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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think the word “vanilla” is done to death or do you think this day in age, no one really is

We was discussing it today at work, and we decided anyone over 25 and under 60 arent, we had a poll

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One persons vanilla is another persons kinky.

It’s not for anyone else to judge.

People think I’m really kinky - I disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think the word “vanilla” is done to death or do you think this day in age, no one really is

We was discussing it today at work, and we decided anyone over 25 and under 60 arent, we had a poll

Thoughts?

Agree with you we not been on here very long but been together for very long time our sex life was never boring tried most stuff you can with just two people. So wouldn’t say we’ve ever been vanilla

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Sometimes vanilla is nice for me, it's still hot and steamy but every mood takes a different spin on what sex you have imo. Sometimes a little soft bdsm, sometimes role play, sometimes massage, really does depend what mood we are in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather have an amazing vanilla session than a shit kinky one...and I'm a kinkster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

done to death, along with popcorn, cake and haribos

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

so I'm vanilla?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so I'm vanilla?"

Yes

As am I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the definition of vanilla has changed a bit and people see it as negative or boring but yes, there are loads of people who enjoy "traditional" sex and aren't interested in anything deemed to be kinky.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"so I'm vanilla?

Yes

As am I "

good to know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think the definition of vanilla has changed a bit and people see it as negative or boring but yes, there are loads of people who enjoy "traditional" sex and aren't interested in anything deemed to be kinky. "

I don't really like the word. Sex is sex however you do it.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It is the king of flavours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla means your boring , woman at work used it last week when I didn't want a Maccy ds

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the definition of vanilla has changed a bit and people see it as negative or boring but yes, there are loads of people who enjoy "traditional" sex and aren't interested in anything deemed to be kinky. "

Excatly my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vanilla means your boring , woman at work used it last week when I didn't want a Maccy ds "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the definition of vanilla has changed a bit and people see it as negative or boring but yes, there are loads of people who enjoy "traditional" sex and aren't interested in anything deemed to be kinky.

I don't really like the word. Sex is sex however you do it."

Exactly. All the terms regarding sex are open to interpretation but really at the end of the day it's about the people involved doing it their way and not about rules or restrictions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who use the term vanilla get on my tits. Do one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's often used by other people as an insult and to indicate they are having better sex than you.

They're not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People who use the term vanilla get on my tits. Do one!"

One reason why i made a thread, why does it bug you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally find that in real life and quite often online, when people speak of vanilla sex it is never in a positive way, it is always used negatively and to put someone down. "Oh they are so boring and vanilla"

I agree with the comment earlier about how a good session of slow gentle and simple sex can sometimes beat the more wild, wham bam and slam kind. I say just let people enjoy sex however they want, if they like to fuck vanilla then good for them! I'm sure they love it and it hits the spot for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so vanilla except when I fuck anuses behind supermarkets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am so vanilla except when I fuck anuses behind supermarkets.

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Oh I've missed your inputs over the last while. I take it you've been very busy fucking anuses?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am so vanilla except when I fuck anuses behind supermarkets.

Oh I've missed your inputs over the last while. I take it you've been very busy fucking anuses? "

Someone forced me to though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Someone forced me to though. "

You poor man. Thinking of you at this awful time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Someone forced me to though.

You poor man. Thinking of you at this awful time "

Love the idea of you thinking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Someone forced me to though.

You poor man. Thinking of you at this awful time

Love the idea of you thinking x"

Yeah it's so sexy when I think because that way I know my brain is working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Someone forced me to though.

You poor man. Thinking of you at this awful time

Love the idea of you thinking x

Yeah it's so sexy when I think because that way I know my brain is working "

Is it what you think or what they want you to think though ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Is it what you think or what they want you to think though ? "

What the heck

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I quite McD’s vanilla, under rated. As for sex, the term is annoying, like it’s got to be one or the other. I think it depends on dynamic, mood, situation etc sex, kink, ‘nilla, fun....so long as it works for the people at that time then it’s all good

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"I personally find that in real life and quite often online, when people speak of vanilla sex it is never in a positive way, it is always used negatively and to put someone down. "Oh they are so boring and vanilla"

I agree with the comment earlier about how a good session of slow gentle and simple sex can sometimes beat the more wild, wham bam and slam kind. I say just let people enjoy sex however they want, if they like to fuck vanilla then good for them! I'm sure they love it and it hits the spot for them. "

Agree wise words

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think some people use it to be derogatory and to mean anyone not kinky is boring which is unfair.

The way I have known it used within the kink community tends to be simply to mean "non-kinky". We use it to refer to things even in our own lives such as calling our lives away from the kink community our vanilla lives, our friends from outside the kink community our vanilla friends as appossed to kink friends and for some like myself who have jobs related to kink I have my kink job and my vanilla job. Others have a kink name and a vanilla (I.e. real name). For some like myself it's a bit blurred as a lot of my friends I know through the kink community I consider real life friends but other people have very distinct saperate kink and vanilla lives and it's just a term used to differentiate.

Personally I don't see vanilla as an insult, just a different flavour. Most kinky people also enjoy vanilla sex too. Good vanilla sex can sometimes be harder to come by than kinky play so it's definitely something of value!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who use the term vanilla get on my tits. Do one!

One reason why i made a thread, why does it bug you?"

Because especially on here, people who use the term do so in a derogatory manner. It's nearly always used in a judgemental way and I've never known anyone I like to use the term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a pretty meaningless term as the sexual activities people engage in these days as a norm has evolved considerably. Even the BDSM context for the term is less appropriate. I don’t use the term except referring to the essence or the ice cream.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's very widely used but still subjective . It's ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's very widely used but still subjective . It's ok"

This is what i was trying to say but after a12 hour shift and trying to get ready, my brain wasn’t thinking quick enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"done to death, along with popcorn, cake and haribos "

And 42

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