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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

So after 10 months of trying and getting nowhere..

I've come to 2 conclusions as to why.

1.I'm too polite

2. I'm too ugly

Just want to thank the very few that have engaged in brief conversation with me.

Btw..the site is great but it's the people on it that could make it better

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The people make the site. The people ARE the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There currently 30,908 people online on Fab. It takes time but some will live up to your expectations OP... don’t give up just yet, perhaps you’ll have a lucky run soon.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I reach a different conclusion: you are impatient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What has made you come to those conclusions?

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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough


"What has made you come to those conclusions?"

1...nearly every opening message which I send either gets read and deleted or not read

2...everytime I get asked for a face pic..I get blocked

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I wouldn't give up so soon. Hang in there x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

ooooooooooo giz a face pic

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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough


"I wouldn't give up so soon. Hang in there x "

All I hear is stories of time wasters which obviously I'm not 1 of them but getting tarred with the single bloke brush..it can be quite frustrating at times

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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough


"ooooooooooo giz a face pic "

Why..have you not blocked anyone today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a few people block me because of my face. I just think it’s because I’m intimidatingly pretty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been back on here after a 18 month or so break. I find you really have to read profiles and see who you are looking at and what they like. I have had a few meets but that was after I put myself out there and went to a club got to know a few people who are all great and slowly started building my profile back up, 3 weeks in and a few meets later and I'm getting there. my advice is hang in there and it will happen

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"ive been back on here after a 18 month or so break. I find you really have to read profiles and see who you are looking at and what they like. I have had a few meets but that was after I put myself out there and went to a club got to know a few people who are all great and slowly started building my profile back up, 3 weeks in and a few meets later and I'm getting there. my advice is hang in there and it will happen"

This for sure. Trust us, you are not the only one who gets messages deleted etc. Try a club.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You can never be too polite and most of us expect this as standard.

Most guys are not ugly, which would be determined by the observer but are subject to the incredibly high competition here.

Preferences and a clear matching of needs and availability is what gets meets - usually gained from men who make maximum use of the site including selling themselves well.

Most men here do not do well at giving us what we want, via your profiles. If they struggle with that, it's not a great sign for sex

We need to know how much we fancy you, how well we are sexually and personality matched and for it to be as painless as possible to meet. Lives/availability is typically already tough, so tougher to conclude a meet is off-putting.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’ve had a few people block me because of my face. I just think it’s because I’m intimidatingly pretty "

Prove it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isnt possible to be too polite, try being rude instead and see the blocks and derision roll in.

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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough


"It isnt possible to be too polite, try being rude instead and see the blocks and derision roll in. "

It isn't in my nature to be vocally rude..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a few people block me because of my face. I just think it’s because I’m intimidatingly pretty

Prove it "

Lol how would you like me to prove I’ve been blocked in the past?

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Just to clarify you get blocked after sending a face pic?

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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough


"Just to clarify you get blocked after sending a face pic? "

Yes..it's happened twice today

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Just to clarify you get blocked after sending a face pic?

Yes..it's happened twice today "

Ok...well different strokes for different folks.....I wouldn't use the word ugly just because some don't like.....they'll be more that do....chin up kid...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after 10 months of trying and getting nowhere..

I've come to 2 conclusions as to why.

1.I'm too polite

2. I'm too ugly

Just want to thank the very few that have engaged in brief conversation with me.

Btw..the site is great but it's the people on it that could make it better "

If they don't reply see it as a positive. Would you want to meet someone who does that?

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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough


"Just to clarify you get blocked after sending a face pic?

Yes..it's happened twice today

Ok...well different strokes for different folks.....I wouldn't use the word ugly just because some don't like.....they'll be more that do....chin up kid..."

No one is ugly in my eyes but I know how cruel some people can be.

Thanks for your kind words

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By *impleSailorMan
over a year ago

the moon

Patience dear boy patience

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Just to clarify you get blocked after sending a face pic?

Yes..it's happened twice today

Ok...well different strokes for different folks.....I wouldn't use the word ugly just because some don't like.....they'll be more that do....chin up kid...

No one is ugly in my eyes but I know how cruel some people can be.

Thanks for your kind words "

No problem...

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"So after 10 months of trying and getting nowhere..

I've come to 2 conclusions as to why.

1.I'm too polite

2. I'm too ugly

Just want to thank the very few that have engaged in brief conversation with me.

Btw..the site is great but it's the people on it that could make it better "

If those are the two reasons ..one you can change(easily) and one you cannot(too much anyway)

If its not working out the way you hope, and its causing you angst.. change something. That might include deleting your profile

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some rely on this site to much just use it as an extra tool & don’t forget to also look in the real world to for some company

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By *ondonFreakMan
over a year ago

London

Try 4 years! I must be near the top of the "repulsive men on Fab" list..

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"So after 10 months of trying and getting nowhere..

I've come to 2 conclusions as to why.

1.I'm too polite

2. I'm too ugly

Just want to thank the very few that have engaged in brief conversation with me.

Btw..the site is great but it's the people on it that could make it better "

It could be because you're a cyclist... many people seem to hate us _ycra louts.

Cal

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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough


"So after 10 months of trying and getting nowhere..

I've come to 2 conclusions as to why.

1.I'm too polite

2. I'm too ugly

Just want to thank the very few that have engaged in brief conversation with me.

Btw..the site is great but it's the people on it that could make it better

It could be because you're a cyclist... many people seem to hate us _ycra louts.

Cal"

You may have a point there..but beneath our lycra..we are just human beings just like all the non cyclists

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By *ycra lout OP   Man
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

A quick update...had a nice chatty social last night which has boosted my confidence in people..thanks to everyone for their kind words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but I'm allergic to lycra.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some rely on this site to much just use it as an extra tool & don’t forget to also look in the real world to for some company "

100% correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how the OP feels. It happens a lot when I send nice polite messages. I just see it as their loss not mine and then carry on lol

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