FabSwingers.com forum: Starting a thread then replying or not replying and uh oh are you dominating the chat aaargh help!

By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Been hanging around the forums for a while now, and I think I'm slowly picking up the etiquette. It's the first time I've ever been involved in any kind of online forum so still pretty green...

I've only started a couple of threads though, and oh me, it's tricky! When people reply I always want to reply to them, it's friendly, keeps the chat going etc But then you start to dominate the thread and you look like a bit of an attention seeking nobber.

Help me out, experienced forum people. What's the form?

Mrs TMN x

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Been hanging around the forums for a while now, and I think I'm slowly picking up the etiquette. It's the first time I've ever been involved in any kind of online forum so still pretty green...

Help me out, experienced forum people. What's the form?

Mrs TMN x"

If you start the thread Mrs TMN it’s your prerogative to reply to posts as you see fit. I do on my Weekend PHWOAAR thread, because I chose to acknowledge those who have taken the time to post. It’s only polite and I interact with my fellow forumites.

Attention seeking? Absolutely not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start a thread, ditch it for an hour or two, depending on success, reply after said time.

Unless I or your crush posted then reply after 2-3 minutes to still keep it on the cool side

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If I start a thread I try to reply to most people. If I asked a question to a group of people I wouldn't just respond to some of them. I sometimes see threads where only certain people are responded to and its what makes some new contributors think there's a clique. Therefore I think responding to everyone is the right thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be that attention seeking nobber you're on about.

If I start it.. I'll do what i want on it. I start to communicate with other people.. od and new over random shit. I try not to leave anyone out, because it sucks for the people who want to join in.

If it's someone elses thread, I try to be more respectful.

Do your own thing dude. If it's not in the rules, then.. you'd like to think you'd not be breaking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try different approaches, like I start a thread and then I immediately log out. Or i only reply to my friends in the clique, newbies don’t get a look in, unless they say how wonderful I am, then I might give them a thumbs up.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I run rough-shod, fuck em! You are all a figment of my imagination anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be an attention seeking knob

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m just a knob

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Thanks all. Interesting! I had not considered that the person who starts the thread can respond however they see fit and that this is generally accepted (I say generally, each their own here). I am a rule follower and find it easier when there's a rule to follow! I would hate to offend people involuntarily. I like the forum to be a happy place where everyone gets along and supports each other whilst be fuck each other's brains out

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Thanks all. Interesting! I had not considered that the person who starts the thread can respond however they see fit and that this is generally accepted (I say generally, each their own here). I am a rule follower and find it easier when there's a rule to follow! I would hate to offend people involuntarily. I like the forum to be a happy place where everyone gets along and supports each other whilst be fuck each other's brains out

Oh FFS. We, not be

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I try different approaches, like I start a thread and then I immediately log out. Or i only reply to my friends in the clique, newbies don’t get a look in, unless they say how wonderful I am, then I might give them a thumbs up."

clique bashing again Tame - get over it!

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

At least you admit it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Everyone on here is an attention seeking nobber so fuck it, run a thread as you want. On the rare occasions I do one, sometimes I respond to every poster, others there's no need to. I'd rather get no reply than a half hearted and arsed response because the OP feels they are obligated to reply to my crap.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I like to reply to most people on the rare occasion I start a thread,I may miss some mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

clique bashing again Tame - get over it! "

This is getting too easy to fish you in. Toodle pip.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Everyone on here is an attention seeking nobber so fuck it, run a thread as you want. On the rare occasions I do one, sometimes I respond to every poster, others there's no need to. I'd rather get no reply than a half hearted and arsed response because the OP feels they are obligated to reply to my crap."

Your posts aren’t crap Meli

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Melanie 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what the etiquette is. When I start a thread I do it like we're all in a pub chatting. I throw a question in and people may reply/ discuss. Or ignore me and sod off outside for a fag.

I read all the replies but don't reply to them all. In a pub situation I'd be nodding or smiling or frowning but not actually saying much unless I was asking a question.

I see it like a group chatting. I feel odd replying to every single reply because I wouldn't do it in a face to face chat.

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I like to reply to most people on the rare occasion I start a thread,I may miss some mind."

This was my fear. Previously I tried to reply to everyone but then I worried I would miss some! I may be overthinking this a little...

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Everyone on here is an attention seeking nobber"

Well I guess that's true in many ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to reply to most people on the rare occasion I start a thread,I may miss some mind.

This was my fear. Previously I tried to reply to everyone but then I worried I would miss some! I may be overthinking this a little..."

I miss some, but then I try and do a generic ‘I get you’ at the end

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If I ever start one (which is rarely) I always forewarn that I wont be replying, just covering my own ass lol, as most of the time I am just looking for opinions, I have no time in trying to changs others opinion. Unless of course I have been questioned in some way, though sometimes, your comments can be taken out of context, those I find best just to keep stum, as not worth explaining some of your words to others!

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I rarely initiate threads, but I don’t think there is an expectation by thread contributors to acknowledge their posts. Bit egotistical otherwise.

It’s nice when it’s acknowledged with a response that adds to it rather than just feeling like it needs to be acknowledged. Lots of overthinking going on I think.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Few of the longer running threads aren't enjoyable anymore cause one person replies to everything,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely initiate threads, but I don’t think there is an expectation by thread contributors to acknowledge their posts. Bit egotistical otherwise.

It’s nice when it’s acknowledged with a response that adds to it rather than just feeling like it needs to be acknowledged. Lots of overthinking going on I think."

egotistical could be overthinking it too?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If I start a thread, I will always reply to anyone that joins, for me basic manners

Someone else’s thread, I’m careful what I reply to and will just add my own initial thoughts and then follow up with another one if someone has directly commented

Everyone plays it differently though

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think there's any right or wrong way to being the OP to be honest - and the amount of interaction required may be dependent on the thread type too.

On the rare occasions I start a thread I tend to make a call as to whether continual acknowledgement of everyone that posts is necessary, because there's a danger sometimes of a 175 post thread becoming 87 posts by the OP acknowledging others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think there's any right or wrong way to being the OP to be honest - and the amount of interaction required may be dependent on the thread type too.

that's what parts 23456&7 are for..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just do what I feel like. If I feel I’m over contributing I back off. On some threads I start I deliberately reply to everyone, others I let them run their course more naturally and intervene less systematically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to reply to most people on the rare occasion I start a thread,I may miss some mind.

This was my fear. Previously I tried to reply to everyone but then I worried I would miss some! I may be overthinking this a little..."

I do start replying to all I think but then like others have said it gets a bit replying just for the sake of replying then. And then I forget or log out for a while and then I dont like too reply if no one else has as it looks like ressurecting a crap thread that wanted to die. Hard work this post writing

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I don't think there's any right or wrong way to being the OP to be honest - and the amount of interaction required may be dependent on the thread type too.

Yes! Me just popping back on to thumb people feels weird.

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think there's any right or wrong way to being the OP to be honest - and the amount of interaction required may be dependent on the thread type too.

Yes! Me just popping back on to thumb people feels weird."

Ooh now

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

" I do start replying to all I think but then like others have said it gets a bit replying just for the sake of replying then. And then I forget or log out for a while and then I dont like too reply if no one else has as it looks like ressurecting a crap thread that wanted to die. Hard work this post writing

Me in a nutshell! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just do what I feel like. If I feel I’m over contributing I back off. On some threads I start I deliberately reply to everyone, others I let them run their course more naturally and intervene less systematically."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to reply to most people on the rare occasion I start a thread,I may miss some mind.

This was my fear. Previously I tried to reply to everyone but then I worried I would miss some! I may be overthinking this a little...

Ha I do that too. Then I think oh well the night crowd might appreciate my crap thread too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this really something to be concerned about? Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oooh err.. I just thumbed witchdoc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this really something to be concerned about? Really?

I can guarantee you none of the "regulars" ever feel this way. They do it all the time.

Relax and enjoy. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely do I start a thread, but when I do I give it a lot of thought and make sure I reply to each and everyone who was kind enough to comment.

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Very rarely do I start a thread, but when I do I give it a lot of thought and make sure I reply to each and everyone who was kind enough to comment. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very rarely do I start a thread, but when I do I give it a lot of thought and make sure I reply to each and everyone who was kind enough to comment.

This

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Very rarely do I start a thread, but when I do I give it a lot of thought and make sure I reply to each and everyone who was kind enough to comment.

This

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I don’t

. Not purposefully but I just think it would be boring and take up the thread if I did. Like my unbuttoned jeans pic thread. Should I comment on every one? I’ve never really put much thought into that to be honest. Sometimes I even forget I’ve started one. Didn’t realise to comment on each post was the done thing. Sorry

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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Oh I don’t

It's absolutely not! The running theme seems to be that the OP can conduct themselves however they like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the thread for me.

Fuck it, do as you see fit

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By *nderIwonder.Man
over a year ago

2nd City

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over a year ago

2nd City

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