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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I want my fiancé to have sex with another woman while I watch... am I weird?! Some days I feel possessive over him and others I want him to experience it. Any advice/takers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not weird, there’s many women who like this kind of thing.

It’s not for me, so my only advice is be sure you both 100% want that, before acting on it.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

He sounds like a lucky guy. Apparently my partner would like the same for me, she just isnt as willing to put the effort in unlike yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He sounds like a lucky guy. Apparently my partner would like the same for me, she just isnt as willing to put the effort in unlike yourself

Why should she put in the effort?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He sounds like a lucky guy. Apparently my partner would like the same for me, she just isnt as willing to put the effort in unlike yourself

Why should she put in the effort? "

Why shouldn't she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He sounds like a lucky guy. Apparently my partner would like the same for me, she just isnt as willing to put the effort in unlike yourself

Why should she put in the effort?

Why shouldn't she?"

I didn’t say she shouldn’t, I was just wondering why she should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want my fiancé to have sex with another woman while I watch... am I weird?! Some days I feel possessive over him and others I want him to experience it. Any advice/takers? "

In think i would struggle to be watched! If every one was.participatimg.it would be completely different.

Would you consider participating with them OP?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"He sounds like a lucky guy. Apparently my partner would like the same for me, she just isnt as willing to put the effort in unlike yourself

Why should she put in the effort?

Why shouldn't she?

I didn’t say she shouldn’t, I was just wondering why she should

Well my partner is one of the laziest people I know and if its something I wanted I would be expected to put the effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He sounds like a lucky guy. Apparently my partner would like the same for me, she just isnt as willing to put the effort in unlike yourself

Why should she put in the effort?

Why shouldn't she?

I didn’t say she shouldn’t, I was just wondering why she should

Well my partner is one of the laziest people I know and if its something I wanted I would be expected to put the effort in.

What do you mean? What effort are you wanting her to put in regards to you sleeping with other women? (I’m not trying to be awkward, I genuinely don’t understand)

My husband makes no effort in regards to choosing who I sleep with or anything of the sort so I’m just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be to not do it til pure sure it's what you both want. You can't undo it.

Wouldn't be for me. My OH and I like to play together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll never be able to get my head around one partner 'choosing ' someone for the other to have sex with

Even if it's what they both want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll never be able to get my head around one partner 'choosing ' someone for the other to have sex with

Even if it's what they both want "

No I don’t get it either. I pick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m ‘making the effort’ because I want him to be happy and I’d rather be part of the looking than have it done without my knowing it xx

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"He sounds like a lucky guy. Apparently my partner would like the same for me, she just isnt as willing to put the effort in unlike yourself

Why should she put in the effort?

Why shouldn't she?

I didn’t say she shouldn’t, I was just wondering why she should

Well my partner is one of the laziest people I know and if its something I wanted I would be expected to put the effort in.

What do you mean? What effort are you wanting her to put in regards to you sleeping with other women? (I’m not trying to be awkward, I genuinely don’t understand)

My husband makes no effort in regards to choosing who I sleep with or anything of the sort so I’m just curious

Any effort. Encouragement would be a great start or getting involved in fab, just anything. In real life I'm incredibly shy and generally rubbish at meeting women so it really isnt something I think I could manage by myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m ‘making the effort’ because I want him to be happy and I’d rather be part of the looking than have it done without my knowing it xx"

I get whatcha mean!

My husband loves me sleeping with other men but doesn’t help me pick who I sleep with as it’s purely my decision. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t know what’s going on, he’s very, very aware

However, lots of couples look together. I just couldn’t have my husband pick someone out for me, if that makes sense

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's certainly not weird, or unusual for this place OP - what I would say is while you're conflicted over it it's probably best not to act on it - wait until you're 100% sure it's what you both want otherwise you're potentially opening Pandora's Box and won't get the lid back on.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I'll never be able to get my head around one partner 'choosing ' someone for the other to have sex with

Even if it's what they both want "

I dont necessarily think it needs the partner to choose but that way there is mutual agreement.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'll never be able to get my head around one partner 'choosing ' someone for the other to have sex with

Even if it's what they both want

I dont necessarily think it needs the partner to choose but that way there is mutual agreement."

If the agreement isn't mutual maybe it needs renegotiating

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Hannah really wants to watch me (Luke) have sex with another woman so you're definitely not alone. It's something I understand intellectually (it's been discussed on other threads) but it surprises me she wants to.

I'd be very happy to make it a reality for her, but how do you go about finding another woman? It's difficult for single guys to find a woman so it's a bit like that. It's difficult for couples to find a single woman so it's a bit like that too. So it's a double whammy of difficulty.

I'd be really interested to know if this scenario appeals to any women reading this. I don't mean specifically with us or the OP. I just mean in principle with the right couple. I don't think I have found anybody who has said yes and I've asked several times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want my fiancé to have sex with another woman while I watch... am I weird?! Some days I feel possessive over him and others I want him to experience it. Any advice/takers? "

Having been the other side of a couple of who allegedly were OK with each other having sex with others, but clearly not the case, I would say the fact you have doubts means you shouldn't go there. Feeling possessive isn't a good thing, and it is something you can not undo once it's happened.

I got caught in the messy crossfire of the missus being all kinds of bat shit crazy and jealous and that's not fair on anyone.

Make sure you're doing this for the right reason.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want my fiancé to have sex with another woman while I watch... am I weird?! Some days I feel possessive over him and others I want him to experience it. Any advice/takers?

I got caught in the messy crossfire of the missus being all kinds of bat shit crazy and jealous and that's not fair on anyone.

Make sure you're doing this for the right reason.

Good luck OP"

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Would HATE my hubby with another woman and thankfully he wouldnt do it ,not because he is bi ,but he just wouldnt do that to me ,the bi i can handle another woman would ruin us totally ,,...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would HATE my hubby with another woman and thankfully he wouldnt do it ,not because he is bi ,but he just wouldnt do that to me ,the bi i can handle another woman would ruin us totally ,,...

I’m the same. My husband isn’t bi, but just has no desire to sleep with anyone else. Which I’m glad, because the thought doesn’t turn me on at all.

But people who are completely clueless about relationships and adults who discuss things beforehand like to send me abuse after I post stuff like this, saying I’m ‘hypocritical’ because I won’t ‘let’ him sleep with anyone else.

As if it wasn’t a mutual decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some girls get the green eyed monster play carefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hannah really wants to watch me (Luke) have sex with another woman so you're definitely not alone. It's something I understand intellectually (it's been discussed on other threads) but it surprises me she wants to.

I wouldn't want to meet a man who is part of a couple on here.

For me, there's too much potential for it to get messy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want my fiancé to have sex with another woman while I watch... am I weird?! Some days I feel possessive over him and others I want him to experience it. Any advice/takers? "

Nope, not weird at all. I'd just make sure you're 100% happy before it happens as once it happens there is no taking it back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He sounds like a lucky guy. Apparently my partner would like the same for me, she just isnt as willing to put the effort in unlike yourself

Why should she put in the effort?

Why shouldn't she?

I didn’t say she shouldn’t, I was just wondering why she should

Well my partner is one of the laziest people I know and if its something I wanted I would be expected to put the effort in.

What do you mean? What effort are you wanting her to put in regards to you sleeping with other women? (I’m not trying to be awkward, I genuinely don’t understand)

My husband makes no effort in regards to choosing who I sleep with or anything of the sort so I’m just curious

I see where you're coming from. I agree she should be encouraging you. It's easy to say go and sleep with someone and enjoy it, but I'd like my partner involved with what's happening and knowing they are happy and enjoying what's going on.

My partner wants to fuck other guys, but if he showed no interest in making it happen I wouldn't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner wants to fuck other guys, but if he showed no interest in making it happen I wouldn't do it. "

My partner wants ME to fuck other guys*

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Some girls get the green eyed monster play carefully

Not just the girls, I would too.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

My partner wants to fuck other guys, but if he showed no interest in making it happen I wouldn't do it.

My partner wants ME to fuck other guys*

That's one I'd volunteer for and let Hannah watch! Not that you'd want that of course. Unfortunately she wants to be the only watcher.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

We thought long and hard about doing this and decided rather than doing stuff separate it would be safer ,more fun etc together and it is ,i choose with input from hubby ,but i find we are closer and more grown up than most we know ,we are hurting no one ,so dont judge

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

My partner wants to fuck other guys, but if he showed no interest in making it happen I wouldn't do it.

My partner wants ME to fuck other guys*

That's one I'd volunteer for and let Hannah watch! Not that you'd want that of course. Unfortunately she wants to be the only watcher."

I'm sure a lot of blokes would to be fair.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's the other way round for us, he's happy, more than happy to watch me, I couldn't deal with it if he was with another woman. So we play together. Everyone is different I suppose, but its interesting to hear other peoples thoughts. It's not like you can ask your mates!

Jo x

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By *inkyNinjaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the rainbow...

I have done this

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Think it would be rather fun to choose the people your partner fucks. Can’t see my wife going along with it but I know some naughty couples who’d have an absolute laugh over it! “Oi, Rachel, that bloke over there next to the pub fireplace - no, not that one, the one sitting next to the blonde with a parrot on her tits - yep - that’s the one! You’ve got to fuck him!”

“Okay, yer on, as long as you screw the scrawny one with the parrot!”

“Oh nooooooo! Should’ve known you’d say that!”

Two mins later and wife’s being screwed hard and cumming, entertaining the whole pub while I’m fighting off a bloody parrot! And it sure as hell isn’t a dead parrot!!!!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"I'd be really interested to know if this scenario appeals to any women reading this. I don't mean specifically with us or the OP. I just mean in principle with the right couple. I don't think I have found anybody who has said yes and I've asked several times.

I have done this

Would you be willing to share a bit about your experience? How did it come about? Did you enjoy it? Did it turn out well for everybody or were there any problems? Was it just once?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done this

Would you be willing to share a bit about your experience? How did it come about? Did you enjoy it? Did it turn out well for everybody or were there any problems? Was it just once?"

I did this a few times with a couple.

I was really apprehensive at first as I was worried it may get messy and I wanted to make sure the wife really was happy.

We met a few times just for a social to get to know each other. On the 4th time we all decided to go ahead. It really was fantastic. We all met up fairly regularly for about 5 months and it became that I would go to theirs for drinks/food and nearly always ending up having sex with him while she watched. It only stopped because I got into a relationship.

We are still friends and keep in contact.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I have done this

Would you be willing to share a bit about your experience? How did it come about? Did you enjoy it? Did it turn out well for everybody or were there any problems? Was it just once?

I did this a few times with a couple.

I was really apprehensive at first as I was worried it may get messy and I wanted to make sure the wife really was happy.

We are still friends and keep in contact. "

Is it something you would do again? I don't know what your relationship situation is now, but I'm sure you get approached by couples interested in a threesome. If a couple approached you about this would you consider it (assuming it's the right people of course)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done this

Would you be willing to share a bit about your experience? How did it come about? Did you enjoy it? Did it turn out well for everybody or were there any problems? Was it just once?

I did this a few times with a couple.

I was really apprehensive at first as I was worried it may get messy and I wanted to make sure the wife really was happy.

We are still friends and keep in contact.

That would depend if it was something as a couple we were comfortable with. At the moment we are not playing, just enjoying the social side of things.

Yes I do get couples contact me but nearly always they are looking for a bi female and for everyone to join in.

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