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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

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Does it effect you in your workplace?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean blokes that are acting like knobheads ?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Does it effect you in your workplace?"

No, only here.

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

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"You mean blokes that are acting like knobheads ? "

The concept of toxic masculinity is used in psychology and media discussions of masculinity to refer to certain cultural norms that are associated with harm to society and to men themselves. Traditional stereotypes of men as socially dominant, along with related traits such as misogyny and homophobia, can be considered "toxic" due in part to their promotion of violence, including sexual assault and domestic violence. The socialization of boys often normalizes violence, such as in the saying "boys will be boys" with regard to bullying and aggression.

Self-reliance and emotional repression are correlated with increased psychological problems in men such as depression, increased stress, and substance abuse. Toxic masculine traits are characteristic of the unspoken code of behavior among men in American prisons, where they exist in part as a response to the harsh conditions of prison life.

Other traditionally masculine traits such as devotion to work, pride in excelling at sports, and providing for one's family, are not considered to be "toxic". The concept was originally used by authors associated with the mythopoetic men's movement such as Shepherd Bliss to contrast stereotypical notions of masculinity with a "real" or "deep" masculinity that they say men have lost touch with in modern society.

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

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I work in the building trade and any form of emotion or being vulnerable in any way is a sign of weakness

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Yes

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I work on my own .. only toxic if I fart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You mean blokes that are acting like knobheads ?

The concept of toxic masculinity is used in psychology and media discussions of masculinity to refer to certain cultural norms that are associated with harm to society and to men themselves. Traditional stereotypes of men as socially dominant, along with related traits such as misogyny and homophobia, can be considered "toxic" due in part to their promotion of violence, including sexual assault and domestic violence. The socialization of boys often normalizes violence, such as in the saying "boys will be boys" with regard to bullying and aggression.

Self-reliance and emotional repression are correlated with increased psychological problems in men such as depression, increased stress, and substance abuse. Toxic masculine traits are characteristic of the unspoken code of behavior among men in American prisons, where they exist in part as a response to the harsh conditions of prison life.

Other traditionally masculine traits such as devotion to work, pride in excelling at sports, and providing for one's family, are not considered to be "toxic". The concept was originally used by authors associated with the mythopoetic men's movement such as Shepherd Bliss to contrast stereotypical notions of masculinity with a "real" or "deep" masculinity that they say men have lost touch with in modern society."

Really well explained. There’s a lot of confusion between toxic masculinity and it’s societal role vs masculinity in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I can’t say it does. I’m one of a few men that work in my office. I’m largely surrounded my women all day.

There’s very little masculinity in my work place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I work in the building trade and any form of emotion or being vulnerable in any way is a sign of weakness"

I hear you, I worked most of my life in the building trade.

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"I work in the building trade and any form of emotion or being vulnerable in any way is a sign of weakness"

I've grown up around builders. My dad, my step-brother, numerous cousins, etc. I went to the funeral of a young man recently. Suicide. I looked around that room. Their faces said everything. Hard men, funny men, acknowledging their weaknesses. I hope they don't bottle it up.

'Banter' isn't banter. It can kill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think toxic masculinity exists any more or less than toxic femininity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"I work in the building trade and any form of emotion or being vulnerable in any way is a sign of weakness

I've grown up around builders. My dad, my step-brother, numerous cousins, etc. I went to the funeral of a young man recently. Suicide. I looked around that room. Their faces said everything. Hard men, funny men, acknowledging their weaknesses. I hope they don't bottle it up.

'Banter' isn't banter. It can kill. "

Well said worked on a job recently and the guys told me about one guy who complained he was being bullied,they said it was banter even though he felt he was being bullied.

Guess what he got sacked and they called him a puff.

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London


"I work in the building trade and any form of emotion or being vulnerable in any way is a sign of weakness

I hear you, I worked most of my life in the building trade."

I've done my fair share too. Carrying a well used tape measure and the right look put paid to any dickheadedness

KM

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"Well said worked on a job recently and the guys told me about one guy who complained he was being bullied,they said it was banter even though he felt he was being bullied.

Guess what he got sacked and they called him a puff."

Christ, that's awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds a very European sort of thing. The traits of toxic masculinity as described above equate to simple survival in much of Africa and Asia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I work in the building trade and any form of emotion or being vulnerable in any way is a sign of weakness

I've grown up around builders. My dad, my step-brother, numerous cousins, etc. I went to the funeral of a young man recently. Suicide. I looked around that room. Their faces said everything. Hard men, funny men, acknowledging their weaknesses. I hope they don't bottle it up.

'Banter' isn't banter. It can kill. "
banter is banter bullying isnt banter just know when to draw the line know your audience too many people just cant tell the difference between a joke at someones expense and targeted attacks over time on 1 person true banter is equal

If you saw someone trips on a curb 1st instinct is to laugh and take piss and is to check there ok

Otherwise blooper shows practical joke shows and youv been framed would never have existed

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By *ools and the brain OP   Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"I work in the building trade and any form of emotion or being vulnerable in any way is a sign of weakness

I've grown up around builders. My dad, my step-brother, numerous cousins, etc. I went to the funeral of a young man recently. Suicide. I looked around that room. Their faces said everything. Hard men, funny men, acknowledging their weaknesses. I hope they don't bottle it up.

'Banter' isn't banter. It can kill. banter is banter bullying isnt banter just know when to draw the line know your audience too many people just cant tell the difference between a joke at someones expense and targeted attacks over time on 1 person true banter is equal

If you saw someone trips on a curb 1st instinct is to laugh and take piss and is to check there ok

Otherwise blooper shows practical joke shows and youv been framed would never have existed

"

That doesn't make any sense and kinda makes my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it doesn't really exist in my workplace. If it did, it wouldn't really effect me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Toxic masculinity, no

Toxic cuntishness, yes

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

Funny how all the people saying toxic masculinity doesn't exist are men, eh what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how all the people saying toxic masculinity doesn't exist are men, eh what?"

I'm only saying no because there isn't any.. not in comparison to other places I've worked where there has been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no,,but I see it on here

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


" bullying isnt banter just know when to draw the line know your audience too many people just cant tell the difference between a joke at someones expense and targeted attacks over time on 1 person true banter is equal

If you saw someone trips on a curb 1st instinct is to laugh and take piss and is to check there ok

Otherwise blooper shows practical joke shows and youv been framed would never have existed

"

Glad I don't work with you. Know your audience? Who are the 'jokes' for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how all the people saying toxic masculinity doesn't exist are men, eh what?

I'm only saying no because there isn't any.. not in comparison to other places I've worked where there has been."

where you wearing that mini dress again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You mean blokes that are acting like knobheads ?

The concept of toxic masculinity is used in psychology and media discussions of masculinity to refer to certain cultural norms that are associated with harm to society and to men themselves. Traditional stereotypes of men as socially dominant, along with related traits such as misogyny and homophobia, can be considered "toxic" due in part to their promotion of violence, including sexual assault and domestic violence. The socialization of boys often normalizes violence, such as in the saying "boys will be boys" with regard to bullying and aggression.

Self-reliance and emotional repression are correlated with increased psychological problems in men such as depression, increased stress, and substance abuse. Toxic masculine traits are characteristic of the unspoken code of behavior among men in American prisons, where they exist in part as a response to the harsh conditions of prison life.

Other traditionally masculine traits such as devotion to work, pride in excelling at sports, and providing for one's family, are not considered to be "toxic". The concept was originally used by authors associated with the mythopoetic men's movement such as Shepherd Bliss to contrast stereotypical notions of masculinity with a "real" or "deep" masculinity that they say men have lost touch with in modern society."

I smell Liberalism , no hard feelings and neither intended to OP, view are Express is personal,world has been changed, people are more aware, educated and liberal. Power distributed equally and miss used by both gender.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Toxic femininity affects me, feeble women unable to ask for a raise, its affecting how much I get paid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think toxic masculinity exists any more or less than toxic femininity.

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A short definition for ‘toxic femininity’ please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Toxic femininity affects me, feeble women unable to ask for a raise, its affecting how much I get paid."

oh cant you get a rise

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Toxic femininity affects me, feeble women unable to ask for a raise, its affecting how much I get paid.

oh cant you get a rise "

Not without women being okay with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Toxic femininity affects me, feeble women unable to ask for a raise, its affecting how much I get paid.

oh cant you get a rise

Not without women being okay with it."

just women

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As a student I sometimes see men behaving lightly on the edge of this but it's soon stopped in its tracks, as younger men seem much more flexible han many older people, emotionally open as well as intolerant of any abuse. It's refreshing.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I work in IT sales. In some aspects its worse there than when I was in the Army.

At least in the Army the sufferers could act out their macho fantasies for real.

In sales, all they have is the chest beating...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Toxic femininity is a much worse issue. Numerous studies on female vs Male behaviour (from childhood onwards) show that females are much more social and will use emotional manipulation, guilty, bullying, pressure and rejection to control one another and others.

Whereas men don’t really care about the emotional side of things as much, they just compete until they get along in a hierarchy, or they ignore each other.

So i don’t really understand this “toxic masculinity”. It’s not even a scientific or psychologically based fact, it’s just a buzz word that the media picked up on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

Mainly because I work with mostly females

Saying that, you’ve got the ones who suffer greatly with imposter syndrome who belittle others

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

No

My work involves working mostly with guys in construction, they always treat me with respect but we do also enjoy a good bit of banter.

I prefer working with men, women can be catty buggers sometimes

Jo x

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

In my job I'm outnumbered 10-1 by manly men. I'm happy to report there is no toxicity in their masculinity.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Only issues in my office are the ladies constantly falling out.

It’s not a competitive environment and quite relaxed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how all the people saying toxic masculinity doesn't exist are men, eh what?

I'm only saying no because there isn't any.. not in comparison to other places I've worked where there has been.

where you wearing that mini dress again? "

No.. it was the army.. I'd have been gang bummed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it effect you in your workplace?"

No more than toxic feminism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a student I sometimes see men behaving lightly on the edge of this but it's soon stopped in its tracks, as younger men seem much more flexible han many older people, emotionally open as well as intolerant of any abuse. It's refreshing. "

I see younger people differently too.. Far more accepting of equality on all levels and people for their differences.

It's really rather beautiful to see. A nice counter to the rise of the political conservative right who prefer things the way they were.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Everyone keeps threatening to punch someone's face in where I work. It's never going to happen though.

Plus they tilt their heads whenever a nice woman walks through. As if they have a chance in the first place

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