FabSwingers.com forum: Why does my Ex keep contact

By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Hi all, so I split with my ex nearly 2 months back and she has moved on with another guy which is fine no probs. But she keeps texting me etc even though says she is happy etc. Said our connection we had was strong and will never ne broken. I just dont get it. They are a couple so she says sleeping together but chats with me on video chat when he dont stay over. Totally confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you both used to listen to Marvin Gaye by any chance ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her.

Or block her number.

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"Do you both used to listen to Marvin Gaye by any chance ? "

No why

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Hi all, so I split with my ex nearly 2 months back and she has moved on with another guy which is fine no probs. But she keeps texting me etc even though says she is happy etc. Said our connection we had was strong and will never ne broken. I just dont get it. They are a couple so she says sleeping together but chats with me on video chat when he dont stay over. Totally confused. "

My wife and I were married for 25 years when we split up (on fairly good terms).

We text stuff about the kids and grandkids etc. We have never video chatted. Seems a bit too personal/intimate.

Do you want her as a friend? If not, you may have to draw a line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you both used to listen to Marvin Gaye by any chance ?

No why"

I was just wondering, that's all X

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Tell her no more, boundaries needed if you’re uncomfortable with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet up and fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been two months

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"Ask her.

Or block her number. "

I did ask her and she said because we had a strong connection that wont go over night. But it's been 2 month nearly. I think it's so she can inform me of what she is up to get me.

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Ask her, not strangers.

I still chat and go to gigs with my ex. He was one of my best friends and although we fell out of love we still enjoy chatting and each other’s company. She may still see you as her best friend and miss your chats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask her.

Or block her number.

I did ask her and she said because we had a strong connection that wont go over night. But it's been 2 month nearly. I think it's so she can inform me of what she is up to get me. "

Maybe she just wants to be friends. A strong connection is hard to let go of. But if it’s getting to you, I’d just block her number. Simple as that. I wouldn’t dwell on it.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Maybe she's keeping you around as a back up plan

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Do you get anything out of it? If not, ask her to stop. If she doesn't, block her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With only hearing your side of this, I'd say maybe a hint of rubbing it in to show she's doing ok in case you move on too quickly and don't care too much. She she also not be as happy as she suggests.

There will be other offerings too no doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask her.

Or block her number. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was she on here too?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Just because a relationship ends, doesn't mean affection and friendship disappears.

I've stayed close to 80% of my ex's. I have been to their weddings, invited them to mine, we've helped each other through the bad times and celebrated the good.

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"Ask her, not strangers.

She did say that she felt had lost her best friend.

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"Maybe she's keeping you around as a back up plan"

That's what I was thinking but I wont be going back

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"With only hearing your side of this, I'd say maybe a hint of rubbing it in to show she's doing ok in case you move on too quickly and don't care too much. She she also not be as happy as she suggests.

There will be other offerings too no doubt."

It was her choice to split up as didnt like my new job choice and being away doing training even tho back every weekend.

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"Was she on here too?

Yeah me met here 9 years ago.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

It takes two to tackle. If you dont want this to happen then firstly tell her then block her. The end.

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

"Maybe she's keeping you around as a back up plan"
my thoughts exactly. Hollie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask her.

Or block her number.

I did ask her and she said because we had a strong connection that wont go over night. But it's been 2 month nearly. I think it's so she can inform me of what she is up to get me. "
surely that’s a form of mental torture it’s like rubbing nose in it .... it wouldn’t be for me sorry so just block x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell her to make her mind up if you're interested in taking her back.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It takes two to tackle. If you dont want this to happen then firstly tell her then block her. The end. "

Tango

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"I'd tell her to make her mind up if you're interested in taking her back. "

Says there is no going back for us which I just dont get why she keeps contact with me. I dont initiate it it's all her. I dont block or delete coz I'm not that kind of person

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"It takes two to tackle. If you dont want this to happen then firstly tell her then block her. The end.

Tango

Did wonder lol.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

I’ve always stayed in touch with my ex even dinners out shopping weekend breaks , just friendship, sometimes you can be better friends than partners

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Its simple mate your not supposed to build I new life for yourself and especially not a happy 1 without you ex. The female of the species is a strange and complicated 1.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Tell her to shape up or ship out. You got bigger fish to fry. Then get yourself back on the market and look forwards, not backwards.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

wigan

Why are you pretending you’ve a problem with it?

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Because youre a stud.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It takes two to tackle. If you dont want this to happen then firstly tell her then block her. The end.

Tango

Did wonder lol. "

You dont need to read the same book twice. The ending is always the same

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Because youre a stud."

That's it

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"Its simple mate your not supposed to build I new life for yourself and especially not a happy 1 without you ex. The female of the species is a strange and complicated 1."

That's true

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"Because youre a stud.

That's it

yeah I wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having your cake and eating it springs to mind, she’s playing you while she makes up her mind

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"Tell her to shape up or ship out. You got bigger fish to fry. Then get yourself back on the market and look forwards, not backwards."

I am trying to be honest. I told her I was out the other night with a girl I know from my course and she got all shitty about it which I thought hold on your with your BF doing all sorts. The cheek.

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

" having your cake and eating it springs to mind, she’s playing you while she makes up her mind "

Yeah possibly

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Oh and first thing she told me about her new guy is that he is ugly and nothing like me but said nice things to her. I always treated her like a queen but as put didnt like my new job choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It takes two to tackle. If you dont want this to happen then firstly tell her then block her. The end.

Tango

Did wonder lol.

You dont need to read the same book twice. The ending is always the same

Strangely life is just a book unfinished. Not a novel already written. Who knows how it will end

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By *edp.e84Man
over a year ago

Reading

Still in to you mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shes trying to stop you forgetting her and moving on

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It takes two to tackle. If you dont want this to happen then firstly tell her then block her. The end.

Tango

Did wonder lol.

You dont need to read the same book twice. The ending is always the same

Strangely life is just a book unfinished. Not a novel already written. Who knows how it will end"

Trust me when you go back it always ends the same for normally the same reasons. So..the end is always the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She’s doing it to play mind games just ignore them leave her to it and keep moving on with your life she will see it dosent phase you and then you’ll either be friends or just drift apart into your own life’s don’t dwell on the past think of the future and let her play her games but just don’t let it bother you

Eventually her mind games she’s trying to play with you will backfire and annoy her so just move on and leave her to it

Just my opinion

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"She’s doing it to play mind games just ignore them leave her to it and keep moving on with your life she will see it dosent phase you and then you’ll either be friends or just drift apart into your own life’s don’t dwell on the past think of the future and let her play her games but just don’t let it bother you

Eventually her mind games she’s trying to play with you will backfire and annoy her so just move on and leave her to it

Just my opinion

That's my thinking on it also and that's what will do.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

wigan

It’s over a year since she got rid of you for another guy, time you moved on..

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By *ampant Lion34 OP Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

"It’s over a year since she got rid of you for another guy, time you moved on.. "

2 months ago and I am seems she ain't tho says she has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only she knows, ask her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have just come out of a nine year relationship , was it an open one as you have a few veries from ladies ,

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

wigan

"It’s over a year since she got rid of you for another guy, time you moved on..

2 months ago and I am seems she ain't tho says she has. "

Do you think it’s possible that she thinks you’re a lying, cheating prick?

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