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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So this is either going to one of two ways

It's not rant Thursday or tantrum Tuesday or anything just need to get something off my chest

But after chatting to a few friends on here it's becoming more and more apparent to me that there are a few of us guys acting like pondscum and treating women like shit and sending them abusive messages

Seriously guys what the actual f..k grow a pair

If a woman says no take it as a no

Theres no need to start throwing your teddies out of the pram.

The end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t know how they think pressure will get them their way. If you pressure online women will be sure that you won’t respect boundaries in person. It’s a red flag. And the words “no pressure” are sometimes pointless as they’re used with pressure lol

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Hear hear

There's always the catch all question to ask yourself before you act

Would you say the thing you're about to say to someone in the pub / to their face

If not ... why behave like it on here?

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By *coxy69Man
over a year ago

Stone


"So this is either going to one of two ways

It's not rant Thursday or tantrum Tuesday or anything just need to get something off my chest

But after chatting to a few friends on here it's becoming more and more apparent to me that there are a few of us guys acting like pondscum and treating women like shit and sending them abusive messages

Seriously guys what the actual f..k grow a pair

If a woman says no take it as a no

Theres no need to start throwing your teddies out of the pram.

The end

"

It’s unfortunate that you even need to write this, perhaps a system of NANE AND SHAME would be useful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is either going to one of two ways

It's not rant Thursday or tantrum Tuesday or anything just need to get something off my chest

But after chatting to a few friends on here it's becoming more and more apparent to me that there are a few of us guys acting like pondscum and treating women like shit and sending them abusive messages

Seriously guys what the actual f..k grow a pair

If a woman says no take it as a no

Theres no need to start throwing your teddies out of the pram.

The end

"

The people who do this won’t see this post unfortunately. I get loads of those awful messages but never had one from anyone who uses the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure this has gone on as long as Fab has but I like to think it's the minority making a bad name for the majority. If I had to hazard a guess, I'd say it's the people who join thinking this site is like all those adverts you see on porn sites: "Find local women who want to fuck now!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty sure this has gone on as long as Fab has but I like to think it's the minority making a bad name for the majority. If I had to hazard a guess, I'd say it's the people who join thinking this site is like all those adverts you see on porn sites: "Find local women who want to fuck now!" "

Unfortunately it is the majority if you’re looking at fab as a whole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'll never change...unfortunately.

It's not just men though, it's just more apparent with men cos there's more of em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s shit.

But women can be shitty too, and couples, and TVs, TSs, CDs etc. I’ve received abuse from all different types of folk on here.

Best thing to do is ignore it, block the profile and report the message (I report multiple times).

Only maybe a handful of abusive messages have really had an affect on me (got one last month saying my unborn baby should die).

Most of the time I’m well aware that it’s bruised ego. Would they say it to my face? No, would the fuck. Just laugh it off, and remember that your rejection/lack of interest bugged them enough to be petty.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"So this is either going to one of two ways

It's not rant Thursday or tantrum Tuesday or anything just need to get something off my chest

But after chatting to a few friends on here it's becoming more and more apparent to me that there are a few of us guys acting like pondscum and treating women like shit and sending them abusive messages

Seriously guys what the actual f..k grow a pair

If a woman says no take it as a no

Theres no need to start throwing your teddies out of the pram.

The end

It’s unfortunate that you even need to write this, perhaps a system of NANE AND SHAME would be useful?"

Sadly so open to abuse which is why it's not condoned here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's one of those old school values that these people are missing

Treat people with respect

It's a shame you can't name and shame them or give them a red flag which stays with there profile not there name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s unfortunate that you even need to write this, perhaps a system of NANE AND SHAME would be useful?"

No. It wouldn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s unfortunate that you even need to write this, perhaps a system of NANE AND SHAME would be useful?

No. It wouldn’t. "

Can you imagine the amount of bitter single guys who'd be naming and shaming the women who knocked them back for some reason or other.

People lie. It'd never work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oddly enough, I’ve never had abuse from a man.

In fact only once has my inbox been opened to find a negative, uncalled for message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont cry for girls argentina the truth is there stronger than you think

People are good bad ok not great awesome and cunts as is life chin up waders on and get out the bat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s unfortunate that you even need to write this, perhaps a system of NANE AND SHAME would be useful?

No. It wouldn’t.

Can you imagine the amount of bitter single guys who'd be naming and shaming the women who knocked them back for some reason or other.

People lie. It'd never work."

Pretty much! I’ve been named in status updates before for being a time waster, for being a bitch etc, all because I’ve ignored their message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s unfortunate that you even need to write this, perhaps a system of NANE AND SHAME would be useful?

No. It wouldn’t.

Can you imagine the amount of bitter single guys who'd be naming and shaming the women who knocked them back for some reason or other.

People lie. It'd never work.

Pretty much! I’ve been named in status updates before for being a time waster, for being a bitch etc, all because I’ve ignored their message "

Same here! One guy went on a crusade telling anyone who'd listen that I was a prostitute after I'd knocked him back because he lived 200 miles away and I said I wouldn't spend that much money on public transport for a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is either going to one of two ways

It's not rant Thursday or tantrum Tuesday or anything just need to get something off my chest

But after chatting to a few friends on here it's becoming more and more apparent to me that there are a few of us guys acting like pondscum and treating women like shit and sending them abusive messages

Seriously guys what the actual f..k grow a pair

If a woman says no take it as a no

Theres no need to start throwing your teddies out of the pram.

The end

It’s unfortunate that you even need to write this, perhaps a system of NANE AND SHAME would be useful?"
so if i was to say when i saw you fucking a teddy bear its ok to announce that oh wait no it not cos i made it up see anyone can lie about anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s unfortunate that you even need to write this, perhaps a system of NANE AND SHAME would be useful?

No. It wouldn’t.

Can you imagine the amount of bitter single guys who'd be naming and shaming the women who knocked them back for some reason or other.

People lie. It'd never work.

Pretty much! I’ve been named in status updates before for being a time waster, for being a bitch etc, all because I’ve ignored their message

Same here! One guy went on a crusade telling anyone who'd listen that I was a prostitute after I'd knocked him back because he lived 200 miles away and I said I wouldn't spend that much money on public transport for a fuck "

love it

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"So this is either going to one of two ways

It's not rant Thursday or tantrum Tuesday or anything just need to get something off my chest

But after chatting to a few friends on here it's becoming more and more apparent to me that there are a few of us guys acting like pondscum and treating women like shit and sending them abusive messages

Seriously guys what the actual f..k grow a pair

If a woman says no take it as a no

Theres no need to start throwing your teddies out of the pram.

The end

The people who do this won’t see this post unfortunately. I get loads of those awful messages but never had one from anyone who uses the forums. "

Second this I'm lucky I only get a few abusive messages, instant block so I can't reply. Not once however,from someone on these forums and I've had some disagreements on here.

It's great you're highlighting it, but unfortunately won't be seen by the majority doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very very rarely get them. I dont feel special now

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I sometimes get abusive messages and it does annoy or upset me.. But that's fab... I think gender has nothing to do with it. I think we all have bad experiences from time to time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I sometimes get abusive messages and it does annoy or upset me.. But that's fab... I think gender has nothing to do with it. I think we all have bad experiences from time to time x"

Yeah that's true ..I've had some real shitty ones out of the blue

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