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By *iguyandbbw OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I saw a post recently about safe sex on first meeting and the majority agreed, condoms all the way....but what about oral, giving or receiving, male or female, what happens about safe sex then?

From Rosie

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Dont to anything you dont want to. Condoms and dental dams are good for safe oral.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Very few people use protection for oral or fingers if moving from person to person. Safe sex should really be termed 'safer' sex

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Very few people use protection for oral or fingers if moving from person to person. Safe sex should really be termed 'safer' sex"

Or safe penetration

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Very few people use protection for oral or fingers if moving from person to person. Safe sex should really be termed 'safer' sex

Or safe penetration "

Yes, good call although I'd still use 'safer'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just gonna point out that a huge amount of people I've spoken to don't routinely ask for a throat swab when getting tested. Yes it's yukky and makes you heave but totally worth the peace of mind.

P

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Very few people use protection for oral or fingers if moving from person to person. Safe sex should really be termed 'safer' sex

Or safe penetration "

Fingers still penetration aren't they?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Just gonna point out that a huge amount of people I've spoken to don't routinely ask for a throat swab when getting tested. Yes it's yukky and makes you heave but totally worth the peace of mind.

P"

Got my first one last month. Eurgh! Worth it for the reassurance though - cos I do love sucking cock

Mrs TMN x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I saw a post recently about safe sex on first meeting and the majority agreed, condoms all the way....but what about oral, giving or receiving, male or female, what happens about safe sex then?

From Rosie"

It goes out of the window.

We’ve had well over a thousand meets off fab alone and I can only think of a handful of people who insisted on protected oral. And those people we didn’t play with because if it’s not fun it’s not worth doing it is it?

I’ve never seen a dam, never mind used one.

And on the few occasions that a woman has asked me to glove up for a bj I’ve said it’s ok , I’ll have a wank.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Very few people use protection for oral or fingers if moving from person to person. Safe sex should really be termed 'safer' sex

Or safe penetration

Fingers still penetration aren't they? "

If someone asked me to wear gloves before fingering them I honestly don’t think I’d have words.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just gonna point out that a huge amount of people I've spoken to don't routinely ask for a throat swab when getting tested. Yes it's yukky and makes you heave but totally worth the peace of mind.

P

Got my first one last month. Eurgh! Worth it for the reassurance though - cos I do love sucking cock

Mrs TMN x"

That's like me, also quite partial to bean lickery on occasion

Just as pointed out above, good old fashioned fingering is still penetrative and will leave those mitts juicy. How many people wash their hands in between "pussy massage" between clunges in a room full of receptive minge?

P

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Just gonna point out that a huge amount of people I've spoken to don't routinely ask for a throat swab when getting tested. Yes it's yukky and makes you heave but totally worth the peace of mind.

P

Got my first one last month. Eurgh! Worth it for the reassurance though - cos I do love sucking cock

Mrs TMN x

That's like me, also quite partial to bean lickery on occasion

Just as pointed out above, good old fashioned fingering is still penetrative and will leave those mitts juicy. How many people wash their hands in between "pussy massage" between clunges in a room full of receptive minge?

P"

Top marks for using both clunge and minge in your answer!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Very few people use protection for oral or fingers if moving from person to person. Safe sex should really be termed 'safer' sex

Or safe penetration

Fingers still penetration aren't they?

If someone asked me to wear gloves before fingering them I honestly don’t think I’d have words....."

Totally agree ... wrecks the moment .. but where do you sensibly stop with safety in a sharing situation?

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By *iguyandbbw OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Very interesting comments...keep them coming, i love reading peoples opinions and experiences.

Rosie

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Very few people use protection for oral or fingers if moving from person to person. Safe sex should really be termed 'safer' sex

Or safe penetration

Fingers still penetration aren't they?

If someone asked me to wear gloves before fingering them I honestly don’t think I’d have words.....

Totally agree ... wrecks the moment .. but where do you sensibly stop with safety in a sharing situation? "

We got checked every six weeks when we were active, and we always said if it wasn’t fun we wouldn’t do it.

In group scenarios (which we had loads of), no one was washing hands, wearing gloves etc.... we were all way too busy having fun to be thinking of all that nonsense.

Those who say they wash their hands or wear gloves to play in group scenarios must be playing in a different world to the one we were in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw a post recently about safe sex on first meeting and the majority agreed, condoms all the way....but what about oral, giving or receiving, male or female, what happens about safe sex then?

From Rosie"

I've been thinking about it lately and the threesome situations. Nobody disinfects their mouths in between partners and what about the giving person? And if everyone is happy with oral without protection in a threesome - does use of condom for penetration gives you only the imaginary protection? After all you've already exchanged everything you could share during oral Is oral without protection a bareback in disguise?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I saw a post recently about safe sex on first meeting and the majority agreed, condoms all the way....but what about oral, giving or receiving, male or female, what happens about safe sex then?

From Rosie

I've been thinking about it lately and the threesome situations. Nobody disinfects their mouths in between partners and what about the giving person? And if everyone is happy with oral without protection in a threesome - does use of condom for penetration gives you only the imaginary protection? After all you've already exchanged everything you could share during oral Is oral without protection a bareback in disguise?"

its not in disguise. Its unprotected sexual activity. The risks apparently aren't as great but they still exist. Its a question of degree and how much risk you're prepared to accept.

Some will scoff at people who want to take precautions over and above condoms for penetration but to me that's akin to saying its ok to only wear a seat belt above a certain speed.

I think if someone wants to use more protection that you, just pass on by

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Isn't there an argument that enzymes in saliva to some degree reduce the risk of infection.

As others have said that covering up for penetrative sex for most is a minimum, but ultimately its the transfer of fluids that is the main risk. If the other side wish to be different to you in terms of protection, then you have to consider what it does for you and what you do about it. It's their responsibility to themselves that they are looking after, we have to do likewise for ourselves.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Isn't there an argument that enzymes in saliva to some degree reduce the risk of infection.

As others have said that covering up for penetrative sex for most is a minimum, but ultimately its the transfer of fluids that is the main risk. If the other side wish to be different to you in terms of protection, then you have to consider what it does for you and what you do about it. It's their responsibility to themselves that they are looking after, we have to do likewise for ourselves. "

Precisely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't there an argument that enzymes in saliva to some degree reduce the risk of infection.

As others have said that covering up for penetrative sex for most is a minimum, but ultimately its the transfer of fluids that is the main risk. If the other side wish to be different to you in terms of protection, then you have to consider what it does for you and what you do about it. It's their responsibility to themselves that they are looking after, we have to do likewise for ourselves. "

Your body is much better at oral protection, people do not realise how many infections we take in orally on a daily basis.

There is still a risk but it is much reduced because of the body is designed to deal with them there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't there an argument that enzymes in saliva to some degree reduce the risk of infection.

As others have said that covering up for penetrative sex for most is a minimum, but ultimately its the transfer of fluids that is the main risk. If the other side wish to be different to you in terms of protection, then you have to consider what it does for you and what you do about it. It's their responsibility to themselves that they are looking after, we have to do likewise for ourselves.

Your body is much better at oral protection, people do not realise how many infections we take in orally on a daily basis.

There is still a risk but it is much reduced because of the body is designed to deal with them there.

"

That would be for the giver. But what about the receiver? Say a man gives oral to one woman and then right away to another. Potentially he transferred everything from one genitalia to another. Same with woman giving unprotected oral to more than one man at a time. If one man had something it's been transferred to another. Am I overthinking it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't there an argument that enzymes in saliva to some degree reduce the risk of infection.

As others have said that covering up for penetrative sex for most is a minimum, but ultimately its the transfer of fluids that is the main risk. If the other side wish to be different to you in terms of protection, then you have to consider what it does for you and what you do about it. It's their responsibility to themselves that they are looking after, we have to do likewise for ourselves.

Your body is much better at oral protection, people do not realise how many infections we take in orally on a daily basis.

There is still a risk but it is much reduced because of the body is designed to deal with them there.

That would be for the giver. But what about the receiver? Say a man gives oral to one woman and then right away to another. Potentially he transferred everything from one genitalia to another. Same with woman giving unprotected oral to more than one man at a time. If one man had something it's been transferred to another. Am I overthinking it?"

The initial protection is there, but like any system, biological, mechanical or electronic it can be overwhelmed, yes the more pussy or cocks you have in your mouth and the frequency of change will increase chances of transferring infections if one of the recipients is infected. Bodies oral protection reduces risk orally not eliminates it and it does have limits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had sex in a safe one time when i was burgling fort nox we talked a lot too as i filled her bum hole with epic jisms before scooping it out to use as plastic explosives to escape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn’t have sex without protection unless in a position where both or all were proven clean, however with oral am happy to take the risk both giving and receiving.... does this make me an hypocrite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do hoover bags carry std?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The risks are different depending on type of sex and type of infection. The blood-borne infections (hep B, HIV) are more easily transmitted in areas where skin is more likely to tear. So receiving anal is the most risky practise. Vaginal sex is much less risky. Oral is very very low.

Oral sex is generally low risk for all infections.

And I agree, it’s always safer sex, because condoms don’t protect against everything.

HPV and herpes can still be transmitted during protected sex.

In conclusion, thank god for antibiotics, may bacterial resistance be a thing of the distant future

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Personally I wouldn’t have sex without protection unless in a position where both or all were proven clean, however with oral am happy to take the risk both giving and receiving.... does this make me an hypocrite?"

in my opinion only if you claim to be superior to anyone who doesn't use condoms at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think you need to go that extra with gloves and protection for oral think you should rethink the people you are playing with

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If you think you need to go that extra with gloves and protection for oral think you should rethink the people you are playing with "

I think everyone should use the protection they feel most comfortable with.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Isn't there an argument that enzymes in saliva to some degree reduce the risk of infection.

As others have said that covering up for penetrative sex for most is a minimum, but ultimately its the transfer of fluids that is the main risk. If the other side wish to be different to you in terms of protection, then you have to consider what it does for you and what you do about it. It's their responsibility to themselves that they are looking after, we have to do likewise for ourselves.

Your body is much better at oral protection, people do not realise how many infections we take in orally on a daily basis.

There is still a risk but it is much reduced because of the body is designed to deal with them there.

That would be for the giver. But what about the receiver? Say a man gives oral to one woman and then right away to another. Potentially he transferred everything from one genitalia to another. Same with woman giving unprotected oral to more than one man at a time. If one man had something it's been transferred to another. Am I overthinking it?"

In theory if the first woman has something, then whoever performed oral on her will be able to transmit the infection, that said, the saliva has the ability to deal with it mostly but definitely not always. There are other variables such as person giving oral having a low immune system through unassociated illnesses.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

The Terence Higgins Trust website has a good explanation of the risks.

It did raise one issue that I didn't know about, but is obviously a bit of info for us all know about and that is; brushing and flossing teeth before hand and particularly if you have bleeding gums increases the risk of infection.

So that's one more reason to see a dentist...

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