most fantastic things to give and receive " corse you do im being a cunt on purpose | |||
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There is nothing in our hand to dictate neither can be enforced, it is beyond class, education, gender, culture, language, and color, etc. Just wasted 2 mins to post in a forum | |||
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" I was brought up to respect people and to treat others how I want to be treated." This. | |||
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"Kindness is an aberration as essentially we are all selfish . Having said that, ignorance is the biggest cause of cruelty followed by indifference. To get on in life with others you need to show tolerance and accept co-operation." Kindness is never an aberration.... | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? " I'm always kind and happy I'm not a fan of rejection and how can I improve I'm lovely  | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? " Well said! | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? " That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? " You're so right. I, for instance, am too old, don't have a 10-inch girthy dick, do have a beard and a bit of a floppy stomach from rapid weight loss. Hence folk exercise their god-given right to chose and rejection ensues, or, much more frequently, they ignore. Someone just pass me the pistol. (BTW I don't believe that so many people have so many messages to deal with that they don't have time for a 2-word reply - "No thanks". It's just common courtesy, something sadly lacking both here, and in society in general these days) Fab is ostensibly about sexuality and inclusion, but Fab mostly seems to be about judgement, thinly concealed as "choice". Oh yes, I'm not just an old man, I'm a bitter old man | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. " so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing? | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? You're so right. I, for instance, am too old, don't have a 10-inch girthy dick, do have a beard and a bit of a floppy stomach from rapid weight loss. Hence folk exercise their god-given right to chose and rejection ensues, or, much more frequently, they ignore. Someone just pass me the pistol. (BTW I don't believe that so many people have so many messages to deal with that they don't have time for a 2-word reply - "No thanks". It's just common courtesy, something sadly lacking both here, and in society in general these days) Fab is ostensibly about sexuality and inclusion, but Fab mostly seems to be about judgement, thinly concealed as "choice". Oh yes, I'm not just an old man, I'm a bitter old man "I must add, I have "met" one or two gems of people here - showing nothing but kindness and courtesy. They will know who they are. It is possible people. | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing? "Not sure how you got that from what I wrote 
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? " Takes all kinds to make the world! | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? You're so right. I, for instance, am too old, don't have a 10-inch girthy dick, do have a beard and a bit of a floppy stomach from rapid weight loss. Hence folk exercise their god-given right to chose and rejection ensues, or, much more frequently, they ignore. Someone just pass me the pistol. (BTW I don't believe that so many people have so many messages to deal with that they don't have time for a 2-word reply - "No thanks". It's just common courtesy, something sadly lacking both here, and in society in general these days) Fab is ostensibly about sexuality and inclusion, but Fab mostly seems to be about judgement, thinly concealed as "choice". Oh yes, I'm not just an old man, I'm a bitter old man
I must add, I have "met" one or two gems of people here - showing nothing but kindness and courtesy. They will know who they are. It is possible people."I'm not quite sure what you're implying here but you seem to feel quite angry towards people on fab. I think, as unfair as it is, accepting fab for what it is rather than what you'd like it to be will make your experience far sweeter. | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too."I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too.I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes
"I don't see fab as another world either. I carefully avoided using the phrase 'real world'. What many people seem to have missed is that the op seems to asking men to be kinder to women who reject them and learn and improve from it. Which isn't terribly useful advice. | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? You're so right. I, for instance, am too old, don't have a 10-inch girthy dick, do have a beard and a bit of a floppy stomach from rapid weight loss. Hence folk exercise their god-given right to chose and rejection ensues, or, much more frequently, they ignore. Someone just pass me the pistol. (BTW I don't believe that so many people have so many messages to deal with that they don't have time for a 2-word reply - "No thanks". It's just common courtesy, something sadly lacking both here, and in society in general these days) Fab is ostensibly about sexuality and inclusion, but Fab mostly seems to be about judgement, thinly concealed as "choice". Oh yes, I'm not just an old man, I'm a bitter old man "It's not just about the amount of messages, it's more about the content of messages after saying no thanks. | |||
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"Kindness is an aberration as essentially we are all selfish . Having said that, ignorance is the biggest cause of cruelty followed by indifference. To get on in life with others you need to show tolerance and accept co-operation. Kindness is never an aberration...." Define kindness? Is it shown with absolutely no subconscious desire of wanting something in return? Beware of the kind man with sweeties. | |||
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"Kindness is an aberration as essentially we are all selfish . Having said that, ignorance is the biggest cause of cruelty followed by indifference. To get on in life with others you need to show tolerance and accept co-operation. Kindness is never an aberration.... Define kindness? Is it shown with absolutely no subconscious desire of wanting something in return? Beware of the kind man with sweeties." | |||
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"Kindness is an aberration as essentially we are all selfish . Having said that, ignorance is the biggest cause of cruelty followed by indifference. To get on in life with others you need to show tolerance and accept co-operation. Kindness is never an aberration.... Define kindness? Is it shown with absolutely no subconscious desire of wanting something in return? Beware of the kind man with sweeties." Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it? | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too.I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes
I don't see fab as another world either. I carefully avoided using the phrase 'real world'. What many people seem to have missed is that the op seems to asking men to be kinder to women who reject them and learn and improve from it. Which isn't terribly useful advice. "People generally learn from positive feedback don't you think? | |||
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"Kindness is an aberration as essentially we are all selfish . Having said that, ignorance is the biggest cause of cruelty followed by indifference. To get on in life with others you need to show tolerance and accept co-operation. Kindness is never an aberration.... Define kindness? Is it shown with absolutely no subconscious desire of wanting something in return? Beware of the kind man with sweeties. Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it?" I think interactions on the net need to be viewed that way. | |||
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"Kindness is an aberration as essentially we are all selfish . Having said that, ignorance is the biggest cause of cruelty followed by indifference. To get on in life with others you need to show tolerance and accept co-operation. Kindness is never an aberration.... Define kindness? Is it shown with absolutely no subconscious desire of wanting something in return? Beware of the kind man with sweeties. Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it?" Better cynical than gullible. Many people use kindness as soft feathering. Don't hurt me and I won't hurt you. In life often those offering harder knocks make for more progressive individuals. | |||
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"I think it's the price we pay for a online world People dont care what they say as they are not going to meet the people they say it to. I just said no to someone and in one message I went from someone they wanted to meet to a fat pig. In the long run some people will always be twats " They may not care because they won't meet, but to go out of your way to be rude or obnoxious is a sign of a flawed personality. | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too.I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes
I don't see fab as another world either. I carefully avoided using the phrase 'real world'. What many people seem to have missed is that the op seems to asking men to be kinder to women who reject them and learn and improve from it. Which isn't terribly useful advice. People generally learn from positive feedback don't you think? "Not on fab no. Anyway very few people send a no thanks message with an appraisal attached | |||
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" Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it?" Well said
Real kindness is seen as a weakness in today's world, that's unfortunate.
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" Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it? Well said
Real kindness is seen as a weakness in today's world, that's unfortunate.
You can never be sure of the real motives behind acts of kindness in many situations. "Real kindness is very, very different to what we're talking about here. | |||
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"Forgive me rambling, its 5am here and I got next to no sleep last night... Question is, how kind can you be when all attempts at social interaction result in rejection? Most of that rejection is simply being ignored, so nothing that can be done about it. So when frustration explodes it is likely to be heaped on the one who rejected with a 'kind' thanks but no thanks message. It's a cruel trick of the internet that you only see a narrow band but may receive the wrath of 10,000 rejections through that view port. I am a glass half full guy, try to face the world with a smile, and enjoy random acts of kindness that make others smile. Never have and never will insult anyone on here for rejecting me, but then I don't want to meet anyone on here so don't know the insecurity and hurt that some must suffer from multiple rejections. Sometimes kindness is allowing some person to unload frustration and letting it slide passed you, before blocking and getting on with your life.
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" Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it? Well said
Real kindness is seen as a weakness in today's world, that's unfortunate.
You can never be sure of the real motives behind acts of kindness in many situations.
Real kindness is very, very different to what we're talking about here. "I never know what anyone is really talking about on here haha Just agreed with an opinion and put in my pennies worth | |||
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" Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it? Well said
Real kindness is seen as a weakness in today's world, that's unfortunate.
You can never be sure of the real motives behind acts of kindness in many situations.
Real kindness is very, very different to what we're talking about here.
I never know what anyone is really talking about on here haha
Just agreed with an opinion and put in my pennies worth "Lol. Nothing wrong with that. Real kindness is doing or saying what's best for someone. That's not popular but it isn't a weakness. In my opinion | |||
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" Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it? Well said
Real kindness is seen as a weakness in today's world, that's unfortunate.
You can never be sure of the real motives behind acts of kindness in many situations.
Real kindness is very, very different to what we're talking about here.
I never know what anyone is really talking about on here haha
Just agreed with an opinion and put in my pennies worth
Lol. Nothing wrong with that.
Real kindness is doing or saying what's best for someone. That's not popular but it isn't a weakness. In my opinion "I did it again. The complexities of the written format and missing out words... It should have said 'can be seen as weakness'. Would you agree with that post now? | |||
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" Kindness and sweeties? Rather a cynical view of a "what's in it for me" view of others, perhaps? If theres an ulterior motive its not kindness, its manipulation, isnt it? Well said
Real kindness is seen as a weakness in today's world, that's unfortunate.
You can never be sure of the real motives behind acts of kindness in many situations.
Real kindness is very, very different to what we're talking about here.
I never know what anyone is really talking about on here haha
Just agreed with an opinion and put in my pennies worth
Lol. Nothing wrong with that.
Real kindness is doing or saying what's best for someone. That's not popular but it isn't a weakness. In my opinion
I did it again. The complexities of the written format and missing out words...
It should have said 'can be seen as weakness'.
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too.I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes
I don't see fab as another world either. I carefully avoided using the phrase 'real world'. What many people seem to have missed is that the op seems to asking men to be kinder to women who reject them and learn and improve from it. Which isn't terribly useful advice. People generally learn from positive feedback don't you think?
Not on fab no. Anyway very few people send a no thanks message with an appraisal attached "I think it's a great idea though maybe a list of regular retorts you could send as an attachment eg sorry you're not for us too old looking. Or we think you're married you don't accom. Or youre more than 5 minutes away we value our time. Or we are looking for a unicorn did you not read our profile. Or have you read every word in our profile, we think not. Or yes please you look yummy | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too.I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes
I don't see fab as another world either. I carefully avoided using the phrase 'real world'. What many people seem to have missed is that the op seems to asking men to be kinder to women who reject them and learn and improve from it. Which isn't terribly useful advice. People generally learn from positive feedback don't you think?
Not on fab no. Anyway very few people send a no thanks message with an appraisal attached I think it's a great idea though maybe a list of regular retorts you could send as an attachment eg sorry you're not for us too old looking.
Or we think you're married you don't accom.
Or youre more than 5 minutes away we value our time.
Or we are looking for a unicorn did you not read our profile.
Or have you read every word in our profile, we think not.
Or yes please you look yummy "
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too.I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes
I don't see fab as another world either. I carefully avoided using the phrase 'real world'. What many people seem to have missed is that the op seems to asking men to be kinder to women who reject them and learn and improve from it. Which isn't terribly useful advice. People generally learn from positive feedback don't you think?
Not on fab no. Anyway very few people send a no thanks message with an appraisal attached I think it's a great idea though maybe a list of regular retorts you could send as an attachment eg sorry you're not for us too old looking.
Or we think you're married you don't accom.
Or youre more than 5 minutes away we value our time.
Or we are looking for a unicorn did you not read our profile.
Or have you read every word in our profile, we think not.
Or yes please you look yummy
How about a pro forma message that included strengths, weaknesses, areas for improvement, study opportunities and time frame to achieve targets. "lol cmon now let's be realistic | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too.I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes
I don't see fab as another world either. I carefully avoided using the phrase 'real world'. What many people seem to have missed is that the op seems to asking men to be kinder to women who reject them and learn and improve from it. Which isn't terribly useful advice. People generally learn from positive feedback don't you think?
Not on fab no. Anyway very few people send a no thanks message with an appraisal attached I think it's a great idea though maybe a list of regular retorts you could send as an attachment eg sorry you're not for us too old looking.
Or we think you're married you don't accom.
Or youre more than 5 minutes away we value our time.
Or we are looking for a unicorn did you not read our profile.
Or have you read every word in our profile, we think not.
Or yes please you look yummy
How about a pro forma message that included strengths, weaknesses, areas for improvement, study opportunities and time frame to achieve targets. lol cmon now let's be realistic " I didn't realise it was reality you were after | |||
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"Whats so difficult about being kind? Everyone is different why do people have to be derogatory about it? This one has big boobs, that one has a small bum. So what? Life is full of rejections thats not a reason to be bitter and horrible to others. Accept those ‘no’s’ and use them to improve yourself. Fab to me is about celebration of sexuality and inclusion, Expressions of appreciation and passion. Theres enough crap in the world why bring it on to FAB? That's what fab is to you, it's not about that for everyone. Some people are kind, some people aren't. The kindness you see on fab is sometimes not translated to the outside world and vice versa. so you refer to this as a meet app then? And the rejection for many guys mostly is an internet thing?
Not sure how you got that from what I wrote
Fab is what you want it to be. During the 7 odd years we've been here it's become clear that people use it for loads of different reasons the ops being one.
People on fab adopt a persona which is sometimes not the same as their off site one. Therefore you get people being horribly unkind in messages who wouldn't be like that face to face and people being extremely kind who wouldn't normally be.
I know guys get rejected outside of the internet too.I agree with you except I don't see this as another world their is only one world, the Internet has created unaccountability and unfortunately the numbers of men to women have created choice unfavourably biased toward the woman but still no need to be rude or abusive ever, it's difficult I suppose if you're getting many many messages, I rarely message as an introduction and I appreciate a polite no thankyou even though it is deflating sometimes
I don't see fab as another world either. I carefully avoided using the phrase 'real world'. What many people seem to have missed is that the op seems to asking men to be kinder to women who reject them and learn and improve from it. Which isn't terribly useful advice. People generally learn from positive feedback don't you think?
Not on fab no. Anyway very few people send a no thanks message with an appraisal attached I think it's a great idea though maybe a list of regular retorts you could send as an attachment eg sorry you're not for us too old looking.
Or we think you're married you don't accom.
Or youre more than 5 minutes away we value our time.
Or we are looking for a unicorn did you not read our profile.
Or have you read every word in our profile, we think not.
Or yes please you look yummy
How about a pro forma message that included strengths, weaknesses, areas for improvement, study opportunities and time frame to achieve targets. lol cmon now let's be realistic
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