FabSwingers.com forum: How can a single male stand out in this crowded place

By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being awesome

Be more like him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t match every profile requirement so be yourself, avoid the people you don’t like and don’t get desperate, frustrated and negative.

If I wouldn’t chat the person up outside of Fab I don’t message them, stick to your own standards and being yourself should get you meeting but remember it’s a big pool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being awesome

Be more like him

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not too much tho i dont want people to get us confused

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Being awesome

Be more like him

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Just seen a profile update from a single guy, who is obviously struggling, which says:

I hope all those that don't reply to my messages get an std!!

Mmmmmmmmm nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just seen a profile update from a single guy, who is obviously struggling, which says:

I hope all those that don't reply to my messages get an std!!

Mmmmmmmmm nice guy

But not from him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

About fifty photos of a six pack, two shots of your arse, five shots of your thighs, and one shot that has half your face in it

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Nice torso, least it's not all cock pics......how original is that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey youre doing OK socials are a good way to start, your profile needs more personality in it mind, good luck

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By *0hnnyBrav0Man
over a year ago

Great Wyrley

I am Spartacus ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The twats don't ruin it or make it tougher for the good guys. They make the good guys stand out!

Any decent bloke can be successful on here, put in the effort, be honest and you'll reap the rewards.

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Just seen a profile update from a single guy, who is obviously struggling, which says:

I hope all those that don't reply to my messages get an std!!

Mmmmmmmmm nice guy

Don’t be this guy

Yeah don’t worry that’s not me

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

"Nice torso, least it's not all cock pics......how original is that...

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but you like cock pics

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I am Spartacus ........"

No ... I am Spartacus!!!!

Oh ... and OP ... as others have said ... a bit of personality in the profile ... and something slightly quirky that will get people wanting to know more ... a conversation starter.

Good luck

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Nice torso, least it's not all cock pics......how original is that...

but you like cock pics

errrrrr.......

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Personally your photos are too obsecure, dark and doesn't really show off any of your best features. Your intro starts off negative too. But at least you got verifications which some men here don't. Yes there's alot of aggressive men who hate being rejected on here

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

Be always a pessimist, you'll never be disappointed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t copy other people’s pics. Oh and don't be a dick.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

You could always jump up and down while screaming “ I really am single honest “

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Don’t copy other people’s pics. Oh and don't be a dick."

Exactly there's enough as it is.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself, I'm not bothered if people want to meet me or not

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Be yourself and don’t be a dick

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

If all single men stand out from the crowd then they will all be back in the crowd.

You can't be anything other than what you are so don't try to be someone else. Unless being an actor is your skill.

Also don't rely on this site as your one door into a sex life. It's a bit like someone back in the 90's only trying to pick up women at the same nightclub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t copy other people’s pics. Oh and don't be a dick.

Exactly there's enough as it is.....

I’m not sure what you’re saying?

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Personally your photos are too obsecure, dark and doesn't really show off any of your best features. Your intro starts off negative too. But at least you got verifications which some men here don't. Yes there's alot of aggressive men who hate being rejected on here"

I think I could do with updating my pictures thank you for the advice

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"I am Spartacus ........

No ... I am Spartacus!!!!

Oh ... and OP ... as others have said ... a bit of personality in the profile ... and something slightly quirky that will get people wanting to know more ... a conversation starter.

Good luck "

Thanks guys

I’ll do my best

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

Try not to moan about having no luck on Fab.

If you have no expectations everything is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be an arse

Don’t be a conceited arse

Do whatever you please on your profile and with your photos

Don’t be an arse

Don’t be a holier than thou conceited arse

Basically

Be yourself

You’ll get lots of people telling you what you should or shouldn’t do - be truthful and comfortable with the photos you use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

I’d have said a few more clearer pics and a bit more in your profile, ie what you want, what you can offer etc?

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Don’t be an arse

Don’t be a conceited arse

Do whatever you please on your profile and with your photos

Don’t be an arse

Don’t be a holier than thou conceited arse

Basically

Be yourself

You’ll get lots of people telling you what you should or shouldn’t do - be truthful and comfortable with the photos you use. "

In your opinion do I sound like an arse ?

I try my best not to be

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Be more than just a single guy that fucks have another talent or two.

For example I poke holes in donuts and double as a towel holder at a push.

Be the sum of you parts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t be an arse

Don’t be a conceited arse

Do whatever you please on your profile and with your photos

Don’t be an arse

Don’t be a holier than thou conceited arse

Basically

Be yourself

You’ll get lots of people telling you what you should or shouldn’t do - be truthful and comfortable with the photos you use.

In your opinion do I sound like an arse ?

I try my best not to be

I don’t know you

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Whats the saying .

Don't believe everything you read on the internet.

Just cos a status states such don't make it so. Folk that send abuse will spoil only their experience it doesn't spoil mine.

Stand out by Being yourself...we're all unique individuals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If all single men stand out from the crowd then they will all be back in the crowd.

You can't be anything other than what you are so don't try to be someone else. Unless being an actor is your skill.

Also don't rely on this site as your one door into a sex life. It's a bit like someone back in the 90's only trying to pick up women at the same nightclub.

Especially your first sentence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If all single men stand out from the crowd then they will all be back in the crowd.

You can't be anything other than what you are so don't try to be someone else. Unless being an actor is your skill.

Also don't rely on this site as your one door into a sex life. It's a bit like someone back in the 90's only trying to pick up women at the same nightclub.

Especially your first sentence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t, you just blend in and hope some one trips over you

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

Number one rule - don't be a dick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

Number one rule - don't be a dick!

What's rule three? Because I don't act a dick. I am guessing rule two is no dick pics either on profile or in messages

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

Number one rule - don't be a dick!

Rule 2: see rule 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which might I add, I don't do

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There is no magic catch all formula OP other than what you find works for you - as others have said best bet is to be yourself and be honest - you can't be everything to anyone.

Generally speaking having the right attitude, approach and expectations are the key, get them wrong and you'll find the site frustrating, get them right (and couple them with a well written and enticing profile and pics) and it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience of the site no end.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

Number one rule - don't be a dick!

What's rule three? Because I don't act a dick. I am guessing rule two is no dick pics either on profile or in messages"

Being Pushy demanding arrogant is a massive turn off. Good old fashion manners and having good humour get you further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't seem too difficult to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got to accept rejection gracefully.

You are going to get rejected far far more often than someone is going to show any interest in you..

Stop thinking with your dick and Just be picky, don't send every woman a dick pic. Make a good profile, Read profiles, if they are what you are looking for write a well thought message and if you get a reply great. If not. Just move on.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Be yourself and don’t be a dick

Unless you are a dick, in which case stop being yourself.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

I found the best way is to be an individual who does not feel the need or has the need ,to start a thread asking how

In essence to be blunt

If you need to ask , you haven't got "it" and are likely not to have "it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys

There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...

I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush

Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing

Go gentle

Number one rule - don't be a dick!

What's rule three? Because I don't act a dick. I am guessing rule two is no dick pics either on profile or in messages

Being Pushy demanding arrogant is a massive turn off. Good old fashion manners and having good humour get you further "

Yep, got them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I do is message politely and friendly, try to strike up a conversation, try to get to know the person. It never gets to the point of asking if they would want to meet sometime. If they stop replying, I just concede and presume they don't want to talk anymore, and leave it at that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, you can’t. Seems just down to pure luck if your message gets read. How you’re supposed to stand out when all you get is the message title line is a bit of a mystery.

Maybe if whoever you’re messaging is on line it might help if they see the message arrive I suppose, but outside that I don’t ever expect a message to be opened even.

Keep trying though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self-immolation, but it will only work once...

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