FabSwingers.com forum: Winks!

By *iguyandbbw OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Anyone else think there should be a button to turn off winks?

We think the wink system is pure lazyness on someone's part to not even try to write a message

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

I don’t think they are lazy, I normally wink and message at the same time.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

I don't take notice.....just block delete....mean nothing

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I tend to ignore winks, hardly ever look at them.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get winked at and I wink. Sometimes profiles are a bit thin. It can be a convo starter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else think there should be a button to turn off winks?

We think the wink system is pure lazyness on someone's part to not even try to write a message "

Yeah totally, blokes should have to keep writing messages so they can be ignored and deleted.

A lot of women use the wink function, who otherwise probably wouldn’t make contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind them. See them as an ice breaker for some. If sent one and receive one beck will then message as will stand a better chance of reply. I both message and wink. Each to they're own but don't mind them at all.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Agree there should be a filter turn them on or off. However I don't mind them prefer over 'fancy a fuk' or 'u meetin' etc...

With a wink, the delete or ignoring options don't feel too harsh then.

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By *onfucious Bob 2Man
over a year ago

bristol

I been winked at and happy to start conversation from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else think there should be a button to turn off winks?

We think the wink system is pure lazyness on someone's part to not even try to write a message

Yeah totally, blokes should have to keep writing messages so they can be ignored and deleted.

A lot of women use the wink function, who otherwise probably wouldn’t make contact. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer winks to randon messages ... I check out the profile and wink back if I want to chat! Practical and time saving much better than a message for me

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be hard writing a considered message every time which is bespoke to every user only to see it stay unread as you're one of thousands.

I wink but think of it in the real world where you catch someone's eye, and just smile or say hi on the first met, they smile or say hi back and you then you stay a conversation.

A wink to me is never a "meet me" lazy effort, but just "Hey I'm here, what do you think? Fancy a chat?"

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

Fanta?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

Fanta?"

Meh it's a start

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

Fanta?

Meh it's a start

No pleasing some ppl....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree there should be a filter turn them on or off. However I don't mind them prefer over 'fancy a fuk' or 'u meetin' etc...

With a wink, the delete or ignoring options don't feel too harsh then."

Same

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I never look at winks, I periodically bulk delete them without looking

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

I can’t believe I’ve not been winked today

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By *osmicplusMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think this is a tad harsh....if you're really offended by a wink just ignore it. I often use a wink just to acknowledge a profile I think is good, I may not want to chat or play with the person/s but it still shows an appreciation for the effort they've put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why they upset people! So easy to ignore and/or delete as well as so easy to use ... actually easier than all this complaining about messages!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

Fanta?

Meh it's a start

No pleasing some ppl....

Hey I'm a single bloke so surely a gem like that must make you weak at the knees and couldn't possibly not jump my bones. That's right isn't it. A bloody fanta indeed task

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

Fanta?

Meh it's a start

No pleasing some ppl....

Hey I'm a single bloke so surely a gem like that must make you weak at the knees and couldn't possibly not jump my bones. That's right isn't it. A bloody fanta indeed task

Haaaaaaaa get you eh honda.......I'm a fickle fckr me.......a fanta or nowt.....

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By *onfucious Bob 2Man
over a year ago

bristol

Agreed Deb

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

Fanta?

Meh it's a start

No pleasing some ppl....

Hey I'm a single bloke so surely a gem like that must make you weak at the knees and couldn't possibly not jump my bones. That's right isn't it. A bloody fanta indeed task

Haaaaaaaa get you eh honda.......I'm a fickle fckr me.......a fanta or nowt.....

You drive a hard bargain Suzuki but I never could resist the sound of a gixer. Go on you got a deal

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

Fanta?

Meh it's a start

No pleasing some ppl....

Hey I'm a single bloke so surely a gem like that must make you weak at the knees and couldn't possibly not jump my bones. That's right isn't it. A bloody fanta indeed task

Haaaaaaaa get you eh honda.......I'm a fickle fckr me.......a fanta or nowt.....

You drive a hard bargain Suzuki but I never could resist the sound of a gixer. Go on you got a deal

Knew I'd get you eventually.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not receive any 'winks' from women.

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud

Sometimes I send a wink just because I think the profile is cute even if they’re not our type or whatever. Or I’ll send one if I’m interested but not sure if we’re their cup of tea so don’t want to pester them with a message.

Funny cos there’s always loads of complaints about unsolicited messages in here and yet if you take away the wink facility how will you ever communicate with potential matches?

S x

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"You know if you don't delete them just leave them sitting there who ever posted them can't send another. Same with friend requests just leave them where they are. Now who's buying me a drink

Fanta?

Meh it's a start

No pleasing some ppl....

Hey I'm a single bloke so surely a gem like that must make you weak at the knees and couldn't possibly not jump my bones. That's right isn't it. A bloody fanta indeed task

Haaaaaaaa get you eh honda.......I'm a fickle fckr me.......a fanta or nowt.....

You drive a hard bargain Suzuki but I never could resist the sound of a gixer. Go on you got a deal

Knew I'd get you eventually.......

I always was a sucker for a trippy paint job and an exhaust rasp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blah blah blah jump to conclusion blah

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By *iguyandbbw OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"I think this is a tad harsh....if you're really offended by a wink just ignore it. I often use a wink just to acknowledge a profile I think is good, I may not want to chat or play with the person/s but it still shows an appreciation for the effort they've put in."

Nice way of looking at it its more of a thumbs up appreciation

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By *iguyandbbw OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"It can be hard writing a considered message every time which is bespoke to every user only to see it stay unread as you're one of thousands.

I wink but think of it in the real world where you catch someone's eye, and just smile or say hi on the first met, they smile or say hi back and you then you stay a conversation.

A wink to me is never a "meet me" lazy effort, but just "Hey I'm here, what do you think? Fancy a chat?"

I get what u mean but if we get a bespoke message we reply if they have clearly read our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else think there should be a button to turn off winks?

We think the wink system is pure lazyness on someone's part to not even try to write a message "

I agree I just delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They work both ways, they save time because if you like what you see from the winking person then you wink back but other people take it as lazyness of not being able to compose a message. I like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so a got spends 10 minutes writing s message and that gets deleted, so no point in that I’ll try a wink that gets deleted so it’s commonly known as a ‘catch 22’ or ‘in a quandary’

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By *osmicplusMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Nice way of looking at it its more of a thumbs up appreciation"

Sorry...had to

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Most ladies I guess will delete them as they have enough mail to wade through that they certainly won't look at winks too!

How you judge them is down to the individual person. Some see it as laziness, some as a hint of hello. If it works and connection is made, cool, if not, ah well. Too many people read motives into this site sometimes and take things like this personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think winks are good I use them all the time

Usually looking at another couple profile and if I like what I see I send a wink and they can wink back or message us

Mrscxxx

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Some of my best friends on here started asa wink! So, I’m a fan.

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By *echguypaulMan
over a year ago

here and there

I prefer to use winks just to show interest, if you get a wink back then you can message, to write a message thats worth reading takes a little while and for them to not be read or replied to its alot of time wasted, dont get me wrong i always try to send a message but a wink is an easy way to get the jist of if the person is interested..

However looking at alot of these messages winks get ignored or deleted also so what else is a guy meant to do haha!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Given that you have to actively click something to see your winks, why don't you just not click? How would switching them off help you.

We don't mind winks. They aren't pushy and they are a damn site better than a badly-worded message as far as we're concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like winks. They are a good indicator of interest. Get a wink, check the profile, if you like it wink back. It’s a good sign of interest without having that awkward first message not knowing if the mutual interest is there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind a wink - it's an easy way to express interest in someone - and equally easy to ignore too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy as I say I check out winks on my profile though most miss the bit about distance hahahahahaha

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By *ondonFreakMan
over a year ago

London

I barely use winks, if I do, its because the person I`m winking has age restricted me out by 1 or 2 years, preventing me messaging them directly, so I wink in the vain hope they might look at me & decide they can be a bit flexible..

But as I say, rare, only done that a couple of times in the last year.

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over a year ago

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

"I prefer winks to randon messages ... I check out the profile and wink back if I want to chat! Practical and time saving much better than a message for me "

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

"It can be hard writing a considered message every time which is bespoke to every user only to see it stay unread as you're one of thousands.

I wink but think of it in the real world where you catch someone's eye, and just smile or say hi on the first met, they smile or say hi back and you then you stay a conversation.

A wink to me is never a "meet me" lazy effort, but just "Hey I'm here, what do you think? Fancy a chat?"

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We like the wink as from a couple who aren't fully confident it's a way to see whether the other couple/person would be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like someone but don't think I'll have an opportunity to meet them or just feel like they'd never be interested I'll wink at them. It's just like a thumbs up.

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I like winks. Can be frustrating when you take the time to word a message to someone just to have it dismissed and not get a reply. Good way to show interest and if winked back then I can take the time to message.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We like winks but only if they fit our profile wants. Still get loads from couples & when we check their profiles nowhere does it say the lady meets alone.

So guess its the man looking & not reading then.

Rarely get responses back from ones we send.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

"Anyone else think there should be a button to turn off winks?

We think the wink system is pure lazyness on someone's part to not even try to write a message "

Just wink at u lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I just ignore them

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I think there should be a moan button that we can press as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to ignore winks, hardly ever look at them. "

I never got any to block or delete hahaha

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

"I prefer winks to randon messages ... I check out the profile and wink back if I want to chat! Practical and time saving much better than a message for me "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be a moan button that we can press as well

Yes. Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother looking at them

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By *OUmeHERsuffolkCouple
over a year ago

Newmarket

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"I prefer winks to randon messages ... I check out the profile and wink back if I want to chat! Practical and time saving much better than a message for me "
Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink on here like I’ve got Tourette’s

But joking aside, I like to receive a wink , I see it as a wee Ice breaker showing an interest.

I usually respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks can sometimes break the ice , works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks can sometimes break the ice , works for us "

Shame you’ve blocked males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like winks. Can be frustrating when you take the time to word a message to someone just to have it dismissed and not get a reply. Good way to show interest and if winked back then I can take the time to message. "

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