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I want to run away from home

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel stuck in hole, I broke up with a girl a month ago and I found out today she's already moving on. My heart sinks at the thought, but also I'm in a job I don't like, I've a loan to pay off, I keep spending money buying shit to feel good but I don't then I'm low on money, I can't leave the job cuz I need to pay off the loan but I don't have any skills to get a new job and I just feel cuffed, there's too much shit going through my mind and feel like I'm going to implode, so I just want to run away from it all. But I don't want to tell anyone but I don't want to worry anyone and I just don't know what to do. I'm sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take one day at a time and things will get easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you’re ok xxx

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

OP I think telling someone would help a great deal....lift some of that weight from your shoulders.... parents? Good friend? If not how about your docter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you look after yourself x

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By *rincessvenusCouple
over a year ago

Hull

samaritans

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

You know life is a rollercoaster and it's up to us to ride it and get to the end. Sometimes we can't cope alone I know it's hard to reach out to others at time's,but please try to do that. Thing's will change you won't feel like this forever.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP we all have times like that when the odds seem stacked against us and sorry that you're going through it right now - things will get better even though it may not seem that way.

Talking here is as good as anywhere, and sometimes just putting your problems into words can be quite cathartic on their own.

Try making a plan, short term, medium term and long term - the first one to deal with the next week, the next the next month etc - every time you go to buy something ask yourself if you really need it and would it be better spent paying off the debt - and trust me slowly but surely you'll start to see a brighter side to life, maybe not immediately but it will happen.

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Sometimes when life gets too much, it's hard to keep everything to yourself because you will then overthink things and negativity takes over. Like someone said take one day at a time and break down all your worries into little problems and try and tackle one small issue at a time. It is so important that you speak to someone about how you feel, I'm sure they will not feel like your a burden at all. Reach out and maybe then a weight can be lifted from you xx you have spoke out on here so that's a first step to knowing that you cannot deal with everything your feeling on your own, and there is definitely no shame in asking for help. We have both been there ourselves and know what it feels like.

This is just a blip in your life, it will soon pass and life will start to feel good again in time xxx (Tara) xx

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I've tried to send you a private message, unfortunately I'm blocked. Don't whatever you do feel that you're on your own, I've been through some of what has happened to you. I know ! Message me if you feel really bad, or just let us know on this thread. It can get better just give it a chance

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By *otts GentMan
over a year ago

warwick

You are too young and have full life ahead of you. Speak to someone you can trust as it will help getting the weight off your shoulders. Also there's no shame in seeking professional help. Just don't rush into any decision as you are likely to make the wrong ones being in this state of mind. Hope it works out for you Pal. Hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just want to say I bet a lot of us feel the same, I’m 50 and just coming out of this as I did change my job and am now a lot happier, you say you have no skills to change job, but could you do the same job at a different place? I have and what a difference! Appreciated not used now, different company different people employees matter x could you volunteer somewhere on days off to learn some skills? Do you have a dream job but need qualifications for that you could study for on line? There are always options if you are determined enough to find them.. I needed to kick myself up the ass hard to make changes as I almost fear change, but I’m glad I did! Sending you a (((HUG))) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in the exact same boat. Message me if you want to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey m8 there are lots of guys who are in the same boat as you. Try and keep your chin up and remember that there are plenty more fish in the sea x whats for you won't go bye you x dust yourself down and move on m8. Don't let her do your head in. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember this feeling won't last forever.

Try and distract yourself when you feel hopeless and talk to someone, even if just someone on here. Releasing those thoughts will help a little.

Just keep on keeping on. It will pass.

Sending love and strength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I was where you are now 22 years ago. I got counselling, I spoke to people and I got through it. It was one bad place at one point in my life and I learned a lot from it and it never got that bad again.

It's a major thing that you wrote it down and posted it for people to try and help.

Stick with it dude..you're among friends here. Message me any time.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Your 22 mate you've a whole life ahead of you. I was there at your age to mate I'm now 50 and just about to retire and quite comfortable to. If you don't live through the shit you've never lived at all. Things will come good my friend you just got to keep fighting....

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By *uralRobMan
over a year ago

Ludlow

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By *uralRobMan
over a year ago

Ludlow

As long as you have your health the rest means jack shit. Talk, explore interests. Big believer in everything happens for a reason. Head up mate.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You will be better if you do share this with someone you know, as at least you will offload some of the pressure you have. Improving your wellbeing as much as possible is important for you in my opinion, so that you can cope as healthily as possible. The loss you have had must be really tough to deal with, especially alone. If you can step by step build multiple types of support into your life, you should gain more calm and ability to let much of this sail by you. Regular exercise, time in nature, being with others, sharing and talking about things bit by bit, are all good things that are healthy ways to regain some strength.

Put yourself as top priority - take a decision without pressure to do one thing that could break the dullness of what you have been suffering. And see your GP, if your mood sinks too.

Take care

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I feel stuck in hole, I broke up with a girl a month ago and I found out today she's already moving on. My heart sinks at the thought, but also I'm in a job I don't like, I've a loan to pay off, I keep spending money buying shit to feel good but I don't then I'm low on money, I can't leave the job cuz I need to pay off the loan but I don't have any skills to get a new job and I just feel cuffed, there's too much shit going through my mind and feel like I'm going to implode, so I just want to run away from it all. But I don't want to tell anyone but I don't want to worry anyone and I just don't know what to do. I'm sad."

Tell someone talk to someone stay strong xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you guys, it's just after 5 and I can't sleep, I'm stressing at the thought of how I had an amazing relationship with this girl like 2ish months ago and now nothing. It's shit. I don't feel as bad as last night but I just didn't know what to do, I kept doing repetitive tasks to the point that my head felt like it was going to explode, I didn't know what direction to take and I still don't. I've seen lots of people my age pursue their goals and achieve them recently and I just don't think I'll be able to do the same.. it's like I'm been told something, I'm seeing signs, articles telling me I'm not living the life I want to live and how I should do it and these people being successful but I don't think I can too. It's not just the loan tho, I'm paying it off little by little, it's just I know I can't run away or quit my job cuz I have a responsibility to pay it off first. Someone called me a drama queen for talking about it yesterday, and I don't want to come across as such so sorry if talking about my mental health is a nuisance. I've turned off filters, and I'll message anyone if I feel down, thank you.

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

Success for me is simply being happy... and for the people around me to be happy.

Success means different things to different people. Someone may have a great job... nice house... holidays... etc but it doesn't mean they are happy...

It's been said... take one day at a time... invest in yourself... it sounds like you have a lot to give...

If you need a hand and have no where to turn, the Samaritans are good. My dad was a volunteer.

You will be happy again... and when you are you will come across someone else to share time with.

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London


"I feel stuck in hole, I broke up with a girl a month ago and I found out today she's already moving on. My heart sinks at the thought, but also I'm in a job I don't like, I've a loan to pay off, I keep spending money buying shit to feel good but I don't then I'm low on money, I can't leave the job cuz I need to pay off the loan but I don't have any skills to get a new job and I just feel cuffed, there's too much shit going through my mind and feel like I'm going to implode, so I just want to run away from it all. But I don't want to tell anyone but I don't want to worry anyone and I just don't know what to do. I'm sad."

Negative attention. Swingers site and we have an outpouring of depressive traits. Here's some advice, go see your doctor and get anti-depressants and lift your mood first of all. Then, instead of running away actually do some running and do it frequently (you'll feel better for it). Finally, go to the citizens advice bureau and discuss your debt with them and what you can do to upskill. Once done, come back and tell everyone how positive things are looking. At least the best thing you done was split up with your girlfriend. You did both both her and you a favour. Don't even try get her back again until your shit's in order.

See you at a social hopefully wearing smart brogues, neat trousers and a crisp white shirt. That'll mean you actually gave a damn. Now let's do this. I'm getting up. Work to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel stuck in hole, I broke up with a girl a month ago and I found out today she's already moving on. My heart sinks at the thought, but also I'm in a job I don't like, I've a loan to pay off, I keep spending money buying shit to feel good but I don't then I'm low on money, I can't leave the job cuz I need to pay off the loan but I don't have any skills to get a new job and I just feel cuffed, there's too much shit going through my mind and feel like I'm going to implode, so I just want to run away from it all. But I don't want to tell anyone but I don't want to worry anyone and I just don't know what to do. I'm sad.

Negative attention. Swingers site and we have an outpouring of depressive traits. Here's some advice, go see your doctor and get anti-depressants and lift your mood first of all. Then, instead of running away actually do some running and do it frequently (you'll feel better for it). Finally, go to the citizens advice bureau and discuss your debt with them and what you can do to upskill. Once done, come back and tell everyone how positive things are looking. At least the best thing you done was split up with your girlfriend. You did both both her and you a favour. Don't even try get her back again until your shit's in order.

See you at a social hopefully wearing smart brogues, neat trousers and a crisp white shirt. That'll mean you actually gave a damn. Now let's do this. I'm getting up. Work to do.

"

BOOM! This guy just smashed it for you OP.

The exercise pet is key to this, get out and get moving, it’ll help no end.

Good luck bro

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks lads, exercise isn't something I do often so I'll give it a go! One step at a time.

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I wouldn't look at exercise as a cure-all, a lot of people who don't know what they're talking about like to tout it as all you ever need to do to miraculously cure depression (often the same people who think cider vinegar cures cancer and Big Pharma want to kill you with mercury so you don't realise cannabis will make you immortal) and it's rarely that simple. BUT! A hell of a lot of people report that exercise has a positive effect on their depression, so it's definitely a great place to start if you don't feel comfortable talking to a doctor yet or you feel that there's a stigma of sorts around taking meds to help you. Don't feel you have to rush into 10k runs or or competitive sports if exercise isn't your thing. Go for a walk, preferably somewhere nice like a park or a wood rather than doing a lap of the tower blocks on your nearest council estate. Round your nearest golf course or football pitches, even. There'll be people walking dogs, and happy dogs trotting around always lift my mood.

But honestly, don't be afraid to go talk to your doctor. Don't feel like taking meds is somehow "bad" if that's what you need.

You're not the only one feeling this way. Most importantly, with help, you CAN fix it.

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