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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'll try and keep this as short as I can whilst still providing as much info as possible....basically, I'm a tad confused
Met a girl on a dating site, from the word go, messaging banter was there....flirty, funny, general getting to know each other chit chat, phone calls etc etc....quite a rarity these days to find someone on the same level as me.....we had a lovely date, just drinks and conversation with a lovely kiss at the end....went home feeling pretty chuffed!
Then over the course of the following week, she went distant and a bit cold....feeling slightly gutted, but also knowing this can and does happen (I'm no stranger to online dating) I prepared for the fact it was over before it had really started. During this week tho, she was still messaging me first in the morning and there was contact....just different to how it was before we met
Towards the end of this following week, I asked her outright what was going on, her basic reply was that owing to the problems her and her kids have been through/are going through, she didn't feel like she could see anything progressing between us even tho she wanted it to....she had given me basic info on what's happening during our date and it's not good at all for them so I totally understand....I basically said to her that we can stay pals and that if she needed someone to talk to, I'd be there.....contact dropped, I took that to mean it's pretty much finished...and tried to shrug it off
Now, at the end of the "quiet" week, she pipes up again, within a few messages, the flirty banter is back, the fun back and forths are as they were when we first got talking and SHE starts hinting at an "arrangement".....so obviously the bloke in me starts thinking ok....it's either this or no chance at all, so as things stand....this is what we plan to do....meeting up won't be easy because of a bit of distance and the fact she doesn't want to be far away from her kids but we'll see how it goes....
Am I setting myself up for a fall here? She knows I really like her, and I'm adamant she likes me too (in more of a way than just fwb)....our contact is frequent, friendly, flirty....at no time has it felt like I'm being used for just a pen pal, she hits me up first most days, doesn't dump her problems on me, asks about my day, seems genuinely interested in my life (as I am in hers) but is also, understandably, guarded....she has also said that she hopes her situation will improve and that she'll be ready to make more of a commitment at some point
I said I'd keep this short so I do apologise!
Bottom line is, do I go along with it, be patient and maybe actually for once see how something progresses naturally? Or be prepared to get hurt? Or just cut ties and try and forget it? In different circumstances, this could be something pretty awesome, I'm just hoping those circumstances start to be different soon!
Thank you all for taking the time to read and any thoughts or advice is much appreciated
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Holly
