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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why don’t people like meeting the newbies on here?

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Everyone starts of new at some point

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By *iss FontaineWoman
over a year ago

Northwest

Well in my experience firstly I didn’t realise they were new until the end of our chat I spent hours messaging and getting to know them to log on the next day and find they deleated their profile another one exactly the same I did realise gave them a chance and same thing happened I don’t waste so much energy now as it’s put me off

sorry if it seems harsh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very true, i could be on here a year and still look like a newbie haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well in my experience firstly I didn’t realise they were new until the end of our chat I spent hours messaging and getting to know them to log on the next day and find they deleated their profile another one exactly the same I did realise gave them a chance and same thing happened I don’t waste so much energy now as it’s put me off

sorry if it seems harsh "

Yes I can understand that there’s quite a lot of people like that about there just wrong for doing that I no where your coming from with that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly dude, ask that hypothetically, you’ll get a better answer.

I’ve been on and off here for 2-3 years now. I’ve met lots and lots of people via fab. But as I have no verifications (I’d rather be discreet), I’m essentially a single man who’s been on fab for years with no very’s, vouch for me etc, and get treated like a fucking plague victim haha.

PM me if you want an app suggestion that you can actually talk / meet people from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well in my experience firstly I didn’t realise they were new until the end of our chat I spent hours messaging and getting to know them to log on the next day and find they deleated their profile another one exactly the same I did realise gave them a chance and same thing happened I don’t waste so much energy now as it’s put me off

sorry if it seems harsh "

That’s truly baffling. 1) Who would vanish and stop talking to you?!? 2) Why are you speaking to these cretins. 3) Hi I’m Sam

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly dude, ask that hypothetically, you’ll get a better answer.

I’ve been on and off here for 2-3 years now. I’ve met lots and lots of people via fab. But as I have no verifications (I’d rather be discreet), I’m essentially a single man who’s been on fab for years with no very’s, vouch for me etc, and get treated like a fucking plague victim haha.

PM me if you want an app suggestion that you can actually talk / meet people from "

Hahaha made me laugh that but it is all about them verifications I no some people don’t like you having too many some don’t like you having none at all I just think it’s abit of an odd one the verification thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some newbie's are the same you just blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly dude, ask that hypothetically, you’ll get a better answer.

I’ve been on and off here for 2-3 years now. I’ve met lots and lots of people via fab. But as I have no verifications (I’d rather be discreet), I’m essentially a single man who’s been on fab for years with no very’s, vouch for me etc, and get treated like a fucking plague victim haha.

PM me if you want an app suggestion that you can actually talk / meet people from

Hahaha made me laugh that but it is all about them verifications I no some people don’t like you having too many some don’t like you having none at all I just think it’s abit of an odd one the verification thing. "

Always baffles me - a brand new person on here can’t get verified till they meet, but nobody will meet unless verified. It’s worse than the chicken / egg conundrum.

My advice bro? Don’t take it too seriously. And if you wanna meet someone that bad, go out and chat someone up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have and will meet newbies and fairly new unverified profiles,everyone has to start somewhere.I am more cautious with them though,as I've found they're more likely to be flakey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly dude, ask that hypothetically, you’ll get a better answer.

I’ve been on and off here for 2-3 years now. I’ve met lots and lots of people via fab. But as I have no verifications (I’d rather be discreet), I’m essentially a single man who’s been on fab for years with no very’s, vouch for me etc, and get treated like a fucking plague victim haha.

PM me if you want an app suggestion that you can actually talk / meet people from

Hahaha made me laugh that but it is all about them verifications I no some people don’t like you having too many some don’t like you having none at all I just think it’s abit of an odd one the verification thing.

Always baffles me - a brand new person on here can’t get verified till they meet, but nobody will meet unless verified. It’s worse than the chicken / egg conundrum.

My advice bro? Don’t take it too seriously. And if you wanna meet someone that bad, go out and chat someone up. "

I don’t have trouble meeting people definitely not it’s just something that I find abit off on this site, other sites you send a message get your shit sorted then do what your doing but on here it’s like you just insulted someone just because your not verified haha but you just hit the nail on the head about the chicken / egg conundrum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors..."

Course the newbies meet didn’t everyone on here start off as a newbie?? If the newbies didn’t meet then no one would of met, I think most people on here paint all the newbies out with the same brush which is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors...

Course the newbies meet didn’t everyone on here start off as a newbie?? If the newbies didn’t meet then no one would of met, I think most people on here paint all the newbies out with the same brush which is wrong. "
. How many chances would you give?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors...

Course the newbies meet didn’t everyone on here start off as a newbie?? If the newbies didn’t meet then no one would of met, I think most people on here paint all the newbies out with the same brush which is wrong. . How many chances would you give?"

Every individual is different tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly dude, ask that hypothetically, you’ll get a better answer.

I’ve been on and off here for 2-3 years now. I’ve met lots and lots of people via fab. But as I have no verifications (I’d rather be discreet), I’m essentially a single man who’s been on fab for years with no very’s, vouch for me etc, and get treated like a fucking plague victim haha.

PM me if you want an app suggestion that you can actually talk / meet people from

Hahaha made me laugh that but it is all about them verifications I no some people don’t like you having too many some don’t like you having none at all I just think it’s abit of an odd one the verification thing.

Always baffles me - a brand new person on here can’t get verified till they meet, but nobody will meet unless verified. It’s worse than the chicken / egg conundrum.

My advice bro? Don’t take it too seriously. And if you wanna meet someone that bad, go out and chat someone up.

I don’t have trouble meeting people definitely not it’s just something that I find abit off on this site, other sites you send a message get your shit sorted then do what your doing but on here it’s like you just insulted someone just because your not verified haha but you just hit the nail on the head about the chicken / egg conundrum "

Mate couldn’t agree more - it’s equally frustrating (because you just get labelled as a fucking weirdo being a single guy) and fucking hilarious (because you just get labelled as a fucking weirdo being a single guy by people who this site is such a big thing for them, they’re fucking weirdos. I never know whether to laugh or cry lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors...

Course the newbies meet didn’t everyone on here start off as a newbie?? If the newbies didn’t meet then no one would of met, I think most people on here paint all the newbies out with the same brush which is wrong. . How many chances would you give?

Every individual is different tho "

Yes you’re right. Can see you are...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want to try being a single coming back here and using the same profile!! I found it so much easier when i was a newbie! Its like people see when you joined and then your veri's and boom they got 5...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors...

Course the newbies meet didn’t everyone on here start off as a newbie?? If the newbies didn’t meet then no one would of met, I think most people on here paint all the newbies out with the same brush which is wrong. . How many chances would you give?

Every individual is different tho

Yes you’re right. Can see you are... "

Well I appreciate that thank you

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

When we first ever started we come onto fabswingers and actually struggled without verifications we plucked the courage up and went to a swingers club definitely didn't think we would enjoy it as much as we did.

Try getting verified go to a swingers club meet new people that's what it's all about.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t mind meeting newbies as long as I am reassured that they are genuine. Every one was a newbie once.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Nothing to do with being a *newbie* for some........

That excuse is over used....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People meet newbies, some people. But the same hurdles apply as for anyone else, good appealing profile, strong personal messages, you have to interest people, etc. It's harder, but it's hard for most single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to meet newbies, but after a string of last minute let downs I gave up.

I also found that many newbies didn’t understand the lifestyle and had trouble with NSA, they often got jealous or possessive and reacted badly if I met anyone else.

Also some newbies struggle in a club environment, feeling self conscious etc.

I have some lovely newbies, who none of this applies to and have taken to Fab like they’d been here forever, but on balance Fab works better for me by meeting those with more experience of this lifestyle

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm in principle (in principle!) open to meeting newbies socially, if they go through the usual process and make me feel comfortable, including understanding the limits of a social, and understanding that they get no claim to me. Tbh it's not happened yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done my share now i dont meet anyone but 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been here 9.5 years and I have never found it easy to meet people. I think being new is difficult and it’s why so many leave. Take your time and get known. If you like meeting people in a large group setting then the organised socials could be a good route.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors...

Course the newbies meet didn’t everyone on here start off as a newbie?? If the newbies didn’t meet then no one would of met, I think most people on here paint all the newbies out with the same brush which is wrong. "

Of course we all start off as a new face and considering the amount of competition on here you have to be patient

All i can advice is persevere, be yourself and don’t be a sleazebag and with a little luck you will find what you’re looking for.

You haven’t asked for profile advice so I will only say check out the advice section for any other tips to help you on your way.

As for newbies being tarred with the same brush well the sad truth is that’s comes from bad experiences with newbies and you don’t know who is a good un and who is a complete tool until you engage with them.

LJ

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors...

Course the newbies meet didn’t everyone on here start off as a newbie?? If the newbies didn’t meet then no one would of met, I think most people on here paint all the newbies out with the same brush which is wrong.

Of course we all start off as a new face and considering the amount of competition on here you have to be patient

All i can advice is persevere, be yourself and don’t be a sleazebag and with a little luck you will find what you’re looking for.

You haven’t asked for profile advice so I will only say check out the advice section for any other tips to help you on your way.

As for newbies being tarred with the same brush well the sad truth is that’s comes from bad experiences with newbies and you don’t know who is a good un and who is a complete tool until you engage with them.

LJ"

Where’s the advice on here for your profile?? And thanks for feedback much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Newbies don’t meet. Too many are keyboard warriors...

Course the newbies meet didn’t everyone on here start off as a newbie?? If the newbies didn’t meet then no one would of met, I think most people on here paint all the newbies out with the same brush which is wrong.

Of course we all start off as a new face and considering the amount of competition on here you have to be patient

All i can advice is persevere, be yourself and don’t be a sleazebag and with a little luck you will find what you’re looking for.

You haven’t asked for profile advice so I will only say check out the advice section for any other tips to help you on your way.

As for newbies being tarred with the same brush well the sad truth is that’s comes from bad experiences with newbies and you don’t know who is a good un and who is a complete tool until you engage with them.

LJ

Where’s the advice on here for your profile?? And thanks for feedback much appreciated. "

There is an advice section on the forums but forum rules mean nobody can you advise you on your profile unless you ask for it

And you are welcome

LJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don’t people like meeting the newbies on here? "

We have newbies blocked, we found them to be the biggest time wasters.

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