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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

I’ve been thinking about this a lot. So I have ‘filters’ to which I find the people who are right for me to meet. Sometimes these are more successful than others, but they are key things that I like in place. I’ve learnt these along the way almost.

For me, I like verifications, public photos which aren’t just of the male appendage, a decent non pushy conversation, and a shared interest. I like to ask direct questions and see if I get an honest answer back, as honest as you can tell from texting anyway.

So, how do you decide who to meet? What makes you feel safer and happier that this person may meet what you are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have to have a pulse and a vagina (both preferably not essential)

And be desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All.I need to be is interested....doesn't happen much but if you are nice, honest and can hold a decent conversation it'll help. Making me laugh will put you at the top of my "to do" list

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"They have to have a pulse and a vagina (both preferably not essential)

And be desperate"

at least you are honest I guess. But let’s be really blunt, is that it? Is that all you need? No other attraction, nothing in common?

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"All.I need to be is interested....doesn't happen much but if you are nice, honest and can hold a decent conversation it'll help. Making me laugh will put you at the top of my "to do" list "

I love the ‘to do’ list. Those qualities are very important I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nice face, well groomed,nicely dressed, body that's looked after (that doesn't mean gym fit) and we need to get along on a superficial level.

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics."

I guess for me the veri’s allow me a little tryst? As in they’ve met, they aren’t axe murderers etc. I don’t like distasteful ones though, that are too graphic lol

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Nice face, well groomed,nicely dressed, body that's looked after (that doesn't mean gym fit) and we need to get along on a superficial level.

"

And do you find that through messaging, or do you have socials first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer profiles with no veris or summary displayed. Few, if any, public pics.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Nice face, well groomed,nicely dressed, body that's looked after (that doesn't mean gym fit) and we need to get along on a superficial level.

And do you find that through messaging, or do you have socials first? "

Messages show if there's a possibility that we'll get along but I'm (f) very much about looks so a social is very important.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

For me it's all about the connection and finding that person you "click" with on more than just a sexual interest level.

Sure a physical attraction based on their pics, or a more cerebral one based on their profile text or something they said in the forums may provide the initial spark of interest, but it's through chatting to someone and getting to know them a little that my interest is really piqued.

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Nice face, well groomed,nicely dressed, body that's looked after (that doesn't mean gym fit) and we need to get along on a superficial level.

And do you find that through messaging, or do you have socials first?

Messages show if there's a possibility that we'll get along but I'm (f) very much about looks so a social is very important. "

Yes I completely agree with this, it’s all about the social once those filters have been used (for me)

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"For me it's all about the connection and finding that person you "click" with on more than just a sexual interest level.

Sure a physical attraction based on their pics, or a more cerebral one based on their profile text or something they said in the forums may provide the initial spark of interest, but it's through chatting to someone and getting to know them a little that my interest is really piqued."

And I think that is what makes fab different to other ‘traditional’ dating sites, on there people will be very obviously looking for sex, but it’s just the act of sex. In fact I guess a lot of that goes on on fab, but I suspect those on the forums are different?

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"I prefer profiles with no veris or summary displayed. Few, if any, public pics. "

That’s really interesting, is that because you don’t want to know how many other people they’ve met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the purposes of fab, I'm just indulging in my fantasy fucks. So I simply need him or her to look great, a pretty face wins me every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have to have a pulse and a vagina (both preferably not essential)

And be desperate

at least you are honest I guess. But let’s be really blunt, is that it? Is that all you need? No other attraction, nothing in common?"

I guess it must vary a lot from person to person.

I signed up to fab to try to find a way to meet a basic physical need that isn't addressed at all in an otherwise caring homelife. Hence "pulse and vagina" is pretty much my level too, for now.

A lot of people seem to treat it as a pukka dating site, and seek a good deal more from potential encounters, rather than a using it as a site for the procurement of sex with minimal real involvement.

I'm relatively new, so there's every chance I've totally misread the intentions here.

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"For the purposes of fab, I'm just indulging in my fantasy fucks. So I simply need him or her to look great, a pretty face wins me every time."

Fair play, fantasy fucks sounds a great headspace to be in

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"They have to have a pulse and a vagina (both preferably not essential)

And be desperate

at least you are honest I guess. But let’s be really blunt, is that it? Is that all you need? No other attraction, nothing in common?

I guess it must vary a lot from person to person.

I signed up to fab to try to find a way to meet a basic physical need that isn't addressed at all in an otherwise caring homelife. Hence "pulse and vagina" is pretty much my level too, for now.

A lot of people seem to treat it as a pukka dating site, and seek a good deal more from potential encounters, rather than a using it as a site for the procurement of sex with minimal real involvement.

I'm relatively new, so there's every chance I've totally misread the intentions here."

Have you had any meets yet? Can I politely suggest you don’t use that term ‘pulse and vagina’ when talking to someone about meeting them?

Fab is here to be used however you so wish, some people more successfully than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the purposes of fab, I'm just indulging in my fantasy fucks. So I simply need him or her to look great, a pretty face wins me every time.

Fair play, fantasy fucks sounds a great headspace to be in "

I don't need a life partner from here, I have one already, so I'm here to waffle random crap in here, and shag the odd hottie or two

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"They have to have a pulse and a vagina (both preferably not essential)

And be desperate

at least you are honest I guess. But let’s be really blunt, is that it? Is that all you need? No other attraction, nothing in common?

I guess it must vary a lot from person to person.

I signed up to fab to try to find a way to meet a basic physical need that isn't addressed at all in an otherwise caring homelife. Hence "pulse and vagina" is pretty much my level too, for now.

A lot of people seem to treat it as a pukka dating site, and seek a good deal more from potential encounters, rather than a using it as a site for the procurement of sex with minimal real involvement.

I'm relatively new, so there's every chance I've totally misread the intentions here."

Everyone has different intentions, they're all ok as long a you don't have the intention to deceive. No way is better than another

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I’ve been thinking about this a lot. So I have ‘filters’ to which I find the people who are right for me to meet. Sometimes these are more successful than others, but they are key things that I like in place. I’ve learnt these along the way almost.

For me, I like verifications, public photos which aren’t just of the male appendage, a decent non pushy conversation, and a shared interest. I like to ask direct questions and see if I get an honest answer back, as honest as you can tell from texting anyway.

So, how do you decide who to meet? What makes you feel safer and happier that this person may meet what you are looking for? "

Yes i agree, i got to have that instant sexual attraction to their photos, the conversation should be fun and natural. Anything less, i just don't persue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never feel safe, I always assume you're the next Ted Bundy, just good looking enough to risk it for the biscuit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have to have a pulse and a vagina (both preferably not essential)

And be desperate

at least you are honest I guess. But let’s be really blunt, is that it? Is that all you need? No other attraction, nothing in common?

I guess it must vary a lot from person to person.

I signed up to fab to try to find a way to meet a basic physical need that isn't addressed at all in an otherwise caring homelife. Hence "pulse and vagina" is pretty much my level too, for now.

A lot of people seem to treat it as a pukka dating site, and seek a good deal more from potential encounters, rather than a using it as a site for the procurement of sex with minimal real involvement.

I'm relatively new, so there's every chance I've totally misread the intentions here.

Have you had any meets yet? Can I politely suggest you don’t use that term ‘pulse and vagina’ when talking to someone about meeting them?

Fab is here to be used however you so wish, some people more successfully than others"

Of course not - I might be daft but I'm not stupid. I always attempt to engage with ladies I message on a level commensurate with the content of their profiles. Had a few promising conversations but no meets as yet. Not many ladies left in Orkney on Fab to talk to now. Shame travel is such a bitch from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics.

I guess for me the veri’s allow me a little tryst? As in they’ve met, they aren’t axe murderers etc. I don’t like distasteful ones though, that are too graphic lol

"

Agree.. no one likes a axe murderer Theres afew members recently that have had bad meets in 'uncontrolled' circumstances with people who had good feedback that have left them alittle shaken, a friend of mine on here had one recently with a certain someone whos a regular it left her very upset, shes now left the forums and site because of the meet which ended up very dangerous for her.. he had good feedback in vari's (although the feedback was within a club environment), so feedback unfortunately cant always be trusted.

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics.

I guess for me the veri’s allow me a little tryst? As in they’ve met, they aren’t axe murderers etc. I don’t like distasteful ones though, that are too graphic lol

Agree.. no one likes a axe murderer Theres afew members recently that have had bad meets in 'uncontrolled' circumstances with people who had good feedback that have left them alittle shaken, a friend of mine on here had one recently with a certain someone whos a regular it left her very upset, shes now left the forums and site because of the meet which ended up very dangerous for her.. he had good feedback in vari's (although the feedback was within a club environment), so feedback unfortunately cant always be trusted. "

I have sadly had a few meets that didn’t go or end how I wanted them too, and that’s where I’ve learnt about certain things and also to trust my gut instinct as both times something had told me something wasn’t right but I’d ignored it. I really hope your friend is ok, the world that we are in right now requires a lot of trust and respect and when that is lost it can be catastrophic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been thinking about this a lot. So I have ‘filters’ to which I find the people who are right for me to meet. Sometimes these are more successful than others, but they are key things that I like in place. I’ve learnt these along the way almost.

For me, I like verifications, public photos which aren’t just of the male appendage, a decent non pushy conversation, and a shared interest. I like to ask direct questions and see if I get an honest answer back, as honest as you can tell from texting anyway.

So, how do you decide who to meet? What makes you feel safer and happier that this person may meet what you are looking for? "

verifications mean little to me one persons ok is another's oh no, good conversation and pics that leave a little to the imagination, personality that shines through and a great smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics.

I guess for me the veri’s allow me a little tryst? As in they’ve met, they aren’t axe murderers etc. I don’t like distasteful ones though, that are too graphic lol

Agree.. no one likes a axe murderer Theres afew members recently that have had bad meets in 'uncontrolled' circumstances with people who had good feedback that have left them alittle shaken, a friend of mine on here had one recently with a certain someone whos a regular it left her very upset, shes now left the forums and site because of the meet which ended up very dangerous for her.. he had good feedback in vari's (although the feedback was within a club environment), so feedback unfortunately cant always be trusted.

I have sadly had a few meets that didn’t go or end how I wanted them too, and that’s where I’ve learnt about certain things and also to trust my gut instinct as both times something had told me something wasn’t right but I’d ignored it. I really hope your friend is ok, the world that we are in right now requires a lot of trust and respect and when that is lost it can be catastrophic. "

Shes been in bits tbf the guy is a regular on the forums, ive known her since the very start 'around 5 years ago on my previous profile' and although haven't met or gone down that route we have been good friends had a good connection friend wise and in contact throughout. She phoned me the day after in absolute bits i told her she should report it to the police.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Message initially. Then profile to see if they are local and accommodate, then communicate to see if there is any chemistry.

I can tell striaght away if they are my kind of man. Take it from there.

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By *liceinWonderland38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics.

I guess for me the veri’s allow me a little tryst? As in they’ve met, they aren’t axe murderers etc. I don’t like distasteful ones though, that are too graphic lol

Agree.. no one likes a axe murderer Theres afew members recently that have had bad meets in 'uncontrolled' circumstances with people who had good feedback that have left them alittle shaken, a friend of mine on here had one recently with a certain someone whos a regular it left her very upset, shes now left the forums and site because of the meet which ended up very dangerous for her.. he had good feedback in vari's (although the feedback was within a club environment), so feedback unfortunately cant always be trusted.

I have sadly had a few meets that didn’t go or end how I wanted them too, and that’s where I’ve learnt about certain things and also to trust my gut instinct as both times something had told me something wasn’t right but I’d ignored it. I really hope your friend is ok, the world that we are in right now requires a lot of trust and respect and when that is lost it can be catastrophic.

Shes been in bits tbf the guy is a regular on the forums, ive known her since the very start 'around 5 years ago on my previous profile' and although haven't met or gone down that route we have been good friends had a good connection friend wise and in contact throughout. She phoned me the day after in absolute bits i told her she should report it to the police."

That is scary and a wake up call to all, she absolutely should report but I know how hard it can be to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been thinking about this a lot. So I have ‘filters’ to which I find the people who are right for me to meet. Sometimes these are more successful than others, but they are key things that I like in place. I’ve learnt these along the way almost.

For me, I like verifications, public photos which aren’t just of the male appendage, a decent non pushy conversation, and a shared interest. I like to ask direct questions and see if I get an honest answer back, as honest as you can tell from texting anyway.

So, how do you decide who to meet? What makes you feel safer and happier that this person may meet what you are looking for? "

I’m much the same. I can tell quite quickly if I’m willing to get to know someone or not. I’ll just politely say no thanks and good luck with fab

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics.

I guess for me the veri’s allow me a little tryst? As in they’ve met, they aren’t axe murderers etc. I don’t like distasteful ones though, that are too graphic lol

Agree.. no one likes a axe murderer Theres afew members recently that have had bad meets in 'uncontrolled' circumstances with people who had good feedback that have left them alittle shaken, a friend of mine on here had one recently with a certain someone whos a regular it left her very upset, shes now left the forums and site because of the meet which ended up very dangerous for her.. he had good feedback in vari's (although the feedback was within a club environment), so feedback unfortunately cant always be trusted.

I have sadly had a few meets that didn’t go or end how I wanted them too, and that’s where I’ve learnt about certain things and also to trust my gut instinct as both times something had told me something wasn’t right but I’d ignored it. I really hope your friend is ok, the world that we are in right now requires a lot of trust and respect and when that is lost it can be catastrophic.

Shes been in bits tbf the guy is a regular on the forums, ive known her since the very start 'around 5 years ago on my previous profile' and although haven't met or gone down that route we have been good friends had a good connection friend wise and in contact throughout. She phoned me the day after in absolute bits i told her she should report it to the police."

Shes not the only one that's had this happen belief me. I think we do tend to trust more regular forum users who are verified. The main problem is its difficult to go to the police, sometimes hard to prove and no one says anything. They build trust over a long period of time and I'm sure follow a pattern that works over and over again. Thats why I've not met anyone now for a long time.

I hope she is ok. As my recovery has taken nearly a year now.

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over a year ago


"Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics.

I guess for me the veri’s allow me a little tryst? As in they’ve met, they aren’t axe murderers etc. I don’t like distasteful ones though, that are too graphic lol

Agree.. no one likes a axe murderer Theres afew members recently that have had bad meets in 'uncontrolled' circumstances with people who had good feedback that have left them alittle shaken, a friend of mine on here had one recently with a certain someone whos a regular it left her very upset, shes now left the forums and site because of the meet which ended up very dangerous for her.. he had good feedback in vari's (although the feedback was within a club environment), so feedback unfortunately cant always be trusted.

I have sadly had a few meets that didn’t go or end how I wanted them too, and that’s where I’ve learnt about certain things and also to trust my gut instinct as both times something had told me something wasn’t right but I’d ignored it. I really hope your friend is ok, the world that we are in right now requires a lot of trust and respect and when that is lost it can be catastrophic.

Shes been in bits tbf the guy is a regular on the forums, ive known her since the very start 'around 5 years ago on my previous profile' and although haven't met or gone down that route we have been good friends had a good connection friend wise and in contact throughout. She phoned me the day after in absolute bits i told her she should report it to the police."

still a regular on the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grabbing my attention physically.... isnt enough i need the mental connection, the flowing conversation the 'click' this doesnt happen often.

I need mental stimulation without that she can be my perfect girl visually but nothings going to happen.

I hate vari's & hate 'all out' public pics.

I guess for me the veri’s allow me a little tryst? As in they’ve met, they aren’t axe murderers etc. I don’t like distasteful ones though, that are too graphic lol

Agree.. no one likes a axe murderer Theres afew members recently that have had bad meets in 'uncontrolled' circumstances with people who had good feedback that have left them alittle shaken, a friend of mine on here had one recently with a certain someone whos a regular it left her very upset, shes now left the forums and site because of the meet which ended up very dangerous for her.. he had good feedback in vari's (although the feedback was within a club environment), so feedback unfortunately cant always be trusted.

I have sadly had a few meets that didn’t go or end how I wanted them too, and that’s where I’ve learnt about certain things and also to trust my gut instinct as both times something had told me something wasn’t right but I’d ignored it. I really hope your friend is ok, the world that we are in right now requires a lot of trust and respect and when that is lost it can be catastrophic.

Shes been in bits tbf the guy is a regular on the forums, ive known her since the very start 'around 5 years ago on my previous profile' and although haven't met or gone down that route we have been good friends had a good connection friend wise and in contact throughout. She phoned me the day after in absolute bits i told her she should report it to the police."

still a regular on the forums?

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