FabSwingers.com forum: Too young

By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I agree with you 100% but after chatting with a couple of 20 year old ladies on here, I’ve had to change my opinion as they know exactly what they want. The times they are a changing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wtf did I do???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

???

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

Has anyone else noticed the sudden rush of 18-20 year old women joining the site?

In my opinion 18 is not mentally mature enough to join this lifestyle..i may be wrong but like i said just my personal opinion-hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wtf did I do???

You done did it now

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

"Has anyone else noticed the sudden rush of 18-20 year old women joining the site?

In my opinion 18 is not mentally mature enough to join this lifestyle..i may be wrong but like i said just my personal opinion-hubby"
had to repost as i made a couple of mistakes in my first post haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I originally joined at 19.

Then removed myself when found a relationship off the site.

I known a few 18 - 20 year olds on here. They know what they want, let them be

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

Im not moaning it was just an observation.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Has anyone else noticed the sudden rush of 18-20 year old women joining the site?

In my opinion 18 is not mentally mature enough to join this lifestyle..i may be wrong but like i said just my personal opinion-hubby"

I think times are changing and younger people are more switched on than I ever was at that age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing they're either using it as Tinder without the "relationship" hassle, they're genuinely curious about the lifestyle, or more likely - they're fakes.

Just my too cents.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

I think there is no harm in an 18-20 wanting to experiment in the lifestyle, some folk also mature faster than others but ultimately it is a life experience.

Crack on i say.

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

"I'm guessing they're either using it as Tinder without the "relationship" hassle, they're genuinely curious about the lifestyle, or more likely - they're fakes.

Just my too cents."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the individual. The law states that you're an adult at 18, but not all 18 year olds have that level of maturity. Then again, many will.

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

"I think there is no harm in an 18-20 wanting to experiment in the lifestyle, some folk also mature faster than others but ultimately it is a life experience.

Crack on i say."

as i said i wasnt moaning about it just noticed a lot joining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just another social media outlet

Imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wtf did I do???

Not sure but do it again and see if the sam thing happens. .

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

"I think there is no harm in an 18-20 wanting to experiment in the lifestyle, some folk also mature faster than others but ultimately it is a life experience.

Crack on i say.

as i said i wasnt moaning about it just noticed a lot joining. "

And i didn't mean it to sound like a criticism, didn't think you were moaning, was merely giving my opinion.

Sexualisation on tv and the internet i think leads the more youthful of us to push boundaries and try more things than ever before. The biggest risk in all this is not playing safe i reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 18 when I first joined fab.

What makes you think it's too young OP?

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I delete anything young ... say age 25 and below ... u never know if it’s a 15 yr old posing as a police woman lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone else noticed the sudden rush of 18-20 year old women joining the site?

In my opinion 18 is not mentally mature enough to join this lifestyle..i may be wrong but like i said just my personal opinion-hubby

I think times are changing and younger people are more switched on than I ever was at that age"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it depends on the individual. The law states that you're an adult at 18, but not all 18 year olds have that level of maturity. Then again, many will. "

Many 30 year olds don’t hahaha.

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

"I was 18 when I first joined fab.

What makes you think it's too young OP? "
i guess like someone above said times are changing. Just thinking back to when i was that age most people i knew were not mature enough to be in this lifestyle.

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

"I think it depends on the individual. The law states that you're an adult at 18, but not all 18 year olds have that level of maturity. Then again, many will. "
totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was 18 when I first joined fab.

What makes you think it's too young OP? i guess like someone above said times are changing. Just thinking back to when i was that age most people i knew were not mature enough to be in this lifestyle. "

At 18 i was in a relationship with a dom and didnt know at the time and had a few 3somes after responding to ads in the papers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was 18 when I first joined fab.

Lots of 18 year olds won't have the maturity needed, other's will. We don't all mature at the same rate.

I was an extremely mature 18 year old, I needed an outlet sexually and fab was perfect.

Age is, in many cases, just an indicator of how long you been been on the planet, little else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it depends on the individual. The law states that you're an adult at 18, but not all 18 year olds have that level of maturity. Then again, many will.

Many 30 year olds don’t hahaha. "

This is my view...I tend to be a bit wary of young women. I don't want to mess with their lives, even though, ironically, I tend to get more attention from them...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Its sex, many 18 to 20 year olds are having plenty of casual sex away from fab and dealing with it. I think they're probably better equipped than a lot not older people with hangups about the morality of having more than one partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 21 when I went to my first swinging club. I was also a mother of a 2 year old. If I was mature enough to be a mother I was mature enough to decide what I wanted sexually

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it depends on the individual. The law states that you're an adult at 18, but not all 18 year olds have that level of maturity. Then again, many will.

Many 30 year olds don’t hahaha.

This is my view...I tend to be a bit wary of young women. I don't want to mess with their lives, even though, ironically, I tend to get more attention from them..."

Why would you messaged with their life?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

*mess

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

I've been in the lifestyle since I was 18 and I've just turned 33, it all depends on the individual.

When I first started going clubs I used to often get told " I'd love to but your just to young!" Which at first baffled me a little then started to understand it's everyones personal preference, as for some people they had offspring younger than me which gave them a moral issue in there mind, but there are others who I have been playing with for over a decade, some are solely as fab meets or club meets, others are very good friends in vanilla life as well and I have been to there weddings, birthdays ect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*mess"

I got it..

I think very few really know what they want. Some will, but I'd take some convincing. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At 18 they still don't know what they want and not a chance would I encourage that on here there just starting out in life and they need to concentrate on experiencing real life careers relationships handling life in general to know what they actually want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At 18 they still don't know what they want and not a chance would I encourage that on here there just starting out in life and they need to concentrate on experiencing real life careers relationships handling life in general to know what they actually want "

People have different life experiences and mature at different rates. That's a very sweeping generalisation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they're not getting enough attention on insta.

Perhaps they are men wanking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have different life experiences and mature at different rates. That's a very sweeping generalisation."
yes they do mature at different rates I'm going of what I know been a parent and there age group that I know from my kids. this life is something that's not real and is all fantasy and mature or not at 18 this day and age they need focus on real life and mature fully but careers and succeeding should always come before anything else and sexually certainly not mature enough to know what's what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have different life experiences and mature at different rates. That's a very sweeping generalisation.yes they do mature at different rates I'm going of what I know been a parent and there age group that I know from my kids. this life is something that's not real and is all fantasy and mature or not at 18 this day and age they need focus on real life and mature fully but careers and succeeding should always come before anything else and sexually certainly not mature enough to know what's what "

SOME yes, not all.

I'd been through more at 18 than most people experience in a lifetime. No one ever told me I was too young to be here. And I don't think I was. Even with hindsight, 12 years later.

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over a year ago

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Yes I agree some of us in our 20s do have the level of maturity to explore this lifestyle and are genuinely curious about it whilst the majority see it as a different version of tinder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I started at 21. I was a mother at 18. I have a career. I was mature enough. My son is 16 but a very young 16 year old he wouldn't be mature enough at 18. It's not about age it's about the person. My son has a friend the same age as him who's incredibly mature and people assume he's in his 20s. He would probably be ok at 18 where as my son wouldn't."
yes that shows you are mature with career and having a baby and know what you want that's how it should be career based got your life right so you can support your kids but there alot that haven't got that drive and realise they need get the important things right in there life's first before any fantasy

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

In my opinion

at 18 I had been with D for over a year and we were best friends since I was 14. I knew exactly what I wanted and that was to spend the rest of my life with him experiencing everything together. We knew we were kinky fuckers then too but society held us back. Nowadays at 18 people are more open about sharing partners and exploring sexual desires.

So yes they should be allowed on here, although to be clear we wouldn't get involved in a person of that age purely because we have children close to that age so it doesn't feel right to us.

Jo.Xx

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

In fairness it's down to the person themselves, I know people in the 20's, 30's even older than that who are not mature enough for the life style.

At 18 I'd been left home for a few years, was very well established in my chosen career, had my own vehicle and knew what I wanted sexual.

And now days 18 year olds have a bank of knowledge in there pockets so if they know what they want they can click and find it, were as when I was 18 it took me happening to bed a guy in vanilla life to find out about this whole lifestyle that was just what I wanted

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

In my opinion

So yes they should be allowed on here, although to be clear we wouldn't get involved in a person of that age purely because we have children close to that age so it doesn't feel right to us.

Jo.Xx "

That is the way to do it, simply set your age limits were you want them.

If people don't want to mix with younger people just set your age limits to ages you are happy to interact with, it doesn't matter if it's because you don't think they are likely to be mature enough or if it's personal like they are to close to the age of your own children, the site gives you options on the ages of people who can't contact you so you set them were you are happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion

So yes they should be allowed on here, although to be clear we wouldn't get involved in a person of that age purely because we have children close to that age so it doesn't feel right to us.

Jo.Xx "
yes we're same kids around same age think my opion is abit biased has I've got daughters think it's that dad over protective head kicking in eldest is nearly 21 and I struggled letting her bf in my house haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I would want know if you found out your own son or daughter was on a site like this how would you react honestly? I would be upset and quite angry about it hypocritical I know but that's me

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

Mrs here now

Hubby and i have differing opinions on this.

At 18 i was very mature sexually and knew exactly what i wanted.

I think it is great the the younger peeps are open to exploring and not having to stick to 'traditional relationships' provided they are playing safely and not putting themselves at risk then good luck to them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs here now

Hubby and i have differing opinions on this.

At 18 i was very mature sexually and knew exactly what i wanted.

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well thank god we're not the only couple who have different opinions

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

"One thing I would want know if you found out your own son or daughter was on a site like this how would you react honestly? I would be upset and quite angry about it hypocritical I know but that's me "

My dad found out I was on here and in to the life style when I was 20 , his words were " it saddens me that you will never have a normal relationship but if it makes you happy and as long as you are being safe it's your life to live"

My brother on the other hand who is 18 months older than me found out when I was about 22 so he was about 24 that I was into the lifestyle and he was was trying to use it against me(not wasn't mature enough even though he had a n established career,home and vehicle) and was like well let's see what dad thinks about it, I was like no worries IL even call him for you to tell him, my brother didn't know were to hind himself, ( my brother is bisexual but tells people his family wouldn't understand or agree) I'm one of four siblings boy,girl,boy, girl with ten years between oldest and youngest, we have all been raised to know it doesn't matter who we are as long as we are happy and it doesn't matter who we chose to be with as long as we are safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be gutted if he/she would use the word anus to describe rectum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be gutted if he/she would use the word anus to describe rectum"
always one class clown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone else noticed the sudden rush of 18-20 year old women joining the site?

In my opinion 18 is not mentally mature enough to join this lifestyle..i may be wrong but like i said just my personal opinion-hubby"

Yep you’re wrong

But that’s your opinion and you’re entitled to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very true 21 still to you 18 definitely to young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone else noticed the sudden rush of 18-20 year old women joining the site?

In my opinion 18 is not mentally mature enough to join this lifestyle..i may be wrong but like i said just my personal opinion-hubby"
love how people call it the lifestyle

its sex

you not seen teen pregnancy rates 18 to 20 is an old lady nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

18 is fine if that's what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be gutted if he/she would use the word anus to describe rectumalways one class clown "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If 18 was too young they wouldn’t be allowed to join fab. It’s as simple as that.

There’s plenty of young men and women who are mature. More mature than the ‘older’ lot.

I joined at 20 and when I joined in with the forums I had a lot of messages saying how mature I am and people are shocked by my age. I’m 22 now and still get these messages.

I’m an adult, I can make choices for myself.

I don’t feel that once you get to 50 you’re too old for swinging.

Adults can *usually* make informed decisions, regardless of their age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If 18 was too young they wouldn’t be allowed to join fab. It’s as simple as that.

There’s plenty of young men and women who are mature. More mature than the ‘older’ lot.

I joined at 20 and when I joined in with the forums I had a lot of messages saying how mature I am and people are shocked by my age. I’m 22 now and still get these messages.

I’m an adult, I can make choices for myself.

I don’t feel that once you get to 50 you’re too old for swinging.

Adults can *usually* make informed decisions, regardless of their age

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im 40 next month and your more mature than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbf a lot of older people aren't often mature enough on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If 18 was too young they wouldn’t be allowed to join fab. It’s as simple as that.

There’s plenty of young men and women who are mature. More mature than the ‘older’ lot.

I joined at 20 and when I joined in with the forums I had a lot of messages saying how mature I am and people are shocked by my age. I’m 22 now and still get these messages.

I’m an adult, I can make choices for myself.

I don’t feel that once you get to 50 you’re too old for swinging.

Adults can *usually* make informed decisions, regardless of their age

im 40 next month and your more mature than me

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf a lot of older people aren't often mature enough on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf a lot of older people aren't often mature enough on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP are you reaching that age where doctors and police look like kids in fancy dress

Happens to us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say a site like this would have helped me enormously at the age of 18. I have learned so many things during the last few years that would have helped enormously during my early adult life and led to a considerably more rewarding sex life and better relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf a lot of older people aren't often mature enough on here

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that's because this life is fantasy you can escape the real life problems and use this has a escape what you find in alot of people who have done this a long time there totally different in the real world this is make believe fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf a lot of older people aren't often mature enough on here

that's because this life is fantasy you can escape the real life problems and use this has a escape what you find in alot of people who have done this a long time there totally different in the real world this is make believe fantasy "

Very true but also lots of older people lack maturity period whereas you can meet younger people with their heads very well screwed on! Just depends on the person I suppose ...

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By *iscreet Unicorn OP Woman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

"OP are you reaching that age where doctors and police look like kids in fancy dress

Happens to us all

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hahaha damn im getting old

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