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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... for people to go lukewarm or ice-cold after the first meet when I showed them I am really interested in having them as my playmates?

Since joining another "adult" site, then this one, I have met 3 people that I liked to be my playmates, and even showed them how much I liked them

One did not even bother to send a text or to reply to my text and other messages.

One could not make up his mind whether to meet again after pestering me via chat and with texts before I agreed to meet him.

Good job I held back and did not get very far with them!

One was really rather sweet, went all the way with him, and he is the one I miss the most, as he is really nice. He just was not ready for NSA fun, and did not realise it. He was honest about it though, unlike the other timewasters!

So peeps, what am I doing wrong?

Too honest, direct, forceful, whatever???

I shall be very vary about meeting people now, as petrol costs money!!!

Ooooooooo, lastly, I got my first rejection tonight after sending a face pic!!! Way to go!!!

Don't ask me why I find this amusing, just do, in my eccentric sort of way!

Night!!!

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Not wanting to sound harsh here, but if someone wanted to be a playmate after a 1st meet i thinki would run a mile.

I would just organise more meets and see how you get on - you cant always get a good impression of someone after a first meet - both nervous/excited etc.

Mind you - sometimes you cant get a true impression after 6 months!!!!

If you are destined to become regular playmates then that would happen naturally on both sides

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can decide whether I like someone or not within minutes of meeting face to face.

My one and only confirmed playmate was like that with me himself - we decided we liked each other over a meal.

He thinks the others are nuts and timewasters.

I appreciate people can nervous, and they WERE nervous, if you know what I mean!

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Well good on you then.

I am not such a good judge of character to decide like that.

But then half the fun is trying and testing in my book some of the bad meets can be fun stories later in life, and they make the good meets even better if you know what i mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My instinct about people is usually very good, and have only made one mistake with my late partner.

I did not like him at first, as his on-line persona was very arrogant and full of himself, whereas he was very caring and gentle, and fun in real life.

Glad I was wrong, as we had 4 wonderful years together, ho hum

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting


"My instinct about people is usually very good, and have only made one mistake with my late partner.

I did not like him at first, as his on-line persona was very arrogant and full of himself, whereas he was very caring and gentle, and fun in real life.

Glad I was wrong, as we had 4 wonderful years together, ho hum "

At least they were 4 good and happy years hun - alot of relationships turn bad WAY before then xxx

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

I dont think you're doing much wrong Jo, its all part of the maddening, wonderful, funny, frustrating, eye opening, fickle, belly laughing world of swinging !

a lot of people are out there testing the water, not really sure what they want; not all of us are great at letting people down well if we meet and that spark just isnt there; the ones we really fancy wont always like us and the ones we dont fancy will pursue us like crazy lol

but eventually, and more than once , you'll find the gems that make it worthwhile...the guys and girls that remind you that having to wade through some of the trickier bits is all worth it .

youre getting meets so you're definitely doing something right !

chin up, tits out...keep being you and have fun along the way. Where are you going to build up a wealth of funny stories to share with your fellow forumites if it all goes too smoothly anyhow

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most guys on here arn't after regular meets even tho they say they are, most just want notches on there bed post....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, the same happens to me all the time.

I was ill for a while last year and got chatting to a really nice guy. We discussed everything and we seemed to get on just fine when we finally met.We didn't do the deed, just a nice meal in the country and all the usual formalities (blow job) ha lol.

Then nothing. Zilch.

Random disappeared from MSN and no texts or calls like he used to.

Similar has happened twice since.

What the hell am i doing? This seems to be a common problem for women.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a guy had wrote this post i bet he would of been laughed out of fabs, its a little bit like rejection. who cares , get over it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if a guy had wrote this post i bet he would of been laughed out of fabs, its a little bit like rejection. who cares , get over it and move on "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You guys and gals have put a smile on my face, THANK YOU!

Glad to hear I am not weird!

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"You guys and gals have put a smile on my face, THANK YOU!

Glad to hear I am not weird! "

I'm the only wierd one on this site so youcan't possibly be! xx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"most guys on here arn't after regular meets even tho they say they are, most just want notches on there bed post....

"

Jeez, it's hard enough finding someone for a single meet, never mind turning down a second showing!

Or maybe I'm just hideous...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i met my present fella the once and we chatted and think thats about it.

He went away and we kept in touch via internet and he decided that as he already was seeing someone else (no strings) he was gonna stay with her rather than complicate things.

I was ok with this and we said we would be mates and stay in touch.

I KNEW i would see him again...

and lo and behold...

18mths later, we still playing

So dont give up hun, it will happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not giving up, as there are plenty of lovely people on this site!

The time-wasters are from a paid site that shares its database with other money making sites full of young cam girls allegedly.

I have updated my profile on both sites to include a change in the rules of engagement, after I sought advice from one of my regular contacts on here

I don't usually kiss and tell, not a ladylike thing to do

However, they have nothing to speak of, equipment wise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not giving up, as there are plenty of lovely people on this site!

The time-wasters are from a paid site that shares its database with other money making sites full of young cam girls allegedly.

I have updated my profile on both sites to include a change in the rules of engagement, after I sought advice from one of my regular contacts on here

I don't usually kiss and tell, not a ladylike thing to do

However, they have nothing to speak of, equipment wise! "

if they had nothing to speak of equipment wise, why did ya wanna see em again anyway ?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I think you're under selling yourself Jo - I'd buy you dinner just for the conversation during, knowing I don't fit your criteria.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if they had nothing to speak of equipment wise, why did ya wanna see em again anyway ? "

Size is not everything!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you're under selling yourself Jo - I'd buy you dinner just for the conversation during, knowing I don't fit your criteria.

"

You'll be exempt, as you are within the 20mile radius

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Who says I'd want to be exempt from such an experience???

More champagne?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God, the same happens to me all the time.

I was ill for a while last year and got chatting to a really nice guy. We discussed everything and we seemed to get on just fine when we finally met.We didn't do the deed, just a nice meal in the country and all the usual formalities (blow job) ha lol.

Then nothing. Zilch.

Random disappeared from MSN and no texts or calls like he used to.

Similar has happened twice since.

What the hell am i doing? This seems to be a common problem for women.

x

"

Jesus

you my lady need to go for the short bald headed gentlemen, they would never do that to ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who says I'd want to be exempt from such an experience???

More champagne? "

No, exempt from buying me a meal, as you are considered as local

I don't like champagne, a pint will do nicely, thank you!

If I do not have to drive, then it would be a pint of Guiness with a large measure of Port added to it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The Sunday time-waster texted this evening to say, on reflection, it is not for him

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting


"The Sunday time-waster texted this evening to say, on reflection, it is not for him "

Two words then

Bye

Bye

xx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

No, exempt from buying me a meal, as you are considered as local

I don't like champagne, a pint will do nicely, thank you!

If I do not have to drive, then it would be a pint of Guiness with a large measure of Port added to it "

Deal! On both counts..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Deal! On both counts.."

I like snappy people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God, the same happens to me all the time.

I was ill for a while last year and got chatting to a really nice guy. We discussed everything and we seemed to get on just fine when we finally met.We didn't do the deed, just a nice meal in the country and all the usual formalities (blow job) ha lol.

Then nothing. Zilch.

Random disappeared from MSN and no texts or calls like he used to.

Similar has happened twice since.

What the hell am i doing? This seems to be a common problem for women.

x

Jesus

you my lady need to go for the short bald headed gentlemen, they would never do that to ya "

Why? Are you short and bald?

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the issue is the majority of men on here are commitment phobic lol

When you bring the concept of 'regular' to the table they probably freak out and think your going to fall for them and stuff thus they run for the hills - quite frankly their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the issue is the majority of men on here are commitment phobic lol

When you bring the concept of 'regular' to the table they probably freak out and think your going to fall for them and stuff thus they run for the hills - quite frankly their loss "

It's a big mixture for me.

Some guys do tell me they love me and that's when it has to end i think.

Sometimes there's no room for love in this game.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if they had nothing to speak of equipment wise, why did ya wanna see em again anyway ?

Size is not everything! "

i know that.. just wondered why u wanted to see them again then when they wasn't interested u mention their equipment ??

sour grapes maybe

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